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101

The Jewish Jubilee: Who Controls You? Behar

May 11, 2023

5:29

Who are you at your core? What drives you and who controls you? A stunning idea from Yom Kippur and the Jewish jubilee. To get in touch with gila +447990333946 or [email protected]. Sponsored by OKclarity.com.OKclarity.com is THE place for any Jew - no matter how frum or religious you are - to find a top-notch therapist, psychiatrist, coach, or nutritionist. And it's completely free for you to use!OKCLARITY.com’s professionals are vetted and have extensive experience working with the Jewish community. Yes, you can even find me there!If you’re in the market for a therapist, coach, nutritionist, psychiatrist, or the like - you want to check them out. If you don't find what you're looking for, they have a concierge service where you complete a short form and they will personally match you.Important side note! If you are a wellness professional, I highly recommend joining their directory. Their team is amazing and I've received referrals immediately!OKclarity also has an amazing WhatsApp status with over 7 thousand obsessed followers, and yes I am one of them! Their WhatsApp is a free way to improve your mental health and they post great humor so you’ll laugh too. If you have WhatsApp, shoot them a message at 917-426-1495. My personal OKclarity website: https://okclarity.com/directory/gila-ross/ Find an OKclarity verified professional: https://okclarity.comBecome an OKclarity verified professional:https://okclarity.com/for-professionals/ Join OKclarity on WhatsApp status or groups:https://api.whatsapp.com/send?phone=19174261495&text=Hey!%20I'd%20like%20to%20join%20OKclarity%20on%20WhatsApp.%20(Ross)

102

Blocking Kindness & 2 Paths to Developing Potential- Emor

May 4, 2023

4:34

Judaism places a huge value on kindness so why would Jewish law block some people from doing kindness? This will give us an insight into our lives and the 2 pathways to Greatness and which one is right for us.

103

Miriam's Story: Resilience After Disappointment- Acharei Mot

Apr 27, 2023

3:58

The heartbreaking story of Miriam and her resilience teaches us about how to move forward after disappointment. Whether that disappointment is large or small.

104

The Healing of Our Flaws - Metzora

Apr 20, 2023

6:38

Can knowledge of our flaws bring us joy? Why would a person be happy with getting tzaraat? Listen to this interesting and wholesome approach to having self awareness.

105

Acceptance & Blame - Shmini

Apr 14, 2023

3:34

On a day which should have been filled with joy, tragedy struck. Let's look at the awe inspiring reaction of Aaron and Elisheva and get some inspiration for our hard days.

106

Modesty, Tough Days & Seeing G-d's Hand - Tzav

Mar 30, 2023

6:44

What is modesty actually about? It goes beyond dress code and I actually experienced this when I had a tough day recently. To book a complimentary one to one call, email [email protected] or +447990333946.

107

Who is a Good Jew? Vayikra

Mar 24, 2023

3:59

How would you describe a good Jew?

108

Pesach: Where's My Freedom?

Mar 23, 2023

35:59

It's the time of our freedom. But are you feeling free? In this episode we find out what true freedom is, how to get it and how to feel free this year! To schedule a free strategy call with Gila email [email protected].

109

3 Second Secret to a Great Life - Vayakhel

Mar 16, 2023

3:56

The 3 second Secret that will caterpault you to a great life

110

Can People Change? Rachav's Transformation

Mar 13, 2023

24:41

In honour of International Women's Day, we look at a great Biblical woman, Rachav who underwent the ultimate transformation to answer the question, can people really change?

111

Self-Care for Mums! Are They Joking?

Mar 13, 2023

41:20

Do you struggle to fit self-care in? Do you feel guilty about taking time for you? Or do you engage in self-care and still feel like you're running on empty? Then this class is for you! To claim your free gift of a one to one strategy session with Gila, email [email protected]

112

2 Steps to Creating Harmony from Heartbreak - Ki Sisa

Mar 9, 2023

4:13

There are 3 phases to life. Here are the 2 steps that we need to create harmony from heartbreak.

