Electric scooters have become a familiar sight in many communities. For some, they're a convenient way to get to school, shiurim, friends' houses and local activities. For others, they're a growing source of concern. In this special mini episode, Rabbi S F Zimmerman addresses one of the most discussed topics affecting children, teenagers and parents today. Are electric scooters simply a modern convenience, or is there a deeper issue at stake? How should parents respond when "everyone in the class has one"? Who bears responsibility – parents, schools, rabbonim, or the wider community? And what should a family do if a child has already spent hundreds of pounds of Bar Mitzvah money on a scooter? A concise but important discussion offering Daas Torah and practical guidance on a topic generating debate across the UK, the USA and beyond. Sponsored anonymously by someone who believes this episode could save lives.

Can you leave your job and take your clients with you? If you transform your father's business, who really owns that success? When does healthy competition cross the line, and can schools or businesses actively poach staff? In this episode of Asking for a Friend, Dayan Posen explores some of the most practical and misunderstood areas of Choshen Mishpat. From employees and employers to family businesses, partnerships and competition, we examine where halacha draws the line between legitimate business practice and unfair conduct. Whether you're an employee, employer, business owner or simply interested in Torah's approach to business ethics, this episode offers practical guidance on navigating the workplace with integrity, fairness and emunah.   Timestamps: **00:00–02:10** – Intro to the podcast, new Cheish Mishpat series, and definitions of *oni ha‑mehapech* & *hasagas gevul*.   **02:38–03:47** – Core scenario: Reuven the long‑term employee vs Shimon the employer; ultimatum of partnership or leaving with clients.   **05:58–08:10** – Employee’s mindset: “I built this; I want to own something for my family.”   **08:10–10:46** – “Partner in profits” explained as **commission, not real ownership**; crop‑share analogy.   **10:46–13:22** – Pros and cons of profit‑share: good incentive but no true security or equity.   **13:22–16:54** – Leaving and taking clients: contracts, non‑compete/non‑solicit; whose clients are they?   **16:54–22:22** – Source and nature of *oni ha‑mehapech* in Chazal; being called a *rasha*; public “naming and shaming” in theory.   **23:47–29:08** – Practical application: approaching former employer’s clients, direct vs indirect; general advertising vs targeted contact.   **29:08–32:36** – WhatsApp status, circulars, email farewell messages – what’s allowed, what’s too direct.   **32:36–35:12** – Employers’ fear of training someone who later “takes the business”; possibility of halachic contracts.   **35:12–42:08** – Poaching rabbeim/teachers; *metziah* concept; Ashkenazi vs Sefardi angles; *ba’al nefesh yachmir*.   **42:08–48:02** – Fisherman/net story; when competition crosses into destroying someone’s parnassa.   **48:02–56:22** – *Hasagas gevul* today: normal competition vs wiping out a niche business; monopolies and community benefit.   **57:25–01:04:52** – Family business case: child grows parents’ business, ownership, siblings, and inheritance tensions.   **01:04:52–01:09:07** – Children asking parents about expectations; importance of written clarity in family businesses.   **01:09:07–01:13:19** – Closing hashkafa: *nasata v’nasata be’emunah*, link to learning the halachos, business as a daily arena for emunah.

