Popular Shows by Rena Reiser: Page 2

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75 - From migraines to back pain. How I found mind-body work and what it can do for you.

Nov 11, 2020

12:26

Migraines and back pain. Argh. They would knock me out for days. I'd fight them and resist then and it would just get worst. Until I stumbled across Dr. Sarno's work. Not only did it help me with these types of pain, but it totally shifted the way I experience any emotion and discomfort, and brought me into the exciting world of mind-body coaching. In this show we'll explore: What led me to do the work I do today? How do I deal with migraines or back pain? How can you do it too? What happens when we don't tune into our bodies throughout the day? What happens when we do? What does it mean that our body screams? How can you notice your body when it's talking in a "quieter voice"? Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 coaching and group programs, check out renareiser.com.

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76 - It's okay to want your body to change. How to find the middle ground.

Nov 19, 2020

13:27

In this week's episode we answer the following question about BODY ACCEPTANCE: "On the one hand, I totally connect to the whole positive body image thing. No matter my weight, I can accept my body. When I exercise, it's out of love not to change it. But on the other hand, I would like to be a few pounds less. Is that a contradiction? Have I fallen into diet culture? What am I not getting? I feel like it's not black and white. But I can't seem to find the middle ground. So now I'm not doing anything. help me figure this out." In the show, we'll explore: How to find the middle ground between body acceptance and wanting to change? What happens when we try to control outcomes? How is this similar to parenting? Why following a food plan doesn't have to contradict body acceptance? How does exercise look when it's not just to change your body? Why is flexibility so central? Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 coaching and group programs, check out renareiser.com. Join EMERGE, my upcoming body image program here.

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77 - Stop convincing yourself you look great. Do this instead.

Nov 23, 2020

13:36

Who hasn't thought this: "Uhhhhh I've got nothing to wear" "I hate my nose" "My legs are so fat" "My belly is gross" "I don't want anyone to see me like this" For years we've suffered from so much self-criticism about our bodies. And the surrounding cultures have reinforced it too! So how can we break free and start feeling attractive? In this podcast we'll explore: Why it's not enough to just convince yourself "I love my fat" How using mindfulness can help dissolve the negative thoughts How changing your behavior can change your feelings towards your body What are opposite actions and how this is effective in the journey towards body acceptance Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 coaching and group programs, check out renareiser.com. Join EMERGE, my body image program, here. We start Dec 1!

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78 - Outside In and Inside Out. 2 ways to deal with body image - PLUS A GUIDED MEDITATION

Nov 25, 2020

15:18

How do we create real lasting change with our relationship with our body? How can we stop obsessively checking our reflection? In this episode we'll explore: Why you need a "doing" not just a "being" approach to heal your body image Why it's not all about guided imagery and meditations. What this has to do with folding linens What all this has to do with east and western cultures AND you'll get a meditation to help you understand the deeper need behind why you are checking your reflection. Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 coaching and group programs, check out renareiser.com. Join EMERGY, my body image program, here. We start Dec 1!

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79 - Overcoming perfectionism. How my podcast has helped me do that.

Dec 3, 2020

15:09

"My perfectionism is getting in the way of living my life. How did you break out of it?" So many of us struggle with perfectionism. And I'm no different. It has been, and still is, an interesting journey. And I want to share that with you. In today's episode we'll explore: Why was my podcast my "Break free from perfectionism project" What did the lady tell me about upside down stamps How to practically start working on your perfectionism today What realization helped me embrace my imperfection How to show up in the world as you. Unapologetically you. Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 coaching and group programs, check out renareiser.com.

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80 - Everyone Can Heal - Not Everyone Will - with Leah Subar

Dec 9, 2020

48:22

In this episode I'm joined by Leah Subar. Leah is a psychotherapist in private practice who helps individuals live a life that is vibrant, creative, and full of ZEST. Her monthly newsletter reaches people in over 10 countries – and her popular posts and articles on Linkedin are enjoyed by thousands each month. When not working with her clients or recording audios in the studio, you can find her spending time with her husband and children or baking homemade Challah-bread in her kitchen in Israel. Find out more at www.brainshapeaudio.com. We discuss: - What role your nervous system plays in your day-to-day life - Why "going out of your comfort zone" may not be ideal - What happens when we "bite off more than we can chew" - How to really affect change in our nervous system - If a person can heal on their own Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 coaching and group programs, check out renareiser.com.

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81 - Has mothering with a newborn got you down? with Chaya Shifra Sadoff

Dec 30, 2020

35:22

Many of my clients are grappling with the newborn phase + other kids, and feel challenged by all the juggling, not to mention how to take care of themselves through it all! When I came across Chaya Shifra's work, I knew I had to bring her wisdom to my community. Little known fact about me that I don't mention much online: I trained as a lactation counselor + postpartum doula several years before I started doing this work, so my standards for others who work in that department are high. Chaya Shifra fits the bill! Listen in to this week's episode where I interview Chaya Shifra about her work and how she can help you. Download Chaya Shifra's free guide, You Can LOVE the Newborn Stage, at www.chayashifra.com/renareiser. Goodbye frustration and endless crying (from baby and you!). Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 coaching and group programs, check out renareiser.com.

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82 - It's normal to have BIG reactions to "small" things. Here's why.

Jan 7, 2021

11:22

We blame ourselves for "overreacting": "I just lost it at the car rental lady and I don't know why!" "I yelled at the kids, and they really weren't doing anything wrong!" "Why did I get so frustrated with this computer issue?" We don't want to lose it, but sometimes we feel like we don't have a choice. Understanding why you have such a BIG reaction to "small" things will impact how you respond in the future. In this episode we'll explore: What is going on in our psyche when we overreact? What does our nervous system have to do with all this? Why do we react in ways that we'll regret? How to gently and incrementally change our reactions? Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 coaching and group programs, check out renareiser.com.

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83 - Should I dream BIG? How to set goals that feel right. (Guided exercise included)

Jan 14, 2021

9:16

Goals. Goals. Goals. It's all the hype. But it leaves us with a bunch of questions. Join me for this week's episode where we'll explore: How should we set goals? Should we dream big or be "realistic"? How do you know if your goal is too big and just a fantasy? What's the first step towards goal setting? What's the difference between people who reach their goals and people who don't? What is the big hype in goal setting? How should I set goals in a way that "works"? Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 coaching and group programs, check out renareiser.com.

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84 - "My house is a mess" - A mind-body approach

Jan 19, 2021

10:57

"My house is such a mess. I literally can't stay on top of it…I just can't bring myself to be cleaning up all day; I don't value it.... I do want my house to be cleaner. I could get a home organizer and a cleaner, but then it would just be a mess again! I think I need a more inside out approach to it. Is there a mind body answer to becoming more tidy?" A listener is struggling with keeping her house clean. But this episode is really relevant to any change you want to make in your life. She wants to know if there is a mind-body approach to help her break through this issue. Tune into the episode as we explore: How is black and white thinking stopping you from moving forward. How to create a loose-structure for change, and why it's so important not to be rigid How to tune into your body to check if the desire for change is authentic. How to use the mind-body connection to create change in your life Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 coaching and group programs, check out renareiser.com.

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85 - Do you ever feel like a pressure cooker and end up lashing out at your loved ones?

Jan 26, 2021

10:31

Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 coaching and group programs, check out renareiser.com.

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86 - An important tool to help calm a little girl down about the sister that she's longing for

Feb 9, 2021

14:48

Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 coaching and group programs, check out renareiser.com.

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87 - Get what YOU need out of Purim, with these 3 things

Feb 24, 2021

16:44

Purim. It often becomes a frantic blur. We get shlepped along in the chaos of Mishloach Manos, food, costumes… Stretched to our limits, by internal pressure and external pressure. Often we don't tune into what WE really want to get out of this special day. But this year Purim can be different. This week's episode is a mini-workshop to help you explore how YOU can get the most out of YOUR Purim this year. In this episode, we'll explore: Why we go beyond the basic Mitzvos of the day when we don't really want to What are your core values and how does exploring them make your Purim different How to notice when you're in people-pleasing mode and how it's affecting your Purim What is the 80/20 rule and how can it help you get the most out of Purim Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 coaching and group programs, check out renareiser.com.

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88 - "So many uncomfortable feelings." 3 ways to deal with them.

Mar 4, 2021

12:06

Uncomfortable feelings and emotions? Sometimes we want to run away. We repress, numb, ignore them... Sometimes they come out in tears, anger, overwhelm. Often we just don't know what to do with them. Many of my clients have asked me recently... "What can I do with all my feelings and emotions? What is the healthy response to emotions and feelings?" In this week's show I'll share with you: 3 different ways to deal with emotions that work best for me and my clients. Why we thinking emotions will hurt us, but what they're really here to do What does it mean to "greet an emotion like it's the first time" and why is this such a fundamental step How to uncover the need beneath the emotions What it means to be "in a relationship" with our emotions Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 coaching and group programs, check out renareiser.com.

