The Shmuz

351

A Damaged Sense of Self

Jul 4, 2023

1:16

A damaged sense of self will play havoc with your relationships with others. Want to become a whole person? Catch the full series here: https://theshmuz.com/humility/   This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

352

The Right Perspective

Jul 2, 2023

0:38

“I just love it when my carefully laid plans go completely haywire” Said no one ever. If you sometimes get frustrated, irritated or down right angry when things don’t go your way, welcome to the club of being human. Want to know what to do about it? Listen to this.  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

353

The Big Bang

Jun 30, 2023

2:17

The fact that the Ramban talked about the Big Bang 800 YEARS AGO is pretty astonishing, wouldn’t you say? Want to watch Rabbi Shafier's Wonders of the World Series? Go here: https://theshmuz.com/wonders-of-the-world/ Have a wonderful Shabbos!  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

354

Are You Mr. Fix It?

Jun 29, 2023

1:25

“For many years I thought I was giving my wife good advice. Just one problem- it wasn’t my advice she wanted” New on TorahAnytime.com! The 10 Really Dumb Mistakes That Very Smart *Husbands* Make- And How to Avoid Them!Get started here: https://www.torahanytime.com/#/lectures?v=243891  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

355

Hashem, Help Me Change!

Jun 28, 2023

1:44

The magic moment comes when you realize how powerless you are.  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

356

How Can I Get My Spouse to Appreciate Me?

Jun 27, 2023

1:59

If you’re married, you’ve probably asked yourself this question. Looking to bring more appreciation to your marriage? Go here: http://bit.ly/40dh09m  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

357

Rating Hashem

Jun 26, 2023

1:12

Deep down, you may feel like G-d is making poor choices when it comes to your life. But before you go and rate Hashem, listen to this.  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

358

Arrogance is Delusional

Jun 25, 2023

1:37

Here’s one way to live a miserable life: base your sense of self around what others think of you Watch the full class here: https://theshmuz.com/humility/   This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

359

AWE

Jun 23, 2023

1:49

Listen now to make your Shabbos davening a little more AWEsome  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

360

A Life Without Growth

Jun 22, 2023

1:42

Challenges are not just tests to see if we can survive. They’re hand crafted for our growth. Listen now for a shot of pure chizuk  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

361

The Danger of Being Judgmental

Jun 21, 2023

1:14

DANGER! Being judgemental can seriously damage your spiritual health The audio is not great on this clip. But the message is so important that it’s still worth putting it out there  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

362

The One Way to Change Your Spouse

Jun 20, 2023

3:04

If you’re one of the 20,000+ people who have read The Ten Really Dumb Mistakes you know that Rabbi Shafier is very insistent about not trying to change your spouse. Not satisfied with that? He’s the one technique he does recommend. This recording is from The Ten Really Dumb Mistakes Video Book! Check it out on TheShmuz.com!  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

363

Hashem Loves Me- How to Make it Real

Jun 19, 2023

1:36

You’ve told yourself this so many times: “Hashem loves me”“Hashem wants my success” “Hashem is doing this for my good” Just one problem: How can I bridge the gap between knowing… and really feeling it? Listen now for the answer.  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

364

Beneath My Dignity

Jun 18, 2023

1:57

Feeling like the post-Shabbos clean up never ends? This idea can help you reframe. Have an amazing week!  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

365

Parshas Shlach: Stronger that G-d

Jun 11, 2023

49:55

In this powerful Shmuz, Rabbi Shafier discusses the spiritual forces that cause cognitive dissonance and shows us how we can have a chance at living a more authentic and truthful existence. If you want to have the clarity to move forward through this thing called life, you need to understand what motivates and drives you. This shmuz will change everything you ever thought about yourself.  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

366

We're Not in Control

Jun 16, 2023

0:49

Here’s your erev Shabbos reminder that you’re not in control…and that’s ok. Have a wonderful Shabbos!  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

367

How Many Shadchanim Should I Call?