As the Three Weeks give way to the Nine Days and Tisha B'Av, Jewish life changes dramatically. The music stops, celebrations become more restrained, and we begin mourning the destruction of the Beis Hamikdash. But what are we actually meant to be feeling? Why should we mourn something that happened nearly 2,000 years ago? What was truly lost, and what is the avodah of these weeks? In this episode, Rabbi Zimmerman explores the meaning behind the Three Weeks, the real definition of sinas chinam, what it means to believe in the Geulah, how to approach Tisha B'Av, and how each of us can play a part in bringing the rebuilding of the Beis Hamikdash closer. A timely and practical conversation to help transform the Three Weeks from a period we simply observe into one we genuinely understand.   Timestamps: [0:01:46]–[0:06:31] – Three Weeks as opportunity, not just restriction [0:04:40]–[0:06:31] – Halacha as a “license” to mourn and yearn for Yerushalayim [0:06:31]–[0:09:11] – Avodah when you don’t “feel” the Churban [0:09:20]–[0:11:18] – Halachic framework of aveilus enabling everyone to mourn [0:11:28]–[0:14:27] – Churban as current reality, not only history [0:14:27]–[0:20:54] – What sinas chinam really is and how to work on it [0:23:18]–[0:28:05] – Torah: beyond “how-to” — valuing Torah itself [0:28:05]–[0:35:42] – Growing necessity and role of tefillah today [0:35:42]–[0:43:43] – Belief in and daily anticipation of Geulah/Moshiach [0:43:43]–[0:50:35] – How our broken generation can still bring Geulah [0:51:00]–[0:53:46] – Purpose of the Tisha B’Av fast: teshuvah like Yom Kippur [0:53:54]–[1:00:47] – Using kinnot and modern tragedies to understand and repair [1:00:47]–[1:02:13] – Personal bakashos and their root in geulah consciousness [1:02:33]–[1:07:24] – How to approach Tisha B’Av day; the Kaddish mashal [1:08:00]–[1:11:45] – Building ahavas Yisrael by expanding the self [1:11:45]–[1:16:12] – Shabbos Nachamu and the nature of nechama [1:16:50]–[1:18:39] – Final message: mourning as immediate kirvas Hashem

In the first part of The Marriage Series, Rabbi Zimmerman discusses marriage, sholom bayis, and what building a Jewish home actually requires in real life. Together they explore questions many couples carry but rarely articulate, what a good marriage truly looks like, why so many homes feel under strain, how comparison and expectations affect relationships, how couples deal with recurring conflict, and how hashkafic differences such as tznius and kashrus should be navigated within a home. Please send in questions to [email protected]   Timestamps: - 00:00:00 Intro, podcast overview, listener feedback, series framing, episode topic announced (marriage & shalom bayis)   - 00:03:02 Rabbi Zimmerman: purpose of marriage, ahava as giving, definition of shalom bayis (harmony)   - 00:08:02 Discussion: effort in marriage vs. natural compatibility; symphony analogy for differences   - 00:09:29 What a bad marriage looks like (transactional, taker-focused)   - 00:10:11 Role of warmth, respect, and mediums that sustain shalom bayis   - 00:13:04 Core trait for longevity: thinking about/giving to the other (two givers)   - 00:15:07 Should rabbis be involved? Proactive education vs. case triage; rabbi skill sets   - 00:23:11 Triage: distinguishing shalom bayis issues from personal/clinical issues   - 00:26:15 Blame, entitlement, and the “kugel” analogy (destructive blame patterns)   - 00:28:51 Dangers of too many advisory voices; seeking perspective vs. decisions   - 00:33:30 When to seek therapy/professional help; targeted goals; asking for help not weakness   - 00:38:34 Divorce vs. unhappy marriages: higher divorce rate but similar levels of unhappiness   - 00:45:15 Comparisons and social media: harmful, often false benchmarks   - 00:50:07 Divorce as last resort; cases where separation may create shalom   - 00:53:43 Staying together for children: weigh true benefit vs. harm to children/parents   - 01:03:31 Reducing recurring bickering: acceptance, asking halachic guidance, ongoing work   - 01:07:56 Hashkafic/minhag differences: coexistence if not harming the other or the children   - 01:15:37 Practical examples and closing remarks

In the first episode of Asking for a Friend, Mena Reisner sits down with Rabbi Zimmerman to explore the questions shaping today’s Jewish childhood. Why are so many more children anxious? Has therapy become too normalised? Should parents be concerned about the sheer amount of instant frum entertainment? What should we make of teenagers constantly travelling abroad? And how does a parent respond when a child says, “But everyone in my class has it”? A wide-ranging and honest conversation that opens the series by giving voice to the dilemmas parents think about all the time but rarely discuss openly.   Chapters: [0:00:00] Introduction to Podcast and Purpose [0:02:53] Resilience and Adversity in Modern Childhood [0:07:21] Emotional Understanding vs. Emotional Determination [0:09:06] Therapy - Purpose and Pitfalls [0:10:10] Labels and Diagnoses in Modern Education [0:15:31] Spoiled Generations and Parental Influence [0:19:36] Responding to Religious or Educational Drift [0:24:27] Navigating Teenage Trips and Social Pressures [0:58:41] School Selection and Expectations [1:05:36] Defining Success Beyond Traditional Paths [1:12:54] Closing: Back to Basics [1:14:01] Closing Remarks and Listener Invitation

