Popular Shows by Kayla Levin קיילה לווין
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Ep. 83 - Home Organization Guru - Shira Gill
Ep. 83 - Home Organization Guru - Shira Gill
Jul 26, 2020
49:08
Professional organizer/stylist Shira Gill talks about how to hack the thinking of a tidy person, what simple system she uses with all her clients to go from overwhelming mess to styled space, and how she and her husband communicate about their different tidiness-styles. This episode is PACKED with tips and amazing ideas. Enjoy! Follow Shira: www.ShiraGill.com instagram.com/shiragill
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Ep. 84 - Self Care Guru Krystal Conner
Ep. 84 - Self Care Guru Krystal Conner
Aug 4, 2020
46:32
This week I have Krystal Conner on to talk to us about self care. Krystal takes what can sometimes seem like an undefined, unattainable idea and makes it super clear and actionable. I loved this conversation and I know you will, too! Website: https://www.krystalconner.com/ Instagram: @drkrystalconner
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Ep. 85 - Do-Over Guru Bari Mitzmann
Ep. 85 - Do-Over Guru Bari Mitzmann
Aug 11, 2020
46:15
We talk a lot about the challenges that can come up with connecting to your spouse, especially as a newlywed. However, for some of us, the initial stressors of married life come from external factors. Bari Mitzmann came on this week to share her story about her first year of marriage and the health struggles she dealt with right as they were getting married. Bari is a great example of someone who embraces the “do-over.” Bio: Bari Mitzmann is a wife, mother and content creator living in Nevada. Her content on her Instagram @barianna and the Woman of Valor Podcast is geared toward finding meaning and inspiration in every day as well as breaking stigmas tied toward mental and chronic illness. Sources: Instagram: @barianna Website: https://barianna.com Podcast: Woman of Valor
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Ep. 86 - Pre & Post Pregnancy Guru - Lauren Ohayon
Ep. 86 - Pre & Post Pregnancy Guru - Lauren Ohayon
Aug 17, 2020
43:58
This week I'm so excited to bring you Lauren Ohayon of the popular Restore Your Core and One Strong Mama programs. Lauren is a body expert who guides her clients to prepare for healthy births and recovery. I asked Lauren to come on and share with us, since I've had so many questions about preparing for and recovering from a first pregnancy. Whatever type of birth you are aiming for, I just love how Lauren describes how the body works and functions in a way that is totally understandable and holistic. We morphed from interview to conversation, but I think you'll really enjoy eavesdropping on that so I included our conversation on our brain's power over our bodies (so if pregnancy isn't on your radar you may want to skip ahead to about 2/3 through the episode to hear this). Sources from this episode: Restore Your Core One Strong Mama @thelaurenohayon on Instagram
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Ep. 87 - Pre & Post Pregnancy Guru - Lauren Ohayon Part 2
Ep. 87 - Pre & Post Pregnancy Guru - Lauren Ohayon Part 2
Aug 24, 2020
30:06
Last week we covered everything pre-and-during pregnancy. On this week's episode, Lauren Ohayon is answering questions about post-partum recovery and what myths we need to break about our bodies and what fitness is all about to take the best care of our bodies and ourselves. Sources from this episode: Restore Your Core One Strong Mama @thelaurenohayon on Instagram
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Ep. 88 - Self-Regulation Guru - Chava Neiditch
Ep. 88 - Self-Regulation Guru - Chava Neiditch
Aug 30, 2020
1:01:03
LADIES I have such a treat for you this week! This conversation is such a total shift from what we normally talk about and SO IMPORTANT! I often get questions from women about how being tired/pregnant/sick/hormonal fits into thought work. This conversation, with occupational therapist/homeschooling supermom Chava Neiditch goes deep into our own individual profiles of what we need to stay regulated, balanced, and centered and how we all vary so much from one another. This is a fabulous episode if you're a parent but a must listen if you're a human being. Enjoy!
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Ep. 89 - Your Relationship With Yourself
Ep. 89 - Your Relationship With Yourself
Sep 7, 2020
24:08
Your relationship with yourself is nothing more than the sum total of your thoughts about yourself. It’s not more profound. It’s not more literal. And, despite popular belief, finding out WHY you have negative opinions of yourself is not always necessary. In fact, it can be counterproductive when this “research” into our thinking inadvertently reinforces the opinion. Wanna know the good news? If it's all about your thoughts, you can change them. Listen this week to find out how. Other episodes on this topic: First Year Married: Shame Won't Make You a Better Wife The Life Coach School Podcast
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Ep. 90 - Your Relationship With Your Husband
Ep. 90 - Your Relationship With Your Husband
Sep 13, 2020
14:40
So many times, we go outside of ourselves for answers that are ours to decide. We ask, "how is my relationship doing?" and then wait, looking for clues to tell us. But if a relationship is, at its essence, just the thoughts you have about a person and your connection... Then you're the one who gets to pick how it's doing. What do you want to choose to think on purpose about your marriage? This week I'll walk you through this exercise.
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Ep. 91 - Your Relationship With Others
Ep. 91 - Your Relationship With Others
Sep 23, 2020
20:14
This week we're diving into the idea of your relationship with Others--this can be the closer relationships like parents, siblings, and in-laws, or more distant relationships like coworkers or neighbors. We usually run a paradox in our minds: "I wish you were less like you" and "I want us to have an authentic relationship." But an authentic relationship means we accept the other person AS THEY ARE. Your brain wants to believe that if they changed you'd feel better. But the reality is, if you stopped resisting them as they are, you would IMMEDIATELY feel better. Crazy, no? So join us this week as we talk about dropping the resistance, allowing ourselves to stop trying to please everyone else and show up in an authentic way,
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Ep. 92 - My Goals for the New Year
Ep. 92 - My Goals for the New Year
Sep 29, 2020
23:29
In this episode I'm sharing my somewhat unusual take on new year's resolutions. Whether you celebrate now or in January (or heck whenever you feel like it), this episode will help you think about your goals in a way that will be more compelling and more sustainable than the goals you've tried before. Join the mailing list at www.firstyearmarried.com Or you can apply here for 1:1 coaching
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Ep. 93 - Choosing Up! with FYM Book Club Author Ilana Kendal
Ep. 93 - Choosing Up! with FYM Book Club Author Ilana Kendal
Oct 6, 2020
37:23
Hi friends! I wasn't planning to post my Zoom conversation with Ilana last week onto the podcast, but it was just so darn good that I had to! Enjoy the inspiration from Ilana Kendal who will teach you on this episode about how to use storytelling to channel personal growth, plus you'll get a peek into our very first FYM book club book. It's fun, we had fun, and I'm excited to share it with you. We'll be having Ilana back on in early December to answer your questions about the book, and I'll be sharing my thoughts as I work my way through her book. You can buy Choosing Up! from www.mosaicapress.com with the code FYM10 for 10% off Or find the book on Amazon
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Ep. 94 - Newlywed Lessons (for Every Stage) with Alison Armstrong - Part 1
Ep. 94 - Newlywed Lessons (for Every Stage) with Alison Armstrong - Part 1
Oct 14, 2020
31:45
WHOOPEE! One of my absolute favorite humans, teachers, thought leaders, the marvelous Alison Armstrong, is back on the podcast this week!! We talked about what newlyweds come up against--the frustrations and struggles--and how they reappear at each stage along the line. Mainly, you'll learn about expectations: how they change when we get married (for ourselves and for our partners) and how we often realize they're there a little too late. I know you'll enjoy this episode so much! LEARN MORE: Alison Armstrong's programs can be found at her website UnderstandMen.com I strongly recommend her two books, Keys to the Kingdom and The Queen's Code Learn more about Kayla's upcoming Mastermind Group Program and 1:1 Coaching at FirstYearMarried.com (not just for newlyweds!) To hear my previous interview with Alison, listen to Episodes 50 and Episode 51