113

Free Speech, Power, Responsibility & Missed Opportunities

Mar 3, 2023

6:10

At the heart of the Spotify controversy that erupted last year is the line between free speech and censorship. Does Judaism believe in free speech? 🤔 a look at 2 intriguing stories from moses' life gives us a fresh perspective on this issue and also looks at saying no to opportunities

114

Purim, Esther & Your Place in Judaism

Mar 2, 2023

38:31

Have you ever found yourself doing something hard for Judaism? Why? Why do you push yourself for Judaism? Interestingly this question is at the core of the Purim story and its answer can be found in the world's worst motivational speech - a conversation between Mordechai and Esther, a conversation that changes Esther into a heroine, and one that changes the fate of the Jewish people. It's a conversation that should guide us as to how we answer the question of what place Judaism has in our lives and how we want it to show up for our descendants. Enjoy this episode and let me know what you think! To get a free 121 coaching session with Gila Ross, email [email protected]

115

2 Steps to Peace of Mind

Feb 27, 2023

25:03

The cost of not having peace of mind is high. And the stress of our lives can easily eat away at our peace of mind. Here's 2 steps to achieving peace of mind.

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Become a Magnet for Joy - Teruma

Feb 23, 2023

5:46

The inspiring story of Esther's granddaughter teaches us how to become a magnet for joy.

117

Choosing Between Right & Right - Mishpatim

Feb 16, 2023

5:27

So often in life we're grappling between different choices, both of them good things. How do we choose which one to do when we can only do one of the right ones. 2 brilliant keys to confidently choosing the right choice

118

Is Judaism too Hard? Yisro

Feb 9, 2023

5:22

Is Judaism just too hard? Are we being asked for too much? We look at the curious story of the Jews being threatened to be buried under Mount Sinai and learn what to do when it gets too hard. To get a free strategy call email [email protected]. This episode is sponsored for a complete healing of Suad bat Daisy

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Try this When you See People do Bad - Beshalach

Feb 3, 2023

4:27

What do you do when you see people do wrong? Whether in real life or on social media? Try this refreshing and empowering approach. You can get in touch with Gila on Instagram @itsgilaross or WhatsApp +447990333946

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Is There a Point Doing Mitzvoth when my Heart isn't in it? - Bo

Jan 26, 2023

6:18

What do you do when you aren't feeling spiritual satisfaction with a mitzvah? Is there a point to doing the ritual? We look at some solid advice from the business world and from the Torah story of the Jews coming out of Egypt!

121

Shabbos Treasures 34-35: Wet Clothes

Dec 18, 2022

19:14

Question 1) Can you hang wet clothes to dry on Shabbos? Question 2) Can you wet a garment with coloured wine or drink? Question 3) Can you go for a walk on Shabbos in the rain, where you know your clothes will get wet? Wet laundry is usually muktza, but if it became wet whilst it was being worn it's not muktza but you can't hang it out to dry due to the principle of "viewed by the eye" - any situation that can arouse suspicion to an onlooker, as he may feel they were washed on shabbos itself.  Note, it's ok to hang it out washing done before shabbos even though it will be hanging out and drying over Shabbos. It's also OK to hang out your wet clothing that got wet on Shabbos if either it isn't "that wet", or if you hang it in an *unusual way like on back of a chair etc. And its always ok to hang out a wet raincoat as it's obvious it got wet on Shabbos, and as we saw a plastic coat can even be shaken out to remove moisture. The reason wet laundry is muktza is 1 can be anxious to wear a wet garment and may forget himself and wring it out. If you know with certainty that the washing will dry on Shabbos, eg you hang it out friday in your   house left overnight to dry and the house is hot, the clothes stop being muktza upon them becoming dry. If washing is in your dryer, the only way to get the washing out is to open the door if there is no light. You then can't close the door unless it's in the way as it's muktza! Once you remove your wet clothing that became wet on Shabbos from the rain, and put on dry ones, the wet ones shouldn't be moved anymore and considered muktza. We have seen over past couple of sessions that under the melacha of melabain - scouring, one can't remove dirt from a material, even if done without a liquid. The purpose of this melacha is to improve the appearance of the garment. There is an exception where the soaking or wetting has a negative or spoiling effect on the appearance of the fabric. For example you can soak a fabric with dirty water because the dirty water doesn't cleanse the garment, but soils it more. Similarly you can wet a garment with colored wine or drink has this has a detrimental effect on the appearance of the garment. Think spills! Also, it's only a problem where you want the fabric to get wet, so is ok if you want to dry your hands on a towel or go for a walk in the rain whereby your clothes will get wet.

