Popular Shows by Rena Reiser

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358 - Somatic mindfulness practice: Coming home to your body after the chaos

Mar 6, 2026

9:42

Purim is over. Your nervous system might not know that yet. The body doesn't reset the moment the seuda ends. It takes time to unwind from noise, from running, from giving, from holding everything together — or from not quite managing to. The activation lingers. The tension stays tucked into places you might not even notice until you slow down enough to feel them. This week's practice is a somatic tracking exercise — moving through the body with curiosity, resting wherever your attention is drawn, noticing what each part is still holding, and letting it know you're there. There's a line from the practice I want to offer you before you listen: "You might feel like you're not doing very much. But you're doing so much for your system." That's the paradox of this kind of work. Presence — just being with what's there — is not passive. It's how stuck energy begins to move. What is your body most ready to put down after this week? Listen here.

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368 - The Invisible Drain: Why the Masculine Business Blueprint is Quietly Burning You Out

Jul 6, 2026

32:21

Running your own business was supposed to feel like freedom. So why does it sometimes feel like the loneliest, most triggering relationship in your life? In this episode, I pull back the curtain on what actually happens in the nervous system of a self-employed woman, all the unprocessed parts that get stirred up the moment you put yourself out there, ask to get paid, or try to be seen. I unpack why connection isn't a "nice extra" but a basic regulatory need, why the masculine blueprint for building a business quietly burns women out, and why even the most "successful-looking" women eventually hit a wall that no pros-and-cons list can solve. This isn't a business strategy episode. It's a permission slip to listen to what's actually happening underneath the structures, the systems, and the 30-day plans, and to build something that can actually hold you.

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367 - The Missing Piece: Helping Clients Access Their Bodies When They Can't

Jun 30, 2026

20:33

Many practitioners are taught that the key to therapeutic change is helping clients drop into their bodies to access a "felt sense." But what do you do when a client simply can't feel what is happening inside? If you've ever felt frustrated by standard approaches, or watched a client struggle to follow instructions that just don't land, you aren't alone. Following the "six steps" is often not enough for those who are disconnected, flooded, or operating from a place of chronic dysregulation . In this episode, we move away from the "all-or-nothing" expectation of immediate embodiment. Instead, we explore a more practical, incremental framework for helping clients safely build the capacity to go deeper. By using the Experiencing Scale as a roadmap, we can meet clients exactly where they are, before even mentioning the word "body," to help them bridge the gap between their stories and their internal experience .

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366 - Beyond the Protocol: The 30-Second Shift CBT and Somatic Work Are Missing

Jun 25, 2026

22:12

We've all been there: guiding a client through a protocol only to feel like we're still not getting anywhere, or maybe finding ourselves stuck in our own patterns despite "doing all the work." In this week's podcast, Rabbi Reiser sits down with Rena Reiser to explore why our reliance on rigid, systematized therapy models, whether cognitive or somatic, can sometimes bypass the organic "felt sense" where true transformation lives . This isn't just about refining a clinical technique for those in the chair; it's about rediscovering a way to access our own internal wisdom, allowing us to show up more fully, both for ourselves and the people we support . This episode is a deep dive into the "30-second shift": a precise neurological moment where the logical left brain and the emotional right brain finally integrate, creating a level of clarity that standard protocols often miss . We discuss how to move beyond merely "thinking" or "breathing" through a problem and instead learn to lean into that "unknown something" to foster a genuine, system-wide settlement . Whether you're looking to break through your own barriers or help your clients unlock the change they've been longing for, join us to discover how to integrate these vital, moment-to-moment shifts into your life and your practice.

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365 - Driving with Your Foot on the Gas and Brakes: Why You're Stuck in Functional Freeze

Jun 19, 2026

13:56

We're pulling back the curtain on how subconscious patterns like fawning, people-pleasing, and body judgment are actually desperate attempts to find safety when our inner world feels unsafe. By shifting out of our analytical minds and learning to truly listen to our body's somatic cues, we can finally stop the unfortunate dance of chronic dysregulation. Tune in to discover how to lift your foot off the brakes, reclaim your menuchas hanefesh, and step back into a life of genuine regulation, joy, and purpose.

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364 - From the Inside Out: Healing Your Relationship with Body, Intimacy, and Safety

Jun 14, 2026

12:54

Have you ever repeated a positive affirmation you were supposed to say, but realized deep down that your body didn't believe a single word of it? We tend to look at our bodies from the outside in by judging what we see in the mirror, criticizing our "imperfections", and treating our struggles with body image or intimacy like separate, frustrating problems to solve. It's exhausting, and honestly, it leaves a lot of us feeling incredibly lonely. But if you've ever felt like your body shuts down or goes into overdrive when you just want to connect, you aren't alone. This is your nervous system simply trying to protect you. Real healing doesn't happen by forcing yourself to repeat affirmations you don't actually believe. It happens when we step out of our heads and learn to listen to what our bodies are telling us from the inside out. When we feel safe, our entire physiology shifts, moving us away from shame and anxiety and opening us up to true, deep connection. This podcast is a gentle space to explore somatic healing, nervous system regulation, and emotional truth. Together, we'll move past the isolation, look at the hidden pain beneath the surface, and learn how to build a richer, kinder, and safer relationship with our bodies and ourselves.

