In this refreshingly honest Hard Pass episode, co-hosts Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik take aim at a cringeworthy but all-too-common piece of advice: “Men are like puppies—they need training.” With humor and heart, they unpack the hidden implications behind this mindset, challenging the notion that a woman’s role is to manage, correct, or “train” her husband into becoming who she wants him to be. While acknowledging the desire many women have to feel seen for the ways they influence their homes, they caution against taking full credit—or control—for their husband’s growth. Instead, they advocate for mutual respect and authentic partnership, not a dynamic that turns the husband into a project and the wife into his handler. Hindi and Chayale go deeper, exploring how subtle forms of control—even when framed positively—can leave women feeling burdened, lonely, and resentful. From the “he's my fourth child” mentality to the idea that a wife must always lead, the hosts show how these beliefs erode intimacy and partnership. Ultimately, they encourage listeners to drop the leash, let go of the pressure to parent their spouses, and start recognizing their husbands as capable adults. If you’ve ever felt stuck in the exhausting role of the “default leader,” this empowering conversation offers clarity, validation, and a much-needed shift in perspective.

In this special episode of the Your Relationshift podcast, Hindi Kalmenson sits down with Menucha Schochet, a beloved teacher of Chassidus, high school educator, and fellow Relationshift coach. Together, they explore the powerful intersection between Tanya study and relationship coaching, uncovering how the principles of Chassidus enhance personal growth and connection. Menucha shares her journey from being a passionate teacher of Tanya to discovering how concepts like respect, compassion, and divine design profoundly deepen both her relationships with others and her service to Hashem. Through heartfelt reflections, she explains how learning to truly “see” another person, hold space without judgment, and embrace life’s challenges as part of Hashem’s loving design transforms not only our relationships but our inner world. Listeners will be inspired by Menucha’s vivid storytelling, including her favorite medrashim, personal teaching experiences, and insights from coaching sessions. She highlights the transformative power of concepts like yirah (respect and awe), rachamim (compassion), and authentic ownership, showing how these principles create deeper connection in marriage, with students, and in one’s spiritual journey. With warmth, humor, and vulnerability, this conversation offers practical wisdom for embracing life’s “jagged stones,” uncovering hidden treasures in our struggles, and ultimately building a more joyful and authentic relationship with Hashem and the people we love.

In this powerful episode of the "Your Relationshift" podcast, co-hosts Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik tackle the sensitive yet universal issue of expectations around a spouse's religious observance. Drawing from real-life examples and Torah-based principles, they explore the pain and tension that can arise when a wife feels her husband isn’t meeting her spiritual expectations—whether it’s attending minyan, learning, or leading a Jewish home in a specific way. Through heartfelt discussion, they share practical strategies grounded in the concept of "mirroring," guiding listeners to turn inward and reflect on their own spiritual journey before focusing on their partner's. Hindi and Chayale emphasize the importance of ownership, self-compassion, and creating space for authenticity within relationships. By shifting from judgment to admiration, they illustrate how embracing each partner's unique spiritual path can cultivate safety, trust, and deeper connection in the home. This episode not only offers a roadmap for navigating religious dynamics in marriage but also inspires a broader appreciation for the beauty of individual journeys with God. Listeners will walk away with actionable insights and a renewed perspective on creating a home filled with love, acceptance, and spiritual abundance.

In this episode of the Relationshift Podcast, Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik explore the transformative concept of "mirror work," a principle rooted in the teachings of the Baal Shem Tov. They discuss how the negative qualities we notice in others are often reflections of unresolved aspects within ourselves, and how this awareness can inspire profound self-growth. Using the analogy of a mirror, the hosts unpack how Hashem orchestrates every interaction to guide us toward greater introspection and accountability. Through relatable examples—like receiving a triggering email from a school—Hindi demonstrates how applying this principle can shift our energy from judgment to compassion and create opportunities for personal transformation. The discussion also highlights how mirror work can improve relationships, particularly in marriage, where the dynamic is often the "biggest mirror." By taking ownership of our reactions and addressing the root of our triggers, we can foster healthier interactions and develop a more expansive sense of self. The hosts emphasize the importance of humility, honesty, and support when embarking on this journey, and they encourage listeners to reflect on their own experiences. This episode offers practical tools for cultivating a more compassionate and empowered perspective, helping us create a ripple effect of positive change within ourselves and our communities.

Chayale sits down with her sister-in-law and fellow educator Mushka Kesselman as an exclusive RelationShift interview to explore the complex dynamic that arises when spouses are not aligned in their religious or Chassidic values. Drawing from her own experience as a teacher and coach, Mushka shares powerful principles that help women navigate the pain and confusion of spiritual disconnect in marriage — without judgment, blame, or pressure. The conversation emphasizes the importance of emotional space, self-responsibility, and the transformative impact of focusing on one’s own joy and connection in Yiddishkeit. Together, they delve into what it really means to support a spouse without controlling them, how Shalom Bayis is not just a value but a Torah mandate, and why honoring each other’s spiritual autonomy creates room for true connection and growth. With relatable examples, including how to handle Pesach standards or fears around chinuch when values differ, this episode offers both clarity and comfort to anyone feeling spiritually alone in their marriage. Whether you're in that space yourself or supporting someone who is, this conversation is an empowering reminder that peace, love, and divine purpose are still fully possible — even when you're not on the same page.