Jun 15, 2023

0:39

Listen to this if you’re dating: How many shadchanim should I call? For practical, helpful advice on the dating process download Rabbi Shafier’s Dating Seminar here: https://theshmuz.com/dating-seminar-part-1/  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

368

Hashem Loves Me More Than Me

Jun 14, 2023

1:41

If you’d like to solve 80% of your philosophical problems, the solution is simple: stop playing G-d.  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

369

Bitachon is Learned in the Real World

Jun 13, 2023

1:22

Bitachon isn’t learnt from a book. Sure, you can learn the concepts, the theory. But genuine bitachon? That comes from real life. Think your bitachon leaves a lot to be desired? Watch this.  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

370

What We Don't Understand

Jun 12, 2023

1:35

”Rabbi, are you seriously telling me that the entire universe was created just for a bunch of two legged-creatures?! Listen to Rabbi Shafier’s amazing response- especially if you’re in need of a hashkafic deprogramming.  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

371

Accepting Your Child

Jun 11, 2023

1:04

Parenting is hard. How can you get your kid to listen?   This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

372

Giving Honor to Your Wife

Jun 9, 2023

1:05

On behalf of wives everywhere, he’s a little reminder for the husbands Have an amazing Shabbos!  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

373

How to Change Your Davening

Jun 8, 2023

0:43

Looking to daven with more kavannah and less blah? This simple technique can help. If you’d like to get serious about improving your conversation with Hashem, check out Rabbi Shafier’s Tefillah Project. It’s a 5 hour investment of your time, divided into 10 actionable chunks. Stream or download for free here: https://theshmuz.com/series/the-tefilah-project/  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

374

My Life Stinks

Jun 7, 2023

1:40

I’d be the first to thank Hashem…if I had anything to thank Hashem for. Ever feel like that?   This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

375

The American Dream Could Ruin Your Life

Jun 6, 2023

2:20

Feel like you’re in a never ending cycle of trying to get your hands on bigger, brighter, better? Then it could be that the American Dream is ruining your life. If this video resonates with you, it’s time to make a change.  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

376

Awareness Changes Everything

Jun 5, 2023

0:58

Most middos are incredibly difficult to change. Aside from this one. This one is 100% doable. So why not try it out?  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

377

A Damaged Sense of Self

Jun 4, 2023

1:16

Arrogance and lack of confidence both have root in the same issue- a damaged sense of self. Listen now to safeguard your emotional health! Want to learn how to be confident- without being arrogant? Get the full series here: https://theshmuz.com/series/humility-arrogance-and-self-esteem/  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

378

Naso: I Never Do Anything Wrong

May 31, 2023

1:13:00

How fragile is your ego? Do you know someone who will never admit to being wrong? They will stubbornly refuse to acknowledge the facts and stick to their story as if their very lives depend on it. Unfortunately, this quirk is not just limited to hardened criminals and pathological narcissists. Within all of us is the overwhelming desire to protect our ego and soothe our sense of self. It’s very unpleasant to admit you could be wrong. Unpleasant and humbling. Ultimately, your very purpose on this planet is to work on your middos and become the very best version of yourself. And that version includes being truthful. It includes courageously learning humility. And it includes developing the psychological fortitude to be ok with being wrong. Ready to face up to who you really are? Listen now. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

379

The Impressionable Soul

May 30, 2023

55:18

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380

You and Your Spouse Against the World

May 31, 2023

1:51

THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. OR YOUR SPOUSE. OR THE MATCH BETWEEN YOU. It’s normal to feel frustrated with your spouse It’s normal to think your spouse doesn’t get you It’s normal to wonder if you married the right one... LEARN THE 10 REALLY DUMB MISTAKES THAT SMART COUPLES MAKE AND WATCH THE MAGIC REAPPEAR! ✨Get your copy of the 10 Really Dumb Mistakes Video Book with free bonuses and free shipping from http://bit.ly/40dh09m  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

381

Understanding Challenge

May 29, 2023

1:31

One of the hardest parts of a nisayon is trying to wrap your head around the why. Here’s an insight from the Mesilas Yesharim that may help.  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

382

Hashem Wants Your Success

May 28, 2023

0:53

Hashem wants you to succeed this week. Read that again. Hashem wants YOU to succeed this week.  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

383

I Don't Understand My Wife. Does It Matter?

May 22, 2023

1:31

This is taken from the Chosson Chabura. Click this link to join: https://chat.whatsapp.com/C0fTC3Hru0lBnQo0ueZ0jY This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

384

Heroes: Aspiring for Greatness this Shavuos

May 22, 2023

22:15

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385

Why Did Rav Chaim ztl Learn So Much?