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89 - Intuitive Pesach Cleaning

Mar 9, 2021

20:59

It's coming. Pesach is on the horizon and with it comes a growing to-do list, and often a lot of stress. You want to get to the Seder like a mentch. But how? Before you get super overwhelmed, join me in this episode and we'll explore: How to prioritize your to-do list so it feels more doable How to manage your tasks according to "The 4 Quadrants" What to do when you're confused where to begin How to use your mind-body connection and tap into your intuition to make Pesach prep calmer Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 coaching and group programs, check out renareiser.com.

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90 - "Empty promises" and slipping-up. A compassionate approach.

Apr 14, 2021

10:51

We want to act appropriately towards the people around us. We want to be compassionate. But we're human, and yes, we slip up. So we apologize… and then we slip up. Again. Is this a familiar cycle? In this episode we explore: How do we make sense of this cycle? Is our apology an "empty promise"? What is the role of apologizing? What's the difference between apologizing for feelings and apologizing for behaviors? How recognizing that you slipped up actually promotes connection. What does it mean to be human? What's all this got to do with being underfed and tired? Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 coaching and group programs, check out renareiser.com.

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91 - Tune In: Discover Your Inner Wisdom

Apr 22, 2021

1:17:42

On this past Sunday, I led a sample class for my upcoming program, Tune In: Discover Your Inner Wisdom. You can listen to the recording & register for the program here. Bring your favorite warm drink and an open heart and mind... On the agenda: I started off with a grounding meditation I taught a bit about connecting to our inner wisdom We discussed a bit We practiced what we learned (not recorded) We returned with glowing faces and discuss some more A bit about the upcoming program: This brand new course is open to women who want to learn how to distinguish the voice of their intuition from the voice of their inner critic. It is the 1st part in a series. For many of us, our decision making is hampered because we mistake our inner critic as our voice of reason. We act from fear, confusion, and unfair expectations. By learning to find the voice of your intuition, you'll discover a world of trust and compassion you didn't know existed. You'll finally be in a place to grow and make powerful changes. This course will be the prerequisite for all my other upcoming courses. The group is limited to 8 women. We meet over zoom with our videos on, and practice in pairs during and between sessions. Time: Sundays 9-11am EDT / 4-6pm Israel - 10 meetings April 25 - July 11 (excluding Erev Shavuos and the Fast of 17 Tammuz). Join us here.

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92 - Get More LOVE

Apr 28, 2021

12:02

Let's talk about LOVE.So many of my clients ask me: "Why is it that when my husband shows me his love, I don't really feel it so much...it doesn't feel enough; I always want more!" What's going on here? We want to be able to receive the love from our loved ones. But maybe we're getting in our own way? In this episode we'll explore: - Why can't you be receptive to your husband's love - What does it mean to have an empty love-bucket - What self-love has got to do with this and how to do this practically - How to pay attention to your own core-needs and what happens when you do - How to practically become a recipient of love - What happens to LOVE when we take care of our own needs Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 coaching and group programs, check out renareiser.com.

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93 - 30K Downloads is Exciting - BUT

May 12, 2021

8:42

Getting over 30,000 downloads on my podcast is really exciting. I've put a lot of work into my podcast over the last almost three years…and it is gratifying to see the numbers go up.It's a way to celebrate together with you, my listeners, and say THANK YOU for being here on this journey. Here comes the BUT. Is it really about the numbers?In this episode we'll explore: The real reason and motivation behind my podcast How outside feedback can be gratifying in some circumstances Where encouragement should really come from How to fill ourselves up from the inside Areas in your life where you're holding on to an external measure of success Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 coaching and group programs, check out renareiser.com.

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94 - Mindfulness. What's it REALLY about?

May 26, 2021

36:59

Mindfulness has become a buzzword, but really it's a profound practice that can help so many women in all different periods in their life. Especially in trying times for Klal Yisrael, like the past few weeks have been. But what does it really mean? In this interview, I talk to Dr. Aliza Ancier who specializes in helping women navigate their motherhood journey. She has a doctorate in physical therapy specializing in postpartum recovery and women's health. She started practicing mindfulness after struggling to connect back to herself while also caring for her family. After recognizing a similar need in the greater population, she trained in teaching mindfulness to help mothers feel more connected and peaceful in motherhood. She approaches her mindfulness teaching from an evidence-based and practical approach and is currently completing advanced training in trauma-sensitive mindfulness. We'll discuss: How her postpartum struggle led her to the work she does today What is positive psychology What is the definition of mindfulness how it can help moms What is the difference between mindfulness and meditation What's a body scan and how to use this to be more present and grounded How to balance having goals and expectations with being present How do we remove our expectations so we can actually be mindful How to turn anything into a mindfulness practice Why you can practice mindfulness even if you have no time What should someone do if mindfulness actually is overwhelming and floods her with feelings How to modify mindfulness to prevent triggering the nervous system What might our world look like if people were mindful and compassionate Aliza offers 1:1 coaching and group programs. She can be reached through her FB group, Meaningful Motherhood Community, IG @yourmeaningfulmotherhood, and email [email protected]. Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 coaching and group programs, check out renareiser.com.

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95 - Healing What is Broken

Jun 27, 2021

4:10

I wrote this piece about healing what is broken. I hope it inspires you during these trying times, and especially the three weeks.

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96 - "Comparisonitis" is a symptom. Let's explore the root cause.

Jul 8, 2021

10:26

How often do we compare ourselves to people around us? Is it just a bad case of comparisonitis? Or is there something deeper going on? Anyone who knows me well will have guessed the answer. Of course, there's a deeper cause of comparisonitis. But what is it? In this episode, we dig a little deeper and explore: Why do we compare ourselves to others? What is the root of comparing ourselves? How does this differ from person to person? What has this got to do with unmet needs? What is our misconception about needs? What is the definition of "needs"? What happens when we tap into our needs? When do needs become problematic? What happens when we go into our hearts and bodies? What happens when you listen to your own needs? How does this affect how we relate to other people? How does this impact other behaviors? How does this connect to the time period we're in? Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 coaching and group programs, check out renareiser.com.

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97 - The Beis Hamikdash Within Me

Jul 14, 2021

6:26

It's this time of year again. We're supposed to be mourning the Beis Hamikdash. We want to feel the lack. To really understand what we're missing. But how? In this episode we'll explore: How the Beis Hamikdash is a parable for our own internal world How to reconnect to our essential selves, to our souls How our souls speak to us How to exercise and develop the connection to our neshama Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 coaching and group programs, check out renareiser.com.

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98 - Be a "positive person"? With negative emotions? Here's how.

Aug 11, 2021

11:43

We all "want" to be positive people. But negative emotions happen. We get hurt. We feel triggered. We experience negative interactions with the people around us. So what are we supposed to do when this happens? If we focus on the negative emotion won't we become negative? In this episode I answer a great question from a listener. In doing so we'll explore: How do we typically deal with negative feelings? What's the ideal way to deal with them? How Parts Theory changes the way we experience negative triggers What is "The Greater Me" or "The Container Me" and how does it affect your response? How to experience all feelings (even positive ones) from a place of presence What happens when I become an observer of my e-motions. The energy in motion. How to develop a super strong core self and be more resilient Why this is so central to the work I do today Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 coaching and group programs, check out renareiser.com.

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99 - Creating change from the inside out

Aug 18, 2021

10:47

Is change on your mind? It's that time of year. Elul is here and change is in the air. There are all sorts of ways to create changes in your life. But I want to introduce you to a way you may not have tried before. In this episode we'll explore: What is the first step towards creating change in your life? How can you use your body to help integrate change? What is the brain science of change? Does change have to be hard? How can you make real foundational change? How can you use movement to create change in your life? Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 coaching and group programs, check out renareiser.com.

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100 - Love, Shefa, and Elul

Aug 25, 2021

13:21

Elul. It's a time for teshuva, right? So that means...it's a time for fear? Nope. Actually, it's a time for LOVE. As we learn from the words: Ani Ledodi Vedodi Li. But how can we access that deep love and closeness? In this episode we'll discuss and use a guided exercise to explore: Why is this a time for love, not fear? What happens when we actually connect to Hashem and feel His closeness? How do we create space inside for the Shefa to come? What is blocking us from experiencing closeness and love? How do we embrace our emotions in a healthy way? Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 coaching and group programs, check out renareiser.com.

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101 - Let go of excuses. Let in the change.

Sep 1, 2021

10:20

What's getting in our way of making a change? We know in our minds where we want to be. But something is blocking us from creating the life that we want. There are so many excuses getting in our way We may feel motivated initially, but when it fades away, we get stuck waiting for something external to get us moving. In this episode we'll explore: What is the role of inspiration to catapult change? How do we retain that inspiration? How do we bridge our heads and our hearts? How do we take what we know intellectually and start to live it? What do we do with all our excuses? What happens when we do? How do we generate our own internal inspiration? What are the practical steps to creating change? Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 coaching and group programs, check out renareiser.com.