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The Secret to Maximising Life - Vaeira

Jan 20, 2023

4:55

Do we really know who someone is? We look at the personalities of Moses and Aaron to see who is greater and come away with an understanding of the secret to maximising life.

123

The Self-Esteem That You Need!!

Jan 19, 2023

33:32

What does healthy self-esteem look like? What chips away at our self esteem? And what is the antidote? This episode is a must listen!

124

Shabbos Treasures 36 - Colouring & Dyeing

Jan 15, 2023

15:30

Question 1) Is it OK to add food colouring to water for decorative purposes? Question 2) Can you use a toy fork that will change colour, eg when touching ice cream? Question 3) What about using lipstick? Question 4) Can you spill dark juice on a white table? Question 5) Pinching a kids face that turns red, ok? Question 6) Wearing eyeglasses that darken in sunlight? Question 7) Invisible ink? The melacha of dying was necessary for the manufacturing of the special curtains and tapestries of the mishkan. Colouring of any materials or substance is the melacha whether accomplished by changing the colour of the material or by adding a coating to it. Even darkening an existing colour is problematic. Any material is included, including painting a wall, adding food colouring for decorative purposes etc. Even if the colour will fade after a while on it's own its still not ok to use, eg cosmetics like lipsticks, eye shadows etc or kids toy plastic cutlery that changes colour with heat/cold. To be the melacha it must entail a measurable change to the surface itself, so to pour dark juice on a white table is ok as there is no meaningful change to the surface. If the colouring is brief and unintentional it's ok, eg to pinch a kids cheek. It would be ok to sit outside on a hot day even though one could become tanned as it's unintentional. If brief colouring occurs indirectly its ok even if intentional, so you can wear photo gray lenses, even though the purpose of them is to become darker with sunlight as the colouring is indirect and subsequently disappears when you return indoors. There are other reasons it's ok too, including that it's purpose is a protection from the sun and not to create any colouring effect. Invisible ink or dye is not ok

125

Why its Important to Know Yourself

Jan 14, 2023

32:47

Self knowledge is fundamental. In this episode the Wednesday Wisdom group delves into why its so important

126

The Simple Way to Attract Blessing (Shemot)

Jan 12, 2023

6:37

Every day we have a choice to focus... or not. Hear this incredible story of how Joe was able to save a life by focusing and what Moses merited to bring to the world through his focus!

127

How do you Become Truly Kind? (Vayechi)

Jan 5, 2023

5:43

Jacob asks his son Joseph to give him true kindness. Sometimes we're kind for ulterior motives. How do we cultivate true kindness and ensure we have no ulterior motives? (Vayechi)

128

From Hurt to Happy (Miketz)

Dec 22, 2022

7:07

When a person suffers through a painful experience, how can they rise above it? Is it possible to move to a place of joy? Joseph gives us inspiration. He was able to overcome and even name his child in gratitude for recovering from his difficulties. How?

129

Body Image & Chanukah Today with Rivka Graham from PAL

Dec 22, 2022

30:20

It's not just twinkling lights and chocolate gelt, chanukah has some incredible tools to transform your life so you can find meaning and happiness. To schedule a free consultation with Gila, book here: https://calendly.com/gilaross/60min

130

The Secret to Releasing Frustration from Judah (Vayigash)

Dec 30, 2022

7:14

I was so frustrated that I hadn't got an opportunity that I was hoping for. Until I understood the conversation between Joseph and Judah.