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Ep. 95 - What Motivates Your Husband with Alison Armstrong - Part 2
Ep. 95 - What Motivates Your Husband with Alison Armstrong - Part 2
Oct 26, 2020
33:10
Don't miss Part 2 of my interview with Alison Armstrong! Here are a few gems she shares: Your husband ACCEPTS YOU FULLY (and what that actually mean) Your husband manages his energy and motivation differently than you do. How men change throughout their development, and how we change, too (but differently) How to communicate with your husband so that he'll WANT to help LEARN MORE: Alison Armstrong's programs can be found at her website UnderstandMen.com I strongly recommend her two books, Keys to the Kingdom and The Queen's Code Alison refers to our natural time schedules and the website thepowerofwhenquiz.com Learn more about coaching with Kayla at FirstYearMarried.com (not just for newlyweds!) To hear my previous interview with Alison, listen to Episodes 50 and Episode 51
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Ep. 96 - Grief & When It Won't Be Getting Better
Ep. 96 - Grief & When It Won't Be Getting Better
Nov 8, 2020
20:57
On the two year anniversary of my "diaversary" - the date of my type 1 diabetes diagnosis - I wanted to talk about how we use thought work when we can't improve a situation. We focus a lot on what we can change--SO MUCH more is in our power than we realize. But sometimes it's not in our control. What do we do with that? www.firstyearmarried.com
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Ep. 97 - When Your Husband Skips Minyan
Ep. 97 - When Your Husband Skips Minyan
Nov 19, 2020
28:39
(Heads up: I'm calling this one a #Jewsode because it is PARTICULARLY specific to the religious Jewish world. All are welcome to listen and apply as you like, of course, but since the content is inherently about Jewish life, this episode may be less generally applicable than usual.) I've had several requests, especially during COVID, to talk about husbands who are skipping minyan (prayers), not going to shul or praying at all, or otherwise not doing what you expected in the spiritual realm. In this episode, I'm taking you through a simple exercise to help you identify why you're feeling triggered by his behavior and get some space so you aren't so reactive. So grab some paper :) At the end of the episode, I also discuss the concept of a woman's olam haba being tied up in her husband's learning and how to not let that idea make you go totally bonkers when he slacks off, and also how to pursue your values in a way that's truly effective and doesn't generate all this stress and anxiety. ** My husband pointed out that I didn't translate all the words! So here's your glossary (and some helpful articles) if you need it. minyan - prayer quorum daven - pray olam haba - the world to come Shacharis (or Shacharit) - morning prayer
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Ep. 98 - Exercise Guru Beatie Deutsch, Olympic Candidate
Ep. 98 - Exercise Guru Beatie Deutsch, Olympic Candidate
Nov 26, 2020
34:35
Wife, mom of five, and... Olympic marathon candidate?! Beatie is going to blow your mind with her story about how she took up running to get herself back to being active and ended up as a professional runner for Israel and a candidate for the Tokyo Olympics. Not only is her journey incredible, but she speaks from such a real place about the struggle of taking care of yourself, especially while growing a family, and the value of exercise for each person--marathon runner or not! She is such an amazing example of tuning into what feeds her deeply and making space for it in her life. And look where that took her! So whether you're looking for general inspiration for self care or to rethink your approach to exercise, make sure you check out this episode. You can find Beatie on Instagram @marathonmother and Facebook And don't forget to subscribe to this podcast so you can catch each new episode! Enjoy!
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Ep. 99 - How to Do a Marriage Check-In
Ep. 99 - How to Do a Marriage Check-In
Dec 3, 2020
18:14
As we wrap up 2020 I wanted to share a simple tool that can have a profound impact on how you experience your marriage: the Marriage Check-In. Now, there are ways in which just generally thinking about our marriages can actually lead us unintentionally into negativity and worry. A structured process allows us to guide our brains to help us to think creatively and proactively so we find answers that will give us the biggest real-life benefit. To get the PDF, go to www.FirstYearMarried.com and join the email list. You'll get it in your inbox! Enjoy! Kayla
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Ep. 102 - Inlaws, COVID, and Playground Fights
Ep. 102 - Inlaws, COVID, and Playground Fights
Dec 31, 2020
17:47
This week I'm addressing a really common situation I've heard from a surprising number of you! Dealing with EXTRA in-law time when your family is far away and you can't see them due to COVID. BUT even if that's not your highly-specific scenario, I want you to know that I'm also teaching a new tool that you will DEFINITELY want to use in your self-coaching! So don't miss this one. By the way, make sure you're on the email list. Really good stuff coming your way soon. You don't want to miss it. You can sign up at firstyearmarried.com
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Ep. 103 - Your Superhero Mission - Invisible Cape Part 2
Ep. 103 - Your Superhero Mission - Invisible Cape Part 2
Jan 10, 2021
18:18
What struggles are you dealing with that could actually be a non-issue? How do we find the mental obstacles we've created? When you set a compelling goal, your brain has a heyday. Lucky us, right? But what's awesome about that is it gives you a chance to see WHAT your brain has been offering you all the time. (It just gets louder.) So this week I'm taking you on a mini coaching session (workbook included at www.firstyearmarried.com on the podcast episode page) to find your obstacles, clarify your goal, and live the dream. Also... make sure you're on the wait list to find out when new coaching spots become available and new workshops are offered!
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Ep. 104 - Living the Dream
Ep. 104 - Living the Dream
Feb 4, 2021
26:01
This week we're talking about what the "dream" is in your marriage -- and why you might already be living it without even realizing it. Also, I ramble a lot. ...and use the phrase "pea in a cup" EXTENSIVELY -- but it's not like the kind at the doctor. Ennnnjoy! More stuff: www.firstyearmarried.com Mastermind (because obvs): www.firstyearmarried.com/coaching
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Ep. 105 - What You Want
Ep. 105 - What You Want
Feb 11, 2021
23:06
Hey friends! This one was a re-record thanks to technical difficulties but I think take two turned out even better for you! This week I'm talking about what you want. No, not the simple fluffy "I feel like a VANILLA latte" type of wanting, but what you REALLY want, what lights you up--and what to do if you don't even remember. But we're also going to take it another level deeper and learn a skill about using the language of "want" when you are working towards your goals--whether that's a career, family, educational, or spiritual goal. This one's gonna be a game changer for you. Want to take this work deeper? Make sure you're registered for the next Mastermind. Spots are limited. www.firstyearmarried.com/coaching
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Ep. 106 - Do It For You
Ep. 106 - Do It For You
Feb 24, 2021
16:57
[The Newlywed Mastermind is open for registration for the March cohort! What in the WORLD are you waiting for?! www.firstyearmarried.com/coaching] Who says coaching has to be complicated? In this week's episode, I'm sharing a quick tip for building more positivity, commitment, and love in your relationship... and you can do the entire thing yourself. Working on your marriage isn't always about the heavy lifting--sometimes, it's a small shift in mindset and a tiny detail. Also, coffee. (Photo by Takahiro Sakamoto on Unsplash)
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Ep. 107 - The Pesach Episode (Part 1)
Ep. 107 - The Pesach Episode (Part 1)
Mar 11, 2021
31:04
This week Noach and I are answering your questions about getting ready for Pesach (aka Passover)--as it applies to your marriage, extended relationships, and general sanity. Enjoy! If you're looking for more support, registration is open for a few more days for the Newlywed Mastermind. Get details and register here: firstyearmarried.com/coaching
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Ep. 108 - The Pesach Episode (Part 2)
Ep. 108 - The Pesach Episode (Part 2)
Mar 14, 2021
30:30
Welcome back! For Part 2, Noach and I continue to share communication ideas and tools to help you have a happier Pesach. Make sure to join the mailing list to get updates and coaching tools at www.firstyearmarried.com Enjoy!