May 24, 2023

1:11

Your neshama has been waiting all year for Shavuos. Spend a few minutes now to remind yourself what it’s all about.  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

386

Having Couples Over

May 23, 2023

2:24

Thinking of inviting a couple over for yomtov? Listen to this first…  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

387

The Guide Book For Happiness Was Written By Our Creator

May 22, 2023

1:56

Short clip for Shavuos: The guidebook for happiness was written by our CreatorGo beyond the cheesecake this year. Listen to Rabbi Shafier’s series on Kabbolas HaTorah here: https://theshmuz.com/series/at-the-foot-of-har-sinai/  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

388

12 Million Hours of Torah Learning

May 21, 2023

0:41

Gut chodesh! Thank you to everyone who has donated to The Shmuz team page for the TorahAnytime fundraiser for 12 million hours of Torah learning. If you haven’t yet grabbed this amazing opportunity, now’s the time! The hours are yours to keep for eternity: https://raisethon.com/torahanytime/the-shmuz-team-   This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

389

Serving Yourself

May 18, 2023

2:15

Believing that you're better than someone else feels delicious. Problem is, you’ll be hated for it. Watch this video on arrogance and get that middah under control.  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

390

There's Still Time to Partner in this Amazing Zechus!

May 17, 2023

0:32

There’s still time to partner in the AMAZING ZECHUS of 12 million hours of Torah learning!Go GO GO https://raisethon.com/torahanytime/the-shmuz-team-   This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

391

GROWTH!

May 16, 2023

0:55

Feel like you might just fall into Shavuos? It’s not too late to learn some powerful Torah right now!  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

392

12 Million Hours of Torah Learning

May 15, 2023

0:38

TorahAnytime’s 12 Million RaiseThon Hours are here! Now you have the opportunity to own and keep your very own hours of Torah learning that will be learned on the TorahAnytime site- for just 25 cents per hour!Invest in your spiritual bank account! Join the Shmuz team here and donate now! https://raisethon.com/torahanytime/the-shmuz-team-   This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

393

We Don't Share the Same Values and Were Pushed Into Marriage

May 14, 2023

1:35

‘We don’t have the same outlook or goals on life. We were pushed into marriage without discussing important topics. Does the fact that Hashem allowed them to get married mean the potential is still there?’If you’re looking for a place where you can achieve success in your shalom bayis, have your questions answered and experience a deeper, more loving relationship right off the bat- you need to join the Chosson Chabura. It’s every Monday night at 8pm. Click here to join! https://chat.whatsapp.com/C0fTC3Hru0lBnQo0ueZ0jY  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

394

Does Money Buy Happiness?

May 11, 2023

2:01

You need stability. There are bills to pay, obligations to meet. But what about the needs of your neshama? If you neglect your soul, do the repercussions scream out?   This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

395

Dating- I'm Not Sure

May 9, 2023

1:12

“I’ve been dating someone for a few weeks now. He’s ready to go forward but I’m not. How will I know when it’s the right one?” Listen now if you’re looking for guidance in the dating process. Looking for more? Rabbi Shafier’s dating seminar, *Finding and Keeping Your Soulmate*, is available for free audio download here: https://theshmuz.com/dating-seminar-part-1/ Pass on to anyone in the parsha!  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

396

A Whole World Created for Me

May 8, 2023

2:46

בשבילי נברא העולם Isn’t just a nice platitude. It’s meant to give you an inherent sense of self-worth and meaning to your life. Listen to this if you need to feel like you matter today.  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

397

Understanding Challenge

May 5, 2023

1:37

If you believe it all ends at the grave, there are no answers… Have a wonderful Shabbos  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

398

How Much is Due to You

May 4, 2023

0:43

There’s one question they will ask you when you leave this world. Curious? Listen to Rabbi Shafier’s life-altering response.  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

399

How Can I Bring Back the Spark to My Marriage?

May 2, 2023

2:20

“I know people talk about this all the time, but I feel like right when we got married we were so close and it was so much fun, and now with so many more responsibilities in life we’ve lost that passion. How do we bring it back?” If this is a question you’ve sometimes wondered, listen now to hear Rabbi Shafier’s on-point answer. Make sure your marriage doesn’t succumb to the same mistakes that Rabbi Shafier has seen so many others make. Learn how to avoid The Ten Dumb Mistakes That Very Smart Couples Make and build the most satisfying relationship imaginable. Get your copy of Rabbi Shafier’s new Video Book exclusively at www.TheShmuz.com 👍  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

400

How to Wreck Your Life

Apr 30, 2023

1:30

Ever wondered why most of the world is fundamentally unhappy? Listen to this. To hear The Shmuz on the Parsha for Parshas Emor, go here: https://vimeo.com/416973865  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

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