After wrestling all night with the angel of Eisav, Yaakov asks one simple question: “What is your name?” The angel’s cryptic response—”Why do you ask my name?”—holds a revolutionary insight that explains not just 3,000 years of Jewish survival, but also how you should handle the critics and shifting expectations in your own life. Rabbi Yecheskel Weinfeld reveals why we’ve been asking the wrong question all along. Throughout history, Jews have exhausted themselves trying to understand their host nations, hoping that if we could just figure out what they wanted, we’d finally find acceptance. However, the accusations keep shifting—we’re too insular and too integrated, too capitalist and too socialist. The angel’s refusal to give a fixed name teaches us why: their expectations will always change because they were never really about us. The Ramban tells us that Rabbi Yanai would study this exact parsha before dealing with Roman authorities—not to understand what they wanted from him, but to remember who he was. This week’s episode explores why understanding your own essence is the source of real strength, while trying to satisfy ever-changing external demands is a trap you’ll never escape. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

Have you ever been in an argument and wondered if it was worth it? This week’s episode explores a profound teaching from Rav Yisroel Meir Druck, shlita, about Yaakov’s pillow of stones. When multiple stones began arguing over who would have the honor of supporting the tzaddik’s head, Hashem performed a miracle and combined them into one - but why didn’t the miracle go further and transform them into a comfortable pillow? The answer reveals a counterintuitive truth: not all disputes are destructive. Some arguments - the right kind - can actually become sources of comfort and eventually stand as monuments to truth. Drawing from Rashi and the Midrash on Bereishis 28:11-18, we discover three essential tests to determine if your disagreement is truly a machlokes l’shem shamayim, a dispute for the sake of Heaven, and when conflict can strengthen rather than destroy. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

When Rivkah told Yaakov “alai kilelasecha beni”—upon me be your curse—was she offering to take responsibility for any consequences, or was she revealing something deeper? In this week’s episode, we uncover a fascinating insight from Onkelos that transforms our understanding of this cryptic phrase. Rivkah wasn’t volunteering to bear a curse—she was sharing a prophecy that guaranteed Yaakov’s protection. But there’s a catch to this ancient promise, one that remains just as relevant today. Discover why the blessings we inherited aren’t passive gifts from the past, but active promises that depend on our daily choices right now. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

After the emotional heights of the Akeidah, Avraham faces what Rabbeinu Yonah considers his true final test - not on a mountaintop with an angel’s intervention, but in a mundane real estate negotiation while drowning in grief. When Efron the Hittite takes advantage of Avraham’s desperate need to bury Sarah, charging an astronomical price after pretending to offer the land for free, Avraham maintains perfect composure and courtesy. Rav Eliyahu Dessler reveals why this moment, not the dramatic sacrifice, might represent Avraham’s greatest spiritual achievement: true greatness isn’t demonstrated in dramatic moments of faith, but in maintaining our middos when we have every excuse to let them slip. This week’s episode explores why “your face is public property” and why having a bad day never gives us the right to spread that negativity to others. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

In this week’s episode, we explore a rare musical note in the Torah—the shalshelet—that appears over a single word in Parshas Vayera: “he hesitated.” Rabbi Lord Jonathan Sacks zt”l teaches that this zigzag cantillation mark, which goes up and down as if unable to move forward, represents the sound of ambivalence, the music of a soul torn between two identities. When the angels command Lot to flee Sodom immediately or die, he hesitates—frozen by the realization that his entire assimilation project has failed, that despite years of trying to belong, he’s still seen as an outsider. This ancient story speaks directly to the modern struggle: Can we really be two people at once? What’s the cost of hiding who we are to fit in? And why does authenticity, as uncomfortable as it may be, ultimately earn more respect than pretending? Join us as we discover what Lot’s tragic hesitation teaches us about the courage to live without ambivalence. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

Why does Hashem tell Avram to leave his “land,” his “birthplace,” AND his “father’s house”? Isn’t one command enough? This week, we uncover a shocking teaching from the Bartenura: Even Avraham Avinu - who introduced monotheism at three years old, who destroyed idols, who was thrown into a furnace for his beliefs - still needed divine intervention to protect him from the subtle influences of his environment. If someone on Avraham’s spiritual level wasn’t immune to society’s osmosis effect, what does that mean for us? Join us as we explore how to build a shield of Torah and mussar against the passive infiltration of values we never consciously chose to adopt. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

Why does the Torah specifically mention that the Tower of Babel was built by “the sons of man”? Rashi’s answer reveals something shocking: this wasn’t really a story about architectural ambition—it was about ingratitude. Drawing on the profound insights of Rav Shlomo Wolbe zt”l, we explore why the tendency toward ungratefulness has been hardwired into human nature since Adam, the two psychological reasons we struggle to say “thank you,” and how shifting from entitlement to gratitude can transform our entire experience of life. This week’s lesson offers a simple but powerful practice that can help us break free from our egocentric default and start living in what Rav Wolbe calls “a bright and happy world This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

Ever wonder if there's a cure for that nagging feeling that everyone else has it better? In this week's episode, we uncover the remarkable secret of the tribe of Naftali - the only people in history who seemed completely immune to envy and comparison. Through Moshe's final blessing and the insights of Rav Druck, we discover why Naftali was "satisfied with favor" and how their ancient mindset can revolutionize your relationship with social media, career pressures, and that constant voice asking "why don't I have what they have?" You'll learn a simple mental reframe that transforms jealousy into gratitude and discover why your current situation might be more perfectly designed than you ever imagined. If you've ever felt the sting of comparison or wondered how to find genuine contentment in our culture of endless measuring, this episode offers a game-changing perspective rooted in timeless Torah wisdom. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