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Ep. 109 - Input, Output, and Silence
Ep. 109 - Input, Output, and Silence
Apr 7, 2021
26:07
This could be the most important episode you listen to. I’m sharing this week my journey, and that of my client, as we create more space for integration in a world that is so full of content. It wasn’t easy or comfortable. It was more profound and rewarding than either of us could have imagined. --- Book recommendation: Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport Homework: Create space for integration by choosing one task (ie laundry, dishes, driving to work) that you will do with no audio input. Allow your brain to come up with what you’ll be thinking about. Once you’ve listened, I’d love you to join the conversation. You can do that by emailing me at kayla @ firstyearmarried.com or going to https://anchor.fm/firstyearmarried to leave an audio note (click on where it says “message”--please keep audio notes under 1 minute so we can include them in a future episode!) I look forward to hearing from you! To make sure you are on the wait list for my next Mastermind group, go to firstyearmarried.com/coaching
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Ep. 110 - Confidence Isn't About You
Ep. 110 - Confidence Isn't About You
Apr 18, 2021
16:16
For a lot of my clients, preparing for Pesach meant getting ready to spend time in situations or with people where they just didn’t feel they could be themselves. They felt judged, self conscious, or just otherwise stifled. So I want to share with you a simple paradigm that will take you from insecure to confident. We’ll do this by examining what is really happening for us when we feel insecure, what artificial confidence is and why we do it, and how to create genuine, authentic confidence in any moment. (You’ll see you already do it a lot.) Make sure you’re on my wait list to take this work deeper with my next Mastermind group at www.firstyearmarried.com/coaching
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Ep. 111 - Watching Thoughts
Ep. 111 - Watching Thoughts
Apr 25, 2021
20:10
This week I'm sharing with you my thoughts about our thoughts--and how busy and attached we can get with them. (This is an advanced episode, so if you're new here I invite you to go back to some of the earlier episodes and revisit this one later.) To get on the interest list for my next round of group coaching, go to firstyearmarried.com/coaching
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Ep. 112 - Hair Covering & Sheitals with Elisheva Storch - Part 1
Ep. 112 - Hair Covering & Sheitals with Elisheva Storch - Part 1
May 2, 2021
26:36
Welcome to our #Jewsode - Elisheva Storch is our hair covering guru, discussing all about how Jewish women who have chosen to cover their hair can make the process more enjoyable, plus how to manage the world of sheitals (AKA wig) purchasing. Are you destined to hate your first wig? Is wig covering hard for everyone? How can we bring this mitzvah into our awareness and connection to Hashem? Elisheva has so much to share--enjoy! And make sure you are subscribed for part 2! Find Elisheva on Instagram at @elisheva wigs atlanta
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Ep. 113 - Hair Covering & Sheitals with Elisheva Storch - Part 2
Ep. 113 - Hair Covering & Sheitals with Elisheva Storch - Part 2
May 9, 2021
18:41
I have Elisheva Storch back again this week for part 2 about our conversation about hair covering and sheitals. This time we're talking about maintaining the wig, working with a stylist, and some common mistakes that many wig owners make. Elisheva's passion for this mitzvah really shines through and I love that she shares so generously with our audience! Here's the story of Charlene Aminoff, as referenced in the podcast You can find Elisheva on Instagram at @elisheva wigs atlanta Get on the mailing list for all the FYM fun: www.firstyearmarried.com
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Ep. 114 - What We Can Learn From Search Engines
Ep. 114 - What We Can Learn From Search Engines
May 15, 2021
12:04
Our brain is kind of like Google. We can ask it a question like, ‘does my boss like me?’ and it’ll spit back results - right? Wrong. No sirree. Big fat no. Our brain is NOT like Google. It gives us results to questions we didn’t even ask it. And those results can be terrifying sometimes (read: often). But once you understand how your brain’s search engine works, you can actually take control of it.
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Ep. 116 - Sticky Thoughts
Ep. 116 - Sticky Thoughts
Jun 13, 2021
21:26
Sometimes even when we know a thought is not serving us, we still can't let it go. I call these "sticky thoughts." This week I'm walking you through how you can work with even the stickiest thoughts and improve your happiness and love your life more. Interested in working with me? I have opened my schedule for private meetings for women considering joining the next group coaching program. Go to firstyearmarried.com/coaching to book your appointment.
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Ep. 117 - Elul Your Marriage
Ep. 117 - Elul Your Marriage
Aug 8, 2021
3:42
Chodesh tov! Listen this week to hear why Elul is the PERFECT time to introspect on your marriage. Join me for my month-long email program where I'll be helping you take stock, set goals, and get more perspective on your marriage: www.firstyearmarried.com and join the email list!
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Ep. 118 - EYM Part 1: Taking an Accounting
Ep. 118 - EYM Part 1: Taking an Accounting
Aug 12, 2021
10:50
We're going to be using everything we know about the month of Elul and introspecting and reflecting and GROWING to benefit our marriages. Join us by signing up for the email list at firstyearmarried.com -- I LOVE the workbooks I'm preparing for you all and can't wait to share them with you! If you haven't done my Marriage Check-In mini-workbook yet, that's the best place to start (totally FREE when you join the email list) and more marriage-enhancing goodies coming your way all month! Final thought: as you sign up, consider what helps you stay engaged and accountable. Whether that means you grab a buddy to do this together, get an accountability partner, repost to social as you go, or anything else you dream up. Download the workbook here.
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Ep. 119 - EYM Part 2: Dreams and Connection
Ep. 119 - EYM Part 2: Dreams and Connection
Aug 20, 2021
21:28
This week we go from our introspection and accounting energy (last week’s podcast) into the “fresh notebook” energy of Elul. It’s time to set our goals, and I challenge you to do this from “big-dream” energy, not “what I think I can get” energy. Download your episode workbook here: firstyearmarried.com/ep-119-elul-your-marriage-part-2-dreams-and-connection/ In this week’s podcast you’ll learn How to set goals for what you REALLY want in your marriage How to get out of victim or blame mode and make effective changes in your marriage How to dream bigger without fear that you can’t have what you really want Also, a reminder! The Newlywed mastermind is opening for registration SOON! Make sure you're on the wait list! firstyearmarried.com/coaching/
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Ep. 120 - EYM Part 3: Bringing It All Together
Ep. 120 - EYM Part 3: Bringing It All Together
Aug 26, 2021
17:21
Heads up! The Fall Newlywed Mastermind opens for registration on Sunday JUST for the people on the waitlist so make sure you’re signed up. We are now up to part THREE where we are bringing together our introspection work with our big dreams. Here are two concepts before we go into application mode. It’s important not to judge our result of how we’re showing up as a wife based on how our husband feels. That doesn’t mean we don’t get to be empathetic, intuitive, or compassionate. But when my goal is to make him happy, I’m trying to take control of something that is not mine to own. His feelings are his. It’s also helpful to remember that any work you’re doing, whether that’s these workbooks or reading marriage books or joining the Mastermind, is not for him. So it isn’t “unfair” that you’re working on your marriage and he’s not. You’re doing it for you. The best way to make change is to take one of your goals, find something specific you can do, and then cut it down to the smallest possible version. Want to be warmer to your husband? Look him in the eye and smile at him for two seconds when he arrives home from work. Choosing a habit that is easy to do means it will snowball. And then give yourself credit when you’ve completed it! What you’ll learn in this episode What it means to take too much responsibility Why making our husband happy can’t ultimately be our goal How to be ok with a husband who you think should feel “better” or act differently How to create habits Sources The Fall Mastermind Wait List Tiny Habits by BJ Fogg The Final Elul Your Marriage Workbook
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Ep. 121 - The Most Important Thing
Ep. 121 - The Most Important Thing
Sep 14, 2021
31:12
Registration is open now for my Fall Mastermind. Register here to grab your spot! If you have any questions you can book a consult here. Today I'm sharing my vision of what is possible for us when we are dedicated to our marriages. Come along with me to hear and get inspired by the ripple effects of this one relationship being on solid, loving ground. Even beyond the value of being happy and confident in your marriage, I'll show you how your marriage effects your personal growth your parenting (even if you don't have kids yet) your emotional well-being the technical running of your life Sometimes the most valuable thing we can do is step back and take the long view, regain clarity, and then step back in.
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Ep. 122 - How to Get More Done (with Less Overwhelm)
Ep. 122 - How to Get More Done (with Less Overwhelm)
Oct 5, 2021
24:56
Updates: First 5 Mastermind registration closes soon! Book a consult call here to learn more. Wednesdays at 2 PM Eastern. Another group for women married longer is forming as well. Email me at [email protected] to join the wait list. Coming off the whirlwind of Jewish holidays, I feel like everyone is talking about taking things off your to-do list. I won't be doing that. I'd like to talk about making your to-do list easier. The mistake we make (and I have a long Shabbos prep saga to share the idea) is that we are constantly shifting between decision making and execution. Instead of giving ourselves the chance to move into flow and get to work on a task, we question the task, reevaluate it, and often change tracks midway. This week I'll be teaching you a simple tool to get more done with less time, simplifying your life--which I figure is one of the best ways to achieve a happy marriage. In this episode you will learn: How to have an efficient planning session even if you are super overwhelmed How to get more done with less mental energy burn How to experience flow even in less glamorous tasks How to stay in execution mode and follow the plan you set
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Ep. 123 - Love Confidence
Ep. 123 - Love Confidence
Oct 17, 2021
13:41
Have your attempts to evaluate your marriage ever ended in a spin-out of anxiety or negativity? If so, there's a simple and straightforward solution. Generating Love Confidence before moving into any troubleshooting will allow you to troubleshoot from an empowered and clear space. Listen to this week's episode to learn: How to generate more confidence in your marriage How to evaluate your marriage without freaking out How to feel good about your marriage without putting blinders on about what could be fixed H/T to my business coach Stacey Boehman for the foundation of this concept, which I adjusted from business to marriage. Make sure you're on my email list for goodies, workbooks, and news about upcoming coaching opportunities! www.firstyearmarried.com
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Ep. 124 - The Other Half of Life with Meredith Boggs (Part 1)
Ep. 124 - The Other Half of Life with Meredith Boggs (Part 1)
Oct 24, 2021
22:16
This week I’m chatting with Meredith Boggs about social media and our homes. Meredith is a speaker, writer, podcaster and blogger who focuses on "The Other Half" -- in her words, "real life that doesn’t make the highlight reel." On today’s call, we’re discussing… Simple changes that help you to be present with your husband and family when home Can we really “win” over the media giants that are trying to capture our attention? How do we get out of compare and despair when we see our peer’s lives online How to maintain real, authentic relationships in a social media world Please let us know what YOUR systems and strategies are! If you're on Instagram, tag Meredith @meredithwboggs and me @firstyearmarried so we can continue the discussion! More from Meredith: Instagram Website Podcast
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Ep. 125 - Social Media and Marriage - Meredith Boggs Interview Part 2
Ep. 125 - Social Media and Marriage - Meredith Boggs Interview Part 2
Oct 31, 2021
19:47
Meredith Boggs is back this week and we are continuing our discussion about social media and its impact on our marriages. Listen to hear: The value of giving ourselves some time in the morning before getting on our smartphones. Us busting the myth that anyone can “do it all” Why there is no shame in admitting you get help! How to stop the scroll once and for all Get Meredith’s Stop the Scroll download at her website.