In the early hours of Monday morning, four Hatzolah ambulances were deliberately set on fire in Golders Green. B''H no one was injured. But the impact has been profound. An attack on Hatzolah, an organisation built entirely on chesed, responding to emergencies for anyone in need, has left the kehilla shaken. In North West London, across the UK, and around the world, people are asking the same questions: how should we process this, how concerned should we be, and what does the Torah expect from us in a moment like this? In this special episode, Dayan Hool addresses the fear, the confusion, and the wider context of rising antisemitism. He explores how to balance hishtadlus with bitochon, whether we are meant to see a message in events like these, and how to respond without being pulled into panic or paralysis. A timely conversation offering clarity, perspective, and a grounded approach to a deeply unsettling moment.   Timestamps: 00:00:00 — Intro & incident overview 00:01:27 — Rambam: communal obligation to alert/respond 00:03:25 — Torah guidance on fear (Gulf War anecdote) 00:10:55 — Emunah vs. bitachon 00:18:54 — Balancing precautions with bitachon 00:21:40 — Talking to children / media guidance 00:27:03 — On antisemitism and causes 00:31:39 — Personal & communal teshuvah; security/government role 00:36:06 — Discussion on aliyah / “we’re in golus” 00:40:38 — Message to Hatzala, chesed, unity; closing remarks

When King Charles III recently visited Golders Green, hundreds of members of the local Jewish community lined the streets to catch a glimpse of the monarch. The visit sparked widespread discussion: why does Yiddishkeit place such importance on kings and royalty, and what is the Torah perspective on monarchy in the modern world? In this special episode, Dayan Hool explores the halachic and hashkafic questions raised by the King's visit. Can one make a brachah upon seeing King Charles? Should a person make a special effort to see a king? What is the concept of כבוד מלכות? Can one shake the King's hand? And why is Hashem so often described throughout our tefillos as a King? Drawing on sources from Chazal, Halachah and Jewish history, this fascinating discussion sheds light on a topic that captured the attention of so many in the community and reveals what earthly kingship can teach us about מלכות שמים.   Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro: King Charles visits Golders Green   01:09 – Why frum Jews are excited to see a king  03:17 – The brocha on seeing Jewish and non‑Jewish monarchs   06:03 – Does the brocha apply to King Charles III and presidents?  09:50 – Can a monarchy be abolished? Acceptance by the people   16:14 – Seeing the king from afar: entourage, cars, and the brocha   22:31 – How often can you say the brocha on a king?  23:33 – Must you go out to see a king? Bitul Torah and mitzvah  29:30 – Kavod malchus: honoring even non‑Jewish and wicked kings   36:13 – Shaking hands with royalty: halacha and real‑world strategies   43:28 – Praying for the welfare of the kingdom in golus 50:29 – Queen Wilhelmina and the Munkatcher Rebbe 54:23 – Dutch royalty, Rav Katz, and modern royal brachos 1:00:00 – Why we call Hashem “Melech”: kindness and authority  1:04:06 – Dina de’malchusa dina and UK land law 1:05:20 – Closing: Malchus shel chesed and Malchus Shamayim