131

How to Deal with Failure? Vayeishev

Dec 15, 2022

6:03

Joseph and Avraham teach us a new way to look at our failures - Vayeishev

132

Tips for a Healthy & Fun Chanukah with Industry Experts

Dec 14, 2022

38:25

↘️How do you want this Chanukah to be? Watch this Insta Live Pre-🕎Chanukah Replay for some amazing inspiring tips 🤩 With @itsgilaross Gila Ross Parenting & Life coach with a speciality in managing screentime & advocating for your child, Top Jewish Podcaster, Rebbetzin & Educator @fullyinbalance Dalia Brunschwig Certified Nutrition Health Coach helping Jewish women find their unique blind spot that prevents them from losing weight. @veg.it.out Bayla Haskel, Founder & CEO of Veg it out. Israel's first meal subscription caterer @esthertaubfitness Personal fitness trainer helping women with the physical and mental side of fitness 👉Chanukah is coming and you want to know How to.. 🍩Have fun with all Chanukah treats but also to keep BALANCE, right? Is that even possible? Check it out!

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Joseph & 2 Words for Peace of Mind (vayeishev)

Dec 9, 2022

7:05

How do we achieve peace of mind? Joseph was thrown challenge after challenge. His brothers hate him, he's languishing in prison. Yet two words give him the ability to have peace of mind.

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Shabbos Treasures 33 - Cleaning without Liquid

Dec 4, 2022

17:35

We saw in episode 32 that any method of removing soil or impurities from a material is the melacha of melabain- scouring, even without liquid. Question 1) what about brushing dust from a hat without liquid? Question 2) or brushing icing sugar off your jacket? Question 3) shaking out flour from your hair? Question 4) if chullent falls on your couch how best to remove it? Question 5) ketchup splatters onto your blouse and dries, can you peel it off? Question 6) can you shake snow off your coat? Brushing dust or powder that has settled into a fabric or an absorbent material is this melacha, even without the aid of water or liquids. The idea is that dust is similar to a stain in that it becomes deeply embedded into a fabric. Even talcum powder, chalk dust, flour or icing sugar can't be brushed off a garment or couch, or even shaken off a fabric. Even to sweep a carpeted floor is problematic with a broom, solution is to use a soft broom to collect large food particles. Larger particles like crumbs are fine to remove as they don't get embedded. If dust, sand, flour etc gets into your hair it can be shaken out as this doesn't apply to human skin or hair. When a substance is thick and moist like wet mud or chullent a small amount does become absorbed in the fabric, like clothing or a couch. The best way to deal with is to scrape it off with the back of a knife or a spoon. Or you could use a dry cloth or napkin if it doesn't remove the stain. A thick wet substance like a sauce that splatters on a fabric and dries may not be pealed off on shabbos unless a stain remains, as then your just removing the upper layer. Chewing gum, candy, silly putty etc that became pressed into the carpet can't be pulled out as they are firmly in the weave. Again, if some of the substance still remains in the fabric it's ok. A coat or hat etc that become wet in the rain or snow that begins to accumulate on a coat one cant shake it off as it will cause squeezing. With snow, if it has not yet begun to melt, shaking or blowing off is ok because the snow isn't embedded in, u like dust for example as a contrast. It is hard to be sure no snow has melted so it may be safer to only shake gently. Anything rubber or plastic like a raincoat or shoes can be shaken vigorously.

135

How to Believe - in Yourself (& Judaism) (Vayetzei)

Dec 1, 2022

5:34

A story of trickery and deception and how we discover our most powerful and often overlooked tool to build faith, in ourself, others & G-d)!

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Shabbos Treasures 32 - Scraping, Cleaning, Scrubbing!

