Popular Shows by Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier: Page 6

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The Shmuz on the Parsha: Mishpatim: Torah is Rocket Fuel for the Soul

Feb 16, 2025

44:03

The Jewish contribution to mankind is astounding. In every industry, in every profession, the Jewish people consistently play a significant role, far surpassing our tiny population. It’s clear that we are the am segula, the messengers for revealed good in the world. Nevertheless, your gan eden isn’t dependent on whether you’re a chess champions or nuclear physicist. The Torah teaches that your olam haba will be built upon how much you choose to connect to the Ribbono shel Olam in this world. Your constant, unrelenting challenge of life is that your soul is distracted, pulled by your nefesh habahami to indulge in the here and now. The antidote? Limud HaTorah. Through limud haTorah, you are able to connect with the Eternal and discover the part of you that craves transcendence. In this week’s podcast, learn how to ignite your neshama through the joy of learning and gain a genuine Torah outlook on what ‘tikkun olam’ really means. Reaching thousands people every month, R' Shafier provides life-changing Torah Clarity, Inspiration and enjoyment at http://theshmuz.com. #TheShmuz #Torah #Chizuk This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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Purim: The Story Behind the Story: Part 2: Mordechai Won't Wait

Feb 19, 2025

1:19:42

Mordechai’s timings were extraordinary. He demanded that Esther risk her life and approach Achashverosh, even though Achasverosh was imminently due to summon her. He refused to delay a national taanis, and instead called for Klal Yisroel to fast from the first day of Pesach, forgoing the zechus and mitzvas aseh of achilas matzah. What was Mordechai’s cheshbon? And what does his reasoning teach us for your own life? In the second class on Megillas Esther, learn why Mordechai’s rebuke is so on point. Grasp the posukim like never before, gain a heightened awareness of the Megillah and prepare to go into Purim with an elevated sense of joy and gratitude. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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The Mussar Vaad: Class 13: Happiness

Feb 20, 2025

47:37

Most people aren't happy. Why not? Even when a person can have all of their physical wants and needs met, they can still feel empty inside. Caveat: We’re not talking mental illness here. We’re discussing the pain a soul feels from ignoring it’s potential. It’s a pain familiar to all of us. Tune into this class understand it better and reach a greater level of fulfillment in your life. Reaching thousands people every month, R' Shafier provides life-changing Torah Clarity, Inspiration and enjoyment at http://theshmuz.com. #TheShmuz #Torah #Chizuk This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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The Shmuz on the Parsha: Parshas Terumah: Hashem's Role/Man's Role- Finding the Balance

Feb 23, 2025

44:42

In this week’s parsha, Hashem explains to Moshe how to make Menorah. But the menorah is made miraculously- so why the explanation? This question underpins one of the fundamental concepts in Torah hashkafa: the delicate balance between bitachon and hishtadlus. Whether it’s health, shidduchim or parnassah, how much effort are you expected to invest, and when should you say that you’re leaving it entirely to G-d? In this clarifying shiur, Rabbi Shafier exposes some crucial misconceptions and brings to light exactly what your attitude should be when it comes to working hard, paying those bills or pursuing your goals. Reaching thousands people every month, R' Shafier provides life-changing Torah Clarity, Inspiration and enjoyment at http://theshmuz.com. #TheShmuz #Torah #Chizuk This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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Purim- The Story Behind the Story: Part 3: Esther’s Big Deal Request

Feb 27, 2025

1:00:06

Esther stands at the threshold of the throne room, prepared to forfeit her life in this world and the next. Instead, she is assisted by three melachim, achieves ruach hakodesh and is the catalyst for Klal Yisroel’s eventual salvation. Aside from the obvious message that Hashem can always flip things around in an instant, there are many other life lessons to be learned. Firstly, Esther’s people skills are exemplary. Want to ask for a raise? Just follow Esther’s three point plan on how to submit a request. Need chizuk in following daas Torah? Use Esther as an example. And if we want a clear warning on how not to behave we need look no further than Haman. His relentless drive for kavod shows us how if a person doesn’t control his middos, he’s destined to be utterly miserable in this world. It’s all here. Genuine, Torah-true hashkafa and timeless messages laid open for you this Purim. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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Shmuz 96: Seize the Moment

Feb 27, 2025

48:37

Before Esther went into Achashverosh, Mordechai commanded the Jewish nation to fast for three days. Rashi tells us that those three days included the first day of Pesach. That means that Mordechai abolished the mitzvos of eating matzah, drinking the four cups, and eating marror that year. Since there were more than eleven months until the decree was to take place, what was the sudden need for action? What was the urgency? This Shmuz demonstrates just how much you can accomplish when properly motivated and offers some practical recommendations on how to bring the middah of zerizus into your life. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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Purim: The Story Behind the Story: Part 4: On Death and Dinim

Mar 3, 2025

1:19:46

In the fourth session on Megillas Esther, Rabbi Shafier brings the conclusion of the Megillah dramatically to life. From Haman’s sudden demise to our own swift salvation, this class will explain the final perakim with additional insight and depth. Discover why Purim is considered to be greater than the kabbola at Har Sinai, how Haman’s unchecked arrogance inevitably led to his downfall and what forced Mordechai to leave the Sanhedrin. If you’re looking to reach a higher madreiga this Purim, having an understanding and appreciation of the words of the Megillah is essential. Tune in here and go beyond the externals this Purim with The Shmuz. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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Shmuz 132 Being Human

Mar 4, 2025

54:10

One of the most difficult character traits to work on is humility. Not only is it considered the most praise-worthy of all of the middos, it is the most misunderstood. On one hand, we are obligated to appreciate the greatness of the human, yet on the other, we must remain humble. One way we can reach a greater understanding of anava is to learn what is not. By analysing the incredible arrogance of Haman, we begin to unravel why our mesorah places such a strong emphasis on character development. This Shmuz is fundamental listening for anyone looking to become a greater person, as well as a wonderful preparation for Purim itself. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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Part 2 Forces in the Human

Jan 5, 2026

1:08:12

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Parshas Tetzaveh: Learning to Forgive

Mar 7, 2025

50:38

We often hear about the importance of teshuvah, loving others, and being mevater—essential values for a Torah Jew. But how often do we hear about forgiving ourselves? We are capable of surpassing even melachim, yet we have faults and failings—how can we still fulfill our purpose? By recognizing that failure is part of growth; it doesn’t define us, it makes us human. Hashem doesn’t expect perfection, only effort. When we stop blaming ourselves for our nature, we can forgive ourselves and others, walking through life with a healthy sense of self. Tune in to this week’s podcast to learn how to let go of failings and gain the emotional freedom to achieve your tafkid. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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The Mussar Vaad: Class 14: The Main Thing

Mar 10, 2025

40:24

You are a spiritual being navigating a temporary physical existence in this world. But oh, how easy it is to forget! It’s so tempting to get caught up in the distractions of olam hazeh, losing sight of what truly matters. The key? Learning to keep the main thing the main thing. When you shift your focus beyond the fleeting to the eternal, you unlock a life of deeper meaning, purpose, and ultimate contentment. In Class Fourteen, Rabbi Shafier shows you exactly how to stay on track—so you can reap the rewards not just for today, but forever. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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Parshas Ki Sisa: The Love of Money

