In this powerful episode of Your Relationshift, Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik tackle a deeply relatable challenge sent in by a listener: what happens when your husband seems more emotionally connected to his mother and sisters than to you? With compassion, honesty, and wisdom drawn from Torah and Chassidic teachings, they explore the emotional undercurrents of feeling sidelined in marriage, the pain it can trigger, and how this dynamic can shake a woman’s sense of value and connection. They reflect on the symbolic meaning of breaking the glass under the chuppah, highlighting the transition a man undergoes from being a receiver in his family of origin to becoming a mashpia (giver) in his new home. Rather than offering blame or simple fixes, Hindi and Chayale empower listeners to view these situations through the lens of growth, abundance, and self-awareness. They discuss how perception—how we choose to receive and interpret a mother-in-law’s presence—can shift an entire dynamic. They introduce practical tools like trusting the connection, reinforcing your essential value, and cultivating respect for the mitzvah of kibud av v’eim (honoring parents). This episode is a heartfelt invitation to look inward, embrace personal agency, and transform a place of pain into an opportunity for deepening both marriage and self.

In this candid episode of Hard Pass, Hindi and Chayale take on the oft-repeated advice: “Don’t go to sleep angry.” While the phrase may sound romantic or wise, the hosts explain why this kind of black-and-white thinking can actually backfire in real relationships. Drawing from both personal experience and the emotional realities of marriage, they reveal how forcing a resolution in the heat of exhaustion can lead to more frustration, not connection. Instead, Hindi and Chayale advocate for emotional honesty, self-awareness, and—most importantly—rest. They discuss the importance of giving yourself and your partner the space to process, recalibrate, and return to a conversation with greater clarity. With their signature blend of empathy and Torah-rooted wisdom, this episode is a gentle permission slip to press pause, go to sleep, and try again with a clearer heart and mind.

As Rosh Hashanah approaches, co-hosts Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik dive deep into the core relationships that shape our connection with Hashem—king and subject, parent and child, and husband and wife. Through the lens of Chassidus and their own lived experiences, they explore the theme of surrender, focusing especially on the idea of Hashem as our King. Drawing on powerful imagery from the lives of Dovid HaMelech and Shaul HaMelech, they reflect on how awe, humility, and trust are essential ingredients for entering the New Year with clarity and purpose. The discussion also touches on the deeper emotional and somatic practices that can help us internalize these spiritual concepts—like bowing in prayer or opening our hands in tefillah—as ways of embodying surrender and acceptance. In a world preoccupied with self-definition and control, this conversation brings a refreshing shift: embracing the freedom and peace that comes from letting go and trusting fully in Hashem. The co-hosts reflect on how Rosh Hashanah is a time not just for teshuvah or repair, but for affirming the most essential relationship of all—our identity as part of Hashem. With themes of divine design, feminine identity, and emotional surrender threaded throughout, this episode offers a soulful roadmap for preparing your mind and heart for the Yamim Noraim. Whether you're feeling spiritually ready or emotionally distant, this heartfelt discussion will help you realign and reconnect with the deeper meaning of the High Holidays.

In this heartfelt and practical episode of Your Relationshift, co-hosts Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik explore the transformative power of deep listening in relationships. Drawing from Torah principles and personal experiences, they unpack what it truly means to listen—not just with our ears, but with our presence, patience, and openness. Through honest role-playing and relatable anecdotes, they reveal how internal chatter, pre-existing beliefs, and even well-intentioned reactions can block true connection. Instead, they offer insight into how a quiet, receptive stance—one that suspends judgment and ego—can pave the way for emotional intimacy and genuine understanding. The episode challenges listeners to reflect on their own listening habits and introduces deep listening not just as a skill, but as a way of being. From interactions with a spouse to exchanges with children or friends, the hosts emphasize that receptivity and space-making are core aspects of feminine energy and authentic connection. Whether you’ve struggled with feeling unheard or are realizing how often you interrupt, this conversation offers compassionate guidance and tangible steps toward creating more meaningful, grounded relationships—one quiet moment at a time.

Chayale sits down with her sister-in-law and fellow educator Mushka Kesselman as an exclusive RelationShift interview to explore the complex dynamic that arises when spouses are not aligned in their religious or Chassidic values. Drawing from her own experience as a teacher and coach, Mushka shares powerful principles that help women navigate the pain and confusion of spiritual disconnect in marriage — without judgment, blame, or pressure. The conversation emphasizes the importance of emotional space, self-responsibility, and the transformative impact of focusing on one’s own joy and connection in Yiddishkeit. Together, they delve into what it really means to support a spouse without controlling them, how Shalom Bayis is not just a value but a Torah mandate, and why honoring each other’s spiritual autonomy creates room for true connection and growth. With relatable examples, including how to handle Pesach standards or fears around chinuch when values differ, this episode offers both clarity and comfort to anyone feeling spiritually alone in their marriage. Whether you're in that space yourself or supporting someone who is, this conversation is an empowering reminder that peace, love, and divine purpose are still fully possible — even when you're not on the same page.