Dec 1, 2022

20:16

Question 1) Is it OK to scrub your leather shoes to get mud off them? Question 2) What about to clean your couch with some water? Question 3) Are you allowed to wash a metal pot on Shabbos? Question 4) Is it OK to remove a stain a baby has made on your shirt by rubbing it, even without water? Question 5) What about shaking out a wet coat after coming in from the rain? Cleansing absorbent materials that have absorbed soil grime or other impurities is the melacha of Scouring. Any type of washing, soaking, squeezing or even scrubbing a material that is dry is included in this melacha. It applies to any soft or pliant materials including natural or synthetic fabrics, leathers or canvas materials. It applies to non garments too, so it's also a problem to wash or the like to carpets, leather and fabric upholstery, or string. The melacha applies even if the stains are not removed but only improved, eg its not ok to dab water onto a wine stain on a blouse to dilute the stain because causing a stain to fade is a significant improvement to the garment. It is only a problem with pliable or porous materials so hard completely non absorbent materials like glass, ceramic, wood etc are not included, as they don't absorb any tangible dirt or grime. This explains why it's ok to wash dishes, pots and pans on shabbos (assuming they are needed for shabbos use, you don't pour boiling hot water onto the grease, and it's done with a type of sponge that's acceptable, ie don't use a wet sponge or rag!). There are 3 methods through which 1 can violate this melacha: 1) Soaking When liquid saturates a cloth it has the effect of loosening soil and stains. So, soaking a fabric in any clear liquid is a problem even if no scrubbing or squeezing is done, and even if the stain doesn't disappear, eg, you can't sprinkle water onto a clean shirt. Paper napkins and paper towels (that has been pre cut before shabbos) may be wetted for wiping a counter top, but don't squeeze them while wiping. 2) Scrubbing Rubbing or scrubbing a garment even when dry to remove a stain is the melacha because the friction of the scrubbing forces out dirt. This can be whether you scrub with a brush, another part of the garment or even with your hands, eg one can't remove a stain by folding over part of the garment and rubbing it against your skin. Even to rub a leather belt clean is a problem! 3) Squeezing Squeezing or exerting strong pressure on a wet fabric effectively flushes out the saturated moisture, eg squeezing, wringing etc. Any form of forcing out liquid is a problem even by vigorous shaking, so one mustn't shake out their wet raincoat. Note, a plastic raincoat could be, as it's non absorbent. Even to walk or step on carpet that's wet to press out the moisture isn't ok! The way to deal with a spill is to gently place paper towels over the area to absorb the surface liquid. It's not ok to use a mop as it's designed to be wrung out regularly.

137

2 Truths & a Lie about Drastic Change with Julie

Nov 29, 2022

30:06

Can you guess the lie? Julie Rothschild Levi from officiallyjulie comedy talks about what it's like to make drastic changes in her humorous, entertaining and insightful way. Listen and let us know what you think!

138

3 Reasons Why You Fail (Toldot)

Nov 24, 2022

6:10

You're not self-sabotaging. Here's 3 human tendencies that are why you fail. We look at the Torah Portion on Toldot and Rebecca and see insights into why we fail.

139

Shabbos Treasures 31 - Pulling Your Hair Out

Nov 23, 2022

22:27

Question 1) Pulling out a grey hair on Shabbos, ok? Question 2) What about tweezing eyebrows? Question 3) How about pulling a hair from a fur coat? Question 4) Removing feathers from a cooked chicken?? Question 5) Is it always OK to comb hair on Shabbos? Question 6) How can you remove nits on Shabbos? Gum?! This "melacha" is the first in a group of 13 that comprises the essential steps in the processing of wool fabrics and garments. Shearing the wool of a sheep is the 1st stage in the manufacture of woolen garments. It can be *defined as the severing or uprooting of any growing part of the body of any creature*, even one no longer alive. Also included is *cutting or tweeting hair from one's head or body.* Even cutting a single hair is this "melacha". Biting or pulling out hair is also prohibited. *Tweezing eyebrows or other excess hair or using a hair remover isn't ok.* As a dead animal is included in this "melacha" you can't pull a hair from a natural fur. But, it's *ok to remove feathers from a cooked chicken* for various reasons, including that the cooking causes the feathers and hair to loosen their grip and come off easily, therefore they are considered "flicked" through the cooking. *Cutting or brushing hair is this "melacha", as it will inevitably pull out hair.* In order to *brush hair in a permissable* way; 1) use a *soft bristle brush* as the bristles usually bend. 2) use in a *gentle way*. 3) designate a *special shabbos brush* (due to a different issue). However if someone knows their hair will come out no matter what, this wouldn't help. *Nits* would appear to be a similar issue. The way to deal with this is to remove them *without any comb in a gentle way so it's not being tugged from its roots.* This can be done by gently grasping the long strand of hair with one's thumb and forefinger, between the root and the knit while sliding the nit upwards and out of the hair with the thumbnail and forefinger of another hand. Additionally, shampoos should not be used. What would you say about *removing gum* from hair?! It can't be forcibly pulled out as it will definitely cause hair to be pulled out. Possible solution is to apply *ice to the spot where the gum is embedded which usually causes the gum to harden and lose some of its stickiness and after a couple of minutes should slide off without pulling hair!* A few drops of oil could accomplish the same result. And.. what about removing a bandaid/plaster from male skin?! Try using oil or nail polish remover to devolve the adhesive. Otherwise leave plaster on till after Shabbos. *Cutting or removing fingernails or toenails is a problem*, or even a part of a nail. Similarly, one shouldn't remove a wart, a pimple or even loose bits of dried skin.