Mar 12, 2025

48:48

In today’s society, you are relentlessly bombarded with two fallacies: One, that money equals happiness, and two, that your sense of self should be defined by your net worth. The Torah rejects both of these ideas, yet this week’s parsha shows that the attraction to money is inherent in the briah. In this uncomfortably relevant Shmuz, Rabbi Shafier challenges you to take a long, hard look at how you judge yourself and others—are your attitudes toward money aligned with Torah hashkafa? Or are you constantly chasing the next best thing, hoping it will finally bring you the elusive satisfaction you crave? This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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Pesach: Living Through the Makkos: Session One: The Descent into Slavery

Mar 16, 2025

55:45

In the first session of Living Through the Makos, Rabbi Shafier explains how Klal Yisroel went from being a privileged nation in Egypt to tortured slaves. He discusses the rise of anti-Semitism amongst the Mitzri, and how their hatred of others ultimately led to their hatred of themselves. Packed with valuable life-lessons, this series is guaranteed to give you the ultimate in Pesach preparation and elevate your Sedarim like never before. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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Living Through the Makos Part 2: Moshe in Midian

Mar 25, 2025

1:18:14

Living Through the Makos continues with a detailed explanation on how Moshe ended up in Midian, his meeting with Tzipporah and his first encounter with the Ribbono Shel Olam at the Sneh. Rabbi Shafier gives a clear and articulate delivery of the events that subsequently unfold, shedding light on how Shevet Levi managed to be excluded from the shibud. He also gives some poignant moments to contemplate, such as Moshe’s reticence to communicate with Hashem, Paroh’s absolute belief that he really was a god, and Dosan and Aviram’s persistent malice. Living Through the Makos dramatically brings to life the ancient story of our people. This Nissan, mekabal the mitzvah of sippur Yetzias Mitzrayim with a refreshed perspective and step into your seder with a reaffirmed sense of wonder and hakaras hatov. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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Shmuz #259 What's Wrong With a Rainbow?

Mar 27, 2025

59:28

What happens when society is no longer held down by what’s right-and what’s wrong? When self-expression has no boundaries, does it even matter? In this straight-talking Shmuz, Rabbi Shafier addresses our current political climate from a balanced, Torah perspective, offering us clarity and understanding in a confusing world. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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Pesach: It Doesn't Have to be This Way

Apr 1, 2025

41:40

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The Shmuz on the Parsha: Tzav

Apr 9, 2025

45:59

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Living Through the Makkos Part 3: The Makkos Begin

Apr 10, 2025

1:24:43

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Tazria Metzora: Mindless Chatter

Apr 27, 2025

58:21

Unlike other middos that are difficult to break, lashon hara isn’t driven by passion or desire. All you need to do is become more attentive of what the Torah demands, and you can start amassing a serious amount of zechar for yourself. Listen now to make this mitzvah easy! This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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Marketing Manipulation: How the World Tells You What to Think

Apr 28, 2025

0:30

This Shmuz will blow your mind. From Tiger Woods to the Halo Effect, Rabbi Shafier explains what motivates us to buy, why pretty people get better judgements and how sometimes- you can’t even trust yourself. A must for anyone living in today’s world. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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The Mussar Vaad: Mesillas Yesharim Perek 2, Class 1. The Force of Habit

Apr 30, 2025

45:36

The second perek of the Mesillas Yesharim opens with an introduction to zehirus. Loosely translated as ‘mindfulness’, the Ramchal urges you to start paying attention to your everyday thoughts, actions and emotions. Without this, you are guaranteed to stumble through life without giving even a second thought as to who you are and who you want to be. If you want to maximize your potential in this world and gain an awareness of who you are, the second perek of the Mussar Vaad is essential listening. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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Make Marriage Great Again: How to Overcome Distance (Coach Menachem Show)

May 5, 2025

1:46:35

Rabbi Shafier and Rabbi Weissberg join Coach Menachem on the Let's Get Real Podcast. Listen to this frank discussion on overcoming disconnection, distance and communication breakdowns. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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The Most Important Changes a Couple Can Make (Mikvah.org)

May 6, 2025

1:22:10

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At the Foot of Har Sinai: Part One

May 8, 2025

1:00:22

We have a mitzvah to remember Har Sinai. In order to do so, we must firstly understand with depth and clarity what happened on that momentous day. At the Foot of Har Sinai will take you through the majesty and awe, giving a fascinating account of the events that transpired. Although it is hard to imagine the miracles the Bnei Yisroel lived with, we can begin to appreciate why they experienced such tremendous joy after contemplating the explanations from our mesorah and discovering the incredible details of kabbolas HaTorah. In this introductory class, join Rabbi Shafier as he guides you through the defining moment of our history, and learn how the experience of Matan Torah continues to shape your own destiny until today. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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At the Foot of Har Sinai Part Two

May 12, 2025

1:05:51

Standing At the Foot of the Mountain As we journey towards Shavuos, Rabbi Shafier weaves together the events of Matan Torah with major concepts in Jewish thought. Tune in and discover why Torah is the spiritual nourishment for the world, what it means to be an am segula and how it was possible for Moshe Rabbeinu to argue with the Ribbono Shel Olam. At the Foot of Har Sinai combines explanations taken from Chazal, Midrashim, Rishonim and Acheronim to skillfully describe the personality of Moshe Rabbeinu and the events leading up to kabbolas haTorah. This year, develop a deeper connection with the event that defines the very essence of who you are. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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The Shmuz on the Parsha: Sefira

May 13, 2025

42:49

Respect is the basis of every meaningful relationship, and yet we find that even the choshuve talmidim of Rabbi Akiva fell short on this middah. In this week’s Shmuz on the Parsha, Rabbi Shafier takes an in-depth look at the Torah approach to respect, analyzing where the talmidim tripped up and how we can avoid the same shortcomings in our interactions with others. Taking a frank look at our marriages, our friendships and our everyday exchanges, this Shmuz will encourage you to reconsider how you perceive others-and yourself. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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Learning to Love Hashem (Shmuz #253)

May 15, 2025

1:02:59

This Shmuz is the ultimate ‘pick me up’. From the wonders of Creation to Hashem’s intimate involvement in our lives, Rabbi Shafier gives chizuk, inspiration and clarity on our purpose in this world. Listen to this to learn how wonderful it is to be alive. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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At the Foot of Har Sinai Part 3

May 18, 2025

58:24

Let them become holy. The command that has echoed throughout our history and enjoins us to be separate and unique, a beloved holy nation that will forever stand apart. But how special can I be, when I’m just one out of seven billion people on this planet?In the third class of the series, Rabbi Shafier empowers us to recognize our inherent closeness to the Ribbono Shel Olam. When we fully internalize that whatever we experience, Hashem experiences as well, we gain a glimpse into His love for us and His belief in us. Those that stood at Har Sinai saw with complete clarity their unlimited ability to achieve, to grow, to accomplish. We have the same power within us. By tapping into the messages of Shavuos, we too can learn how to unleash our potential and can continue the year with a renewed sense of energy and purpose. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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Part 3 The Function of a Successful Marriage

Jan 5, 2026

1:08:12

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Behar-Bechukosai: Why the Jews?

