We talk a lot about the challenges that can come up with connecting to your spouse, especially as a newlywed. However, for some of us, the initial stressors of married life come from external factors. Bari Mitzmann came on this week to share her story about her first year of marriage and the health struggles she dealt with right as they were getting married. Bari is a great example of someone who embraces the “do-over.” Bio: Bari Mitzmann is a wife, mother and content creator living in Nevada. Her content on her Instagram @barianna and the Woman of Valor Podcast is geared toward finding meaning and inspiration in every day as well as breaking stigmas tied toward mental and chronic illness. Sources: Instagram: @barianna Website: https://barianna.com Podcast: Woman of Valor

UPDATE: How to Glow is now open for registration--but only for THREE DAYS! Make sure you get your spot at kaylalevin.com/coaching Can't wait to see you inside!! --- This is a perfect continuation of the Real Goals podcast. Last week I discussed how we can use goals as a way of beating ourselves up or invalidating everything between here and there… Having your back means that no matter what, you don’t use your failures to condemn or hate yourself. In this episode you will learn: Why we SHOULD call them failures Why you want to embrace your failures How to love yourself and be proud of yourself when you fail big How to dream big without burnout How to create a goal that gets you really excited How to break the habit of beating yourself up in an attempt to be better Have an audacious goal you want to commit to loving yourself through? I'd love to help you do this work--join us inside How to Glow and let's get to it!

This week we go from our introspection and accounting energy (last week’s podcast) into the “fresh notebook” energy of Elul. It’s time to set our goals, and I challenge you to do this from “big-dream” energy, not “what I think I can get” energy. Download your episode workbook here: firstyearmarried.com/ep-119-elul-your-marriage-part-2-dreams-and-connection/ In this week’s podcast you’ll learn How to set goals for what you REALLY want in your marriage How to get out of victim or blame mode and make effective changes in your marriage How to dream bigger without fear that you can’t have what you really want Also, a reminder! The Newlywed mastermind is opening for registration SOON! Make sure you're on the wait list! firstyearmarried.com/coaching/

This week we are in our second of the four self-mastery skills that will move us into Glow energy! A few updates before we get started The Modern Jewish Girl podcast is awesome! If you know anyone exploring Judaism, send them her way! Lots of questions coming in about How to Glow! I'm sharing some details with you about what it will look like inside: We will have a monthly Topic Call and two Q&A calls where you can get coached live or submit questions in advance. I'm also offering my three signature courses inside: Time Management, Foundations, and the First Year Married Online Course.  How to Glow is open for membership from November 28-30.  Today's skill is Being in Your Lane. It's simple and you can use it all the time. First I want you to notice what happens when you get busy with "his lane"--what he's doing, what you think he SHOULD be doing, and all those things. Where does it take you? How do you show up? How do you feel? Are you effective now? Does it work? No! Resisting and judging doesn't really change what's happening. It's not effective. What do you get to experience when you're in your lane? Focused on your goals, your power, your possibilities... This is so much more fun! And more effective--we are engaged in an area where we can make changes Choose what you want to create with the reality or situation you are in Want more support? Join us inside How to Glow to get all your coaching questions answered.

Lots of announcements this week but I'm also really excited to share this skill with you.  BIG NEWS! #1: The podcast name is changing -- so keep your eyes out next week for How to Glow! This new name reflects a change in my focus--to serve Jewish married women of all ages and stages. #2: The How to Glow Membership coaching program is launching this Chanukah! Coaching is going to become available to more Jewish women--women with busy lives, busy budgets, and who deserve coaching support more than anyone! Make sure to get on the waitlist to hear when doors open for registration at firstyearmarried.com/coaching Managing your emotions is way bigger than you might realize. When you can manage your emotions you can get yourself to do whatever you need to.  It's the first of the four fundamental self-mastery skills that really allow you to live the life you want. (Stay tuned for the next three episodes to hear the remaining skills!) The only reason we don't accomplish our goals is that we aren't willing to feel a feeling. Here's a simple process to work on managing your emotions: 1. Pick ONE specific goal you have 2. Think about where you aren't following through right now 3. Identify what emotion you'd have to feel if you were to follow through anyway (it will be a negative emotion) 4. Commit to feeling that feeling for three seconds at a time Give it a try and let me know how it goes! Want some coaching to help you with this tool? Make sure you're on the waitlist for the How to Glow membership so you can join us this Chanukah!

Registration is open now for my Fall Mastermind. Register here to grab your spot! If you have any questions you can book a consult here. Today I'm sharing my vision of what is possible for us when we are dedicated to our marriages. Come along with me to hear and get inspired by the ripple effects of this one relationship being on solid, loving ground. Even beyond the value of being happy and confident in your marriage, I'll show you how your marriage effects your personal growth your parenting (even if you don't have kids yet) your emotional well-being the technical running of your life Sometimes the most valuable thing we can do is step back and take the long view, regain clarity, and then step back in.