In this candid episode of Hard Pass, Hindi and Chayale take on the oft-repeated advice: “Don’t go to sleep angry.” While the phrase may sound romantic or wise, the hosts explain why this kind of black-and-white thinking can actually backfire in real relationships. Drawing from both personal experience and the emotional realities of marriage, they reveal how forcing a resolution in the heat of exhaustion can lead to more frustration, not connection. Instead, Hindi and Chayale advocate for emotional honesty, self-awareness, and—most importantly—rest. They discuss the importance of giving yourself and your partner the space to process, recalibrate, and return to a conversation with greater clarity. With their signature blend of empathy and Torah-rooted wisdom, this episode is a gentle permission slip to press pause, go to sleep, and try again with a clearer heart and mind.

In this heartfelt and deeply inspiring episode of Your Relationshift, Hindi Kalmenson sits down with fellow Relationshift coach Michal Harel for an intimate conversation about the winding path that led her to emotional healing, spiritual renewal, and a thriving marriage. Michal opens up about her journey, from being expelled from a Bais Yaakov high school in Jerusalem to navigating single motherhood and religious disconnection in Miami. Through powerful anecdotes, she reflects on the painful lessons of her first marriage, the raw vulnerability of rebuilding her life, and the surprising moments of Divine guidance that gently steered her back toward Yiddishkeit and Chassidus. With honesty and insight, Michal shares how embracing all parts of her story, including her most challenging experiences, allowed her to rediscover her wholeness. As the conversation unfolds, Michal describes how finding the Relationshift principles gave her the language, tools, and spiritual framework to transform not only her relationship with her husband but also her sense of personal purpose. From the subtle energy of control to the power of essential value, she and Hindi explore what it means to be a co-creator in one’s life and relationships, anchored in emunah and Hashem’s design. Listeners will walk away moved by Michal’s resilience, empowered by her wisdom, and reminded that true transformation often begins with radical honesty, quiet surrender, and the courage to hold space for both the vision and the process.

In this heartfelt and eye-opening episode of Your Relationshift, co-hosts Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik take a deep dive into the realities of Shana Rishona—the first year of marriage. Drawing from personal experiences, client stories, and Torah wisdom, they explore the emotional spectrum that newlyweds often face, from blissful connection to unexpected struggle. Hindi and Chayale unpack the complexity of adjusting to a new partner, the vulnerability of building trust from scratch, and the silent pressure many women feel to present a picture-perfect start to married life—even when the inside reality feels confusing and isolating. The conversation also touches on deeply relatable themes like comparison, fear, and the unspoken anxiety around fertility timelines, highlighting how these internal tensions can amplify during the earliest stages of marriage. With warmth and honesty, Hindi and Chayale remind listeners that beginnings are objectively hard—as the Torah teaches—and that every couple’s journey is uniquely theirs. This episode is a powerful validation for anyone navigating the complexities of Shana Rishona, offering clarity, compassion, and a reminder that growth often starts in discomfort.

In this heartfelt and humorous Pesach edition of Your Relationshift, co-hosts Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik open up about the unique pressures and emotional complexity that come with preparing for Passover. With their signature honesty and wit, they tackle everything from Pesach pajamas and peeling vegetables to deeper questions around stress, intention, and spiritual values. Whether you're hosting, going to family, or just trying to keep up with the unspoken standards of the holiday, this episode offers a refreshingly honest look at the often-overwhelming experience many women face during this season. The hosts remind us that freedom—the theme of Pesach—also includes emotional freedom, and that begins with reclaiming your own mindset and expectations. Hindi and Chayale dive into practical and powerful tools to help you approach Pesach with more ownership, calm, and connection. They explore the dynamics of differing standards between spouses, how to deal with judgment (especially internal judgment), and the importance of curiosity, communication, and self-regulation. They also discuss how to ask for help in a way that opens up partnership instead of frustration, and how to let go of martyrdom in favor of empowerment. Whether you're knee-deep in cleaning or just starting to plan, this episode offers a compassionate, relatable, and spiritually grounded guide to shifting your experience of Pesach—from survival to meaningful celebration.

In this profound and honest episode of Your Relationshift, co-hosts Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik explore the heavy and often hidden burden of expectations in our personal lives and relationships. With clarity and compassion, they unpack how subconscious beliefs about how things should be—whether in marriage, parenting, or self-image—can lead to deep frustration and disappointment. Drawing from Torah and Tanya, the hosts illuminate the emotional and spiritual toll of unrealistic standards and offer a liberating shift: embracing human imperfection with humility and self-acceptance. Through powerful anecdotes and relatable scenarios, Hindi and Chayale challenge listeners to confront the "God complex"—the pressure to control, perfect, and perform—and instead cultivate inner peace by recognizing what is truly within our power. They offer thoughtful strategies to identify, examine, and release unrealistic expectations, creating space for authentic connection and growth. This episode is a compassionate call to reimagine what it means to be enough, to make room for real life, and to live with more gentleness—toward ourselves and those we love.