In this special bonus episode of Your Relationshift, we’re invited into the heart of Chayale Tzukernik’s “Dating for Success” workshop, where guest speaker Hindi Kalmenson delivers an intimate, powerful session titled “How to Glow from Within.” This solo workshop, offered as part of Chayale’s transformative four-week dating course, dives into the inner work that enables women to show up to relationships with confidence, openness, and a deep connection to their essential selves. Hindi gently unpacks the internal barriers many women encounter while dating, such as fear, defensiveness, or self-doubt, and reframes them as coping mechanisms rooted in beliefs that no longer serve us. Through vivid examples, she demonstrates how self-awareness and belief work can lead to more feminine, receptive energy in relationships, helping women create genuine connection. At the heart of the conversation are two divine attributes from Chassidic teachings: Malchus (royalty) and Hod (splendor/humility), which Hindi translates into a practical blueprint for embodying inner dignity and joyful vulnerability. She encourages listeners to explore their essential wholeness and align with what truly brings them joy, reminding us that femininity is not just about how we look but about the energy we carry. Whether it’s receiving a compliment with grace, allowing someone to help with your suitcase, or expressing your desires without shame, each moment becomes an opportunity to live from a place of strength and softness. Hindi offers real-world tools for accessing these qualities: contemplating your soul’s inherent worth, identifying your inner resources, and practicing self-affirming thoughts to counter old narratives. Throughout the session, listeners are gently called to embody the kind of feminine energy that doesn’t need to be earned or performed; it’s already within. With occasional banter and supportive reflection from Chayale, the episode offers a masterclass in showing up to dating (and life) with grace, confidence, and spiritual alignment. Whether you're navigating the world of dating or simply seeking to deepen your self-worth, this episode offers a roadmap to becoming more open, receptive, and radiant, inside and out.

In this special episode of the Your Relationshift podcast, Hindi Kalmenson sits down with Menucha Schochet, a beloved teacher of Chassidus, high school educator, and fellow Relationshift coach. Together, they explore the powerful intersection between Tanya study and relationship coaching, uncovering how the principles of Chassidus enhance personal growth and connection. Menucha shares her journey from being a passionate teacher of Tanya to discovering how concepts like respect, compassion, and divine design profoundly deepen both her relationships with others and her service to Hashem. Through heartfelt reflections, she explains how learning to truly “see” another person, hold space without judgment, and embrace life’s challenges as part of Hashem’s loving design transforms not only our relationships but our inner world. Listeners will be inspired by Menucha’s vivid storytelling, including her favorite medrashim, personal teaching experiences, and insights from coaching sessions. She highlights the transformative power of concepts like yirah (respect and awe), rachamim (compassion), and authentic ownership, showing how these principles create deeper connection in marriage, with students, and in one’s spiritual journey. With warmth, humor, and vulnerability, this conversation offers practical wisdom for embracing life’s “jagged stones,” uncovering hidden treasures in our struggles, and ultimately building a more joyful and authentic relationship with Hashem and the people we love.

In this profound and honest episode of Your Relationshift, co-hosts Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik explore the heavy and often hidden burden of expectations in our personal lives and relationships. With clarity and compassion, they unpack how subconscious beliefs about how things should be—whether in marriage, parenting, or self-image—can lead to deep frustration and disappointment. Drawing from Torah and Tanya, the hosts illuminate the emotional and spiritual toll of unrealistic standards and offer a liberating shift: embracing human imperfection with humility and self-acceptance. Through powerful anecdotes and relatable scenarios, Hindi and Chayale challenge listeners to confront the "God complex"—the pressure to control, perfect, and perform—and instead cultivate inner peace by recognizing what is truly within our power. They offer thoughtful strategies to identify, examine, and release unrealistic expectations, creating space for authentic connection and growth. This episode is a compassionate call to reimagine what it means to be enough, to make room for real life, and to live with more gentleness—toward ourselves and those we love.

In this thoughtful and deeply relatable episode of Your Relationshift, co-hosts Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik unpack the emotional rollercoaster that often follows the intensity of Pesach and introduce powerful tools for navigating the quieter, introspective period of Sefiras HaOmer. Drawing from Torah wisdom and therapeutic insights, they explore the concept of regulation as a prerequisite for real self-awareness and growth. With humor, honesty, and vulnerability, they dive into what it means to transition out of survival mode and into a space where intentionality and ownership become possible. From acknowledging how dysregulation affects our ability to be present, to recognizing that sometimes the first step is simply being gentle with ourselves, this episode offers both comfort and clarity. Listeners are introduced to practical and memorable tools like the acronyms STOP, HALT, and PASTA—each offering a framework for pausing, checking in, and moving forward with compassion and purpose. Whether it's stepping into the bathroom for a moment of calm or realizing that your anger might just be hunger in disguise, Hindi and Chayale normalize the messiness of the human experience while pointing the way to growth rooted in self-honesty and divine connection. Perfect for anyone feeling overwhelmed or seeking alignment after Yom Tov, this episode is a soothing and empowering guide for getting back in the driver’s seat of your emotional and spiritual life.

In this powerful solo bonus episode for Shavuos, Hindi Kalmenson shares a heartfelt workshop exploring the deeper spiritual themes of the Yom Tov and their relevance to our inner lives and relationships. Drawing from Torah insights and Chassidic teachings, she weaves together the core ideas of Torah, harvest, and the story of Rus—all centered around the mystical concept of “the third way.” Hindi explains how the number three represents not just peace and harmony, but the divine purpose of creation: the synthesis of opposites to birth something entirely new. Whether it’s the giving of the Torah, the miraculous partnership behind the harvest, or the selfless love between Rus and Boaz, each points to the possibility of unity through humility and self-awareness. Hindi gently guides listeners toward applying this concept in real life—starting with the necessity of owning one’s own value. Before connection or giving can happen in a relationship, she explains, we must first become whole within ourselves. Through vivid metaphors and relatable examples (like the deeper meaning behind making supper), Hindi illustrates how true relationships—whether with a spouse, a child, or Hashem—are born not from obligation or ego, but from mutual recognition and sacred space. This episode is both a spiritual preparation for Shavuos and a timeless roadmap for building meaningful relationships from a place of wholeness and divine purpose.