In this heartfelt and deeply inspiring episode of Your Relationshift, Hindi Kalmenson sits down with fellow Relationshift coach Michal Harel for an intimate conversation about the winding path that led her to emotional healing, spiritual renewal, and a thriving marriage. Michal opens up about her journey, from being expelled from a Bais Yaakov high school in Jerusalem to navigating single motherhood and religious disconnection in Miami. Through powerful anecdotes, she reflects on the painful lessons of her first marriage, the raw vulnerability of rebuilding her life, and the surprising moments of Divine guidance that gently steered her back toward Yiddishkeit and Chassidus. With honesty and insight, Michal shares how embracing all parts of her story, including her most challenging experiences, allowed her to rediscover her wholeness. As the conversation unfolds, Michal describes how finding the Relationshift principles gave her the language, tools, and spiritual framework to transform not only her relationship with her husband but also her sense of personal purpose. From the subtle energy of control to the power of essential value, she and Hindi explore what it means to be a co-creator in one’s life and relationships, anchored in emunah and Hashem’s design. Listeners will walk away moved by Michal’s resilience, empowered by her wisdom, and reminded that true transformation often begins with radical honesty, quiet surrender, and the courage to hold space for both the vision and the process.

In this deep and nuanced episode of Your Relationshift, Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik explore the often misunderstood concept of hard work within the feminine experience. Drawing on Chassidic teachings and personal stories, they unpack what it really means to live and create from a place of mahus—the essential state of being that is both receptive and expressive. The hosts highlight the difference between working from a place of depletion versus working from a state of alignment, showing how a woman’s true creative flow can emerge not in spite of effort, but because of it. This isn’t about hustle or burnout—it’s about intentionality, desire, and the sacred work of bringing one’s inner vision into reality. Together, Hindi and Chayale candidly reflect on their own journeys from opposite ends of the spectrum—one from over-functioning, the other from under-engaging—to discover a balanced, feminine approach to productivity. They emphasize that malchus is not about avoidance or passivity, but about meaningful creation rooted in clarity, connection, and self-trust. Whether you find yourself burnt out or unsure where to begin, this episode offers a powerful reframing of effort as something beautiful and holy, inviting women to embrace the power of conscious, values-based hard work as a deeply feminine and spiritually aligned expression.

In this powerful and deeply nuanced episode of Your Relationshift, Chayale Tzukernik sits down with fellow Relationshift Coach Fraidy Gerlitzky for a heartfelt and eye-opening conversation about a hidden struggle many women face when internalizing the principles of relationship work. Together, they explore how the journey of growth—though rooted in empowerment—can sometimes lead to unintentional self-blame, perfectionism, and pressure. Fraidy shares what she’s been noticing in her own life and with clients: that when women learn to take ownership in their marriage, they can unknowingly carry the weight of the entire relationship on their shoulders, leading to a loss of self-value and an inability to receive love freely. Through relatable stories, examples, and deep Torah insight, Chayale and Fraidy guide listeners back to the foundational truth: our worth is essential and unchanging, and the love and connection in a relationship can—and must—be mutual, human, and safe. They discuss how trusting the connection isn’t about earning love through perfect behavior, but about resting in the security of unconditional love—both from Hashem and from our husbands. Whether you’re newer to Relationshift or have been on this path for a while, this conversation offers a much-needed reframing that brings immense relief, clarity, and the reminder that growth and connection can come from a place of trust, not tension.

As Rosh Hashanah approaches, co-hosts Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik dive deep into the core relationships that shape our connection with Hashem—king and subject, parent and child, and husband and wife. Through the lens of Chassidus and their own lived experiences, they explore the theme of surrender, focusing especially on the idea of Hashem as our King. Drawing on powerful imagery from the lives of Dovid HaMelech and Shaul HaMelech, they reflect on how awe, humility, and trust are essential ingredients for entering the New Year with clarity and purpose. The discussion also touches on the deeper emotional and somatic practices that can help us internalize these spiritual concepts—like bowing in prayer or opening our hands in tefillah—as ways of embodying surrender and acceptance. In a world preoccupied with self-definition and control, this conversation brings a refreshing shift: embracing the freedom and peace that comes from letting go and trusting fully in Hashem. The co-hosts reflect on how Rosh Hashanah is a time not just for teshuvah or repair, but for affirming the most essential relationship of all—our identity as part of Hashem. With themes of divine design, feminine identity, and emotional surrender threaded throughout, this episode offers a soulful roadmap for preparing your mind and heart for the Yamim Noraim. Whether you're feeling spiritually ready or emotionally distant, this heartfelt discussion will help you realign and reconnect with the deeper meaning of the High Holidays.

In this powerful solo bonus episode for Shavuos, Hindi Kalmenson shares a heartfelt workshop exploring the deeper spiritual themes of the Yom Tov and their relevance to our inner lives and relationships. Drawing from Torah insights and Chassidic teachings, she weaves together the core ideas of Torah, harvest, and the story of Rus—all centered around the mystical concept of “the third way.” Hindi explains how the number three represents not just peace and harmony, but the divine purpose of creation: the synthesis of opposites to birth something entirely new. Whether it’s the giving of the Torah, the miraculous partnership behind the harvest, or the selfless love between Rus and Boaz, each points to the possibility of unity through humility and self-awareness. Hindi gently guides listeners toward applying this concept in real life—starting with the necessity of owning one’s own value. Before connection or giving can happen in a relationship, she explains, we must first become whole within ourselves. Through vivid metaphors and relatable examples (like the deeper meaning behind making supper), Hindi illustrates how true relationships—whether with a spouse, a child, or Hashem—are born not from obligation or ego, but from mutual recognition and sacred space. This episode is both a spiritual preparation for Shavuos and a timeless roadmap for building meaningful relationships from a place of wholeness and divine purpose.