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Ep. 126 - Managing Your Emotions
Ep. 126 - Managing Your Emotions
Nov 7, 2021
17:09
Lots of announcements this week but I'm also really excited to share this skill with you. BIG NEWS! #1: The podcast name is changing -- so keep your eyes out next week for How to Glow! This new name reflects a change in my focus--to serve Jewish married women of all ages and stages. #2: The How to Glow Membership coaching program is launching this Chanukah! Coaching is going to become available to more Jewish women--women with busy lives, busy budgets, and who deserve coaching support more than anyone! Make sure to get on the waitlist to hear when doors open for registration at firstyearmarried.com/coaching Managing your emotions is way bigger than you might realize. When you can manage your emotions you can get yourself to do whatever you need to. It's the first of the four fundamental self-mastery skills that really allow you to live the life you want. (Stay tuned for the next three episodes to hear the remaining skills!) The only reason we don't accomplish our goals is that we aren't willing to feel a feeling. Here's a simple process to work on managing your emotions: 1. Pick ONE specific goal you have 2. Think about where you aren't following through right now 3. Identify what emotion you'd have to feel if you were to follow through anyway (it will be a negative emotion) 4. Commit to feeling that feeling for three seconds at a time Give it a try and let me know how it goes! Want some coaching to help you with this tool? Make sure you're on the waitlist for the How to Glow membership so you can join us this Chanukah!
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Ep. 127 - Staying in Your Own Lane
Ep. 127 - Staying in Your Own Lane
Nov 14, 2021
21:08
This week we are in our second of the four self-mastery skills that will move us into Glow energy! A few updates before we get started The Modern Jewish Girl podcast is awesome! If you know anyone exploring Judaism, send them her way! Lots of questions coming in about How to Glow! I'm sharing some details with you about what it will look like inside: We will have a monthly Topic Call and two Q&A calls where you can get coached live or submit questions in advance. I'm also offering my three signature courses inside: Time Management, Foundations, and the First Year Married Online Course. How to Glow is open for membership from November 28-30. Today's skill is Being in Your Lane. It's simple and you can use it all the time. First I want you to notice what happens when you get busy with "his lane"--what he's doing, what you think he SHOULD be doing, and all those things. Where does it take you? How do you show up? How do you feel? Are you effective now? Does it work? No! Resisting and judging doesn't really change what's happening. It's not effective. What do you get to experience when you're in your lane? Focused on your goals, your power, your possibilities... This is so much more fun! And more effective--we are engaged in an area where we can make changes Choose what you want to create with the reality or situation you are in Want more support? Join us inside How to Glow to get all your coaching questions answered.
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Ep. 128 - Real Goals
Ep. 128 - Real Goals
Nov 24, 2021
24:40
In today's episode I'm sharing with you a more nuanced, human way to use goals that will serve you so much better than traditional goal-setting. In this episode you will learn... How to set "Real Goals" Why your goals won't always be SMART (specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, time-bound) How goals help keep your brain proactive How goals help with your brain's natural negativity bias How to NOT use goals against yourself Episode References Circle, Arrow, Spiral by Miriam Kosman How to Glow Coaching Program
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Ep. 129 - Having Your Back
Ep. 129 - Having Your Back
Nov 28, 2021
24:04
UPDATE: How to Glow is now open for registration--but only for THREE DAYS! Make sure you get your spot at kaylalevin.com/coaching Can't wait to see you inside!! --- This is a perfect continuation of the Real Goals podcast. Last week I discussed how we can use goals as a way of beating ourselves up or invalidating everything between here and there… Having your back means that no matter what, you don’t use your failures to condemn or hate yourself. In this episode you will learn: Why we SHOULD call them failures Why you want to embrace your failures How to love yourself and be proud of yourself when you fail big How to dream big without burnout How to create a goal that gets you really excited How to break the habit of beating yourself up in an attempt to be better Have an audacious goal you want to commit to loving yourself through? I'd love to help you do this work--join us inside How to Glow and let's get to it!
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Ep 130 - The 5 Love Languages Trap (Replay)
Ep 130 - The 5 Love Languages Trap (Replay)
Dec 5, 2021
19:11
Happy Chanukah! This week I'm on vacation but I wanted to send you a blast-from-the-past--this episode was originally aired all the way back in August of 2019! Hard to believe. It's a great reminder of how we can use the idea of the Five Love Languages to help ourselves--not to make us feel like we are missing out in what we need from our husbands. Want more? Go to kaylalevin.com/coaching and join the wait list for access to my Marriage Check-In workbook and to find out when doors open next for How to Glow!
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Ep. 131 - Physical Discomfort
Ep. 131 - Physical Discomfort
Dec 12, 2021
26:15
This week I'm teaching you how to manage when you are TIRED. When you're up a lot at night, or have a very schleppy life-situation, or an extremely physically demanding job. Often we make the mistake of thinking that thought work doesn't apply to our physical experience. I've seen time and time again that this is not true. Our thoughts about our discomfort create the true bulk of our experience. Whatever your situation, I invite you to listen this week to hear... - How to stop resisting and adding drama to physically demanding parts of your life - The real benefits you can gain when you embrace physical discomfort - How to get out of "energy scarcity" -- when you're worried about spending energy now because you might not have it later - How to trust yourself to make decisions about how to take care of your body Join us next month in my membership program, How to Glow, and bring any of your questions about this topic or others to our live coaching calls! kaylalevin.com/coaching Mentioned in this episode: Ellen Langer Study Ellen Langer books
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Ep. 132 - Marriage Is Not Hard
Ep. 132 - Marriage Is Not Hard
Dec 19, 2021
10:03
When we say "marriage is hard" we mean to encourage. We mean to empathize, to validate, to normalize the struggles that can so often happen in marriage. But I want you to know that there's a major negative impact of saying this so unquestioningly. Make sure you listen this week as I pull in thought work to understand why the phrase "marriage is hard" can be one of the biggest disservices we do for one another and for ourselves, and why I think we should all chuck this well-intentioned phrase right out of our collective vocabulary.
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Ep 133 - Two Ways to Get More of What You Want
Ep 133 - Two Ways to Get More of What You Want
Dec 26, 2021
20:10
We talk a lot on here about getting our needs met, because that's one of the main questions I get as a marriage coach. Today I want to share two tools that will help you get more of what you want--whether specifically in your marriage or in your life as a whole. Listen this week to learn: The main reason you aren't pursuing what you want Clear, doable strategies to help you clarify what you really want in your life How taking pleasure in your life now creates more momentum for pursuing your goals Where easy dopamine sources might be blocking you from pursuing your goals and loving your life Registration opens soon for How to Glow. Make sure you're on the wait list at www.kaylalevin.com/coaching!
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Ep 134 - Why You Might Need to Go on a Goals Detox
Ep 134 - Why You Might Need to Go on a Goals Detox
Jan 2, 2022
21:08
Not to be contrary, but this week we'll be talking about why you might need to take a BREAK from setting goals. This episode is for you if you have a goal that's been lingering for a while that you just can't seem to work up the motivation to achieve. Listen to hear... Some "symptoms" that you are in need of a goals detox How tying your self worth to your accomplishments is actually making it harder for you to achieve your goals Why taking a break from having any goals will allow you to reset your entire approach How accepting where you are now and loving yourself as you are is your fastest track to growth I'd love to hear your thoughts and what goals you're ready to let go of! Be in touch at kaylalevin.com
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Ep 135 - Listener Question: What Do I Do About My Stressed-Out Husband?