What if everything you thought you knew about the four species was just the beginning? This Succos, discover why the Midrash teaches that Hashem literally cannot be exalted in Heaven until every single type of Jew—from the most learned to the most distant—is bound together on Earth. Through the profound insights of Rav Asher Weiss and the Gemara in Menachos, we'll uncover how your lulav bundle contains a revolutionary secret about Jewish unity that changes how your prayers are heard, how divine mercy flows, and why that Jew you might be tempted to write off is actually essential for your own spiritual success. If you've ever wondered why Jewish unity feels so elusive or how you can make your tefillos more powerful, this episode will transform how you see both your four species and your fellow Jews. Prepare to discover that the "weakest" link in our people might actually be the key to everything. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

What if your connection to a teacher was so powerful that you could literally prevent their death? It sounds impossible, but according to Rav Chaim Shmuelevitz, that's exactly what the Jewish people believed about Moshe Rabbeinu. In this week's episode, we uncover a mysterious pattern in the Torah that reveals the hidden spiritual forces operating between teachers and students. When Rashi points out that a specific phrase appears only three times in the entire Torah, he's hinting at something so profound about human relationships that it actually changes Jewish law. Discover why students of Rabbi Eliezer tried to argue with death itself, why teachers and students must follow each other into exile, and how recognizing this ancient wisdom can completely transform your most important relationships. This isn't just about education - it's about tapping into spiritual bonds so powerful they can transcend the ordinary limits of life and death. You'll never look at your teachers, mentors, or students the same way again. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

In this week's episode, we explore one of the most surprising compliments hidden in the Torah's harshest criticism. When Moshe calls the Jewish people "stiff-necked" and predicts their future failures, it sounds like the ultimate leadership disappointment speech. However, Rabbi Yecheskel Weinfeld offers a stunning reframe: that same stubborn streak that often gets us into trouble might be our secret weapon for spiritual success. As we navigate the final days before Yom Kippur, this insight from Parshas Vayeilech offers a revolutionary perspective on setbacks, persistence, and why falling down doesn't disqualify you from getting back up. Discover how the trait that has historically been our greatest challenge has also been the source of our greatest resilience, and learn practical ways to channel your inner "stiff neck" toward spiritual growth rather than spiritual rebellion. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

Why does the Gemara say we recite verses of kingship "so that" we make Hashem king over us? Isn't declaring Him king the same thing as making Him king? This seemingly circular logic in Rosh Hashana 16a puzzled scholars for generations—until Rav Yitzchok Hutner revealed a revolutionary insight that completely transforms how we understand what's happening during our Rosh Hashana prayers. It turns out that everything we think we know about the relationship between declaring Hashem's kingship and performing mitzvos gets turned upside down on this cosmic day. As the Lubavitcher Rebbe called it, Rosh Hashana night is "Coronation Night"—and we're not just davening, we're participating in the annual crowning ceremony of the King of Kings. This episode will forever change how you experience the shofar blasts, the special prayers, and even your teshuva. Discover why Rosh Hashana isn't about laying spiritual groundwork for something else—it's about achieving the ultimate goal itself. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

Why would Jewish law allow someone to make kiddush twice - once for themselves and again for someone else who's already capable of doing it themselves? This seemingly puzzling halacha opens the door to one of Judaism's most profound and practically transformative concepts. Join us as we explore Rabbi Yaakov Kier's powerful insights from his "Mussar Moment" series, discover what the Chofetz Chaim learned from financial guarantors that revolutionized his approach to Jewish community, and uncover how this ancient principle can transform us from passive observers of other people's spiritual lives into active partners in every fellow Jew's success. As we approach Rosh Hashana, this episode reveals why your neighbor's mitzvos might actually be more your business than you ever imagined - and how embracing that responsibility can deepen your own spiritual growth in ways you never expected. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

We all have that one area where we draw the line – maybe it's being on time, controlling our temper, or giving up a particular comfort. "I'm a good Jew," we tell ourselves, "I just struggle with this one thing." But what if that single exception isn't just a weakness to work on, but undermines our entire relationship with Torah? In this eye-opening episode, we delve into a startling verse from Parshas Ki Savo that reveals why the Ramban and Rabbenu Yonah viewed partial commitment as more perilous than outright rebellion. Through the powerful analogy of a servant who obeys everything except one command, you'll discover the psychological trap that keeps so many of us stuck in spiritual mediocrity – and the surprising path to genuine Torah transformation. Warning: this episode might completely change how you think about your Jewish observance. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

What if the very people who hurt you the most are still controlling your life—not through their actions, but through your hatred of them? In this week's episode, we uncover one of the Torah's most shocking commands hidden in Parshas Ki Teze: "Don't despise an Egyptian" and "Don't despise an Edomite"—the very nations that enslaved and persecuted the Jewish people. Rabbi Jonathan Sacks zt"l reveals why this seemingly impossible mitzvah might be the key to unlocking true freedom in your own life. Whether you're nursing old grudges, replaying past hurts, or feeling trapped by resentment toward someone who wronged you, this episode offers a life-changing perspective on how letting go of justified anger can become your path to liberation. Discover why holding onto hate keeps us enslaved to the very people we despise—and learn the practical steps to break free. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