140

Journaling & Mindful Moments with Ariella Azaraf LCSW

Nov 23, 2022

39:25

Understand more about the benefits and how to of journaling with expert Ariella Azaraf. Bought to you by the Global Jewish Sisterhood on Facebook

141

You're Living a Double Life! (Chayei Sara)

Nov 17, 2022

6:04

You're living a double life, but it might not be a bad thing. Listen to find out!!

142

When Life Seems Insurmountable (Vayera)

Nov 10, 2022

3:31

Sometimes life can throw us insurmountable challenges - we learn from Abraham and his challenges a mindset that we can adopt to help us get through our tests. This episode is dedicated to the memory of Shlomo HaLevi Ben Masha.

143

What's the Big Deal about Abraham? The Crazy Smoker!

Nov 3, 2022

7:13

Hey, so I'd like to think that if I had absolute clarity about something I'd also do it, so what was the big deal that Abraham went when G-d told him to go? G-d told him so!! We look at a crazy story of a smoker and how it relates to our life! (Lech Lecha)

144

More Important than Kids (Noah)

Oct 28, 2022

6:22

What could possibly be more important than the kids!?! And what does it have to do with the Facebook Whistle Blower? Listen to this fascinating thought from the second part in our series of the weekly Torah portion, Noah where we hear a short idea to take into the week.

145

What's Religion About Anyway? (Bereishit)

Oct 21, 2022

6:53

Is it just a list of dos and don'ts? A bunch of restrictions? We go back to the beginning - the creation of man and look at some life principles. Join us as we take a few minutes each week to look at the torah reading of the week and discover something we can relate to. Let me know your thoughts +447990333946

146

Strong Emotions, Moses Failed Prayer & Hoshana Rabbah

Oct 15, 2022

6:49

How do we handle strong emotions? Let's look at Moses failed prayer and this will give us an insight into best way to channel our emotions. We also look at hoshana rabbah and what sometimes holds us back from prayer. ALSO what's coming next on the podcast!!!

147

Religious Hypocrisy? Ha'azinu

Oct 6, 2022

5:21

As a rebbetzin I get a lot of questions... one of the harder ones is why some religious people do bad things... in this episode we explore this issue.

148

Is there Value in Thoughts without Action!?! Vayelech

Sep 30, 2022

6:30

If you've ever been told that it's in your head you'll know it's usually said to diminish an experience. But what is the value of our thoughts. Here's some stunning insights.

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Prayer & Peace of Mind is Not This!! Nitzavim & Rosh Hashana

Sep 23, 2022

7:47

We're coming up to Rosh Hashana and the High Holidays ... there's lots of prayers there. Let's take a deep dive into what prayer is not, what ut is and how we can achieve peace of mind

150

The Curse of Dependency - Ki Tavo

Sep 15, 2022

9:25

Can Independence help you live a happier life and make more confident decisions? Is the ideal to be completely self-sufficient? Is it a curse to be dependent?

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