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102 - Finding newness in the daily repetition

Oct 13, 2021

11:30

As a growth minded person you know how important it is to repeat, review and practice. But let's be honest. It gets BORING. We crave newness, freshness, and excitement. Right? In this episode we'll explore: ⁃ How to bring newness and freshness even when you're faced with many repetitive, boring daily processes ⁃ How to find balance between repetition and freshness ⁃ What "within our problem lies the solution" means ⁃ How to find newness from within Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 coaching and group programs, check out renareiser.com.

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103 - Tea and Tehillim with Yael Bertram

Oct 20, 2021

29:20

Today on the podcast I interviewed Yael Bertram, who is a dynamic speaker and popular life coach. Her positive, personable, and practical style endear her to all. For more info about her speaking, private coaching sessions, and self esteem zoom groups- contact her through her website - yaelbertram.com. Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 coaching and group programs, check out renareiser.com.

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104 - Ask.

Oct 26, 2021

10:36

Let's talk about ASKING. Asking for the things that we need in life. Usually, when we want something, we think about how we're going to ask for it, and then... We use all kinds of excuses and reasons as to why we can't ask for what we need right now! In this week's episode I explore: - What feelings are behind us not asking for what we need - What happens when we reach our breaking point - How this relates to all our relationships in life, including with our husbands, kids, bosses...and Hashem - What it creates in our relationships when we don't ask for what we need - How people pleasing is actually us not giving our full selves in relationship - How not asking for what we need creates a lack of self-trust - What happens inside when we end up asking for things from a place of aggression - How it enhances our relationships when we ask from a more feminine place -- Join an Embodied Dance session at renareiser.com/dance. Your first class is free.

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105 - Identifying with our Neshama

Nov 2, 2021

11:26

One of our listeners sent in this question: "When you allow yourself to encounter these often repressed emotions stuck in your body...certain topics/memories can really get you down. Almost feeling depressed or out of sorts for a period of time. How do you deal with that? I know it is important to let the emotions work their way through the system in order to get to the other side, but sometimes it is hard to put our positive, cheerful disposition on hold, if even for a limited amount of time, and even if it is in order to make space for more health and joy. Do you know what I'm saying?" In this episode I answer her question with these points: - What happens when we go inside and really listen to an emotion, topic, or memory - Why and how to greet an emotion with an energy of acceptance - How an emotion is similar to a child's temper tantrum - The underlying challenge many of us have when we have a difficult emotion, topic, or memory come up - Who we truly are at our core - How we go about recognizing our true essence - What the role of our Neshama is in all of our life's experience Join an Embodied Dance session at renareiser.com/dance. Your first class is free.

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106 - Creating change using your creativity

Nov 9, 2021

9:34

In today's episode I speak about: - What to do when things are feeling rote. Boring. You're needing change. - How what you see when you're out can give you insight into what you really need - How one woman found inner peace even though she wanted a larger home - Two questions I leave you with to explore what it is you really need and how to make it happen, using your creativity. Join an Embodied Dance session at renareiser.com/dance. Your first class is free.

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107 - Shift your instincts by shifting your state

Nov 16, 2021

13:27

Some of us have a tendency that when we feel blah we need something really big that will give us an adrenaline rush to pick us up: things like food, retail therapy, or scrolling through social media. Others of us recognize the need for something that will fill us up with happy hormones: dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, and endorphins. But those can feel gentle and boring, and it can be hard to inspire ourselves to do those things when we're in a state. In this episode I explore: - What it means that our state creates our story - Why we sometimes enjoy certain things in life and other times those same things grate on our nerves - Why shifting our state will make everything around us feel much better - What it means to be "up the ladder" and "down the ladder" - How to sense when we're "down the ladder" - How we can shift our state - What neuroplasticity has to do with this - How shifting our state can help us shift our instincts -- Join an Embodied Dance session at renareiser.com/dance. Your first class is free.

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108 - Interview with Chany Rosengarten

Nov 23, 2021

39:04

In this episode I interview Chany Rosengarten who helps women get to a place in their marriage where they feel safe, connected, and happy. She's also an author, having written hundreds of articles, and most recently wrote the self-help book "The Boundary is You". Chany used the skills she outlines in today's episode to turn her own relationship around. She works with the woman who says, "I'm in pain and I want better. If I'm going to be here in this relationship it has to be different, because this isn't working. And I'm willing to work on myself." Here's what we discuss: - How Chany got into this work - Where she knows her clients will be in 6-10 weeks - What some of the changes are that Chany sees in her clients - The steps of Chany's simple method she uses to help her clients - What happened when Chany put her marriage on the backburner and instead chose to take care of herself - Why this applies to all women whether they are married or not Contact Chany at [email protected]. -- Join an Embodied Dance session at renareiser.com/dance. Your first class is free. This week's theme is Self-love, inspired by this episode.

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109 - Interview with Chana Jenny Weisberg of JewishMom.com

Dec 8, 2021

50:30

In this episode I interview Chana Jenny Weisberg who is the creator of JewishMom.com. Here's what we talk about: - How JewishMom.com was born - How Chana Jenny went from "I can't write" to writing one sentence at a time, and then a paragraph, and then writing entire books - How emunah helped her through her insecurities of putting herself out there - Where her self-esteem of "I can put out things that aren't perfect because I see my self worth" comes from - How she imparts the sense of "we can do hard things" in a positive, healthy way to her kids - How you can move forward when there's something you're passionate about but seems out of reach - What the root is of Chana Jenny's mission of wanting to help moms smile every day - Where she sees her blog going in the next 50 years - What words of encouragement Chana Jenny has for Jewish moms Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 coaching and group programs, check out renareiser.com. Join an Embodied Dance session at renareiser.com/dance. Try your first class for free!

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110 - Never go to sleep angry - True or False?

Dec 13, 2021

16:55

In this episode I discuss: - How I feel about the advice of "never go to sleep angry" - In what way the noise of the washing machine impacted my family - What the noise of my washing machine is a metaphor for when we're in conflict with someone else - How my washing machine is different than us humans - That where there's anger there cannot be peace - What is the first step to do when we're in conflict with another person - What creates the resentment we feel towards the other person - Why pausing for the sake of shalom is better than moving forward in discussion - Which part of the conflict is our responsibility Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 coaching and group programs, check out renareiser.com. Join an Embodied Dance session at renareiser.com/dance. Try your first class for free!

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111 - Write Your Way Home with Yocheved Rottenberg

Dec 20, 2021

34:51

There are many of us who for years believed we couldn't write. And this has held us back from using writing as a healing tool. Enter Yocheved Rottenberg, founder and creator of Write Your Way Home. Yocheved runs therapeutic writing workshops and has written a book on the same topic. I've personally taken her workshops several times, and each time walk away with greater awarenesses and integration of parts of myself. I've been wanting to share her work with you for a while, and so I invited her onto my podcast this week. Here's what we discuss: - How Write Your Way Home was born - What some differences are between therapeutic writing and traditional therapy - Why you don't have to "like to write" or "be a writer" to do therapeutic writing - How therapeutic writing groups allow you to be in your own private experience and journey while in the containment of a group - The differences between WYWH the workshop and WYWH the book - What you can do when you're feeling combobulated - in 5 minutes Find Yocheved at www.writeyourwayhome.com. Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. Join an Embodied Dance session at renareiser.com/dance. Try your first class for free!

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112 - Compassion for Korach?

Dec 27, 2021

11:31

I was having a conversation with someone recently about chinuch. In it we discussed the idea that if we connect to our kids through their misbehavior, they'll learn to continue that misbehavior. I think there's some truth here, but there's an important nuance that is missing and can change the whole picture. That nuance is compassion. We can learn this from the way Moshe Rabbeinu responded to Korach. Listen in to this week's episode where I discuss: - Why connecting to your child even through their "negative" behaviors doesn't mean ignoring them - How every behavior is an expression of an unmet need - Yes, even when your child isn't going to bed on time, there's some sort of unmet need - What compassion is truly about - Why compassion isn't counter productive when someone acts against the rules / inappropriately - The ultimate story of compassion in the Torah: the story of Korach, and Moshe Rabbeinu's compassion - The steps of compassion we can learn from Moshe Rabbeinu's response to Korach -- Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 coaching and group programs, check out renareiser.com. Join an Embodied Dance session at renareiser.com/dance. Try your first class for free!