Ever wonder why a well-prepared lawyer could suddenly become tongue-tied in court just because the judge showed favoritism to their opponent? This week's Parshas Shoftim reveals a profound psychological truth that goes far beyond the courtroom. Rabbi Shlomo Wolbe's stunning insight into "hester panim" (hiding of the face) versus "he'aras panim" (lighting up of the face) exposes the hidden reason why so many of our relationships remain stuck in cold distance. The culprit? We're all waiting for the other person to make the first move. Discover how ancient courtroom etiquette holds the key to transforming every relationship in your life—from that standoffish colleague to the distant family member you've been meaning to reconnect with. Sometimes the most revolutionary act is simply choosing to smile first. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

We all know what's right and wrong, so why do we still make poor choices? In this week's episode on Parshas Reeh, we explore a profound insight from Rav Henoch Liebowitz zt"l about how the Yetzer Hara doesn't try to convince us that wrong is right—instead, it specializes in sophisticated rationalizations that make us believe the rules don't apply to us "this time." Through the lens of the blessings and curses given at Mount Gerizim, we discover that our neshama already knows the right path, but we need to cut through the fog of our own excuses to see it clearly. Learn one simple but transformative practice that can help you recognize when you're rationalizing and restore the clarity you need to make choices aligned with your deepest values. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

Ever wonder why getting back into your learning routine after vacation feels so much harder than you expected? This week's Parshas Ekev reveals a startling spiritual principle that changes everything: when you take one day off from Torah or meaningful prayer, it actually costs you TWO days of effort to get back to where you started. Through a powerful parable from the Yerushalmi about two friends walking in opposite directions, Rav Wolbe shows us why spiritual momentum works both ways - and why even our summer breaks have hidden consequences. If you've ever struggled to reconnect with your spiritual practice after time away, this episode will transform how you think about consistency in your relationship with Hashem. Don't let this summer be the season that sets you back double. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

What's the difference between a servant who stays loyal through tough times and one who abandons ship at the first sign of trouble? Rashi's profound insight into the Shema reveals a game-changing approach to Jewish observance that could transform your entire spiritual experience. In this episode, inspired by Rabbi Yaakov Kier's "Mussar Moments," we explore how shifting from fear-based to love-based service isn't just nice theology—it's practical psychology that determines whether our mitzvos energize or exhaust us. Plus, discover how the principles from the bestselling book "Atomic Habits" can help you build sustainable spiritual practices that feel more like privileges than burdens. As we enter Shabbos Nachamu, learn why passion beats pressure every time, and how small shifts in perspective can lead to lasting transformation in your relationship with Torah and mitzvos. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

When Moshe began his final speech to the Jewish people, he opened with what seems like a boring geography lesson - but Rashi reveals these place names were actually coded references to Israel's past mistakes. Why speak in riddles when direct rebuke might be more effective? The answer reveals a revolutionary Torah principle about human dignity that's so powerful it can override other religious obligations. Discover how Moshe's sensitivity to embarrassment teaches us the sacred art of giving feedback while preserving someone's divine spark - and why protecting dignity might actually be the most effective path to inspiring growth. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

What if everything you thought you knew about being a tzaddik was backwards? In this week's episode on Parshas Mattos, we explore a revolutionary insight from Rav Yisroel Meir Druck that challenges our assumptions about righteousness. When the Torah describes the soldiers chosen for battle as "anashim" - meaning wise, understanding people - Rashi reveals they were tzaddikim. But here's the twist: before someone can become a true tzaddik, they must first master something far more basic yet infinitely more challenging - being a mentch. Join us as we discover why character development isn't just a nice addition to spiritual practice, but the essential foundation that makes all other religious growth possible. You might be surprised to learn that the path to holiness doesn't begin in the beit midrash, but in how we treat our spouse, conduct our business, and show up for our commitments. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

Have you ever been absolutely right about something your family or a student needed to change, pushed for it with the best intentions, and watched it completely backfire? This week's parsha contains one of the most profound leadership lessons in the Torah - hidden in Moses's final request for a successor. Through the brilliant insights of Rabbi Lord Jonathan Sacks z”l, we'll discover why being right isn't enough, and learn the three essential keys to leading change in our families without leaving anyone behind. Sometimes the most loving thing we can do is slow down and remember that hearts change slower than minds. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

What happens when the sacred becomes ordinary? In this special anniversary episode of Mussar HaTorah, we explore how Amalek's seemingly simple attack on the Jewish people at Refidim shattered something far more precious than military confidence—it broke the spell of reverence that had protected an entire nation. Through the profound insights of Rabbi Yehoshua Portowitz, the Mesilat Yesharim, and Rav Hutner, we'll discover how mockery acts like an oil-slicked shield that causes spiritual truths to slide right off us, and why the place of attack—Refidim, where the people had "loosened their grip" on Torah—was no coincidence. Join us as we uncover the timeless battle between casual observance and engaged spirituality, and learn why the Chashmona'im's victory over the Greeks holds the key to overcoming the Amalek within ourselves. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

In this special episode dedicated to my nephew's Bar Mitzvah, we explore Parshas Chukas and the Torah's most mysterious mitzvah—the Parah Adumah, or Red Heifer. Even King Solomon, the wisest of all men, declared this commandment beyond his understanding, yet it holds profound lessons for our spiritual growth. Through the teachings of Rav Henoch Leibowitz and Rav Shlomo Wolbe, we'll discover how embracing divine mysteries can deepen our faith, why increased knowledge brings greater responsibility, and how to bridge the gap between intellectual understanding and heartfelt connection. Join us as we learn that sometimes the most powerful spiritual growth comes not from understanding everything, but from humbly accepting what we cannot fully comprehend. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