May 22, 2025

1:16:00

Throughout history all things change: except for anti-Semitism. Is there a Torah perspective that can explain why the Jewish nation is so tortured and oppressed? If we accept that Hashem is in control of everything, is there a reason why His nation, the Chosen People, are so downtrodden? Are there forces involved that control the very destiny of Klal Yisrael? In this previously recorded Shmuz Live, Rabbi Shafier explores some of the underlying causes of Jew hatred and what messages you can take from current events. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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The Shmuz on the Parsha: Bamidbar: Making Peace With Yourself

May 26, 2025

57:06

Comparison and judgment are part of the human experience. Subconsciously or not, we are constantly asking ourselves, am I and my family acceptable in society? Where do I rank, compared with my peers? For some of us, our very sense of self is intrinsically linked to how we think others see us and where we think we’re holding in the competition of life. The problem is, we hardly ever pause to consider what our ranking will be in the World to Come. And the scary part is that many of us will, after ad meah v’esrim, be embarrassed by our shortcomings. You see, we are in competition. But the competition of life is between me and myself. Join Rabbi Shafier as he delves into how you can succeed in accomplishing your own ‘personal best’, one step at a time. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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At the Foot of Har Sinai: Part Four

May 27, 2025

1:14:13

From the moment the Jewish People arrived at Har Sinai, it became a frightening and awe inspiring experience. Why did Hashem want to evoke fear into us? If this was to be the wedding between Klal Yisroel and the Ribbono Shel Olam, shouldn’t it have been music instead of thunder and lightning? Rabbi Shafier explains that the purpose of the fear was to drive home the message of responsibility. By accepting the Torah, we not only had the power to change the world, the very existence of the world became dependent on us. Because of matan Torah, Klal Yisroel is now responsible for energizing both the physical and spiritual worlds. What an awesome achariyus! This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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Embracing Pain and Suffering

May 29, 2025

39:36

The Chovos HaLevovos (Shaar HaBitachon) explains that one of the basics of our belief system is, “You can’t harm me; you can’t help me.” Everything is decreed by HASHEM. Every ounce of suffering, every event that is to befall a person is all decided, defined and directed by HASHEM Himself. No human being can inflict damage to me that wasn’t already decided by HASHEM. With this cognition comes a deep understanding: the doctor isn’t the determinant of whether I live or die, the threat isn’t the failing economy, and the danger isn’t man. All humans are powerless to affect my destiny. And all along, I am always safe and sound, guarded and protected. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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Parshas Naso- I Never Do Anything Wrong

Jun 4, 2025

1:06:59

How fragile is your ego? We are all familiar with people that have a hard time admitting they could be wrong. No matter the misdemeanor, never mind the evidence in front of them, they refuse to acknowledge the facts and stick to their story as if their very lives depend on it. Unfortunately, this quirk is not just limited to hardened criminals and pathological narcissists. Within all of us is the overwhelming desire to protect our ego and soothe our sense of self. It’s very unpleasant to admit we could be wrong. Unpleasant and humbling. Ultimately, our very purpose on this planet is to work on our middos and become the very best version of ourselves. And that version includes being truthful. It includes courageously learning humility. And it includes developing the psychological fortitude to be ok with being wrong. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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Hashem Loves Me More Than Me

Jun 5, 2025

43:33

You know that you’re meant to serve Hashem out of joy and love. How can you do this if you don’t really feel it? What should you do when you know you should be grateful, but your life is plagued with difficulties and it’s hard to feel Hashem’s love? Join Rabbi Shafier as he tackles this question head-on in an incredibly encouraging and inspiring Shmuz. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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Behalosecha: People Skills

Jun 10, 2025

54:45

Getting along with people is an essential life skill. Satisfying human relations are key to thriving in the workplace, developing friendships, having a loving marriage and raising happy kids.Because people skills are so fundamental, this week's Shmuz offers something unique: a mini-course in social relations. With these basics under your belt, you’ll become more than just well-liked; you’ll be more effective in achieving your goals. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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The Shmuz on the Parsha: Shelach

Jun 20, 2025

1:09:46

Tested to the MAX! The Shmuz on the Parsha is scarily relevant this week: What to do when your bitachon is tested to the max. We’ve all got ‘stuff’. Baggage. Nisyonos. Ballistic missiles ist We all need a Torah perspective to know how to respond to both major world events as well as the everyday traffic of life. Listen now! This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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Rabbi Shafier's Message on Iran

Jun 20, 2025

1:11

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Korach: Don't Trust Your Brain

Jun 22, 2025

41:01

We tend to think that our brain is our best friend- we rely on our thoughts to discern right from wrong, good from bad and truth from falsehood. So what happened with Korach? How could he be driven to stage such a catastrophic rebellion? The answer is that your brain is a handmaiden to your ego. It’s not always your friend. Listen to this Shmuz to protect yourself against making crazy decisions and gain a deeper insight into who you are. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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How to Balance Your Bitachon With Histadlus

Jun 23, 2025

58:13

Do you believe in Hashem, but sometimes feel that He’s out to get you? Then you have emunah, but lack bitachon. You see, it’s not enough to simply recognize that Hashem runs the world. As frum Jews, we are also meant to internalize that Hashem is directly involved in our own lives and knows what is best for us. Too many of our problems in bitachon stem from thinking we know better than G-d. Too often we assume we know the bigger picture and feel abandoned by our Creator. In this Shmuz, Rabbi Shafier shares some practical ideas on how to make Hashem real. Pick a method that speaks to you, and transform your life into one of genuine trust and menuchas hanefesh. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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The Mussar Vaad Perek 2 Class 2: Functional Intelligence

Jun 30, 2025

41:35

Is it enough to be smart in this world? We are all in danger of going through life just ‘spinning our wheels’, being ever so busy and yet failing in our potential. It’s a scary concept, and one that Rabbi Shafier addresses from a relatable perspective. In the second shiur of the second perek, Rabbi Shafier shows you how to live with more awareness and make the most of your years here. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

542

Short Shmuz on Chukas

Jul 3, 2025

28:41

We see in the Torah that tefillah is powerful. Through tefillah, Sara Imeinu was given a child, a miracle like techiyas hameisim. Yishmael cried out to Hashem and was saved in the desert, despite his sins. But what gives your davening its incredible power? In this week’s Shmuz, Rabbi Shafier clearly outlines three fundamental ways your tefillah can change everything. Can your prayers make a difference even if you’re an ordinary person? Absolutely—every tefillah has an impact. But what about when someone can’t daven, like a person in a coma, chalila? How do your prayers help them? This class will show you how effective you can be in helping others, and inspire you to daven with more kavannah and understanding. Listen to this Shmuz for encouragement and direction on how to pour out your heart, change your life, and tap into one of the greatest forces in existence. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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#99 - Men are from Mars