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113 - The Frum Women's Insight Panel #1 - "How to be more accepting of my husband"

Jan 20, 2022

1:28:41

Yesterday we kicked off the very first live Q&A on The Frum Women's Insight Panel! Our topic was "How to be more accepting of my husband." Our panelists were Chana Eisenstein, Kayla Levin, and Rivka Slatkin. Here are some of the questions that our panelists answered: 1) How can I be accepting of my husband but also want him to change? Can I do both? 2) My husband is an incredible, super-special person. He suffered emotional abuse and neglect as a child and only recently began a journey of diagnosis and treatment for ADHD. He has grown immensely; but the more he grows, the more it becomes clear that certain obstacles - like PTSD and ADHD - will never go away. It is sometimes hard for me to accept that even with therapy (forever?) and medication, he might always be mistrustful, forgetful, a mess, have low self-esteem, hard to find a job, etc. I understand getting through "hard times," but how do I accept a "hard life" without feeling resentful? 3) My husband suffers from low self-esteem and a very poor self-image. How can I show my husband that I accept him if he doesn't accept himself? His inner voice is so much louder than me; on top of that, my "love language" is NOT words of affirmation and I find it difficult to communicate this message to him. 4) I am intuitive and creative, and my husband is black and white, and I'm very sensitive to his energy which often shuts me down. The problem is that he also is home a lot. How can I be more accepting in a way that doesn't affect me? 5) I want to be more accepting of my husband but it's hard because I carry the financial burden and all kid-related responsibilities. He is clueless about these things and in his own world. So I get stressed and anxious and wish it could be different. I don't know how to be more accepting. 6) How can I be accepting of my husband's parenting style when it is so different than mine, specifically in the way we speak to the kids. I deeply believe that children's self-esteems need to be built up and validated so I use a gentle parenting approach (ex giving them time and space to think for themselves and solve conflict - even when quarreling with their sibling, validating their feelings, etc). My husband is more stern and uses harsher language to get the kids to listen and respect him (ex uses threats like taking away their toys for the night). In his more authoritarian approach, it's hard for me to sit back and hear it, because while the short term goal may be reached (ex they do what was told, albeit grumpily), it hurts me to think that it could have been handled much more gently and their self-esteem preserved. My husband is sensitive when I mention our different styles because he believes what he's doing is for their best and I couldn't disagree more so it makes for a lot of tension. 7) My question is, how can I know if I have become accepting, or maybe I am simply numb, to something that really bothered me a lot in the past? I used to try to be somewhat controlling in a certain area, and nowadays I just don't get involved. But I am not sure if that's because I've accepted the situation for what it is, or if I've numbed out because it was so distressing. -- Links to panelists' websites: Chana Eisenstein - http://chanaeisenstein.com/ Kayla Levin - https://kaylalevin.com/ Rivka Slatkin: https://themarriagerestorationproject.com/ Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 coaching and group programs, check out renareiser.com.

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114 - Who's running the show?

Jan 24, 2022

12:10

Why is it so hard to make changes in our lives, whether with food, relationships, technology, or anything else? Listen to this week's episode where I discuss: - What the missing piece is in the work we do in our lives - Which part of us is imperturbable - Why it's so hard to do the work - The importance of doing the work every day - The distinction between compassion and agreeing with someone - What one question can redirect who is running the show -- Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 sessions and group programs, check out renareiser.com.

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115 - Interview with Sara Brejt of Jewish Women of Wisdom!

Feb 7, 2022

27:20

This week on the podcast I interviewed Sara Brejt, one of the co-founders of Jewish Women of Wisdom! We discussed: How JWOW! got started Which group in the frum world they are helping to navigate What experiences in their lives led the leaders to start this organization What unique wants and needs this group has Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 sessions and group programs, check out renareiser.com. Join an Embodied Dance session at renareiser.com/dance.

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116 - Panel "My Child Needs 100%, What About Me?"

Feb 10, 2022

1:27:59

This past Wednesday we joined together for the second live Q&A on The Frum Women's Insight Panel! Our topic was "My Child Needs 100% - What About Me?" Our panelists were Jodi Fried, Sara Shaindel Goldwasser, and Chaya Breindy Kenigsberg. Here are some of the questions that our panelists answered: 1) My child struggles with aggression and dysregulation. Sometimes I literally feel like I'm in a battlefield. And after an hour and a half of dealing with a total explosion, and trying to keep him, me, and my other kids safe, I'm totally wiped. Often I end up in tears from sheer despair and feeling so bashed. What advice do you have to stay calm in those moments, without it wiping your energy? How you replenish your resources afterward. How can you bounce back into real life, after episodes like that?! 2) There are certain of my kids whose demands feel like they are sapping allllllllllll my energy. Like one request feels like I'm being bullied. How can I not translate their requests as FULL BLOWN I NEED THIS NOW demands? 3) Hi! I've been doing a lot of inner work and still have a long way to go. I know that my kids need me a lot more than I am currently giving of myself to them, but I have a hard time putting my "stuff" on hold in order to fully give to them. I have this fantasy wish of being able to fix all my stuff and then come back to my family fully (maybe a time machine so they don't need to wait! :) ) 4) A) I myself have my own feeling of not being heard and supported by my own parents. But I also literally cannot be there all the time for my own kids. What do I do with this guilt/need? Their needs vs my needs. I can't seem to find that guilt-free balance. Should I just be ok that they will also feel like their needs weren't met either, and that's just part of life? B) My Mother had a loving, humble personality, whereas my Dad was a tyrant. Mom never raised her voice nor did she hurt us verbally or physically. To my biggest surprise as a mother of 3, I often follow that father figure. My ongoing attempt to grow as a parent I have been taking parenting courses for decades, yet I still have difficulties parenting after my heart. How do I disconnect myself from that father image, the outbursts, and the negativity? 5) A) How to stay calm, not reactive, in the face of a child who is reactive and triggering your own buttons? B) This might be more of a general question, but do you have any tips for being more laid back and calm? I am in awe of women who are so relaxed and calm even when their house seems to be flying. BH I have worked on myself and my type A personality, trying to fully internalize that only Hashem is in control. I have recently been focusing on Simcha and regularly reviewing Igeres Haramban and definitely feel improvement, BH. I also know that there is so much Bracha and I am definitely not complaining, but would just love to radiate a calm, cool, collected, and happy presence. Any tips and tricks or mantras would be greatly appreciated! :) -- Links to panelists' contact info: Jodi Fried: http://loveadventuremom.com Sara Shaindel Goldwasser: https://awakeninggreatness.co Chaya Breindy Kenigsberg: [email protected] Download Rena's free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation: https://tuneinjournal.com. For more information about Rena's 1:1 sessions and group programs, check out https://renareiser.com. Join an Embodied Dance session at renareiser.com/dance.

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117 - Unlimited Resources

Feb 23, 2022

8:31

Where do we get our inner resources from - from a limited place or an unlimited place? The answer: It depends on how we choose to identify. That's the topic of this week's podcast. Listen in to this episode where I discuss: Which part we often tune in from when we go inside to do the inner work What ends up lacking when we use this part to tune in What happens when we choose to identify differently How to tap into the Source of unlimited resources What can help us connect to our true selves P.S. I've updated my free Tune In Journal with this important Step 0. Download it here. For more information about my 1:1 sessions and group programs, check out renareiser.com. Join an Embodied Dance session at renareiser.com/dance.

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118 - How to Embody My Femininity

Mar 10, 2022

20:04

I recently gave a class called "How to Embody My Femininity", and the recording is now available. In the class I taught: -What the differences are between masculine and feminine energies -Where feminine and masculine natures are found -What wounding in these areas looks like -What gets in the way of us experiencing our feminine nature -Why we need to practice being feminine in order to feel more feminine -How to practice embodying our femininity -Some questions we can ask ourselves to tap into our feminine nature -How my Embodied Dance sessions can help you strengthen your connection to your femininity Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 sessions and group programs, check out renareiser.com. Join an Embodied Dance session at renareiser.com/dance.

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119 - Frum Women's Insight Panel #3: How to Manage NOSH on Purim

Mar 13, 2022

1:22:28

Last Wednesday we joined together for the third live Q&A on The Frum Women's Insight Panel! Our topic was "How to Manage NOSH on Purim" Our panelists were Esti Asher, Gila Glassberg, and Yaffi Lvova. Here are the questions that our panelists answered: 1) There is tons of unhealthy food around on Purim, coupled together with a lack of schedule. How can we make sure to eat healthy food, especially as in Yerushalayim it's on Friday? 2) Trading nosh for money? Is that right? Do you agree? Disagree? What message is that giving? Is it healthy? I'm never totally at peace with it. But I see people doing it all the time. 3) I'm so torn. Should I let my kids eat what they want and they'll naturally learn that eating too much junk makes them feel gross? Or should I put a limit on the amount they eat? It's just one day per year! 4) In the past I've thrown a lot of the extra nosh in the garbage, because neither me or the kids can resist having it in the house. Is that because we have no self control? I feel like some people just aren't wired to have self control and it's not fair to have it there as a temptation. It's human instinct to want to eat when you're hungry. And if you're hungry and there's nosh… It's as if the bechira chofshit goes out the window! What do you think. 5) I still struggle with the onslaught of nosh in my house on Purim. It gets me every year. I'm sure this is a BIG question, but how can I enjoy the nosh without going overboard? 6) How can I limit my kids Nosh intake when I sneak it when no one's looking! I feel like a hypocrite! -------------------------------- Links to panelists' websites: Esti Asher: https://www.estiashernutrition.com/ Gila Glassberg: https://gilaglassberg.com/ Yaffi Lvova: https://babybloomnutrition.com/ ----------------------------- Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 sessions and group programs, check out renareiser.com. Join an Embodied Dance session at renareiser.com/dance.