What if the very traits you've been trying to change about yourself are actually divine gifts waiting to be properly channeled? In this week's episode on Parshas Korach, we explore a revolutionary approach to personal growth that flips conventional self-improvement on its head. Through the lens of Korach's failed rebellion and profound teachings from Rabbi Shlomo Wolbe, discover why your most challenging tendencies might not be flaws to eliminate, but raw materials crafted by Hashem for a specific purpose. From the Gemara's surprising teaching about those born under Mars to King David's potentially dangerous complexion, learn the ancient art of understanding and redirecting your nature rather than fighting against it. This episode will transform how you view your personality and unlock the hidden potential within your most difficult traits. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

Ever wondered why Satan stands on the right side in Zechariah's vision, when the right represents all that's good and just? Join us as we explore the Chofetz Chaim's profound insight into the Yetzer Hara's most dangerous strategy – disguising itself as religious righteousness. This episode will change how we examine our religious practice and help you discern between authentic service of Hashem and the subtle traps of misplaced piety. It’s essential listening for anyone seeking genuine spiritual growth in an age of spiritual confusion. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

In Parshas Naso, we encounter the fascinating laws of the Nazirite—a person who voluntarily embraces extreme self-denial for spiritual purposes. Surprisingly, the Torah requires them to bring a sin offering when their vow ends. Was their self-denial praiseworthy or problematic? Join us as we explore Maimonides' brilliant resolution to this contradiction, revealing two distinct paths to a virtuous life: the saint who pursues personal perfection through extreme devotion, the sage who navigates the middle path while honoring responsibilities to family and community. This ancient wisdom offers profound guidance for our modern struggle to balance spiritual growth with our obligations to others. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

What if the ancient banners of Israel weren't just military markers, but divine blueprints for your unique purpose? In this week's eye-opening episode of Mussar HaTorah, we uncover why God arranged the Jewish people like heavenly angels, each beneath their distinctive banner in the wilderness. Discover the profound teachings of Rabbi Yeruchum Levovitz and Rabbi Simcha Wasserman that explain why knowing your irreplaceable mission eliminates jealousy, why being counted by name transforms your significance, and how understanding the divine image within you unlocks a purpose that no one else in creation can fulfill. Listen now and find your place beneath the divine banner designed uniquely for you. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

In this episode, we explore the profound spiritual challenge of shmittah—the Torah commandment to let fields lie fallow every seventh year. Discover why Chazal compare those who observe this mitzvah to angels, and how ordinary farmers demonstrate extraordinary faith by trusting in divine providence against all logical concerns for their livelihood. Through powerful stories and teachings from Rav Chaim Shmuelevitz and the Gemara, we uncover how the principle of "doing before understanding" creates a level of trust in Hashem that surpasses even the angels themselves. Join us to learn how this ancient agricultural practice reveals timeless wisdom about cultivating unshakeable bitachon in our modern lives. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

Why would the Torah care about the timing of animal sacrifices? Join us as we uncover how a single verse in Parshas Emor about not slaughtering a mother and child on the same day reveals God's blueprint for developing compassion. Drawing from Rabbi Portowicz's insights, we'll explore how this mitzvah isn't merely a ritual technicality but a divine tool designed to refine our character, instill mercy in our hearts, and ensure we treat all of creation—and especially each other—with profound sensitivity. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

Why are the Torah's revolutionary commands to love your neighbor and the stranger found alongside laws about not mixing different seeds or wearing garments of mixed materials? In this episode of Mussar HaTorah, we explore Rabbi Jonathan Sacks' profound insight into "the priestly moral imagination" that underlies Parshat Kedoshim. Discover how seemingly unrelated laws reflect a coherent ethical vision that begins with respecting divine boundaries and culminates in recognizing the image of God in every human being. Join us for "Sacred Boundaries, Divine Love" – a fresh perspective on what it truly means to be holy. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

Have you ever wondered why knowing something intellectually isn't the same as truly understanding it? Join us as we explore a powerful Midrash about a kohen who was about to leave his family for a livelihood elsewhere, and how a profound conversation with his wife revealed a deep spiritual insight. Through the lens of Rav Henoch Liebowitz's teachings, we'll uncover how we can transform mere knowledge into life-changing wisdom and learn why sometimes the most important truths are the ones we overlook right in front of us. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

What makes something truly holy, and why was the original Mishkan never destroyed while both Temples fell? In this episode, we explore the Sforno's profound insight that perfect sanctity creates eternal endurance. We'll examine why every person involved in building sacred spaces matters, why the materials and methods used have spiritual consequences, and how even one compromised element can affect the holiness of our institutions. Drawing on examples from Rav Chiya's extraordinary dedication to pure Torah teaching and wisdom from the Vilna Gaon, we offer practical guidance for maintaining unblemished kedusha in our shuls, yeshivas, and homes. Discover why the Yetzer Hara's greatest deception is convincing us that the ends justify the means in spiritual matters, and learn how to build foundations of integrity that can truly last forever. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

Join us this week on Mussar HaTorah for our episode "Divine Crowdfunding: How an Ancient Fundraiser Changed Judaism Forever," where we explore history's first viral giving campaign that was so successful Moses had to ask people to stop donating! Drawing on Rabbi Lord Jonathan Sacks' brilliant insights, we uncover how the building of the Mishkan revolutionized religious practice by democratizing holiness and inviting everyone—regardless of status or gender—to become partners in creating sacred space. Discover why this 3,000-year-old story of communal enthusiasm and creative partnership isn't just ancient history, but a blueprint for meaningful spiritual life today. Listen now to find how this extraordinary Biblical crowdfunding campaign offers wisdom for building our own sacred communities in a fractured world. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

