Have you ever been in an argument and wondered if it was worth it? This week’s episode explores a profound teaching from Rav Yisroel Meir Druck, shlita, about Yaakov’s pillow of stones. When multiple stones began arguing over who would have the honor of supporting the tzaddik’s head, Hashem performed a miracle and combined them into one - but why didn’t the miracle go further and transform them into a comfortable pillow? The answer reveals a counterintuitive truth: not all disputes are destructive. Some arguments - the right kind - can actually become sources of comfort and eventually stand as monuments to truth. Drawing from Rashi and the Midrash on Bereishis 28:11-18, we discover three essential tests to determine if your disagreement is truly a machlokes l’shem shamayim, a dispute for the sake of Heaven, and when conflict can strengthen rather than destroy. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

After wrestling all night with the angel of Eisav, Yaakov asks one simple question: “What is your name?” The angel’s cryptic response—”Why do you ask my name?”—holds a revolutionary insight that explains not just 3,000 years of Jewish survival, but also how you should handle the critics and shifting expectations in your own life. Rabbi Yecheskel Weinfeld reveals why we’ve been asking the wrong question all along. Throughout history, Jews have exhausted themselves trying to understand their host nations, hoping that if we could just figure out what they wanted, we’d finally find acceptance. However, the accusations keep shifting—we’re too insular and too integrated, too capitalist and too socialist. The angel’s refusal to give a fixed name teaches us why: their expectations will always change because they were never really about us. The Ramban tells us that Rabbi Yanai would study this exact parsha before dealing with Roman authorities—not to understand what they wanted from him, but to remember who he was. This week’s episode explores why understanding your own essence is the source of real strength, while trying to satisfy ever-changing external demands is a trap you’ll never escape. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

When Rivkah told Yaakov “alai kilelasecha beni”—upon me be your curse—was she offering to take responsibility for any consequences, or was she revealing something deeper? In this week’s episode, we uncover a fascinating insight from Onkelos that transforms our understanding of this cryptic phrase. Rivkah wasn’t volunteering to bear a curse—she was sharing a prophecy that guaranteed Yaakov’s protection. But there’s a catch to this ancient promise, one that remains just as relevant today. Discover why the blessings we inherited aren’t passive gifts from the past, but active promises that depend on our daily choices right now. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

What if the very traits you've been trying to change about yourself are actually divine gifts waiting to be properly channeled? In this week's episode on Parshas Korach, we explore a revolutionary approach to personal growth that flips conventional self-improvement on its head. Through the lens of Korach's failed rebellion and profound teachings from Rabbi Shlomo Wolbe, discover why your most challenging tendencies might not be flaws to eliminate, but raw materials crafted by Hashem for a specific purpose. From the Gemara's surprising teaching about those born under Mars to King David's potentially dangerous complexion, learn the ancient art of understanding and redirecting your nature rather than fighting against it. This episode will transform how you view your personality and unlock the hidden potential within your most difficult traits. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

What's the difference between a servant who stays loyal through tough times and one who abandons ship at the first sign of trouble? Rashi's profound insight into the Shema reveals a game-changing approach to Jewish observance that could transform your entire spiritual experience. In this episode, inspired by Rabbi Yaakov Kier's "Mussar Moments," we explore how shifting from fear-based to love-based service isn't just nice theology—it's practical psychology that determines whether our mitzvos energize or exhaust us. Plus, discover how the principles from the bestselling book "Atomic Habits" can help you build sustainable spiritual practices that feel more like privileges than burdens. As we enter Shabbos Nachamu, learn why passion beats pressure every time, and how small shifts in perspective can lead to lasting transformation in your relationship with Torah and mitzvos. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

In this special episode dedicated to my nephew's Bar Mitzvah, we explore Parshas Chukas and the Torah's most mysterious mitzvah—the Parah Adumah, or Red Heifer. Even King Solomon, the wisest of all men, declared this commandment beyond his understanding, yet it holds profound lessons for our spiritual growth. Through the teachings of Rav Henoch Leibowitz and Rav Shlomo Wolbe, we'll discover how embracing divine mysteries can deepen our faith, why increased knowledge brings greater responsibility, and how to bridge the gap between intellectual understanding and heartfelt connection. Join us as we learn that sometimes the most powerful spiritual growth comes not from understanding everything, but from humbly accepting what we cannot fully comprehend. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

What happens when the sacred becomes ordinary? In this special anniversary episode of Mussar HaTorah, we explore how Amalek's seemingly simple attack on the Jewish people at Refidim shattered something far more precious than military confidence—it broke the spell of reverence that had protected an entire nation. Through the profound insights of Rabbi Yehoshua Portowitz, the Mesilat Yesharim, and Rav Hutner, we'll discover how mockery acts like an oil-slicked shield that causes spiritual truths to slide right off us, and why the place of attack—Refidim, where the people had "loosened their grip" on Torah—was no coincidence. Join us as we uncover the timeless battle between casual observance and engaged spirituality, and learn why the Chashmona'im's victory over the Greeks holds the key to overcoming the Amalek within ourselves. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

When Moshe began his final speech to the Jewish people, he opened with what seems like a boring geography lesson - but Rashi reveals these place names were actually coded references to Israel's past mistakes. Why speak in riddles when direct rebuke might be more effective? The answer reveals a revolutionary Torah principle about human dignity that's so powerful it can override other religious obligations. Discover how Moshe's sensitivity to embarrassment teaches us the sacred art of giving feedback while preserving someone's divine spark - and why protecting dignity might actually be the most effective path to inspiring growth. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

Have you ever wondered why knowing something intellectually isn't the same as truly understanding it? Join us as we explore a powerful Midrash about a kohen who was about to leave his family for a livelihood elsewhere, and how a profound conversation with his wife revealed a deep spiritual insight. Through the lens of Rav Henoch Liebowitz's teachings, we'll uncover how we can transform mere knowledge into life-changing wisdom and learn why sometimes the most important truths are the ones we overlook right in front of us. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

Have you ever been absolutely right about something your family or a student needed to change, pushed for it with the best intentions, and watched it completely backfire? This week's parsha contains one of the most profound leadership lessons in the Torah - hidden in Moses's final request for a successor. Through the brilliant insights of Rabbi Lord Jonathan Sacks z”l, we'll discover why being right isn't enough, and learn the three essential keys to leading change in our families without leaving anyone behind. Sometimes the most loving thing we can do is slow down and remember that hearts change slower than minds. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com