In Part 2 of The Marriage Series, Mena Reisner continues the conversation with Rabbi Zimmerman, focusing on the forces that shape a marriage from the outside as much as from within. The discussion explores how responsibility to a spouse is balanced alongside chesed and communal life, whether men and women have distinct roles within the home, what time apart means for a relationship, how parents should respond when children criticise the other spouse, and how couples navigate tension involving parents and in-laws. A practical Torah conversation about protecting the marriage while managing the many expectations, loyalties, and pressures surrounding it.   Timestamps: - 0:00:00 — Intro, episode purpose; marriage as a nisayon (test) - 0:01:55 — Nisayon concept; when to work on marriage vs. leave - 0:03:07 — Balancing chesed (communal work) and family priorities - 0:06:34 — Need for sibuk/fulfillment and balance - 0:08:02 — Who is a “good husband”; middot and helping at home - 0:10:22 — Role changes, spheres of influence, and women working/men learning - 0:14:36 — Household chores, everyday tensions, helping each other - 0:15:32 — Spouses taking trips alone vs. shared time; healthy independence - 0:18:21 — Vatranus from strength vs. weakness; avoiding resentment - 0:20:53 — When giving in becomes damaging; loss of connection - 0:23:39 — Sponsorship mention / memorial - 0:25:13 — Children complaining about a parent; validating feelings vs. undermining - 0:28:37 — Use of third party for parental disagreements - 0:29:39 — In-law/parents interference; halachic considerations for kibbud - 0:33:28 — Responding when partner speaks negatively about parents; validate feelings - 0:36:28 — Sharing marital struggles with friends; discretion and appropriate advisors - 0:38:13 — Truth vs. shalom bayit — not always full openness - 0:41:12 — Respect issues (earnings, abilities); focus on virtues (malus) - 0:43:40 — “Never sleep angry” advice — depends on personalities - 0:45:36 — Preparing couples for marriage; middot as key predictor; post-marriage mentoring - 0:49:48 — Closing, call for listener questions and contact info

In Part 2 of our discussion on nisyonos, Rabbi Zimmerman explores some of the most relevant and challenging questions facing people today. Can pressure from family, school or community become a nisayon in its own right? Is questioning Hashem always a weakness in emunah, or can honest struggle sometimes deepen a person's relationship with Him? We discuss whether wealth and success can be as great a test as poverty and hardship, how to cope with challenges that feel constant and never-ending, and whether shielding children from difficulty truly protects them or leaves them unprepared for life. We also examine whether people should search for reasons behind suffering, and how to navigate uncertainty, responsibility, mental health, and personal growth through a Torah perspective.   Timestamps: 0:00:00 – Introduction, recap of Part 1, framing Part 2 (modern struggles) 0:01:05 – Expectations, spiritual burden, joy vs obligation in mitzvos 0:05:04 – Personal enjoyment in avodas Hashem; “cog in the system” and individuality 0:08:19 – Each person’s unique purpose and contribution 0:08:46 – Balancing bitachon with hishtadlus; avoiding denial / toxic positivity 0:12:34 – Questioning Hashem, anger, and honest relationship with Hashem 0:19:10 – Modern nisyonos vs previous generations; changing Yetzer Hara 0:24:38 – Wealth and poverty as different tests; emotional equilibrium 0:27:32 – Never-ending struggles (e.g., shemiras einayim); value of the battle itself 0:30:09 – Children and chinuch; sharing struggles with kids appropriately 0:38:11 – Emotional/psychological struggles vs mental health conditions; seeking help 0:41:37 – Destigmatizing mental health; communal responsibility 0:44:26 – How much we’re responsible for others’ suffering; healthy boundaries 0:47:20 – Searching for “reasons” for suffering; middah k’neged middah and introspection 0:52:00 – Uncertainty in major life decisions; advice vs personal responsibility 0:58:15 – Finding meaning in nisyonos; Avraham’s legacy and our spiritual DNA 1:02:12 – Closing remarks and podcast wrap-up

Dayan Hool addresses the realities and dilemmas around school admissions today. What can a school reasonably expect from parents? What responsibility does it have to children left without a place? How should families balance what’s right for their child with communal norms, donor influence or social pressure? And when is opening a new school actually the correct solution? A clear, grounded look at an issue that affects almost every frum family.   Timestamps [0:00:00] - Podcast Introduction: "Asking for a Friend" Episode 2 [0:00:30] - Dayan Biography: Dayan Hool [0:01:30] - Topic Overview: School Admissions [0:02:30] - Halachic Framework for School Admission Policies [0:12:39] - Parental Behavior and School Admission Criteria [0:36:54] - Handling Children Without School Places [0:48:21] - Discussion on Opening New Schools [0:55:36] - Parents' Strategies for School Admission