In this illuminating episode of Mussar HaTorah, we uncover the profound mystery at the heart of Purim—a story where Hashem's name is never mentioned, yet divine providence shapes every twist and turn. Join us as we explore how the "hidden hand" in Megillat Esther teaches us to recognize Hashem's guidance in our own lives, especially during times when the divine presence feels distant or obscured. Drawing wisdom from the Talmud, Maharal, Rabbi Soloveitchik, and other Jewish sages, we'll discover how the seemingly random "coincidences" that saved the Jewish people reveal a pattern of purpose and protection. Whether you're feeling spiritually connected or searching through darkness, this exploration of hester panim (Hashem's hidden face) offers practical Mussar insights to strengthen your emunah and transform how you perceive the everyday miracles unfolding in your life. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

Why did Moshe really break the Tablets of the Law? In this illuminating episode of Mussar HaTorah, we explore a profound insight from Rav Sholom Schwadron (who heard it from Rav Moshe Mordechai Epstein, Rosh Yeshiva of Chevron) that challenges our traditional understanding of this dramatic moment: It wasn't merely the creation of the Golden Calf that provoked Moshe's response, but rather witnessing the people's celebration around it—a distinction supported by the Ramban's commentary in Devarim 9:17. This subtle yet powerful shift in perspective reveals timeless wisdom about the true nature of spiritual decline, showing us that our joyful embrace of error can be far more destructive than the initial mistake itself, offering vital guidance for our own spiritual struggles today. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

In this illuminating episode of Mussar Hatorah, we explore a profound lesson hidden within the mitzvah of lighting the Menorah. Why would the Creator of light need humans to illuminate His sanctuary? Through a beautiful Midrash from Shemos Rabbah about a blind man and his friend, we discover Hashem's masterclass in perfect chesed—one that preserves human dignity rather than creating indebtedness. Join us as we uncover how true kindness often means allowing others to give back, and learn practical wisdom from Rav Wolbe, Rav Yerucham Levovitz, and the Chofetz Chaim on performing chesed in a way that elevates both giver and receiver. This timeless teaching transforms how we understand the Mishkan's golden Menorah and how we relate to every person in our lives. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

Can you earn a spiritual reward for mitzvos you can't actually perform? Through a fascinating detail in the Torah's description of the Aron Hakodesh, we discover how our sincere desires to serve Hashem can elevate us in unexpected ways. Join us as we explore what the Ramban, Rav Henoch Liebowitz, and the Gemara teach us about the hidden power of spiritual yearning, and learn why we should never disqualify ourselves from any mitzvah - even those that seem beyond our reach.In this episode of Mussar HaTorah, we'll uncover practical guidance for maintaining religious enthusiasm despite our limitations, and reveal how the construction of the Aron contains a timeless message about the true value of our deepest spiritual desires.Thanks for reading Missar HaTorah! This post is public so feel free to share it. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

In Or HaTzafun, the Alter points to Parshas Beshalach as perhaps the clearest illustration of this dynamic. Within the same parsha, we see Bnei Yisrael reach the highest heights of prophecy at Krias Yam Suf, declaring "זה קלי ואנוהו" - "This is my God and I will glorify Him." The Mechilta tells us their level of perception exceeded that of Yechezkel's prophecy of the Divine Chariot.Yet, these same people shortly after crossing Yam Suf complain about water, then about food, leading the Alter to ask: How can we understand this seemingly impossible contradiction? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

Most people naturally think of the dramatic final plagues in Egypt when considering Parshas Bo and our people's extraordinary exodus. In the middle of all the excitement lies something that might seem rather technical at first glance - the very first mitzvah given to the Jewish people as a nation: Kiddush HaChodesh, the sanctification of the new moon.You might ask yourself - of all the 613 mitzvos, why choose this one first? Rabbi Sacks offers us a profound insight speaking directly to our journey of personal growth and character development. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

Pharaoh's reaction to the plagues is extremely difficult to understand. He suffered through a week with blood instead of water, a week with frogs infesting every place you could imagine (and some we can't imagine!)., and then a week with lice everywhere. He was steadfast and for a "reward" had a week of wild animals attacking his kingdom and then a week of all the livestock dying. After all of these plagues that Hashem brought on Pharoah, he again ignored the pain and suffering and hardened his heart again. How can this be logically understood? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