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363 - Your mind isn't lying to you. It's just looking in the wrong place.

Jun 4, 2026

12:12

Why You Can't Think Your Way Out of Anxiety Is your mind a meaning-making machine that just won't stop spinning? When a wave of worry or dread hits, our minds immediately look for a story to explain the discomfort. But what if the story isn't the source? Long before your brain catches up, your nervous system has already answered its core question: Am I safe or in danger? In this episode, we challenge the traditional approach of reframing anxious thoughts and dive into what is actually happening below the surface. We explore where anxiety truly lives, the hidden purpose of the somatic alarm inside our bodies, and how this universal human struggle is secretly a roadmap guiding us toward our ultimate, deepest connection. Tune in to discover how to stop looking outward for logic, and how to finally answer the alarm from the inside out.

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362 - Freedom of Expression - Somatic Mindfulness Practice

May 13, 2026

10:10

This week's podcast episode was all about journaling, expression, and what happens in our bodies when we don't let things out. And right after recording it, I sat down and recorded a short somatic practice to go with it. It's a focusing-based exploration of your relationship to expression — what comes up when you think about it, what it would feel like if it were free, and what your body already knows about all of this. Give yourself ten minutes. See what comes up.

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361 - Expression Is Medicine: What Journaling Does to Your Nervous System

May 10, 2026

45:48

When my husband and I were first married, I suffered from chronic migraines, back pain, and other physical symptoms. What I've come to understand since then is that my body was doing the only thing it knew how to do: expressing through pain what I wasn't letting myself express. In this episode, we talk about the connection between self-expression and physical and emotional wellbeing — and specifically, about journaling as a tool for regulation, healing, and bringing out what's inside you. We get into: - why the brain creates physical pain to distract us from emotional pain (Dr. Sarno's work) - the one thing that finally helped me feel safe enough to journal - non-dominant hand writing and what it does to the brain - how I journal in a focusing way - the two different types of expression I use - the balance between expression and silence - the Torah idea that each of us has something completely unique to bring into the world

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360 - The Iceberg Within: Radical Self-Honesty and the Path Forward

May 3, 2026

50:53

We're back! After almost two months away - because life here has been a lot - I'm so glad to be back with a new episode, and as always, joined by my husband Rabbi Yonasan Reiser. This week we're talking about being honest with ourselves. The kind of honesty that requires us to look underneath the surface - at the beliefs, the feelings, the needs, the thoughts that are quietly running the show whether we acknowledge them or not. We talk about why we avoid this kind of honesty, what happens when we don't feel our feelings (including a powerful Torah insight about anger and hatred), and what it actually means to embody something. We also get into shame, compassion, the language of the body, and why focusing is so powerful as a gentle path to self-discovery - one hair at a time.

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359 - Coping Mechanisms: What they are, why you do them, and how to stop judging yourself for them

Mar 8, 2026

55:41

It's been a week. In this episode, my husband Rabbi Yonasan Reiser and I sit down to talk about something that's been very alive right now: coping mechanisms in a real, honest, this-is-what-our-nervous-systems-actually-do way. We talk about what coping mechanisms actually are, why we can't just decide to stop doing them, and why the self-deprecation that comes after — the memes, the jokes, the haha-I-ate-everything — is actually just another coping mechanism sitting on top of the first one. I share what my own coping has looked like during this war. My husband shares his. We get into soldiers and dissociation and bitachon. And we close with the idea that during times of intense pressure, the small steps we manage to take — the tiny bits of awareness, the moments of trying — carry exponential weight. Neurologically and spiritually. The olive doesn't reveal its light until it's pressed. This one's for anyone who's been a little hard on themselves lately for how they're coping. Which is probably most of us.

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347 - His Reaction Is Not Your Responsibility

Feb 22, 2026

58:34

You know that conversation that starts with one thing and somehow ends with both of you feeling terrible? This episode is the antidote to that. My husband Rabbi Yonasan Reiser and I speak about asking for what you need in marriage, and how you handle it when the answer is no. We role play it. Twice. The difference is striking. If you've ever swallowed a need because you were afraid of how he'd react, this one's for you.