Mar 9, 2019

44:04

Men and women are inherently different, in the way that they approach issues and concepts and ideas, and in the very way that they think, speak, behave and feel. Even more significantly socially, emotionally, psychologically men and women are worlds apart What they value, aspire for, and need is starkly differentIt is almost as if they are from different planets. Yet they are expected to live together in peace and harmony. A young man and a young woman are expected to meet, total strangers, then after a short courtship, are expected to come to together in the closest of all human bonds, soul mates, sharing their lives.This Shmuz deals with some of the most basic differences between men and women, the systems HASHEM has created to allow couples to bond and live in harmony, and offers some techniques couples can use that are constructive to a harmonious, lasting relationship. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

544

#98 - The Power of Positive Thinking

Mar 9, 2019

47:00

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545

#96 - Purim III-Seize the Moment

Mar 9, 2019

48:37

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546

#95 - Time Management

Mar 9, 2019

53:06

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547

#94 - On Being Judgmental

Mar 9, 2019

45:29

Why is it so important not to be judgmental of others?How do you not judge other people's words, ideas and actions even when you don't agree with them? The trick is knowing when to be judgmental, and when to reserve it for later, and when to not judge at all. Every situation needs an independent evaluation. This ability is key in many areas in life especially in relationships. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

548

#93 - Shabbos - Foundation of our Emunah

Mar 9, 2019

51:44

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549

#97 - Living the Good Life

Mar 9, 2019

38:38

We all want to live "the good life." Big homes, money in the bank, vacations, and luxury. The trouble is that these things never seem to satisfy. Anyone who spends his life acquiring them finds himself wanting more and more. Perhaps "the good life" isn't so good, after all.So what is "the good life?" It comes from living life in balance, from fulfilling your mission on this planet.By breaking down human nature into its basic components, this Shmuz shows how good, happy, and productive lives are possible for everybody - and that includes you. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

550

#91 - I Never Forget

Mar 9, 2019

47:13

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551

#89 - Malbin Pnei Chavero

Mar 9, 2019

42:07

We've all have felt the pain of embarrassment, and we understand the seriousness that the Torah ascribes to not causing a friend pain-- Yet it seems that it happens anyway. Granted we don't intend it, but it happens anyway. In this Shmuz we are introduced to a new understanding of the gravity that the Torah ascribes to not embarrassing a fellow man, and the sensitivity we need to develop to another person's pain. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

552

#92 - TACT

Mar 9, 2019

38:55

How can a different perspective of speech and my actions sometimes so drastically make a difference between success and failure. Tact is a careful consideration of the feelings and values of another so as to create harmonious relationships with a reduced potential for conflict or offense. It is a virtue. It is the ability to induce change or communicate critical and sometimes hurtful information without offending through the use of consideration, compassion, kindness, and reason. A tactful person can tell you something you don't want to hear and you will be thankful for the information when they are finished. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

553

#90 - Torah Lishmah

Mar 9, 2019

53:18

Since the time we began school the importance of Torah study has been something that weve learnt about and come to understand. But at the end of the day, it seems to be hard to set up meaningful Sedarim that really last. Why is that? And, what can I do about it? In this Shmuz we are brought to see the value of Torah from the Torahs perspective, and given some practical, hands on, advice as to how to set up realistic Torah study goals, actually reach them. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

554

#88 - Chanukah - The Effect of Outside Influences

Mar 9, 2019

50:07

The nisayon in the times of Chanukah was clear: fight for Torah or succumb to Greek culture. During the Spanish Expulsion, the nisayon was also clear: leave Spain as a Jew or convert and remain comfortable. What is the nisayon in our times? Our lives are no longer threatened. We enjoy tremendous wealth and freedom. What could be wrong? Make no mistake. Modern-day culture is insidiously breaking down morality. Each of us must be on our guard. If you ever wondered if there was a Divine purpose for Elvis Presley, the Beatles, and Mick Jagger, then this Shmuz is for you. Beware of the crushing of a few idols. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

555

#87 - SELF CONTROL

Mar 9, 2019

49:29

Most of us are wimps. If you dont believe it, ask yourself what you do when faced with a choice between doing what you want and doing what you should. The nisyonos are different for everybody, but how many of us can claim to be masters over our desires? How many of us have real inner strength, real self-control? Just like a body builder develops his strength in small increments, we develop inner strength step by step. This Shmuz clues you in to the strategies you need to trounce your weaknesses once and for all. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

556

#125 - Business Ethics

Mar 9, 2019

56:29

HASHEM created man with an innate sense of morality and an inborn need to do what is right and proper. One of the difficulties of acting ethically is that in the slippery slope of life that sense of right and wrong becomes dulled. It seems that in the business world this is more clearly felt, where the lines between what is considered honest and moral, and what isn't, quickly get blurred. In the post Enron era, when much of the business community is checking its moral compass, isn't it time for us, The Chosen Nation, to make sure that we are living our lives in accordance with the Torah's standards? In this Shmuz we are introduced to an overview of what the Torah considers the ethical approach for business dealings, and how to conduct our day to day affairs. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

557

#124 - Life is Like a Box of Chocolates

Mar 9, 2019

55:15

Do you ever get the sense that there is always something going on -- If it's not one thing it's another. Just when you have finally gotten one area of your life under control, from out of nowhere a whole new issue, a whole new problem, or a whole new crisis pops up -- and now a completely different set of difficulties have to be dealt with. Why is this? Why can't life just be simple? Why can't HASHEM just allow me to go about my business, work on myself, and use this life for its intended purpose? In this Shmuz we are introduced to a perspective on the various situations that befall a person, and why in fact they are a necessary, integral, part of life. A highly recommended Shmuz for understanding life, and the point of view necessary to make sense out of the "things" that just seem to keep on happening. podcast See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

558

#123- Chanukah - Whose Side Are You On?

Mar 9, 2019

57:11

Chanukah centers on the ideological battle of two cultures: The hedonistic Yevanim (Greek / Syrian) Culture waging war against the Torah ideals -- the battle not being fought for the physical survival of the Jewish nation, but rather for its ideology and way of life. We, today, live in very different times. We are no longer downtrodden and subjugated to oppressive regimes -- we are free to choose our lifestyle. And so, not only does Torah learning flourish at unprecedented levels, we have also created our own insular culture, and the Jewish nation even in exile, has fashioned its own way of life. We have our own neighborhoods and schools, we have our own shopping districts and clothing styles, we even have our own novels, music and daily newspapers. So it seems that we have won the cultural war - there are no Yevanim influences in our world -- and as such the message of Chanukah has little to offer us. Unfortunately, this rosy picture is far from reality. This Shmuz explores some of the inroads that "foreign ways" have found even into the finest Torah homes, and identifies the ideological battleground of our time. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