The Gemara in Sotah (11a) tells us Pharoah had 3 advisors Billam, Iyov, and Yisro. He asked them about what to do with Beni Yisroel's exponential growth. Billam said to kill them and he was ultimately killed for that suggestion. Iyov said nothing and he was giving tremendous troubles in his life. Yisro said they should be saved and was rewarded to have decedents as members of Sanhedrin. It seems that the punishment Iyov received was worse than the punishment Billam received. All Iyov did was be quiet. Why should he have received a stricter punishment than the one who suggested to kill the Jews?Rav Chaim Shmulevitz z"l answers the questions from the words of Rashi in Kiddushin 80b and explains a passuk in Eicha (3:39) in the following way: > "Why should one complain - what good does lamenting do for a person to rely on instead of being cautious with their inclination/desires? As long as one lives, they need to overcome their sins, for if not, their inclination will overcome them and cause them to sin."Rav Chaim says this means life is a tremendous gift and it doesn't matter what kind of problems you are having. If you are alive, that is a good thing. As the Gemara in Kesuvos says (33b) the punishment of death is worse than any other hardships while you are alive. Additionally, we see that King David said something similar in Psalms (118:18):> The LORD punished me severely but did not hand me over to death.Rav Chaim heard the following parable from Rav Leib Chasman z"l, the XXXX in the Chevron Yeshiva (a branch of Slobodka): A person won a raffle which had attached to it a very large cash prize. At the same time, he heard about his winning this raffle, his house was broken into. Will someone let a small thing like his house being broken into mar the joy someone had when he just won this lottery? Similarly, life itself is the greatest prize we could ever receive. When we face difficulties and challenges, they pale in comparison to the gift of being alive. This helps us understand why Iyov's punishment, though severe, was more merciful than Billam's. Billam lost his life - the greatest gift of all - while Iyov, despite his tremendous suffering, retained the precious gift of life and the opportunity it presents.The Torah is teaching us a profound lesson about perspective here. When we face hardships, our natural reaction might be like Iyov's - to remain silent, to withdraw, to avoid taking a stand. But this passive approach reflects a fundamental misunderstanding of the value of life itself. Every moment we're alive is an opportunity to grow, to make a difference, to stand up for what's right.Rav Chaim's interpretation shows us that while Iyov's sufferings were indeed great, he still had the ultimate blessing - life itself - and with it, the capacity to overcome his challenges and emerge stronger. This is why the verse in Tehillim emphasizes "but did not hand me over to death" - because any punishment that allows us to retain life also allows us to retain hope and the potential for growth.This message is particularly relevant in Parshas Shemos, where we see the Jewish people facing seemingly insurmountable challenges under Egyptian oppression. Yet it was precisely through these challenges that they grew into a nation. Each difficulty they faced became an opportunity for spiritual growth and development.As we conclude our discussion today, let's take this powerful message to heart: Life, with all its challenges, is the greatest gift we've been given. When we face our own trials, rather than remaining silent like Iyov, we should recognize them as opportunities for growth and take action to stand up for what's right, like Yisro did.This has been the Mussar haTorah podcast for Parshas Shemos. Thank you for joining us, and we look forward to sharing more insights with you next week. Remember, every challenge in life is an opportunity for growth, and every moment of life itself is a precious gift worth celebrating. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

Welcome to the Mussar haTorah podcast for Parshas VaYechi. Join us as we explore the weekly Parsha, uncovering valuable insights and striving to become the best versions of ourselves through Mussar teachings.Yaakov on his deathbed asked Yosef to swear that he would not bury him in Egypt but he should take Yaakov's remains to Eretz Yisroel and be buried there. The Ramban asks why did Yaakov insist that Yosef swear to bury him in Eretz Yisroel even when he promised to fulfill this request? We are talking about Yosef, who was Yaakov's favorite son. When Yaakov asked Yosef to find out how his brothers were doing, Yosef obeyed even though he knew it would put him into a dangerous situation. If there were to be anyone who would make sure Yaakov's last wish is listened to, it would be Yosef! The Ramban answers that if Pharaoh would have forbade Yosef from burying his father in Eretz Yisroel, the oath Yosef took would give him an extra push to defy Pharaoh. Rav Henoch Leibowitz z'l says that from here we can see if Yosef was not made to swear he wouldn't have been able to oppose Pharaoh.In turn, this answer of the Ramban gives us an insight into the tremendous ability of a person and the heights they are capable of reaching when they are fully understand the responsibility of a given task. We can see that all somebody needs is additional motivation, the extra push to mobilize all of their energies. This will take something which was thought to be impossible, to now be possible. The Midrash Rabbah on Megillas Rus shows us an even more amazing concept. Not only can someone muster all of the forces at their disposal when motivated properly, they can even **increase** their potential and abilities through a greater motivation. As we will see in a week or two, if Aharon would have known the Torah felt it worthy of recording going out to greet Moshe, the Midrash says he would have gone out with tambourines and dancing.Is the Midrash trying to say there was something lacking in what Aharon did? Did he not greet Moshe with a complete heart?Rav Henoch says that the Midrash is not finding fault with Aharon. Its purpose is to praise him be showing he performed the act as well as was possible according to the level he was on. However, the added knowledge that his actions would be recorded in the Torah for generations to see would have given him even a greater understanding of how important this mitzvah was; giving him the added vigor to do what he wasn't able to do before.The Ramban is bringing to light an important lesson; if we focus on the impact we have on a hospital patient when we are visiting them or on our family when we help them with their daily chores, we realize the significance of even a simple action. This clearer perception imbues us with the strength to do chesed and mitzvos we previously thought were beyond our capability. The Midrash gives us an even greater insight into the endless bounds of our abilities. It is always possible to surpass our most thorough and best efforts. There is no limit to the amount of added awareness we can utilize to improve our efforts. There is no end to the power we can muster to climb even upward on the spiritual ladder. As we conclude this week's exploration of Parshas VaYechi, let's internalize this powerful message: Every mitzvah, every act of kindness holds profound significance. When we truly comprehend the impact of our actions, we unlock extraordinary potential within ourselves. This week, let's challenge ourselves to approach our daily interactions with renewed awareness, knowing that our sincere efforts can continually reach new heights.Thank you for joining us on the Mussar HaTorah Podcast. Until next week, may we all merit to grow in our avodas Hashem. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