Ep 135 - Listener Question: What Do I Do About My Stressed-Out Husband?
Jan 16, 2022
16:42
"I had an idea for a podcast topic that I don't think you covered. It is actually relevant to current (Jewish) events lately. I want to know what to do when you or your spouse is having a crisis and is not dealing with it properly. Or if there is a crisis in the world that you or your spouse is taking very hard and not functioning as they normally do. If it is you, that is one thing but what do you do when it is your spouse? Especially when it comes at a busy/high stress/just wrong time?" This is such a relevant question right now. Listen to this week's episode to hear the following tools to help when your husband is struggling to navigate a stressful time... How to use self-awareness to reduce resistance "Zooming out" to create patience and long-term vision for your marriage Asking powerful questions to create meaningful solutions Shifting from "needs" to get yourself out of victim mode Get more support inside my private membership coaching program, How to Glow.
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Ep 136 - When it Gets Really Hard
Ep 136 - When it Gets Really Hard
Jan 23, 2022
17:50
This week I want to offer some really practical solutions for when life--or your marriage--is getting really hard. When you should NOT be trying to do thought work How to get past "cliche" forms of self care to something that would really be helpful for you The role our lower brain plays in our well-being and how to deal with your nervous system Clarify what your signs are that you're spiraling How to use your brain to help you find solutions when you're feeling stuck Registration opens at the end of the month for How to Glow. Join us here: kaylalevin.com/coaching
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Ep 137 - When Your Husband is Critical of Your Looks or Weight (Listener Question)
Ep 137 - When Your Husband is Critical of Your Looks or Weight (Listener Question)
Jan 30, 2022
23:48
HOT TOPIC today, ladies. Whether this is relevant to you personally or not, I encourage you to listen for the tools I share in the context of this question. UPDATE: As of the posting of this episode, doors are open for How to Glow! GET IN TODAY for my best tools, live and written coaching, and the chance to hear other people get coached and grow from that! https://kaylalevin.com/coaching This week I'll be discussing... How to know when you need acceptance/thought work vs. a boundary How to deal with internal triggers The effect that western society has had on both women AND men -- and how understanding it will help you navigate this How to have a productive conversation when you've been hurt
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Ep. 138 - When Your Husband is Sick
Ep. 138 - When Your Husband is Sick
Feb 8, 2022
22:24
This episode is a long time coming! Many women struggle with feeling a REALLY strong negative reaction when their husband is sick--whether annoyance, judgement, resentment, frustration, even fear. This. Is. Normal. Even very lovely, wonderful, nurturing women struggle with this. Today I'm going to help you with what to do about it.
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Ep. 139 - Real Requests Are Like Offers
Ep. 139 - Real Requests Are Like Offers
Feb 13, 2022
12:40
This week I'm offering you a tool to help you get more clear on what you want from your marriage. So much of the time, we "hint" at what we want and really believe we've been clear. There are a few tools I teach to help you do a self-check of whether your communication was clear enough and what to do about the vulnerability we feel when we make a real, authentic request from our husband. Ready to take this work further? kaylalevin.com/coaching
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Ep. 140 - We Don't Do Damsel In Distress
Ep. 140 - We Don't Do Damsel In Distress
Feb 20, 2022
20:32
This week we are revisiting and going deeper on the whole idea of mashpia/mekabel AKA provider/receiver. What does this concept mean in the context of a Jewish marriage? What is the Jewish ideal for how a woman "receives"? What have we picked up from other cultures about what it means to be provided for, and what downsides does that bring? How can we strengthen ourselves without burning ourselves out or neglecting our own needs? Excited to share this episode with you. If you want to take this work deeper, make sure to join us in How to Glow next month at kaylalevin.com/coaching
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Ep. 141 - How to Stop Wasting Your Time
Ep. 141 - How to Stop Wasting Your Time
Feb 28, 2022
19:17
It's about to be one of the busiest seasons of the year and I want to give you a skill to get back a lot of your time. One of the main reasons we waste time is called buffering. Buffering is any time we engage in an activity and we lose out in the end--usually to avoid some negative emotion, whether that's loneliness, disconnection, boredom, anxiety... pick your poison :) Today I'll go over how to identify your buffers, why it's so crucial that you learn the skill of NOT buffering, and how you can go about it.
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Ep. 142 - Rest vs Self Care
Ep. 142 - Rest vs Self Care
Mar 7, 2022
29:13
Pursuing happiness tends to make it even more elusive. Most of the women I know and work with know that sitting on the couch with bonbons when life is feeling a little unsatisfying is not going to do the trick. So in this ongoing conversation about self-care, I’m going to make another distinction that I think can help us. There are activities that make your life better.. and there’s rest. And both are critical. When we use “self-care-type activities” to FEEL BETTER (to feel happy, fulfilled, enjoying our life), I’m not sure it’s so effective. When we rest because we are so drained or depleted that there are no happy thoughts to think, (or–please–catch yourself before you get to this point when you can) we set ourselves up to rejoin a life that has meaning and purpose which then leads to real fulfillment and happiness. You can rest on your couch or at a 5-star-spa for all I care, but know that your rest isn’t going to give you what you really need. It’s crucial, but it’s function is just to get you back in the game.
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Ep. 143 - Purim Thoughts
Ep. 143 - Purim Thoughts
Mar 13, 2022
10:00
I love Purim + Thought Work! So many women struggle on Purim. It's normal-- but it's not necessary. Tune in to hear how you can make a thought-plan for Purim to make it a day more meaningful and enjoyable (yes even with the wildness, the mess, the over-sugared kids, and the vomiting husband)! Want to join us next month? We'd love to have you in our community! kaylalevin.com/coaching to get on the wait list!
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Ep. 144 - Just One of Those Days
Ep. 144 - Just One of Those Days
Mar 22, 2022
8:15
Sometimes it's not about coaching yourself, it's about acceptance. It's so easy to fall for the myth that we're supposed to always feel good. Ironically, thinking we're always supposed to feel good... feels terrible. It creates so much resistance. Today I'm sharing one of my "one of those days" days. And I know you have them, too. Here's how we can allow them, which actually allows us to tap into a deeper level of our own truth and helps us move past and through so much more easily.
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Ep. 145 - How to Be a Smarter Couple - Interview with Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier
Ep. 145 - How to Be a Smarter Couple - Interview with Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier
Mar 27, 2022
40:38
I am so excited to bring you this interview with Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier, founder of TheShmuz.com and author of the new book, 10 Really Dumb Mistakes that Very Smart Couples Make. We dove into a really interesting discussion about how men and women communicate differently, how we perceive and give criticism differently, and how changing our approach can have a powerful impact on our marriages. Referenced in this episode: Check out Rabbi Shafier's book here To learn more about TheShmuz.com
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Ep. 146 - The Terrain of Your Brain
Ep. 146 - The Terrain of Your Brain
Apr 3, 2022
19:19
Has your brain felt noisy lately? I noticed a tendency to reach for a podcast or shiur when I had a lot on my mind and some housework that needed to get done. And when I paid attention, I found (probably not surprisingly) that once the podcast was over, my brain felt just as noisy as before. Sometimes more so. So I've adopted a check-in with myself: If my brain is noisy, what I need is silence. If my brain feels calm, I might want to listen to something. (Or I might just want to enjoy the quiet!) It's so simple, but it's been a game changer. We don't need to listen to anything to get ourselves up and going. When you give your brain some space to do it's thing, you'll be amazed what it can work out on its own. And if you are feeling spacious (or aren't there yet but want to understand this better)--make sure to check out this week's episode where I go into this whole concept much more deeply.
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Ep. 147 - A Better Relationship with Your Mother-in-Law with Rachel Glasser
Ep. 147 - A Better Relationship with Your Mother-in-Law with Rachel Glasser
Apr 10, 2022
45:37
Rachel Glasser kept seeing comments on the Frum Girl Problems Facebook group about mother-in-law dynamics that were directly addressed in the research she had done about this relationship, so she decided to share her findings. I saw her post and immediately invited her onto the podcast. I loved our conversation. Having gone through all the major studies about in-law relationships in the last sixty years, Rachel has so much to share about the most common pitfalls in these relationships, the advantages or working on the relationship, and specific ways we can go about this. What was surprising to you about what Rachel had to share?