559

#122 - Parenting 102

Mar 9, 2019

55:11

For thousands of years parenting was a pretty straight forward responsibility. Society offered very structured guidelines for behaviors and expectations: Adult's roles were well defined, children's roles were clearly delineated, and throughout the strata of the community everyone knew his place. In terms of practical parenting, new parents had their own parents as guideposts and role models, and the techniques to use were time tested and proven - to fit that world. However, we live in very different times. We live in an open society. Man has social freedoms that never existed before, in terms of opportunities for education - social advancement - increase in income - where to live and what to do - there are almost no boundaries. Yet, this new found freedom comes with a cost: gone are the norms of social conduct, gone is the family structure, and gone are the role models for socially acceptable behaviors. And, so, we now find ourselves in uncharted waters in the role of parents, without having a clear and definitive path as to "how to parent". This Shmuz, the second on the topic of parenting, deals with the primary role of the parent, and some practical "how to"s in term of fulfilling that role. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

560

#121 - EMES - The Whole Truth

Mar 9, 2019

49:06

Politicians lie, lawyers lie, salesmen lie -- but we are honest, moral people and we don't lie... Unfortunately, the reality is that the world we live in affects us, and lies - sometimes little ones, sometimes bigger ones, tend to seep into and become part of our lives. Reb Yisroel Salanter defines lying as "Saying words with our mouth that our heart knows aren't true". Using this as our gauge of Emes, we may well find that we bend the truth a bit more often than we would care to admit. This Shmuz introduces us to the Torah's definition of Emes, and aids us in becoming more honest in all of our dealings. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

561

#120 - Thrift

Mar 9, 2019

54:21

Never before in the history of mankind, has so much been available to so many. Even in recent times the earning power and discretionary income of the average US citizen has increased dramatically. The typical American worker today earns far more than he did back in the 1950's. Yet, the rate of savings has decreased fourfold since that time. Even more troubling, consumer debt has increased exponentially (far outpacing the rate of inflation or cost of living increases) to the point that for many, credit card debt has become a fact of life they never see themselves getting out of it. Why is it that we are earning more and more, yet finding ourselves deeper and deeper in debt? This Shmuz explores the Torah's approach to personal money matters, and gives us a solid approach to financial stability. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

562

#119 - Bris Milah

Mar 9, 2019

47:34

The Jewish contribution to the cultural, scientific, and technological evolution of civilization is nothing short of astounding. Whether in academics, politics, the media, or the professions -- from curing polio to discovering atomic energy, from Hollywood to Wall Street-- Jews have had an extraordinary influence on culture and human progress. Between 1901 and 2006, 23% of all Nobel Prizes worldwide, were awarded to Jews. In the 20th century, 37% of all United States Nobel Prizes were awarded to Jews. (Even though Jews make up less than a quarter of a percent of the world population, and less than 2% of the US population!) The question is why? Why is it that such a miniscule percentage of the population can have such a profound influence - even effecting areas not known to be Jewish, areas like literature, art, theater and music? This Shmuz explores some of what make Jews unique, and allows him to find exceptional success in all of his endeavors. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

563

#118 - Daas Torah

Mar 9, 2019

53:56

When we have medical questions, we go to our doctor. When we have legal questions, we go to our lawyer. When we have financial questions, we go to our accountant. But who do we go to when we have "life questions"? Who do we approach when we have the really big deal questions -- questions that shape our future and the future of our families? Since the time we were in Yeshiva we have been taught the answer: Da'as Torah -- We consult our Rebbeim. But the problem is that most of us don't have a Rebbe. Most of us find ourselves davening in one shul maybe another If we had a connection to a Rebbe in our Yeshiva days, we have long since lost contact with him. The Rov of the Shul I daven in, may be a big Talmid Chacham, but I have little to do with him So who do I turn to? This Shmuz address this very real problem in our communities. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

564

#117 - OPTIMISM

Mar 9, 2019

41:42

Optimism is one of the most essential ingredients in a successful life: Without optimism the world is bleak, dreary place - Life stinks then you die. And even if there is some meaning and purpose in my existence, the odds of my succeeding at it are very slim, considering that bad things are far more likely to befall me than good. An Optimist on the other hand, looks upon the world as a positive place. People and events are inherently good, things will work out in the end - They have a positive outlook on life. Yet there is a sense of realism that demands questioning such an outlook. After all, many bad things do happen: businesses go bankrupt, people get sick, and everyone must die at sometime. Doesn't an optimistic outlook on life run counter to intelligence? How can a person maintain a sense of optimism when often times it is counterintuitive? This Shmuz deals with the issue of balancing an objective, calculated view of life with optimism, and some practical techniques towards adopting a more optimistic view point. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

565

#116 - GROWTH

Mar 9, 2019

43:13

Every human needs to grow -- this is an inborn trait in the species. That trait either manifests itself in real, significant growth or it can be sublimated, channeled into other pursuits. When we watch people chase all types of new plateaus and never being satisfied when they attain them: The man who is constantly seeking to make more money, even though he already has far more than he can spend in his lifetime; the king who goes to war to expand his boundary, even though his monarchy is safe and secure, these are manifestations of the need for growth, incorrectly channeled. This need stems from the Nishoma of man, his soul. Man was placed on this planet exactly for that purpose -- to grow. If man fills his soul's needs, then he is satisfied, and finds peace, if he doesn't, then he has this unmet need and desire within him that plagues and haunts him, demanding its fill. If that fulfillment can't be attained with real growth then it demands its fill with something, anything, as long as it takes away that gnawing sense of "I am wasting my life". This Shmuz introduces us to some of the most basic factors in the functioning of a human being, and helps us understand exactly what it is that man needs to attain happiness. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

566

#115 - Preparing For Yom Kipper

Mar 9, 2019

55:14

While Yom Kippur is known as the day of forgiveness, there are two other issues a person should be focusing on during this day: Praying for all of their needs in the coming year, and asking themselves that key question: is the life that I am leading, in fact the life I wish to be leading. This Shmuz focuses us on the importance of all three issues, and gives us some powerful motivation to use the day to its fullest. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

567

#114 - Creating a Balanced Self Esteem

Mar 9, 2019

46:19

In todays culture there is great emphasis on Self Esteem. Countless studies and reports claim that the basis of success is a good strong sense of self. Does the Torah agree? Are there exceptions to this rule? Is self esteem really that integral to becoming a great person? And if, in fact, I need to have a high self esteem to reach my potential as an individual, how can that be balanced with the concept of being humble? High self esteem translates into thinking that I am very important; humility manifests itself into thinking that I am not important. Arent these two concepts in utter contradiction? In this Shmuz we are introduced to the correct source of self esteem, its importance in success, and the formula for finding the balance between a good strong sense of self and a healthy sense of humility. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

568

#113 - Tshuvah - Two Elements of Sin

Mar 9, 2019

45:28

As we come close to Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur, we focus on the idea that Torah expects us to do Teshuva. Yet for most of us, while in a theoretical sense we understand that there are areas in which we could improve, in our real mode of being, we don't seem to feel that we really sin. When we go to Shul on Yom Kippur morning, it is rare to find the person who walks in with this sense of the magnitude of his sins and the fierce determination to get rid of them. For most of us, we come to daven, we try to focus on what we can do to improve, but the idea of heart felt remorse and repentance just doesn't seem to fit in.In this Shmuz we are brought to focus on the severity of a sin and its grave consequences, and our ability to use the system of Teshuva to rid them from our essence. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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#112 - Chesed - The Essence of Judaism