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Special Pesach Episode #1 - DOSE of Regulation - Parts of Me

Apr 6, 2022

14:06

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Special Pesach Episode #2 - DOSE of Regulation - Safety

Apr 6, 2022

15:31

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Special Pesach Episode #3 - DOSE of Regulation - Choice

Apr 6, 2022

13:59

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Special Pesach Episode #4 - DOSE of Regulation - Spaciousness

Apr 6, 2022

16:36

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Special Pesach Episode #5 - DOSE of Regulation - Boundaries

Apr 6, 2022

15:34

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120 - A Guided Exercise on Befriending Our Bodies

May 4, 2022

13:54

What does the thought of "befriending your body" bring up for you? This guided exercise will help you explore this and come out with more care and love for yourself. This segment is part of a longer series of classes offered through my membership program, The Tune In Circle. Read more about it here: https://renareiser.com/circle

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121 - EFT Tapping on Leaving a Legacy

May 11, 2022

12:39

We're finishing up the week of Sefiras Haomer on Netzach - bringing things out into the world, accomplishing, leaving a legacy. This EFT routine (written out for you below and recorded in this episode) will help you clear the blocks that are preventing you from taking your next step in bringing out your legacy. This segment is part of a longer series of classes offered through my membership program, The Tune In Circle. Read more about it here. The EFT script: Even though... Something in me is unsure of what my legacy is, I accept my parts anyway Something in me feels blocked from knowing my next step, I accept my parts anyway Something in me might not even believe I have a legacy, I accept my parts anyway Legacy Leaving a legacy As I say the words I notice what I sense inside Sometimes I sense a mixture of feelings Sometimes I sense nothing at all All these feelings All this numbness Something in me is scared Something in me feels inadequate Something in me wants to hide Something in me prefers staying small Something in me feels unsafe Something in me wants someone else to do it Something in me would rather do anything else Something in me is scared As I recognize all my parts I give them room to express themselves And when they feel heard When they feel seen When they feel understood When they feel worthwhile Then something shifts Something opens up I start to feel freer I start to feel unblocked I start to feel the Shefa pouring in Hashem helps me with my awareness With my next step With my vision Of the legacy I'm building My legacy -- Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 sessions and group programs, check out renareiser.com. Join Embodied Dance at renareiser.com/dance.

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122 - Hashem is Breathing You - A Guided Meditation

May 18, 2022

10:59

We're finishing up the week of Sefiras Haomer on Hod, which is about surrendering and introspecting. In this guided meditation we sense into how Hashem is breathing us throughout every moment of our lives, and how that allows us to surrender ourselves to Him. This segment is part of a longer series of classes offered through my membership program, the Tune In Circle. Read more about it here. ** Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 sessions and group programs, check out renareiser.com. Join Embodied Dance at renareiser.com/dance.

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123 - A Self-Compassion Meditation: When Something Inside is Feeling Uncomfortable

May 26, 2022

9:02

In this guided self-compassion meditation we sense into a place inside that is feeling discomfort, and offer it love, compassion, gratitude, or all three. This segment is part of a longer series of classes offered through my membership program, the Tune In Circle. Read more about it here. Registration is now open for June! -- Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 sessions and group programs, check out renareiser.com. Join Embodied Dance at renareiser.com/dance.

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124 - A Short Imagery to Help You Prepare for Yom Tov with a Little More Ease

Jun 1, 2022

6:41

In this guided imagery you are led to sense into what you are feeling as you begin your Yom Tov preparations, and how you can turn that around from the inside out...and with tefilla. This segment is part of a longer series of classes offered through my membership program, the Tune In Circle. Read more about it here. -- Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 sessions and group programs, check out renareiser.com. Join Embodied Dance at renareiser.com/dance.

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125 - A Short Guided Exercise on the Transition from Shavuos Back to "Regular" Life

Jun 9, 2022

7:11

In this guided exercise you are led to sense into what you felt after Shavuos and are feeling now in the days following, and how you can turn that around from the inside out. This segment is part of a longer series of classes offered through my membership program, the Tune In Circle. Read more about it here. *** Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 sessions and group programs, check out renareiser.com. Join Embodied Dance at renareiser.com/dance.

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126 - How To Not Dissociate or Get Flooded with Emotions with This Somatic Tracking Exercise

Jun 15, 2022

12:27

We are surrounded by the mentality of "man up", "grow up", "don't show your emotions", "stop being a cry baby", etc. This unfortunately has led many of us to close ourselves off from our emotional world. What happens as a result is that when we do feel an avalanche of emotions coming, most of us go into either dissociation, disconnecting from the emotion, or getting flooded with the emotion, having it take us over, since we haven't learned how to be with our emotions. This leads to all sorts of chronic pain, and distress in our most important relationships, where we should feel safe to be ourselves, and we don't. So today I'm sharing a somatic exercise called Somatic Tracking that helps us learn how to stay with our emotions, bodily sensations, and felt sense, teaching our systems that it's safe to feel, leading to reduced pain and enhancing our relationships as we show up as our true selves. Disclaimer: By listening to this episode and implementing this exercise you are not engaging in coaching with Rena Reiser and agree to take responsibility for your own health and wellbeing. This segment is part of a longer series of classes offered through my membership program, the Tune In Circle. Read more about it here. -- Download my free "Tune In Journal" and accompanying guided meditation here. For more information about my 1:1 sessions and group programs, check out renareiser.com. Join Embodied Dance at renareiser.com/dance.

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127 - Interview with my husband, Yonasan Reiser, and his long-time friend Igor Meystelman, Imago Therapist

Nov 29, 2022

1:12:47

A few weeks ago my husband and I sat down with Igor Mystelman to record a podcast. Igor and my husband are old friends, but he is also a former Divorce Attorney who has become a very popular couples' counselor. We took this opportunity to discuss different perspectives on relationships and our role in creating positive connections. The podcast has a great casual and really fun feel. Between the jokes and the shmoozing we cover a gamut of interesting and diverse topics. Among the things we discussed are: The work of some early pioneers of mind-body work like Dr. Sarno and Dr. Gabor Mate and how they played a role in our journeys to healing. How I discovered Focusing, what it is, and some of the steps of Focusing and how I use them. How Igor uses the Imago technique to work on relationships. Why top down modalities cannot be the only tools we use. Comparing notes about men and women in therapeutic work and what they each need in their healing journey. Safety cues between spouses and whether we are hearing the other person - the power of mirroring and true empathy (and me chirping like a parakeet). The intersection between working on yourself and working on relationships. The importance of fighting. How many clients' dissatisfaction comes from confusing strategies with needs. Enjoy this episode! About Igor: Igor Meystelman is a Family Law Attorney turned Relationship Coach whose goal is to change the world, one relationship at a time. He is also a host of Dating, Marriage, and Divorce Conversations - Podcast. More information is available on his website: www.relationshipreimagined.com. He can be reached at [email protected]. To learn more about Rena's work, download her free Tune In Journal at www.tuneinjournal.com.

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128 - A conversation with Chaya Hinda Allen

Dec 25, 2022

1:16:41

Chaya Hinda Allen empowers others by imbuing them with an optimistic approach to life, born of faith and trust in Hashem's goodness and love. For the past twenty-five years, Chaya Hinda has been guiding, teaching, coaching, and mentoring women of all ages and stages ‎‎(from teenagers to great-grandmothers; professionals, entrepreneurs, stay-at-home ‎moms, Rebbetzins, community leaders and more). She specializes in helping them cut overwhelm and frustration, and ‎gracefully navigate challenging relationships and life situations, sharing tools and insights through classes, guided imageries, one-on-one coaching, group coaching programs, trips, retreats and her newest venture, the Chaya Hinda Coaching academy.. When you join her community, be ready to laugh a lot along your path of growth, and to be surprised by how much goodness you discover within yourself. Find out more, give feedback and be in touch at chayahindacoaching.com.