Welcome to the Mussar haTorah podcast for Parshas Vayigash. Join us as we explore the weekly Parsha, uncovering valuable insights and striving to become the best versions of ourselves through Mussar teachings.In this week's parsha, Yosef reveals himself to his brothers. During this revelation he says the following:וְעַתָּ֗ה לֹֽא־אַתֶּ֞ם שְׁלַחְתֶּ֤ם אֹתִי֙ הֵ֔נָּה כִּ֖י הָאֱלֹהִ֑ים וַיְשִׂימֵ֨נִֽי לְאָ֜ב לְפַרְעֹ֗ה וּלְאָדוֹן֙ לְכׇל־בֵּית֔וֹ וּמֹשֵׁ֖ל בְּכׇל־אֶ֥רֶץ מִצְרָֽיִם׃Now [then] it was not you that sent me here, but [it was from before] Elohim; and He has made me as a father to Pharaoh, and master of all [the people of] his house, and ruler over all the land of Egypt.Yosef recognized that the entire sequence of events starting from when his father gave him the special coat up until (and through) this point was a product of Hashem's Hashgacha Pratis and not a result of his brother's selling him into slavery. When the brothers sold Yosef, they thought they were getting rid of him and his dreams when in reality they were fulfilling his dreams. The concept of bechirah can be confusing to people. Does Hashem allow events to unfold with people's free will or is everything preordained? Rav Wolbe says the answer can be found in Chovos HaLevovos (Avados Elokim; Chapter 8) where Rabbenu Bachaya writes that both things are true. Everything is dependent on our bechirah and is preordained by Hashem. When making a decision we have to act like we are the ones who are deciding on what the outcome will be. However, in the end it is Hashem that is arranging things the way Hashem wants them. A personal example of this is several years ago I applied to be the General Studies principal in a school. I wanted the position very badly and I thought I would do well in the job. I wound up not getting the job and I took a teaching position. What seemed like a disappointment at the time turned out to be Hashem's guidance - during that year of teaching, I came to realize that being a principal wasn't actually aligned with what brought me the most satisfaction in education. The administrative duties would have taken me away from what I truly loved - being in the classroom, directly impacting students' lives. Through this experience, I learned firsthand how Hashem can guide us to where we need to be, even when - and sometimes especially when - things don't go according to our carefully made plans."When we make a decision we shouldn't just take a shot in the dark and rationalize that whatever Hashem wants will happen no matter what we choose to do. Rather, we need to analyze the issue from all angles, consult with knowledgeable people, and come to a conclusion which makes sense. At the end of the day, Hashem may have things turn out differently than expected. This however does not exempt us from our obligations to act in a rational, well thought out manner. This is because Hashem judges us by our actions and not be the ensuing results. We don't know what Hashem's plans are but Hashem gave us the ability to calculate what is the best for us and make the decisions that are right for us. Even if things turn out differently than we expect, we can be sure that what happens is what Hashem wants and that is what is truly best for us. This narrative of Yosef and his brothers beautifully illustrates how our human choices and divine providence interweave in ways we often only understand in retrospect. Just as I discovered that not getting the principal position led to greater satisfaction in teaching, Yosef recognized that his brothers' actions – though intended for harm – were ultimately part of Hashem's greater plan.The wisdom from Chovos HaLevovos teaches us a profound paradox: we must act with full deliberation and responsibility, while simultaneously knowing that Hashem orchestrates the final outcome. Perhaps that's the most powerful lesson we can take from this parsha: our obligation is to make thoughtful choices with the wisdom we have, while maintaining the humility to recognize that Hashem's plans may differ from our own, often in ways that reveal themselves only with time.Thank you for joining us this week. Until next time, may we all merit to see the divine guidance in our lives, even when – and perhaps especially when – things don't go as planned. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