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Ep. 148 - Are We Responsible for Each Other's Feelings?
Ep. 148 - Are We Responsible for Each Other's Feelings?
Apr 26, 2022
23:30
Today I want to talk to you about the idea of how we relate to one another's feelings and how that relates to the idea that our own thoughts create our feelings. Specifically, we're going to take this into our marriages: "I want to be happy" turns into "I need my husband to do xyz so I will be happy" "I want my husband to be happy" becomes "I'm responsible to do everything he says will make him happy" On the other end of the spectrum, we could go too far-- taking NO responsibility for our behavior, having no sensitivity to what the other person wants or cares about, and washing our hands of it by saying, "well, it's HIS thoughts that made him upset, not me." Want to dive deeper into this work? Doors open soon for How to Glow and I'd love to have you join us! Just head over to kaylalevin.com/coaching to find out more.
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Ep. 149 - Giving Feels Amazing
Ep. 149 - Giving Feels Amazing
May 1, 2022
13:07
If you've found yourself saying "yes" to too many things simply because it's so hard to say "no"... whether because you hate to disappoint others or you want to be nice or you just can't stand the awkward moment.. this week's podcast is for you. I want to show you what's on the other side of learning how to say no. What's on the other side is true giving. When you are willing and able to say "no" when someone asks you to do something you really don't want to or is outside your comfort zone, then when you say "yes" it's a true yes. This week I'll help you check in on your people-pleasing tendencies and get you excited for the huge benefits of real giving. Oh, and here are some links that came up this week: Get the Marriage Check-In Workbook, FREE on my website Say hello over on Instagram and celebrate 200k with me! Learn how to get coached and take this all to the next level.
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Ep. 150 - A Positive Money Mindset with Yael Trusch
Ep. 150 - A Positive Money Mindset with Yael Trusch
May 15, 2022
33:44
I'm so excited to have Yael Trusch, financial expert and Torah teacher, on this week to discuss our thoughts about money. How do we not get too wrapped up in money? What if our financial situation is keeping us from being happy? Can you be wealthy AND holy? What does that look like? I know you'll love this conversation--can't wait to hear your thoughts. AND Yael will be our guest coach inside of How to Glow in June so you can learn more from her by signing up for How to Glow at kaylalevin.com/coaching! Want to learn more about Yael? Check out her website here.
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Ep 151 - Goals vs. Decisions
Ep 151 - Goals vs. Decisions
May 29, 2022
15:16
If you've been struggling to stay on track with a decision you made, this episode is for you. So often, we make decisions when what we should be making are goals. What's the difference? A decision is one-and-done. A goal is a process. If you think you're making a decision but you really need a goal, you'll end up weakening your faith in yourself and creating a lot of extra frustration. If you set a goal that could easily just be a decision, you're spinning your wheels on work you don't need to do. Listen this week to learn how to distinguish between a goal and a decision, how to make each, and how to stick to it.
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Ep. 152 - Update & Replay of Ilana Kendal - Choosing Up!
Ep. 152 - Update & Replay of Ilana Kendal - Choosing Up!
Jun 26, 2022
36:45
This week we kick off our July How to Glow Take-over with Ilana Kendal, author of Choosing Up. Enjoy this episode replay and don't miss registration in the coming days to get into the community for July. Register Here Enjoy
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Ep. 153 - The Dreaded Housework - Summer Series Replay
Ep. 153 - The Dreaded Housework - Summer Series Replay
Jul 10, 2022
53:40
This week I'm sharing our family's news which is why I've been MIA so far this summer. I'm also beginning our summer series where we'll be bringing back some of our listeners' most favorite episodes. This week is The Dreaded Housework--how can we use coaching concepts to improve our relationship with our more mundane parts of life? This was originally a two-part episode--we are including both in this week's replay. Sources from this episode: Keys to the Kingdom - How men change over time and why it's so confusing. The Queen's Code - How we can bring out the best in men (and often bring out the worst) Episode 12 - Mind Management - For an introduction to thought work
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Ep. 154 - Your Invisible Cape - Summer Series Replay
Ep. 154 - Your Invisible Cape - Summer Series Replay
Jul 17, 2022
21:49
Ready for a tool that will make you feel like an undercover superhero? The Invisible Cape is THE magic trick to pull you out of the keeping-up-with-the-Cohens mentality. Because we ALL have our areas where we feel compelled to compete. This tool is one of my longtime listeners' and current clients' favorites--so I know you'll love it. And if you've heard it before, we can all use a refresh. Ready to take this work deeper? Doors open at the end of the month for my monthly membership coaching program, How to Glow. You can get on the waitlist now at kaylalevin.com/coaching See you inside! Resources from this Episode: The Happy Birthway Podcast - Apple Podcasts and Spotify
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Ep. 155 - Living The Dream - Summer Series Replay
Ep. 155 - Living The Dream - Summer Series Replay
Jul 24, 2022
29:58
Ever notice that the things that cause you the most stress are sometimes the exact thing you most wanted? Once upon a time we only dreamed of getting to know and understand our husbands better, have children, or land that exact job. And once we have them, it's so easy to forget and to allow those same things to overwhelm us and stress us out. It's such a simple re-frame, but it can feel life changing when you need it. Make sure to listen this week to hear how to apply this in your life. Can't wait to hear from you about what dream you are living! Resources from this week's episode: Project Honeymoon: KaylaLevin.com/newlywed (Please share!) How to Glow: KaylaLevin.com/coaching (Opens for registration the 28th) The Franciska Show: Spotify Apple Podcasts
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The How to Glow Podcast Trailer
The How to Glow Podcast Trailer
Jul 26, 2022
2:00
Welcome to How to Glow!
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Ep. 156 - Be Birth Positive with Lauren Seidman
Ep. 156 - Be Birth Positive with Lauren Seidman
Jul 31, 2022
1:00:47
Today I'm excited to bring you a conversation with Lauren Seidman, a down-to-earth, relatable, and super knowledgeable childbirth educator who runs online classes and also shares her knowledge at her Instagram account @birth positive This is a long overdue topic for us here! The more knowledgeable we are, the more we can advocate for ourselves and feel confident in the process. Looking forward to hearing your feedback! Resources from this week's episode: How to Glow online community Lauren's website Lauren's Instagram account The Weekly Squeeze podcast - Apple Podcasts and Spotify
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Ep. 157 - Staying in Your Lane - Summer Series Replay
Ep. 157 - Staying in Your Lane - Summer Series Replay
Aug 8, 2022
26:52
It's crazy what a 180 we need to go through to go from dating to marriage. Dating: "Can this guy make me happy?" Marriage: "It's not his job to make me happy... I make MYSELF happy!" Is this a cop-out? Is this even possible? And what's the point of getting married if he's not going to make me happy? Check out this week's replay for my two episodes all about the tool of Staying In Your Lane. It's one of the best things you can do for your marriage and your own happiness. Resources from this week's episode: The How to Glow Coaching Program Jewish Money Matters podcast on Apple Podcasts and Spotify
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Ep. 158 - Baseline Self Care - Summer Series Replay
Ep. 158 - Baseline Self Care - Summer Series Replay
Aug 14, 2022
24:44
One of my favorite coaching tools that I developed working with newlyweds is the idea of Baseline Self Care. This not your typical conversation about self care. This is not just about adding what you enjoy into your schedule. This is about understanding that you function on different levels--and the most critical is when you are functioning below BASELINE. You know the feeling after pulling an all-nighter? Like you absolutely know you shouldn't make any major decisions? That's called being below baseline. It's so critical to know what your baseline is because you'll know a) not to engage in trying to fix anything right now b) not to evaluate yourself, your husband, or your relationship right now c) not to take any of your thoughts seriously Our goal is to get WAY ABOVE baseline--not to get *just* above it. But our response to being below baseline is like a Code Red. We drop everything, including our judgments, until we are back above baseline. Take this work further with us inside of How to Glow, the online coaching membership for married Jewish women. kaylalevin.com/coaching Be Impactful Podcast on Apple Podcasts and Spotify
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Ep 159 - Get Control of Your Time - Part 1
Ep 159 - Get Control of Your Time - Part 1
Aug 21, 2022
16:29
Fall is around the corner and many of us are anticipating new routines and structures. Instead of just creating a routine, let's create a schedule we're actually excited to live. This week I'm going to walk you through the five main challenges that you might face when it comes to time. We'll start with awareness and understanding, and dive into strategies and solutions next week. Episode Resources: How to Glow coaching membership Ep. 2 - Why You Don't Have Enough Time Ep. 6 - Zero Based Scheduling Update Ep. 66 – Coronavirus & Zero Based Scheduling on the Fly
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Ep 160 - Get Control of Your Time - Part 2
Ep 160 - Get Control of Your Time - Part 2
Aug 28, 2022
17:50
In Part 2 of this series, I'll be going over solutions for the 5 most common stumbling-blocks in creating a proactive relationship with time and mastering your schedule. Episode Resources: Ep. 159 - Get Control of Your Time - Part 1 How to Glow coaching membership Ep. 2 - Why You Don't Have Enough Time Ep. 6 - Zero Based Scheduling Update Ep. 66 – Coronavirus & Zero Based Scheduling on the Fly
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Ep. 161 - When Your Husband Is Struggling
Ep. 161 - When Your Husband Is Struggling
Sep 3, 2022
29:33
In this week’s podcast I’m sharing a tool for when your husband is struggling. There are three situations I’m addressing today: When your husband is going through a major transition or priority shift When your husband is struggling with something about you (whether that’s in your control or not) When your husband is dealing with a crisis (such as mental or health crisis, job loss, death of a family member) How can we support him without taking responsibility for what he’s struggling with, or rushing in to try to fix it? Listen today to get a simple tool you can apply in any situation when your husband is struggling.