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129 - Parenting As A Process - A conversation with Miriam Campbell

Jan 22, 2023

48:24

Last month I sat down with Miriam Campbell, a speech therapist and a social worker. I found Miriam to be such a breath of fresh air. She's honest, insightful, and full of positive energy. We spoke a lot about parenting but also personal growth. I hope you enjoy listening to her as much as I did. Among the things we discuss are: The importance of seeing parenting as a process How we need feel safety in order to access to higher mental capacities Using challenges to our benefit. Turning what feels like danger into a learning opportunity. Being able to model for our children / coregulating That it's okay that were not perfect - that we're always growing What relationships reveal and how they can motivate us toward growth Why struggle / discomfort is good Having awareness of what my dysregulation feels like in order to plan "what can I do right now?" Teaching self-awareness Apologizing to children can be good The goal of being an 80% parent Planning your support ahead of time Miriam Campbell is a Speech Therapist and Social worker who trains and coaches parents how to support child social-emotional development. She runs course series on Self Awareness, Relationship Skills, Problem Solving, and Emotional Regulation. Her social skills book, Bubble Double is available on Amazon. She can be reached at [email protected], or find her on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/skills4connection/ or on her website https://www.skillsforconnection.com. Email Miriam to receive the link to join her free WhatsApp group. Download Rena's free Tune In Journal and sign up for her mailing list at https://tuneinjournal.com.

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130 - How to fight fair in marriage

May 31, 2023

32:57

This episode is from a live event I did in my community. The topic of the podcast is How To Fight Fair in Marriage, but the tools I share in this episode can be applied to all aspects of life. As a child of divorce I always feared that a fight meant the end of my marriage. I give my five rules for fighting fair. Here are some of the topics I cover: Remember the 80/20 rule - take the 20% that will make the 80% difference for you. Here are my five essential ingredients to fighting fair: Needs Parts Felt-sensing Nervous system regulation Neuroplasticity / visualization Fights can be an opportunity for growth when fighting is fair, an opportunity for understanding each other's needs more clearly and truly being there for each other. Download my free Tune In Journal to tune into your needs and create lasting change at www.tuneinjournal.com.

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131 - Answering your questions

Jun 8, 2023

55:01

This episode was from a live Q&A that I opened up to my e-mail list. The questions were amazing and covered a spectrum of topics that relate to regulation and creating change in our lives. Here is a brief overview of some of the questions and answers: Q 1) How do we help our children regulate? The importance of regulating the child within us. Being regulating and not doing regulating. The power of mirror neurons. Q 2) Is being triggered another way of saying dysregulation? The process of being triggered and/or dysregulation. Q 3) How does dysregulation relate to concepts of Intuitive Eating? Regulation can replace Intuitive Eating without the cognitive construct. Q 4) Can sharing our state with our children have a negative impact? The importance of not leaving internal struggles internal. Ways we can relay our state to our children. Finding ways to meet our needs in less than ideal situations. Q 5) How does one balance regulating themselves and others? Changing your trauma story. Being honest about your own needs in a dysregulated environment. If you like what you heard on this podcast, explore some of the other ways you can work with me at www.renareiser.com, including lots of free resources, all there to help you live life from a more embodied place.

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132 - Want to be more compassionate to your kids? Start with more compassion for yourself! A conversation with Blimie Heller

Jun 22, 2023

1:03:54

This episode is from an interview with Parenting Coach Blimie Heller. Blimie is one of my all-time favorite interviewees and this is my 3rd episode interviewing her. Blimie and I have changed so much over the course of the last five years from the time that I first interviewed her. In this episode we talk about the ways we've changed in our approach to our work. We also talk about a major tool in creating a compassionate approach to viewing ourselves, our clients, and our children. Below are some points we cover: Being able to spend time with shame. The significance of having a second person witnessing our discomfort and helping emotions shift. The philosophy of Non Violent Communication on seeing the beauty in unpleasant emotions. Does being divine mean we only embrace the positive? The gift of presence and being triggering - realizing that you don't have to do something about it. Needing to fix each other Having needs vs being needy Creating compassion for our children. Seeing the need in resistance from parents and clients. Genuine compassion doesn't feel like work. Blimie wanted to clarify that she exercises caution when sharing her feelings with her children so as not to make them feel responsible for her feelings. Also, sometimes, she doesn't share her feelings at all and simply processes them with someone else. She only shares her feelings with them when she is 100% clear inside that her children are not responsible for her feelings and only if she believes it will in some way be beneficial for them to know. Join Blimie's upcoming Essentials Course which starts on July 3rd! https://www.blimieheller.com/essentials Join Rena's Embodied Jewish Woman Circle for July which is now open for registration! https://renareiser.com/circle

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133 - Interview with Esther Moskovitz - Embracing the good, the bad, and the ugly

Aug 16, 2023

49:26

In this episode I interview Esther Moskovitz about her journey back to dancing, and now leading women in a combined dance and journaling workshop. We also discuss embracing the good, the bad, and the ugly.

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The Ins and Outs of Embodied Shifts

Aug 22, 2023

55:43

This special episode is a recording of a class I gave introducing the ins and outs of embodied shifts. In it you will learn: What makes Focusing different from other somatic approaches. Why Focusing is so effective The importance of the state of our autonomic nervous system in behavior shifts How to predict if your attempt at behavior change will stick or not. I also guide you through a short Polyvagal-Informed Focusing practice. I introduce you to my upcoming training, SHIFT - Learn to facilitate embodied change. Learn more about the program and register at https://renareiser.com/shift.

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135 - Interview with Chaya Bluma Gadenyan

Sep 28, 2023

33:06

In this episode I interview Chaya Bluma Gedenyan, author of children's books, about her journey from hi-tech to doing what she always wanted and living with purpose.

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Somatic Mindfulness Practice 10.23.2023

Oct 25, 2023

16:34

Rena led a somatic mindfulness practice to help the group become more mindful of their bodily sensations and emotions. She encouraged the group to focus on their breathing, notice any physical or emotional tension, and cultivate a sense of compassion for their experience. She then suggested visualizing being held by Hashem for comfort and nourishment. The session ended with Rena inviting the group to check back in with their emotional state and to continue to rest in the supportive and protective space.

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Somatic Mindfulness Practice 10.24.2023

Oct 25, 2023

16:03

Rena guided the group in a somatic mindfulness practice to connect with their bodies and emotions. She invited them to imagine their breath going in and out of their heart space, and to release tension as they breathed out. Then, she invited them to bring the emotion of joy into their bodies, noticing its shape, color, and texture. Rena encouraged the group to become aware of any blocks to joy, and to spend time with these feelings. She also guided them in holding both joy and the other emotion simultaneously, returning to the imagery of Hashem holding them for a sense of safety and security. Finally, she invited the group to ask for anything they needed from Hashem, filling themselves with love and spreading it out to others.

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138 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 10 25 2023

Oct 25, 2023

17:35

Rena guided the participants through a somatic mindfulness practice aimed at practicing mindfulness and focusing the attention. The exercise involved alternating between intently focusing on a physical object in the room and an internal sensation, emotion, or thought, and then defocusing the attention to take in the surrounding space. Rena emphasized the importance of not forcing the breath or the focus, allowing it to go where it naturally wanted to. Rena then guided the participants through a deep breathing exercise and a body scan, encouraging them to relax and notice any resistance or discomfort they were feeling. She emphasized the importance of trusting and relying on Hashem's love and support. She also reminded the participants that they can always fall back on this inner resource of Hashem's loving presence whenever they need to. Towards the end, she encouraged them to continue focusing on their breath and notice any changes.

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139 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 11 05 2023

Nov 5, 2023

9:40

Rena guided a meditation and mindfulness practice. She encouraged the participants to connect with their bodies, focus on their breathing, and become aware of any tension spots in their body. She then invited them to notice the overall mood of their body and to form a felt sense from this mood. The participants were asked to compassionately listen to this felt sense and to ask it what it needs. Finally, they were encouraged to offer this felt sense what it needs, knowing that they can return to this practice at any time throughout their day.

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140 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 11 06 2023

Nov 6, 2023

9:45

Rena led a meditation exercise aimed at connecting with the inner world, focusing on the breath and finding relaxation in the body. She guided the participants to bring awareness to their thoughts and emotions, and to observe where and how they experienced these in the body. She then encouraged the participants to imagine the opposite of their recurring thought or emotion, and to experience this as if it was their only reality. Finally, she suggested the participants practice holding both the original and its opposite thought or emotion simultaneously, noticing the effect this had on their body and mind.