Picture this: Yosef, after years in an Egyptian prison, finally stands before Pharaoh. This could be his moment of triumph, his chance to shine. Pharaoh says, "I've heard you can interpret dreams."Now, imagine being in Yosef's shoes. After years of suffering, finally a chance at freedom. What would you say? But Yosef's response is remarkable. He immediately says: "Biladai - It's not through me. Elokim yaaneh es shalom Pharaoh - God will provide Pharaoh's welfare."The Alter of Kelm in Chochmas HaMussar points out something incredible here. Despite everything Yosef endured - the pit, being sold as a slave, false accusations, prison - his first instinct isn't to grab credit or show off his abilities. Instead, he immediately redirects all praise to Hashem.Let's dig deeper into this moment. The Midrash tells us that Yosef was only 30 years old when he stood before Pharaoh. Think about that - a young man, who spent his formative years in slavery and prison, maintains such clarity about who he is and where his abilities come from.Rabbi Chaim Friedlander, in his work Sifsei Chaim (Middos V'Avodas Hashem, Volume 1), explains that this demonstrates the middah of emes - truth - at its highest level. Even in a moment that could change his life forever, Yosef remains laser-focused on absolute truth: all wisdom comes from Hashem. There's more here. The Sifsei Chaim asks: Why did Yosef need to say "Biladai" - "not through me" - before mentioning that God would provide the answer? Couldn't he have simply said that Hashem would help?The answer reveals a profound insight into human nature. Often, we're willing to give credit to God, but we want to keep a little bit for ourselves. We say things like "Well, God helped, but I also worked really hard." Yosef teaches us that this splitting of credit misses the point entirely. By saying "Biladai" first, he's completely removing himself from the equation.The Ramban (Bereishis 41:16) takes this idea even further. He explains that Yosef's response wasn't just words or theological correctness. It showed his deep internalization of "Ein od milvado" - there is nothing besides Hashem. After years in darkness, this light never dimmed.Rabbi Yerucham Levovitz, the mashgeich of Mir, in his sefer Daas Torah adds another layer. He notes that this moment wasn't just about dream interpretation. It was about Yosef's entire approach to life. Even when he later becomes viceroy of Egypt and implements his brilliant economic plan, he maintains this same perspective - everything comes from Hashem.How can we apply this in our lives? Let's break it down into practical steps:First, start with awareness. Notice how often we take credit for our successes. Our promotions, our children's achievements, our creative ideas - we tend to see these as products of our own abilities.Second, practice verbal recognition. When someone compliments your work, say "Thank God" before "Thank you." It might feel awkward at first, but it helps rewire our thinking.Third, and this is crucial - develop this awareness during challenging times. Like Yosef in prison, can we maintain clarity about Hashem's role even when things aren't going our way?Remember, this isn't about diminishing our achievements or efforts. Rather, it's about understanding their true source and context. As the Chovos HaLevavos (Sha'ar HaBitachon, Chapter 4) teaches, this recognition brings profound joy and peace, knowing that Hashem's infinite wisdom orchestrates everything in our lives.Yosef went from prisoner to prince in a single day. However, his greatest achievement wasn't becoming viceroy – it was staying true to his identity. This week, let's aim for that same authenticity. This has been Mussar haTorah. See you next week."Have a good Shabbos---# Primary Sources1. Bereishis 41:15-16 * Original text for Pharaoh and Yosef's exchange * Found in Chumash2. Ramban on Bereishis 41:16 * Commentary discussing "Ein od milvado" concept * Standard Mikraos Gedolos edition# Secondary Sources3. Sifsei Chaim (Rabbi Chaim Friedlander) * Middos V'Avodas Hashem, Volume 1 * Chapter on Emes, pp. 456-458 * Published by Yeshivas Ponevezh4. Chochmas HaMussar (Alter of Kelm) * Parshas Miketz section * Collected writings of Rabbi Simcha Zissel Ziv * Published by Machon Be'er HaChochmah5. Daas Torah (Rabbi Yerucham Levovitz) * Parshas Miketz * Collected shiurim from Mir Yeshiva * Published by Machon Daas Torah6. Chovos HaLevavos (Rabbeinu Bachya ibn Paquda) * Sha'ar HaBitachon, Chapter 4 * Discussion on attributing success to Hashem# Additional Reference7. Midrash Rabbah * Bereishis Rabbah 89:9 * Reference to Yosef's age This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com

In this week's parsha, we encounter a fascinating moment that reveals profound insights into genuine religious consciousness. The Torah tells us that when Yosef was sold as a slave to Potifar, something remarkable happened: "וַיַּרְא אֲדֹנָיו כִּי ה' אִתּוֹ" - "his master saw that Hashem was with him."Rav Shlomo Wolbe raises an intriguing question that cuts to the heart of our religious practice. What made Yosef so exceptional? After all, don't we also say "Baruch Hashem" and "Im Yirtzeh Hashem" throughout our day? Haven't we too reached the level of "Shem Shamayim shagur b'fiv" - having Heaven's name constantly on our lips?The answer, Rav Wolbe explains, reveals the vast difference between mechanical religious behavior and genuine consciousness of Hashem. When Yosef said "Im Yirtzeh Hashem," it wasn't just a cultural convention or a habit. He genuinely felt and understood that the outcome was completely dependent on Hashem's will. Every time he mentioned Hashem's name, it came from a place of deep awareness and connection.This stands in stark contrast to how we often use these phrases. How many times do we say "Im Yirtzeh Hashem" automatically, without truly contemplating what we're saying? Sometimes, we might even write "BS"D" at the top of a paper, only to fill it with lashon hara! This disconnect between our words and our consciousness is something we must work to bridge.Rav Wolbe shares a powerful conversation he had with a gadol who once observed, "Look at this street. It's full of people, and not one of them is thinking about Hashem!" This striking observation highlights how rare genuine God-consciousness is, even among observant Jews.Another telling incident involves Rav Yechezkel Levenstein. When Rav Wolbe asked him how he was doing, Rav Yechezkel simply answered "Well." He felt it would be meaningless to say "Baruch Hashem" without truly focusing on the words and their significance. This teaches us that authenticity in our religious expression is more important than mere repetition of phrases.There's another crucial lesson we can learn from our parsha. Even for those who have developed a genuine consciousness of Hashem, there's a challenge of consistency. Yosef maintained his religious identity and expression regardless of his surroundings. Whether in Potifar's house or in prison, his recognition and acknowledgment of Hashem remained unchanged.This teaches us that if we're accustomed to saying "B'ezras Hashem" or "Im Yirtzeh Hashem," we shouldn't alter our behavior based on our audience. True yiras Shamayim doesn't shift with our surroundings. Like Yosef, we should maintain our religious authenticity wherever we find ourselves.The Sforno adds another dimension to this understanding. He explains that Yosef's success was so clearly supernatural that even Potifar could recognize it wasn't merely human capability. But crucially, this was only visible because Yosef constantly attributed his success to Hashem. He didn't take credit for his achievements but openly acknowledged their true Source.As we go through this week, let's work on making our expressions of faith more genuine. When we say "Baruch Hashem" or "Im Yirtzeh Hashem," let's pause for a moment to truly feel and mean these words. This was the middah of Yosef HaTzaddik - having Hashem's presence permeate every aspect of his life, and this is how we too can bring Hashem with us wherever we find ourselves. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit notarabbi.substack.com