In this powerful solo bonus episode for Shavuos, Hindi Kalmenson shares a heartfelt workshop exploring the deeper spiritual themes of the Yom Tov and their relevance to our inner lives and relationships. Drawing from Torah insights and Chassidic teachings, she weaves together the core ideas of Torah, harvest, and the story of Rus—all centered around the mystical concept of “the third way.” Hindi explains how the number three represents not just peace and harmony, but the divine purpose of creation: the synthesis of opposites to birth something entirely new. Whether it’s the giving of the Torah, the miraculous partnership behind the harvest, or the selfless love between Rus and Boaz, each points to the possibility of unity through humility and self-awareness. Hindi gently guides listeners toward applying this concept in real life—starting with the necessity of owning one’s own value. Before connection or giving can happen in a relationship, she explains, we must first become whole within ourselves. Through vivid metaphors and relatable examples (like the deeper meaning behind making supper), Hindi illustrates how true relationships—whether with a spouse, a child, or Hashem—are born not from obligation or ego, but from mutual recognition and sacred space. This episode is both a spiritual preparation for Shavuos and a timeless roadmap for building meaningful relationships from a place of wholeness and divine purpose.

In this profound and thought-provoking episode of Your Relationshift, hosts Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik are joined by a very special guest—Sara Gita Soble, the founder of Relationshift. Together, they dive deep into the complexities of feminine desire, exploring the nuanced differences between Taava (craving or lust) and Ratzon (higher will). Through the lens of Chassidic wisdom, they uncover how our desires can either be a reflection of our deepest self or a distraction imposed by external influences. The discussion touches on the interplay between Ratzon and Taanug (delight), the challenges of discerning between superficial wants and true inner calling, and the way our desires shape not only our personal lives but also our relationships and connection with Hashem. Throughout the conversation, the hosts and Sara Gita share personal anecdotes and powerful insights, offering practical guidance on how to navigate the often-messy process of understanding what we truly want. They also explore the importance of embracing abundance, how recognizing our desires can deepen our sense of self, and how women, in particular, are uniquely connected to Ratzon and Taanug as part of their spiritual identity. Whether you’ve struggled to acknowledge your own wants or have felt tension between material and spiritual aspirations, this episode provides a fresh, inspiring perspective on how to channel desire in a meaningful, intentional, and fulfilling way.

In this episode of Your Relationshift, Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik dive into a pressing and deeply relatable topic—navigating phone usage in marriage. When a husband’s screen time feels excessive, it can trigger feelings of loneliness, frustration, and even resentment, especially when it seems to encroach on family time and connection. Drawing from both personal experience and their coaching expertise, Hindi and Chayale explore why common responses—like pleading, controlling, or personalizing the issue—often backfire, and instead, they offer a radically different approach. They discuss the power of shifting focus away from frustration and toward creating an inviting, engaging presence that naturally draws connection, rather than forcing it. With their signature warmth and wisdom, the hosts emphasize the importance of stepping out of a fear-based, control-driven mindset and into one of trust, empowerment, and creativity. They unpack the concept of being "the most interesting woman in the room" and explain how to cultivate an energy that makes space for a husband to engage—without pressure or resentment. Whether it's at the dinner table, in the bedroom, or during everyday interactions, this episode is a must-listen for women seeking to shift their dynamic from conflict to connection, using practical insights grounded in Torah principles and the beauty of feminine influence.

In this heartfelt and practical episode of Your Relationshift, co-hosts Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik explore the transformative power of deep listening in relationships. Drawing from Torah principles and personal experiences, they unpack what it truly means to listen—not just with our ears, but with our presence, patience, and openness. Through honest role-playing and relatable anecdotes, they reveal how internal chatter, pre-existing beliefs, and even well-intentioned reactions can block true connection. Instead, they offer insight into how a quiet, receptive stance—one that suspends judgment and ego—can pave the way for emotional intimacy and genuine understanding. The episode challenges listeners to reflect on their own listening habits and introduces deep listening not just as a skill, but as a way of being. From interactions with a spouse to exchanges with children or friends, the hosts emphasize that receptivity and space-making are core aspects of feminine energy and authentic connection. Whether you’ve struggled with feeling unheard or are realizing how often you interrupt, this conversation offers compassionate guidance and tangible steps toward creating more meaningful, grounded relationships—one quiet moment at a time.

In this thoughtful and deeply relatable episode of Your Relationshift, co-hosts Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik unpack the emotional rollercoaster that often follows the intensity of Pesach and introduce powerful tools for navigating the quieter, introspective period of Sefiras HaOmer. Drawing from Torah wisdom and therapeutic insights, they explore the concept of regulation as a prerequisite for real self-awareness and growth. With humor, honesty, and vulnerability, they dive into what it means to transition out of survival mode and into a space where intentionality and ownership become possible. From acknowledging how dysregulation affects our ability to be present, to recognizing that sometimes the first step is simply being gentle with ourselves, this episode offers both comfort and clarity. Listeners are introduced to practical and memorable tools like the acronyms STOP, HALT, and PASTA—each offering a framework for pausing, checking in, and moving forward with compassion and purpose. Whether it's stepping into the bathroom for a moment of calm or realizing that your anger might just be hunger in disguise, Hindi and Chayale normalize the messiness of the human experience while pointing the way to growth rooted in self-honesty and divine connection. Perfect for anyone feeling overwhelmed or seeking alignment after Yom Tov, this episode is a soothing and empowering guide for getting back in the driver’s seat of your emotional and spiritual life.