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371 - The Edge in Focusing And What Therapy Is Actually for

Jul 27, 2026

22:36

What is therapy actually for? This week, we got into one of the questions I think about most, and it led us somewhere really unexpected. We started with the idea of "the edge," that place in Focusing between what we already know about ourselves and what we don't yet know. That's where real change happens. Not in the rehashing, not in the advice-giving, not in mapping everything we've already mapped, but in the unknown territory that only opens up when we slow down enough to get there. From there we talked about why self-help books, while genuinely valuable, can only take us so far, and why knowing something and actually integrating it are two completely different things. The Sifsei Chaim has something beautiful to say about this: the avodah isn't the knowing, it's the bringing-to-the-heart. Because the longest distance is to our hearts, and our hearts need constant reminder. We also got into what focusing sessions actually look like from the inside, from the "edge extravaganza" days to the days you just don't want to go there at all, and why a person cannot take themselves out of jail, and why that's not something to be ashamed of. Plus the Super Mario metaphor that I'm pretty sure will stick with you. Join us. If this episode resonated with you, I recommend Focusing by Eugene Gendlin. This is the foundational text: the book that introduced the concept of the edge, the felt sense, and what it means to bring something from information into the body. Everything we talked about today lives in this book. If you're a practitioner who wants to understand what you're actually helping your clients do when you slow things down, or if you're someone who's been in therapy for years and wondering why knowing things isn't moving you forward, this is where to go next. Order a copy here. This is an affiliate link which doesn't cost you anything extra and helps support my work. Focusing: Gendlin, Eugene T.: 9780553278330: Amazon.com: Books

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372 - Are You Serving Your Clients or Losing Yourself?

Aug 3, 2026

27:41

When someone comes to you with a request or a demand, there are two things you can do: support or acquiesce. Supporting means both people exist. You're here, they're here, and it's a real relationship. Acquiescing means you stop existing, like a balloon where all the air goes out of one side to inflate the other. In this episode, we talk about what it actually looks like in a business context to stay present while serving your clients. We get into the nervous system piece: why fawning is a behavior and not a state, and why it doesn't actually regulate you. We talk about hishtadlus inside Menuchas HaNefesh. And we get practical: filters, recordings, scheduling, and how to use your needs and your clients' needs as the compass for every business decision. If you've ever bent yourself into a pretzel trying to accommodate a client, and then felt resentful or burned out, like you're serving everyone but yourself, then this one's for you. If this episode resonated with you, I recommend Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker. This is the book where fawning as a concept was developed, originating in Pete Walker's work with complex trauma. The way he describes it maps directly onto everything we talked about today: giving yourself up in order to feel safe, stopping existing for the sake of the other person, and the nervous system cost of living that way over time. It's not a light read, but it's not overly clinical, either. Walker writes from both a professional and a personal place, and that comes through. Order a copy here . This is an affiliate link which doesn't cost you anything extra and helps support my work.

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373 - The 70% Rule and What Good Somatic Training Looks Like

Aug 18, 2026

17:51

This week, my husband Rabbi Yonasan Reiser and I talked about something I get asked about fairly often: how to choose a somatic training program. My answer might surprise you. We're taking a model of learning that's designed for cognitive content and applying it to body-based work. The model is information-heavy and lecture-based, and I think that's a problem for what we have here. If you're learning a somatic modality, at least 70% of your time in training should be experiential. Learning this modality doesn't work by watching or listening to lectures. To be effective, we need to actually practice it in all three roles: as a practitioner, as a client, and as an observer. The reason is simple: if you don't have the lived experience of what you're guiding your client through, you can't guide them. In this week's episode, I also talk about why the nervous system needs a little context before jumping into practice, and why ongoing practice after training is what separates the practitioners who can actually use this work effectively from those who can't. And then I tell a story I don't share often. When I was looking for a focusing practitioner for myself, I worked with several people who claimed to do focusing, and I was appalled. What they were doing caused re-traumatization. They were good people trying their best, but they didn't have the depth of lived experience that this work requires. This kind of training needs to be lived. Join the conversation and let me know what you think. If this episode resonated with you, I recommend The Power of Focusing by Ann Weiser Cornell. Cornell studied directly with Eugene Gendlin, the originator of Focusing, and this is probably the most practical guide to Focusing that exists. It's not theoretical; instead, it walks you through how to actually do it. This maps directly onto everything we talked about today: the difference between understanding something conceptually and having the lived experience of it. This book won't give you the lived experience that only comes from doing the work with another person, of course, but it's the closest thing to a hands-on guide you'll find in print. Order a copy here. This is an affiliate link which doesn't cost you anything extra and helps support my work. https://www.amazon.com/Power-Focusing-Practical-Emotional-Self-Healing/dp/157224044X?tag=towardsahealt-20

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374 - Selling without Urgency

Aug 23, 2026

18:39

What does it mean to create safety in your business, and what happens when we get it wrong? In this episode of the Embodied Business series, Rabbi Reiser and I sit down to unpack one of the most misunderstood dynamics in service-based business: the tension between needing to close sales while striving to provide safety for potential clients. We break down what "safety" means from a nervous system perspective, and the difference between urgency that's honest and urgency that's manufactured. We also get into something that doesn't get talked about enough: how much of the coercive energy in online marketing is actually the business owner's own unprocessed anxiety being pushed onto the potential client. Toward the end of the episode, we'll bring in the piece that holds it all together: bitachon as a lived, embodied experience essential in our businesses. To explore what it looks like to step out of the this marketing cycle and run our businesses from a place of genuine safety, listen to the full episode. A Companion Read Seth Godin has been saying for years what this episode is about: stop trying to coerce people, find the smallest viable audience, serve them, and trust that the work is enough. His book, This Is Marketing, is the clearest version of this argument I've seen, and demonstrates what it means to show the right people what's possible for them, and letting them decide. Highly recommended. Amazon link

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141 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 11 07 2023

Nov 7, 2023

9:57

Rena led a guided meditation to help the participants settle and relax. She first guided them through a deep breathing exercise, encouraging them to focus on their breath and body sensations. Then, she invited them to look intently at a specific object in the room, before shifting their attention to a broader awareness of the space. The exercise was repeated with an internal focus, asking the participants to direct their gaze inward to notice sensations in their body. After the final repetition of the exercise, Rena encouraged the participants to continue in a more relaxed state, noticing any changes in their breathing patterns.

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142 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 11 08 2023

Nov 8, 2023

9:30

Rena led a guided meditation to help participants relax and connect with a sense of security. She invited them to focus on their breath and release tension in different parts of their bodies. She then invited them to imagine themselves being held in Hashem's loving arms, a place of security and safety. Rena encouraged participants to bring their attention to any feelings of resistance or lack of security and to wrap those feelings with the sense of security they were imagining. She also asked them to find a word that captured the sense of security they were feeling, to help them revisit that experience later.

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143 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 11 09 2023

Nov 9, 2023

9:56

Rena guided a relaxation exercise, encouraging participants to become more aware of their body's state and to focus on the sensation of joy, feeling the sense of serving Hashem with joy. She then invited participants to connect with any other emotions present, and to hold both the joy and the other emotions simultaneously, before letting go of the latter. The goal was to create space for both joy and whatever other feelings were present, and notice how by doing so the nervous system shifts into a more regulated state.

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144 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 11 12 2023

Nov 12, 2023

9:47

Rena guided the group in a meditation focused on grounding and connecting with the body. She emphasized the importance of finding a comfortable position and adjusting it as necessary. She also led the group in an exercise where they focused on their breath and became aware of the overall mood and emotion in their body at that moment. She encouraged the group to stay with the felt sense and to listen with compassion to what it had to say. The goal was for the group to offer compassion and understanding to their body's current state.

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145 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 11 13 2023

Nov 13, 2023

9:44

Rena guided the participants through a meditation exercise to help them become more aware of their thoughts and emotions. She encouraged them to focus on a primary thought that had been preoccupying them, to question how it aligned with their values, and its corresponding emotional sensation. She then led them through an exercise to explore the opposite of this thought, to question how it aligned with their values, and its corresponding emotional sensation. Then moving back and forth between the two thoughts, the participants deepened their felt experience of each thought, leading them to further integration of their values.

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146 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 11 14 2023

Nov 14, 2023

9:35

Rena guided a meditation starting with focusing on breathing and then shifting one's attention between something directly in front and then to the surrounding space, expanding it to the whole world. She then guided the attention inward, focusing on an object or emotion inside the body, and then to the space all throughout the body. Finally, she suggested that they find a word to describe their experience to integrate it into their whole body and take it into their day.

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147 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 11 15 2023

Nov 15, 2023

9:45

Rena guided the participants through a meditation exercise to connect with their bodies and minds. She encouraged deep breathing and awareness of the surrounding environment. The aim was to recreate the felt sense of a memory of feeling Hashem's support in the present, focusing on the physical sensations and emotions it invoked. Rena reminded the participants that they could return to this place of peace and comfort at any time they needed additional support.

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148 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 11 16 2023

Nov 16, 2023

9:23

Meditation Exercise for Joy and Nervous System Regulation Rena guided a meditation exercise designed to help the participants shift their nervous system state and find a sense of joy. She first asked the participants to focus on their breath and bodily sensations. Then, she instructed them to bring to mind a memory, image, person, place, or thing that brings them a sense of joy. They were asked to imagine this and notice how it felt inside their body, shifting their focus back and forth from the initial sensation to the feeling of joy. Finally, they were guided to stay with the sense of joy, inviting it to spread throughout their bodies, and observe how their state had shifted after spending time with the feeling of joy.