Mar 9, 2019

48:38

We know that HASHEM is more kindly that any human being that we can imagine. HASHEM created this entire world with fantastic love and concern strictly to give to man. We also know that HASHEM created many features in this world, specifically to give man more enjoyment. So why don't I see it? Why don't I see the Chessed of HASHEM? Why can't I simply open my eyes and be awed by the fantastic amount of chessed, pure kindliness that HASHEM has invested in this world? In this Shmuz we focus on a concept of projection. That more a person lives a life of doing for others, the more they are can appreciate what others do for them, and the more they are able to sense kindliness. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

570

#111 - Sustaining Spiritual Growth

Mar 9, 2019

39:10

Any level of spiritual growth comes with a lot of hard work and perseverance. Oftentimes it takes months or years to change my outlook on life, and to bring my value system in line with the Torahs values. Now that I have invested the time, energy and effort, and I have reached a certain level of understanding, how do I maintain it? How do I keep up the growth that I have attained? This Shmuz offers us the Torah's system for preserving spiritual growth, and making the changes that we have effected in ourselves permanent. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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#110 - Becoming a Great Individual

Mar 9, 2019

44:38

Each individual was created with different strengths and weakness -- One is wise and the other is capable, one has great physical strength, and the other has a strong mental capacity. One is a financial wizard but can't fix his car, the other is a great Talmid Chacham but can't balance his checkbook. Some people can paint, some can speak, some can play the piano, some can create, some can sing and some can write poetry each person has his or her own unique ability. This Shmuz focuses on the concept that each individual was created with the potential for greatness -- but not all individuals have the potential to be great in the same areas. As there are different aptitudes, talents and gifts, there are different expectations from each person. One of the keys to leading a successful life is to find my personal strengths, develop them, and use them to accomplish great things. At the end of my days "They" will ask me if I became a great person, but not a great person as judged by the criteria of you, or any other individual -- the question will be did I use my abilities, gifts and talents to become the great individual that I could have become. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

572

#109 - MACHLOKES! The Damage of Conflict

Mar 9, 2019

49:37

The Torah calls us a stiff necked people. It seems to be part of our very nature --put two Jews together and you get three opinions.So how it is possible for us to live in harmony, as individuals, as families and certainly as communities? We certainly understand the damage of conflict, and unfortunately many of us have felt first hand, the powerful downward spiral that occurs when human beings live in a state of strife. The question is on a practical level, what can I do about this? See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

573

#108 - Servant of HASHEM

Mar 9, 2019

49:33

Said at the 3rd Annual Torah Retreat. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

574

#107 - CHAZAK!

Mar 9, 2019

43:12

Everybody wants to succeed. We want successful careers, successful relationships; we want to be winners at the game of life. But winning takes hard work, and hard work takes single-minded drive. That can be hard to maintain, especially when the going gets tough.This Shmuz looks at the amazing success stories of champion athletes and underdogs who beat the odds, teaching us where we can find the inner strength to reach the heights HASHEM set up for us.Said At The 3rd Annual Torah Retreat. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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#136 - I'm Never Wrong

Mar 9, 2019

1:04:16

There is much truth in the adage: There are three sides to every story, your side, my side and the truth. And, even though I fully understand that you might be making a valid point, as soon as we get into an argument, I can no longer even see your side because, of course, I'm right. Why is that? We all make mistakes. That is part of being human. And while I certainly can accept that you make mistakes, it becomes very difficult to accept that I may be wrong. In theory I accept that as a human I err, but when it comes down to real life situations, I just seem never to be wrong. This Shmuz focuses on why it is that we humans have a blind spot when it comes to seeing our own faults, and helps us with some techniques to change that natural propensity. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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#135 - Imagination: The Devils Playground

Mar 9, 2019

49:57

Eleanor Roosevelt has been credited with saying, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." The reality is that most of the battles that we fight are based on complex constructions -- created by us. Whether they be issues of misunderstanding other's motives, or our fight with passions and desire, or understanding our place in the universe - our fights and battles are very real to us. Yet, when you try to explain them to others we often find, many people can't even identify with the challenge nor understand the temptation. This Shmuz focuses on the fight of our generation, and the very powerful psychological forces that help create the fever- pitched battle that it is. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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#134 - PARENTING 103: Setting Limits

Mar 9, 2019

47:42

If you were to poll our community, the average parent would admit we probably give our children too much. And while this sentiment may not be clearly spoken out by young parents, once children hit the teen age years, most parents upon reflection would say : I wish we had been more firm with them when they were younger; Weve probably spoiled them; They would have been better off, had they not be given quite so much We live in permissive times, and parents seem almost afraid to say the word no to their children. Yet intuitively, we understand that we are injuring our children by not being firm, by not setting limits, and following through with consequences when they go past those limits. The challenge for parents is to find the balance between letting our children know that we love them unconditionally and setting limits and educating them in our expectations. Using the backdrop of some of the most famous personalities in all of history for reference, the Medrash presents to us some of the foundations of effective parenting. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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#133 - ReJEWvinate

Mar 9, 2019

49:45

One of the tools of highly successful people is the ability to stay focused and motivated over long periods of time. Whether in sports, academics, or business, the effort and consistency needed to accomplish long term goalsrequires a high level of motivation and the ability to renew excitement and enthusiasm. Often the difference between a person who reaches great heights and a person who doesn't is the persons self awareness and ability to marshal the inner resources to stay on top of the game. In religion, , we also need the same set of skills to maintain a high level of enthusiasm and focus to prevent our daily actions from becoming merely robotic. In this Shmuz we are focused on one of the Torah's techniques for staying motivated-- ReJewvinating. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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#132 - PURIM: Being Human

Mar 9, 2019

54:10

One of the most difficult character traits to work on is humility. Not only is it considered the most pervasive of the all of the middos, it is the most misunderstood. On one hand, we are obligated to appreciate the greatness of the human, yet on the other, we must remain humble. One technique to help identify the trait and its pathology is to see it in its extreme. Using the story of Megillas Esther as a backdrop, and particularly some of foibles of Haman, we are able to witness arrogance in its extreme, and thereby find its cure: the understanding that I am a human. This is a highly recommended Shmuz for working on the trait of humility, as well as a good preparation for Purim. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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#131 - Working For A Living

Mar 9, 2019

44:51

We know that we were put on this planet for a few short years, to shape ourselves into who we will be for eternity. HASHEM has created this world specifically to give us the chance to mold our inner essence. We also know that the Torah and its mitzvahs are the greatest vehicles of self perfection. If so, one of the questions that a thinking person must ask themselves is, why do we need work? HASHEM is quite capable of creating a world where all of man's needs are met. Yet, not only do we labor, it seems that majority of our life is spent earning a living. Why would HASHEM want that to be? If the entire purpose of life is to allow us to grow in spirituality, wouldn't those goals have been better met by putting us in a world where all of our physical needs were met, and then we would have the time and energy to focus on perfecting ourselves? This Shmuz addresses one of the most basic questions a Jew must ask himself: Why does HASHEM want us to work for a living? See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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#130 - Living With Bitachon