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Ep 162 - How to Glow - The Origin Story
Ep 162 - How to Glow - The Origin Story
Sep 11, 2022
18:50
Want to hear the origin story of How to Glow? (Of course you do.) What is this whole concept of "glow" anyway? Check out what one of my community members says about it and what got us here in the first place. Episode Resources: How to Glow membership
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Ep. 163 - Getting Ready for Yuntif with Balagan Be Gone
Ep. 163 - Getting Ready for Yuntif with Balagan Be Gone
Sep 18, 2022
1:06:02
This week I'm chatting with Rebekah Saltzman, owner of Balagan Be Gone, about how to get ready for yuntif without the stress! I know you'll love her no-nonsense approach, and you'll definitely love the awesome giveaway we have in store for you! THE GIVEAWAY! Go to kaylalevin.com/balagan to be entered into the giveaway for... 1 Copy Organized Jewish Life - https://amzn.to/3CZJbzo ($31 value) 1 Copy Organized Jewish Life Shabbat and Holiday Planner - https://amzn.to/3wSW9ef ($18.99 value) 1 Month Free to Journey to Organization Membership - Silver Level ($67 value) 2 3-month Memberships for the How to Glow Community PLUS every entry will AUTOMATICALLY get a coupon for the each of our memberships! Winners will be selected October 19. Enter here! Want to follow Rebekah? Here's where you can find her: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/BalaganBeGone Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/591632997706988 Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/balaganbegone/?hl=en TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@rebekahsaltzman
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Ep. 164 - How to Think Like a Life Coach
Ep. 164 - How to Think Like a Life Coach
Sep 22, 2022
27:37
My job as your coach is to help you become an expert in using your brain. Your unique brain, with its individual quirks, yes. But our brains are so much more similar than they are different. Here are some of the things brains do: Interpret facts and think it’s reality Focus on what other people are doing and lose self-awareness Take ourselves really literally (when I think “I can’t do this,” my brain believes me and responds accordingly) Check out this week’s episode to learn my favorite tools that I use and teach to help us all be experts in using our brains to create the lives we want. And if you're ready to take this work further, visit https://kaylalevin.com/coaching and join the program to get live coaching and work directly with me on mastering your brain and improving your life.
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Ep 165 - Keeping Your Marriage Strong Over Yom Tov with Devora from Adai Ad
Ep 165 - Keeping Your Marriage Strong Over Yom Tov with Devora from Adai Ad
Sep 29, 2022
1:08:49
Hi my friends. I did a webinar about a week ago with. Devra from Adai Ad, and I wasn't planning on sending it to the podcast, but I heard back from so many people that it made such a huge difference. That it was exactly the kinds of things that they're worrying about dealing with, struggling with over Yom Tov spending Yom Tov with family, especially if you have young children. But even if not, managing those dynamics between your husband and your family, or his family, and you and their family and all the different things. Right. Devora had some really phenomenal advice, and of course I'm bringing all the coaching and, um, mindset work and typical relationship things in the whole newlywed experience. So I asked if it would be okay for me to repost this over here on the podcast. She said yes, because she's awesome and I'm sharing it over here with you. I also wanna let you know that if you're hearing any of this and thinking, okay, but. It sounds really good. I'm not exactly sure how to apply it to my situation or my family, or you know, how we're dealing with things. We will be working on relationships for the entire month of October. We even have one call during chol hamoed and there will be written coaching. So if you know that you're gonna be needing some support, I am here to support you during that time, and I wanna really, really encourage you to make this the time that you go ahead and join How To Glow Today, because once you're inside, you're gonna have access to the tools that are gonna get you up and running, and you'll be able to get live coaching with me and written coaching. So anytime you have a question, you can just send it in and it'll get back to you within a couple days. Sometimes even the same day. All right, so this is the way that I have to support you. I know it's making a huge difference for the women that are inside the program, and I really want to be able to help you as well. So you just go to KaylaLevin.com/coaching. You'll be able to sign up immediately and get started on those courses. So by the time you get to the next call, which we have calls every single week, you'll be ready to go. You'll understand the tools that we use. Everything is made to be really short and simple. So, You're not sitting there watching hours and hours of classes. Nobody has time for that right now, but you could listen while you're doing your cooking or packing, right? Be ready to get and get some coaching so we can just, let's just fix whatever these issues are so you don't have to be carrying them from year to year. Wouldn't that be amazing? All right, so that is my offer to you, to come inside and join us for October and work on relationships. I will teach you a completely different way to approach relationships. It is not about communication. That will be enough to just show you that it is not what you've heard before , and it is such a massive relief, and it allows you to really appreciate people that you think right now you will never be able to really appreciate. KaylaLevin.com/coaching. In the meantime, I hope you love this conversation with Devora from Adai Ad
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Ep 166 - Are You Spending Too Much Time Together?
Ep 166 - Are You Spending Too Much Time Together?
Oct 20, 2022
15:56
If you've ever fallen into the trap of thinking that more time is the solution to all your marriage issues, this is the episode for you. You might actually be spending TOO MUCH time together. (Especially after the holidays!) Check out this week's episode to find out... whether you are spending to much time together how to have a strong relationship without resorting to more time and dates why a weekly date might not be what you need how to manage if you have one introvert and one extrovert how to get more time and space without insulting your partner Subscribe for more at kaylalevin.com
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Ep 167 - Eating, Yelling, and Other Stress-Based Impulses
Ep 167 - Eating, Yelling, and Other Stress-Based Impulses
Oct 27, 2022
16:57
You know when you did that thing and then you were SO ANNOYED that you did it? It wasn't just about your self control (and it's certainly not that you're "bad"). You had a really strong urge to do a thing, and fighting it didn't work. Today I'm going to share with you something way more effective than fighting your urges, whether it's to eat something that isn't good for you, snap at your husband, say that bit of lashon hara, or go on a Target spending spree. Want to get coaching to apply this work to your life? I'm there to coach you every week inside of the How to Glow program. Join us at kaylalevin.com/coaching
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Ep 168 - The Queen's Code with Alison Armstrong
Ep 168 - The Queen's Code with Alison Armstrong
Nov 3, 2022
45:05
This week I welcome back one of my favorite marriage thought-leaders, the lovely Alison Armstrong. Alison has recently released the audiobook version of her book, The Queens Code and we talked about her work, the effect it had on my marriage, and the benefits of hearing it in audiobook format. Listen to hear... Alison's experience in the creation of this book and audiobook Why she chose to make it fiction vs. non-fiction How we can feel like a Queen (even if we have big families and/or tight budgets!) The power of our "overflow" and "count-on-ability" and how to use these to support our marriages You can learn more and purchase The Queen's Code Audiobook here.
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Ep 169 - The Me First Coaching Trap
Ep 169 - The Me First Coaching Trap
Nov 10, 2022
12:35
This week I want to share with you a common trap we can get into when we've done our own self-coaching work. Coaching is amazing, and as we start to feel better and better in our lives, we can miss the big picture. The big picture ISN'T to just keep feeling better and better. Listen this week as I share what this trap might look like and what's available to us beyond the me-first mentality.
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Ep 170 - Are You Glowing?
Ep 170 - Are You Glowing?