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149 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 11 19 2023

Nov 19, 2023

9:36

Meditation and Emotion Dialogue Rena led a meditation session where she guided participants to focus on their physical and emotional states, identify their dominant emotion, and converse with it with compassion. She suggested asking the emotion what it likes or dislikes, what it needs, and how to help.

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150 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 11 20 2023

Nov 20, 2023

9:49

Meditation Exercise on Thoughts and Breathing Rena guided the group through a meditation exercise focused on thoughts. She started by instructing the participants to use the physiological sigh. Rena then invited the participants to shift to noticing the thoughts that were prominent in their minds, with emphasizing that these thoughts are from Hashem. She then asked the participants to bring these thoughts into their bodies, observe their physical response, and compare it to the response when thinking an opposite thought. The exercise ended with a deep breath and a reflection on the effect this had on their bodies and minds.

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151 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 11 21 2023

Nov 21, 2023

9:59

Mindfulness Exercise: Breathing and Orienting Rena guided the group through a mindfulness exercise focused on breathing, nervous system awareness, and orienting. The exercise began with mindful breathing and noticing the nervous system state. Participants were then asked to observe their hands as if for the first time, noticing details such as color and size, and the sensations of air touching their hand. The exercise progressed to looking around the room, then back to the hand, and finally to observing the whole space around the body. The practice ended with a return to mindful breathing and noticing any changes in the nervous system state.

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152 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 11 22 2023

Nov 22, 2023

9:44

Neshama Support Exercise Rena guided the participants through a breathing exercise, and then introduced the concept of how the Neshama is the mother of the Nefesh and can provide emotional support. She invited the participants to connect with their bodies, paying attention to their feelings and needs. She then suggested imagining the Neshama as a loving mother, and invited the participants to let their felt sense express its feelings without judgment, trusting that their needs could be met in this way. The exercise was open-ended, allowing participants to stay in this supported state for as long as they needed.

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153 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 11 23 2023

Nov 23, 2023

10:03

Guided Meditation: Joyful Body Scan Rena led a guided meditation focusing on breathing techniques and body awareness. She instructed participants to focus on their breath moving through their heart space, and then guided them through a full body scan to notice and relax each part of their body. She then invited participants to notice the overall emotion that was present in their body, and noticing where and how they feel it. She then invited them to recall a joyful memory, noting how it felt in their body. She suggested going back and forth between the original emotion and the joyful one, and then staying with the feeling of joy for as long as it was comfortable.

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154 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 11 26 2023

Nov 26, 2023

9:32

New Breathing Technique + Body Awareness Meditation Rena led a demonstration of a new breathing technique. She instructed participants to inhale through their noses, close their mouths as if their lips were wrapped around a straw, and exhale through their mouths for a count of eight. They were then told to close their mouths and exhale through their noses for a count of two, followed by three regular breaths. This process was repeated for three rounds. Participants were encouraged to stop if they felt the first round was sufficient, or to repeat if they wanted to continue. Rena then guided a body awareness meditation. She encouraged attentiveness to the physical sensations, emotions, and overall state of the body. She then asked participants to visualize these sensations as if they were a person and to greet them with compassion. She suggested asking this 'person' about their heart's desire and feelings, and to offer help achieving their desires. Rena emphasized the importance of providing internal support and returning to this practice as needed.

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155 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 11 27 2023

Nov 27, 2023

9:48

Meditation Session: If Anything Was Possible Rena guided a meditation session, focusing on breathing exercises and body awareness. She encouraged participants to notice their current state of being, including thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations. She then asked them to consider the opposite of their current feelings - if anything was possible - and observe how it felt in their body. Participants were instructed to switch between their current feelings and the opposite, holding both simultaneously. The session concluded with Rena asking participants to identify a new thought or feeling that emerged during the meditation, and to stay with it throughout the day for added support.

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156 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 11 28 2023

Nov 28, 2023

9:24

Sensing Space Rena led a guided meditation focused on sensing space. She invited participants to focus on their breath, soften their eyes, and become aware of the space around them. She then guided them to shift their attention to a physical sensation in their body, encouraging them to observe the space around this sensation before focusing back on it. Finally, she invited participants to check in with their bodies and choose a word or phrase to remember the experience.

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157 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 11 29 2023

Nov 29, 2023

9:48

Being Held by Hashem Rena led a guided meditation focused on mindfulness and relaxation. She started by asking everyone to take deep breaths and observe their bodies, from head to feet. She then guided the participants to imagine their parts being held by Hashem, with a sense of security and trust, and to notice how this felt in their bodies. She suggested that the participants could expand this sense of support to other parts as needed. The meditation concluded with the participants staying with the sense of being supported for as long as it was beneficial for their bodies.

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158 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 11 30 2023

Nov 30, 2023

9:41

Feeling Joy When Life Feels Heavy Rena led a guided meditation focused on breathing and body awareness. She encouraged participants to notice their current emotions, where they feel them in their bodies, and how they can help their bodies feel safe enough to stay with these emotions. She then invited participants to shift their attention to the emotion of joy, allowing their bodies to experience both emotions simultaneously. The practice ended with an invitation to expand the sense of joy within themselves.

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159 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 12 03 2023

Dec 3, 2023

10:00

Self-Awareness and Vulnerability Meditation Rena led a guided meditation focused on self-awareness and vulnerability. She began by instructing participants to take deep breaths, noting the depth and sensation of each breath. Rena then invited participants to reflect on a vulnerable situation, asking them to consider its intensity and location in the body. Following this, she guided participants through a series of questions aimed at understanding the vulnerability from different perspectives. Finally, Rena suggested offering what the vulnerability might need to feel safer, emphasizing the importance of empathy and compassion.

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160 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 12 04 2023

Dec 4, 2023

9:15

Emotional Awareness Mindfulness Exercise Rena guided the participants through a meditation exercise focused on mindfulness and emotional awareness. She instructed participants to focus on their breath, body, and surrounding environment, then turn their attention to their thoughts and emotions. Rena suggested identifying the most prominent thought or emotion, naming it, and noticing where in the body it was felt. She then encouraged the exploration of the opposite of that thought or emotion. The exercise concluded with a deep breath, noticing the capacity of the breath, and the invitation to stay with the newly introduced emotion or thought as long as it felt comfortable.

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161 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 12 05 2023

Dec 5, 2023

9:36

Focusing on Space, Air, and Sound Rena led a guided practice focused on grounding and mindfulness. She encouraged participants to focus on their physical sensations, such as the support of their body against the surface it was on, the sensation of the air on their skin, and the sounds around them. Rena then guided them to expand their awareness to include the room around them, the building they were in, and finally throughout the world - all created just for them, by Hashem. The aim was to help participants feel more relaxed and centered.

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162 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 12 06 2023

Dec 6, 2023

9:22

Inner Resource Practice Rena led a mindfulness and relaxation practice, starting with a technique of inhaling and exhaling in reverse order as a way to signal the brain to integrate a new idea. She then invited participants to check in with their bodies, notice any tension, and release it. Rena encouraged them to find an inner resource, focus on it, and notice their body's response to it. She stressed the importance of allowing this inner resource to integrate into their whole self and to revisit it whenever they need extra support.

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163 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 12 07 2023

Dec 7, 2023

10:00

Meditation for Joyous Chanukah Memories Rena guided the participants through a meditation to connect with their bodies and emotions. She invited them to focus on their breath, bring attention to their current mood, and then recall a joyous Chanukah memory. The participants were then instructed to alternate between their current feelings and the joyous memory, before envisioning how they would like to feel during Chanukah and noticing how their bodies responded to these visualizations.

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164 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 12 10 2023

Dec 10, 2023

9:36

Square Breathing and Felt Sense Practice Rena led a practice of square breathing, emphasizing the importance of observing the body's position and mood and how it can provide insight into the state of the nervous system. She guided the attendees to bring awareness to their feelings, allowing the body to respond and provide feedback. She then introduced the concept of a 'felt sense', an internal experience that could be approached with curiosity and compassion. Rena suggested asking the 'felt sense' what it needs and how one can assist, committing to providing help, no matter how small. She concluded by encouraging the attendees to stay with this practice for as long as it feels beneficial.

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165 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 12 11 2023

Dec 11, 2023

9:58

Exercise for Nervous System Regulation Rena guided a deep breathing exercise to help people tune into their nervous system and thoughts. She asked participants to notice their current state, the signs in their body, and any accompanying thoughts and emotions. She then instructed them to switch their focus to a more regulated nervous system state and its accompanying thoughts and feelings. The exercise involved alternating between the two states and noticing the differences in sensations in the body. Rena concluded by encouraging participants to stay with the regulated state for as long as it felt right.

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