Mar 9, 2019

44:23

We know that everything is from HASHEM. We also know that we must do our part-- our Hishtadlus. In theory it is easy to find the balance-- I must act in the way of the world, yet knowing all the while that HASHEM runs everything. One of the great challenges of life is actually personifying that tightrope walk between Bitachon and proper Hishtadlus. How hard should I be working? How seriously should I take the medical reports and new findings? When is it appropriate for me to say, "I have done my part, now it is in HASHEM's hands"? Drawing on some very inspiring examples of perfect Bitachon, this Shmuz helps us put our belief system into practice. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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#129 - HaKaras HaTov: Recognizing the Good

Mar 9, 2019

53:08

Shmuz INfo Coming Soon.... See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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#128 - Kiruv: The Message & The Medium

Mar 9, 2019

58:08

In 1996 Gordon and Horowitz published a study entitled Will your grandchildren be Jewish? Their conclusion: if one were to view the Jewish Nation as a totality, based on ever decreasing birth rates and skyrocketing intermarriage rates, the odds of any Jews being left by the end of the 21 st century are slim to none. However, one category stands out in stark relief -- the Orthodox. Based on their average birth rate of between 4-6 children per family, and their intermarriage rate of less than 3%, they are burgeoning and ever increasing. We should expect that by the end of this century the Jewish Nation will be alive and vibrant, however strictly Orthodox. The only question that remains is of those Jews alive today: How many will make it themselves, and how many of their grandchildren will be Jewish. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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#127 - Breaking The Forces of Habits

Mar 9, 2019

49:25

We are creatures of habit -- we act by habit, we react by habit and, to a large extent, we even think by habit. And, in truth, it has to be that way. If we didn't act based on previously established patterns of behavior, life would be unmanageable. If every time we turned a corner we would have to think through the actions involved, our entire mind's focus would be on navigating the basics of living, with no upper brain room left for thinking. For that reason, HASHEM gave us this ability to put things on auto pilot, doing many activities without even giving them a second thought, thereby leaving us the ability to free our mind for more important things.While this reality is a fact of life, it also brings us face to face with one of the core realities of growth: our habits determine who we are and what we become. Assuming that some of my habits are in my best interest and some aren't, the question then becomes, "How do I change".This Shmuz helps us identify those habits that affect us, and then defines the strategies necessary to change them. In this Shmuz we are introduced to the vital obligation upon every Jew to be involved in Kiruv, and some practical understandings as to how easy it for everyone, not just the Kiruv professional, to have a profound effect on the people around us. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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#126 - Dignity of Man

Mar 9, 2019

55:01

While there is much talk today about the importance of self esteem and its effect on a person's attitudes and accomplishments, there is a corollary benefit of understanding the greatness of man -- If I am obligated to respect myself because I was created in the image of HASHEM, then so too, I must respect you, because you also were created in that same image. In fact, Ben Azzai teaches us that if a person wants to improve his interpersonal relationships, a concept that will help him even more than Loving one's neighbor as oneself, is this understanding that All men are created in the image of HASHEM. This Shmuz focuses us on the Torah's view of the true dignity of man, and the profound effect that this concept has on our lives. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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#151 - Be Bold, Be Brave

Mar 9, 2019

47:46

All the great leaders and teachers of the Jewish Nation had faults and flaws. The Torah tells us the shortcomings of Avrohom, Dovid, and Shlomo. More amazingly, the Gemarah tells us that the four men who never sinned aren't counted amongst the greatest of our nation. Why? The reason is simple. HASHEM didn't put us on the planet not to sin. HASHEM created us to act - to accomplish, to change ourselves, to change our world. To do this, we need to stand up for what is right, despite the odds, despite what others will say or think. But where does a person get the courageand strength to do just that: to be bold and be brave? This Shmuz introduces us to one of the basic life outlooks necessary for a person to reach his potential. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

587

#150 - Being a Religious Atheist

Mar 9, 2019

45:49

An atheist is someone who doesnt believe in G-d. A religious person is someone who practices a lifestyle that serves G-d. It would therefore seem obvious that being a religious atheist would be a contradiction in terms. Yet not only isnt this correct, the phenomenon of religious atheists is far more prevalent than we realize. This Shmuz focuses us on some of the bedrock foundations of our religion and some of the strange experiences that result from living a life unexamined. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

588

#149 - The System of Tshuvah

Mar 9, 2019

51:47

We know that Tshuvah works. The Nivim told us it does, Chazal repeat it many, many times, and we even have Yom Kippur, a day created specifically for tshuvah. The question isn't whether Tshuvah works, but why I don't make use of it? Why is it that I don't stand there on Yom Kippur with tears flowing down my face, repenting, improving, ridding myself of a year's worth of iniquities? It isn't that I don't want to. It isn't even that I don't believe in it. It just seems that I don't feel a need to repent. This Shmuz focuses on the motivation to do Tshuvah and the different parts of the Tshuvah process. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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#147 - Finding G-d

Mar 9, 2019

49:30

On 12 April 1961, Soviet cosmonaut Yuri Gagarin became the first man in space. Upon his return, he made the famous statement, I have proven that G-d doesnt exist I was in heaven, and I didn't see any God up there." While we may find his logic simple minded, in reality, he makes a valid point. How can the Torah expect us to believe in something that all of our senses deny? We relate to the world through our five senses, yet none of them can perceive the presence of HASHEM. How can a person be expected to see HASHEM when everything he experiences clearly denies HASHEM existence? This Shmuz focuses on how we can come to see HASHEM clearly and experience His presence in our lives. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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#148 - Rich, Richer, Richest - How to be Wealthy

Mar 9, 2019

55:23

Hot, hotter, hottest. Fast, faster, fastest. In the English language we distinguish between the adjective, a descriptive word, and the superlative, an adjective taken to its extreme. Yet when we think about wealth, that distinction somehow gets lost. If I am not as rich as Bill Gates, then I am not rich. While the Torah does not guarantee that any individual will be wealthy, it does offer a tried and true formula for a person to enjoy riches in this world. This Shmuz focuses on the concept of wealth, appreciation and the concept of being rich. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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#146 - The Impact of One Mitzvah

Mar 9, 2019

46:46

I do daven with a minyan. I don't. I do a chesed -- I don't. Does it really matter? Does it really make a difference? Very often we find ourselves thinking what is the big deal? Will my actions really change my life? Will they change my world? Yet every once in a while, we come across a single action that does change the world-- a shot heard around the world. Our natural assumption is that these types of acts are relegated to singular people, living in highly unusual times and circumstance. Yet, Chazal have a different appreciation of the value of a single act. From their vantage point a single mitzvah, accomplished by an ordinary person, is so important, that it exceeds anything we could ever imagine. The question is why? What is the big deal? After all said and done, it was only one Mitzvah, it's not like the entire universe: heaven and earth, are dependent upon that one act.Using HASHEM's answer to, why Nevuchadneser merited becoming one of the most powerful kings in history, as a backdrop, this Shmuz helps us enter Chazal's world view of the impact of even one Mitzvah. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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#145 - Stages of Change Part III Taking Action

