It's crazy what a 180 we need to go through to go from dating to marriage.  Dating: "Can this guy make me happy?" Marriage: "It's not his job to make me happy... I make MYSELF happy!" Is this a cop-out? Is this even possible? And what's the point of getting married if he's not going to make me happy? Check out this week's replay for my two episodes all about the tool of Staying In Your Lane. It's one of the best things you can do for your marriage and your own happiness. Resources from this week's episode: The How to Glow Coaching Program Jewish Money Matters podcast on Apple Podcasts and Spotify

This week I'm teaching you how to manage when you are TIRED. When you're up a lot at night, or have a very schleppy life-situation, or an extremely physically demanding job. Often we make the mistake of thinking that thought work doesn't apply to our physical experience. I've seen time and time again that this is not true. Our thoughts about our discomfort create the true bulk of our experience. Whatever your situation, I invite you to listen this week to hear... - How to stop resisting and adding drama to physically demanding parts of your life - The real benefits you can gain when you embrace physical discomfort - How to get out of "energy scarcity" -- when you're worried about spending energy now because you might not have it later - How to trust yourself to make decisions about how to take care of your body Join us next month in my membership program, How to Glow, and bring any of your questions about this topic or others to our live coaching calls! kaylalevin.com/coaching Mentioned in this episode: Ellen Langer Study Ellen Langer books

Rachel Glasser kept seeing comments on the Frum Girl Problems Facebook group about mother-in-law dynamics that were directly addressed in the research she had done about this relationship, so she decided to share her findings. I saw her post and immediately invited her onto the podcast. I loved our conversation. Having gone through all the major studies about in-law relationships in the last sixty years, Rachel has so much to share about the most common pitfalls in these relationships, the advantages or working on the relationship, and specific ways we can go about this. What was surprising to you about what Rachel had to share?

Have your attempts to evaluate your marriage ever ended in a spin-out of anxiety or negativity? If so, there's a simple and straightforward solution. Generating Love Confidence before moving into any troubleshooting will allow you to troubleshoot from an empowered and clear space. Listen to this week's episode to learn: How to generate more confidence in your marriage How to evaluate your marriage without freaking out How to feel good about your marriage without putting blinders on about what could be fixed H/T to my business coach Stacey Boehman for the foundation of this concept, which I adjusted from business to marriage. Make sure you're on my email list for goodies, workbooks, and news about upcoming coaching opportunities! www.firstyearmarried.com

This week we are in our second of the four self-mastery skills that will move us into Glow energy! A few updates before we get started The Modern Jewish Girl podcast is awesome! If you know anyone exploring Judaism, send them her way! Lots of questions coming in about How to Glow! I'm sharing some details with you about what it will look like inside: We will have a monthly Topic Call and two Q&A calls where you can get coached live or submit questions in advance. I'm also offering my three signature courses inside: Time Management, Foundations, and the First Year Married Online Course.  How to Glow is open for membership from November 28-30.  Today's skill is Being in Your Lane. It's simple and you can use it all the time. First I want you to notice what happens when you get busy with "his lane"--what he's doing, what you think he SHOULD be doing, and all those things. Where does it take you? How do you show up? How do you feel? Are you effective now? Does it work? No! Resisting and judging doesn't really change what's happening. It's not effective. What do you get to experience when you're in your lane? Focused on your goals, your power, your possibilities... This is so much more fun! And more effective--we are engaged in an area where we can make changes Choose what you want to create with the reality or situation you are in Want more support? Join us inside How to Glow to get all your coaching questions answered.

Lots of announcements this week but I'm also really excited to share this skill with you.  BIG NEWS! #1: The podcast name is changing -- so keep your eyes out next week for How to Glow! This new name reflects a change in my focus--to serve Jewish married women of all ages and stages. #2: The How to Glow Membership coaching program is launching this Chanukah! Coaching is going to become available to more Jewish women--women with busy lives, busy budgets, and who deserve coaching support more than anyone! Make sure to get on the waitlist to hear when doors open for registration at firstyearmarried.com/coaching Managing your emotions is way bigger than you might realize. When you can manage your emotions you can get yourself to do whatever you need to.  It's the first of the four fundamental self-mastery skills that really allow you to live the life you want. (Stay tuned for the next three episodes to hear the remaining skills!) The only reason we don't accomplish our goals is that we aren't willing to feel a feeling. Here's a simple process to work on managing your emotions: 1. Pick ONE specific goal you have 2. Think about where you aren't following through right now 3. Identify what emotion you'd have to feel if you were to follow through anyway (it will be a negative emotion) 4. Commit to feeling that feeling for three seconds at a time Give it a try and let me know how it goes! Want some coaching to help you with this tool? Make sure you're on the waitlist for the How to Glow membership so you can join us this Chanukah!