Nov 17, 2022
17:34
Are you Glowing? Do you know what that is--and why you might not be? Do you know the power of being in this mode? Today I'm sharing with you one of your most precious resources and what might be holding you back from using it, plus a coaching challenge for you to try out this week! Visit bit.ly/glowpodcast to subscribe Want to get coaching to apply this work to your life? I'm there to coach you every week inside of the How to Glow program. Join us at kaylalevin.com/coaching
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Ep 171 - But I Want to Be Angry!
Ep 171 - But I Want to Be Angry!
Dec 1, 2022
20:56
Ever been in that place where you KNOW you could drop the issue and move on but you just don't WANT to? That's what this episode is all about. The best news is: you get to stay angry if you want. Really, I mean it. But I want you to decide with so much awareness. This week I'll walk you through a coaching exercise to decide whether to keep or let go of your anger towards your husband (or really anyone else). Save it and repeat as many times for as many situations as you need. And if you want to take this all further, join us inside of How to Glow -- Founder pricing is ending soon so get in BEFORE the end of the year and you can get weekly coaching for the amazing price of $39/month. kaylalevin.com/coaching
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Ep 172 - The Art of Being Delighted
Ep 172 - The Art of Being Delighted
Dec 15, 2022
29:07
[LIMITED TIME! You can get the annual pass to the How to Glow Coaching Program for only $390! Expires at the end of Chanukah. Go to KaylaLevin.com/coaching to sign up now!] Today I'm going to tell you about the art of being delighted. I have six tools that will help you open up to what your husband wants to provide for you and actually truly ENJOY receiving that. PLUS you'll find out how to ask for what you already want, and what to do when he just won't give it to you.
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Ep 173 - Listen In On A Real Coaching Session
Ep 173 - Listen In On A Real Coaching Session
Dec 22, 2022
44:58
Have you ever wondered what a coaching session is actually like? If that's a yes, then today will be SO FUN for you! Listening in on someone else getting coached is actually a super powerful way to get your OWN breakthroughs. So I can't wait to hear what you discover from listening to this! Also, if you're someone with big goals for yourself and your life, I think this session will really speak to you.
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Ep 174 - If He Really Loved Me
Ep 174 - If He Really Loved Me
Jan 5, 2023
17:17
Have you ever had (or heard) this thought? If he really loved me... he'd remember my birthday, or he'd help me out more, or he'd ask about my day... We've all been there. Well, this thought is terrible. It's not just terrible because it feels bad (which it does), it's also terrible because it doesn't get you anywhere productive. Here's how you can check in--imagine yourself thinking this thought. What do you look like? How are you feeling? What are you doing? Now ask: does any of that contribute to you getting more of what you want? In this week's episode, I'm sharing with you a specific process to go from the "if he really loved me" funk into a truly productive way to approach your marriage. Other episodes mentioned: Episode 34 - The Five Love Languages Trap
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Ep 175 - Domestic Abuse with Rebecca Saleman of Shalom Task Force
Ep 175 - Domestic Abuse with Rebecca Saleman of Shalom Task Force
Jan 26, 2023
1:05:09
We don't want to have to talk about it, but we do. Shalom Task Force is an incredible organization and the more we understand how they help, the more we can support them. Rebecca Saleman is the director of the Shalom Task Force hotline and she gave us a look into what that program provides as well as a general working definition of what makes a relationship abusive.
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BONUS - Your Big Story
BONUS - Your Big Story
Jan 30, 2023
13:54
This month we are focusing on Your Big Story--that story that doesn't even feel like a thought, it feels like the TRUTH. It's how you describe your life, how you feel about your life, and if isn't serving you, this is the month for us to find one that will. Join us for our February topic in my coaching community at kaylalevin.com/coaching
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176 -The Meaningful Life with Raquel Kirszenbaum
176 -The Meaningful Life with Raquel Kirszenbaum
Feb 9, 2023
51:14
Ready for a pep talk? Raquel Kirszenbaum is a popular teacher and speaker and I invited her to come onto the podcast to give us a boost of her energy (she has so much to spare!), positivity, and drive for Torah and a meaningful life. You won't want to miss this one. Make sure to share it with a friend! Want to take this work further? I would love to coach you inside my coaching program, How to Glow. It's a no-commitment monthly program where you can get coached every week and be part of an amazing community of women. Ready to give it a try? Join today at kaylalevin.com/coaching
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Ep 177 - Why I Quit Social Media
Ep 177 - Why I Quit Social Media
Feb 16, 2023
17:10
I finally left social media, after years of thinking about it, considering it, and weighing the pros and cons. I wanted to share my thought process with you. Whether your decision is about social media or any other area of your life where you're constantly wavering back and forth, I hope this episode will help you gain some clarity on HOW we can make decisions that we love. Want to take this work further? I would love to coach you inside my coaching program, How to Glow. It's a no-commitment monthly program where you can get coached every week and be part of an amazing community of women. Ready to give it a try? Join today at kaylalevin.com/coaching
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Ep 178 - The Creative Life with Rivki Silver
Ep 178 - The Creative Life with Rivki Silver
Feb 24, 2023
47:43
Rivki and I got together to talk about creativity. It was awesome. You should listen. Especially if you don't think you're creative, or you ever had anything be hard, basically, ever. In this episode: Rivki and Alex's awesome podcast, Deep Meaningful Conversations Reach out to Rivki at [email protected] If you loved this episode, make sure to subscribe so you don't miss future ones. And I appreciate all your reviews and comments!
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Ep 179 - Purim & Your Brain
Ep 179 - Purim & Your Brain
Mar 3, 2023
17:46
Want to take this work further? I would love to coach you inside my coaching program, How to Glow. It's a no-commitment monthly program where you can get coached every week and be part of an amazing community of women. Ready to give it a try? Join today at kaylalevin.com/coaching
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Ep 180 - Gender in Judaism with Miriam Kosman
Ep 180 - Gender in Judaism with Miriam Kosman
Mar 9, 2023
56:35
This is a LANDMARK episode for How to Glow because today's guest has had a tremendous influence on the way that I approach coaching and personal development for you all. Rebbetzin Miriam Kosman is a lecturer, teacher, and author of the book Circle, Arrow, Spiral and she joins me today to discuss what gender is all about in Jewish thought and how that might apply to us in our lives and relationships. Want to take this work further? I would love to coach you inside my coaching program, How to Glow. It's a no-commitment monthly program where you can get coached every week and be part of an amazing community of women. Ready to give it a try? Join today at kaylalevin.com/coaching
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Ep 181 - You've Already Begun
Ep 181 - You've Already Begun
Mar 16, 2023
10:23
Does self-improvement ever feel like so much work? Today I've got some really good news for you: you're already way further along than you realize. This week I'm going to help you see the progress you've ALREADY made, even if you only just realized this area is something you want to work on. This boost will give you the motivation you need, and deserve, to keep at it. Want to take this work further? I would love to coach you inside my coaching program, How to Glow. It's a no-commitment monthly program where you can get coached every week and be part of an amazing community of women. Ready to give it a try? Join today at kaylalevin.com/coaching
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Ep 182 - Get Ready for Pesach with Meira Spivak
Ep 182 - Get Ready for Pesach with Meira Spivak
Mar 23, 2023
39:48
We're in the pre-Pesach home stretch and if you're looking to get your head on straight, Meira Spivak is your woman! Meira and I talk about the strategies in her book, How to Get Ready for Pesach in Five Days, and how we can set ourselves up for success without having to start cleaning before Chanukah. Whether you have a tried-and-true system and are just looking for some tips or adjustments or you've never made Pesach and need to create a system from scratch, this interview will get you on track. Resources: Meira's book How to Make Pesach In Five Days Kayla's course on Time Management in HTG Online Meira Spivak is the director of Oregon NCSY, where over the past 17 years she has been developing educational programming for teens and parents. Meira helps organizations solve strategic problems through her Results Driven Innovation workshops. Using the Systematic Inventive Thinking (SIT) method of creativity, Meira can teach anyone how to innovate on demand - after all, creativity is a skill that can be learned. Meira strives to be efficient with her time and is the author of the book How to Make Pesach in 5 Days. As a mother of a large family, Meira understands the stresses of everyday life and when she's not busy stressing from them, she's laughing at them. Meira can be contacted at [email protected] or through her website meiraspivak.com
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Ep 183 - How to Not Kill Anyone This Pesach
Ep 183 - How to Not Kill Anyone This Pesach
Mar 30, 2023
18:29
I think the title pretty much sums it up. If you're new here, please subscribe! If you need more of this, you must get into the online How to Glow community. Like, now. kaylalevin.com/coaching Also, if you want to check out Ilana Kendal's book Choosing Up, you can do so right here.