Mar 9, 2019

52:05

When a person recognizes that he needs to lose weight, it isn't enough for him to read all the latest diet books and find a great plan - the person has to actually "do it." He has to go on that diet and stick to it. But "doing it" requires motivation, not just the initial motivation to begin, but long-lasting motivation that will withstand the tests of life, allowing changes in behavior to become permanent. Why is it that some people are able to maintain that positive focus and other aren't? Are there techniques for "getting motivated", and maintaining that sense of empowerment? This issue is especially relevant to us, the Chosen Nation. Our mandate is not only to change damaging personal habits, but to change our very nature, our character traits, and our approaches to life -- the types of spouses we are, the types of parents we are, the type of human beings we are. To do this, we must have a constant source of motivation and drive. Changing our very nature is difficult work. Where does this drive come from? How can we stay that motivated throughout life? In this third part of a three-part series on the mechanisms of change, we focus on using moments of inspiration and learn how to lock them in, so that we give ourselves the constant source of inspiration needed for change. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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#143- Stages of Change Part I Denial

Mar 9, 2019

57:56

The Vilna Gaon tells us that the main reason for life is to change our middos -"If not" he says, "Why should a person have life?" The difficulty with this mandate is that it means: I have to change. While in theory I may be open to grow -- I may even recognize the many advantage to my life, in practice we humans find it very difficult to change. Ask a person who has smoked for 20 years, "How easy it is to change?" Ask a person who is 40 lbs overweight, "Don't you want to lose weight?" The reality is that even when we recognize the need to change, actually carrying out the process seems to be a daunting task-and it's not just about willpower. This is part one of a series of Shmuzin, focusing on the dynamics of change. Whether my aim is to stop: gambling, over eating, drinking, or improving my character traits; by understanding the different stages, techniques and mental states, that are a necessary part of change, we can be more successful at attaining our goals. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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#142 - The Power of Laughter

Mar 9, 2019

43:12

There are certain life lessons that they don't teach you in school. One of them is the importance of maintaining a sense of humor. Not only is this one of the key elements for maintaining a sense of balance and joy as we travel through the trials of life, in terms of our relationships with others, a light touch often spells the difference between harmony and strife-love and hate. Focusing on the adage that "He who laughs, lasts.. .." this Shmuz underscores the power of laughter -- a force that improperly used, can cause much harm, but properly utilized is one of the keys to leading a successful life. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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#144 - Stages of Change Part II Support Groups

Mar 9, 2019

43:02

Recent studies show that in 2004, there were an estimated 44.5 million adult smokers in the United States, and 70% of them want to quit. Each year, 35% do attempt to stop, yet only 5% succeed -- clearly change isn't easy. Willpower alone isn't enough. A good program for change alone isn't enough. To make change permanent, we need outside help. Support groups are successful for this very reason. Weight Watchers reports that people who attend meetings lose three times as much weight as those who don't. Same program, same motivation. The only difference is the social component of support. Our goal as the Chosen Nation is not only to change destructive personal habits, but to change our very natures, our character traits, and our approaches to life -- the type of spouses we are, the type of parents we are, the type of human beings we. Clearly it is a formidable challenge- one that we were given a lifetime to tackle. And provided we have the motivation, systems and knowledge of how to change, we can accomplish it. In this second of a three part series on the mechanisms of change, we focus on how support systems function and how important they are in making change permanent. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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#140 - The Arabs and The Jews

Mar 9, 2019

58:29

The Palestinians have aspirations of political freedom as do every people. Their requests are merely of sovereignty and political rights-- and of course, once they have been granted these, they will live in harmony with their neighbors, recognizing Israel's right to peaceful coexistence. Or will they? An opened minded view of the current situation brings grave doubts to the true desires of the Arabs in general and the Palestinians in particular. This Shmuz focuses on some of the underlying causes of the Arab's attitude towards the Jews, and why Western Culture has such difficulty relating to the core issue. WARNING: If your worldview is shaped by CNN you will find this Shmuz disconcerting. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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#141 - Parenting Part IV - Sibling Rivalry

Mar 9, 2019

55:14

Since the time of Kain and Hevel, it seems a given that brothers fight. Even in the most refined home, where individuals are polite and respectful, siblings take liberties with each other that they wouldn't dare take with outsiders- it is almost as if an unwritten law permits the torture of siblings. What is even more surprising is that individuals we know, good people, who outside the home are so courteous and caring, act very differently when they are amongst their closest family -- What is even more shocking is when those "People", turn out to be you and I. The question is why? Why does the very closeness and attachment we share with family bring out contention, and what can we do about it? This Shmuz explores some of the forces that drive sibling rivalry, and offers strategies to deal with it, whether in the role of parents or sibling. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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#139 - The Power of Speech

Mar 9, 2019

51:57

We know that the Torah is very exacting in regards to Loshon Horah: there are 17 negative and 14 positive commandments concerning disparaging speech. In fact, the Rambam paskens like the Gemara, that the sin of Loshon Horah is worse than the sins of Idol worship; illicit relations, and bloodshed. The question is why? Of all of our activities why does the Torah see fit that this one should be dealt with so severely? What is so egregious, so horrific? After all its only words.. ..This Shmuz deals with the Torah's view of the power of the spoken word, and its effect on human relationships. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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#137 - Being Sensitive

Mar 9, 2019

45:17

Almost all of the people that we deal with are reasonable, well intentioned individuals. And so too, am I. Yet, in the course of life, there is conflict, hurtful words, vengeful acts And, in that rare moment of self honesty, I realize that everything that happens isn't the "other guys fault". I too, am to blame. There have been situations where I acted in a manner that was cold and callous. There have been times when I acted with cruelty and malice. The question is why? It's not that I am not a nice guy, I know I am. Yet there are times when that's not the way I act. The question is why would a nice, caring individual act in a manner very inconsistent with that image? And more significantly what can I do about it?This Shmuz focuses us on one of the keys to growing in all human relationships: learning to focus on the Inner Condition how people actually feel, and learning to ignore the Outer Condition the show that people put on to hide what is actually going on in their heart. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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#138 - The Potential and The Present

Mar 9, 2019

57:01

"Considering where I come from and what I've been through, I'm doing pretty well..." While this may be a comforting position to take, the question a person must ask themselves is: is this really all that I can be? What if I were to stop making excuses? What if I was to truly hold myself accountable to live up to my potential? What if I was to go full blast - how great could I be? This question is essential for growth, but it is also one of our greatest pitfalls. If we don't clearly see how much we are capable of, we cannot chart the course toward our potential. However, with a realistic view of where we are now and a clear understanding of what we could become might lead to depression. This Shmuz focuses us on maintaining a balance between the two views needed for steady growth: a clear understanding of where we are now and a vivid image of what we can be, even if we won't reach those levels for many, many years. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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