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357 - You're not the first

Mar 5, 2026

1:51

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356 - The joy gap

Mar 4, 2026

1:18

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355 - When it's too much

Mar 3, 2026

1:35

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354 - What Purim actually asks of you

Mar 2, 2026

1:53

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353 - The Purim episode is here

Mar 1, 2026

45:25

We recorded this one fast — "recording in 30 minutes, send your questions" fast. The questions that came in were honest ones. About the weight of expectations, the mishloach manos pressure, the teenagers you can't control, the joy you're supposed to feel but don't. The life force that feels stifled. My husband and I sat with all of it. Before you press play: What's the one thing about Purim you're most bracing yourself for? Freilichen Purim, Rena

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352 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice - Where You End and They Begin

Feb 27, 2026

9:57

This practice uses the physical boundary between your body and the surface supporting you as a way to sense into relational boundaries — where you end and another person begins. When to use this practice: Before a conversation where you need to set a boundary When you're not sure if you're taking on someone else's emotions After listening to "His Reaction Is Not Your Responsibility" When you know you need to say no but feel guilty about it Anytime you're struggling to distinguish between what's yours and what's theirs What you'll need: 10-15 minutes of quiet A comfortable place to sit or lie down A boundary situation that has some charge, but isn't your most intense one (around 3/10) Note: Boundaries aren't meant to control the other person's reaction. They're for you — to know what's yours to hold and what isn't.

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351 - You're not in control of how he receives it

Feb 26, 2026

1:18

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350 - You don't actually need a blanket

Feb 25, 2026

1:05

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349 - When Focusing becomes Tefillah

Feb 24, 2026

1:03

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348 - This is why every argument goes in circles

Feb 23, 2026

1:15

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296 - Embodying Your Strengths - somatic mindfulness practice 03 06 2025

Mar 6, 2025

9:41

Embodying Your Strengths In this guided practice, I invite you to connect with your strengths—from within. As we settle into the body, we’ll gently reflect on a recent moment where you showed up in a way that makes you proud. Through breath, awareness, and presence, we’ll explore what it feels like to fully receive the recognition of your own strength, letting it settle into your body and being.

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245 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 04 14 2024

Apr 14, 2024

10:37

Deepening Our Relationship Within In Rena's soothing guidance, we begin with deep breaths, each inhale reminding us that Hashem is breathing life into us in every moment. As we sense our bodies, supported and safe, we invite relaxation, signaling to our nervous systems that we are okay. We check in, inviting our bodies to speak, noticing sensations, emotions, or memories as they surface. With gentle curiosity, we come into relationship with these inner experiences, welcoming them without judgment. We explore their origins, listening with acceptance to their messages, finding familiarity in their whispers from the past. With compassion, we offer what is needed, acknowledging the innocence and vulnerability within. As we return to our day, we carry these insights, allowing them to deepen our understanding of ourselves. We linger in this space of connection, honoring what arises, for as long as it serves us and our bodies.

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246 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 04 15 2024

Apr 15, 2024

9:40

Embodied Inner Conflict In Rena's guided somatic mindfulness practice, we embarked on a journey of self-awareness and embodiment. Beginning with deep breaths, we tuned into the quality of our breath, noticing its pace and depth. With gentle guidance, we invited our bodies to settle and relax, feeling the surface beneath us. Acknowledging inner conflicts, we explored the tensions between our desires, allowing each part to express its needs fully. As we listened, we observed how these conflicts manifested within our bodies, embracing the sensations and emotions that arose. Through this process of dialogue and introspection, we learned to hold space for both sides of the conflict simultaneously, honoring the complexity of our experience. In this practice, we found unity within ourselves, inviting a solution that respects all aspects of our being. If you feel called to support my mission of promoting Menuchas Hanefesh and self-care, donations are gratefully accepted on my website: https://renareiser.com/product/the-daily-pause/

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247 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 04 16 2024

Apr 16, 2024

10:37

Finding Freedom in the Body In Rena's guided somatic mindfulness practice, we begin by taking deep breaths, acknowledging the life force within us. With each inhale and exhale, we feel Hashem sustaining us. We tune into our bodies, feeling the support of the surface beneath us, allowing ourselves to settle and rest. This time is dedicated solely to ourselves, letting go of everything else. Rena invites us to bring to mind a challenging aspect of Pesach preparation, observing where and how we feel it in our bodies. We zoom in on these sensations, exploring them from different angles. Then, we shift focus to the purpose behind our challenges, aiming for a sense of Cherus / freedom. We recall moments of true freedom and Hashem's safety, feeling expansiveness in our bodies. Gradually, we zoom out, embracing the full experience of freedom. Finally, we reimagine the challenge enveloped in the sense of freedom, finding strength and renewal within ourselves. We choose a word to carry with us, reminding us that even in tough times, we can tap into a sense of spaciousness and capability. Rena encourages us to stay in this space for as long as we need, honoring our bodies' rhythms. If you feel called to support my mission of promoting Menuchas Hanefesh and self-care, donations are gratefully accepted on my website: https://renareiser.com/product/the-daily-pause/

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248 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 04 17 2024

Apr 17, 2024

8:25

Affirming Our Worth: Healing Through Perceived Failure As Rena guided us, we started by honoring our breath, allowing it to resonate freely within us. It was a gentle reminder that it was okay to slow down, to grant ourselves the time we needed. With each breath, we rooted ourselves into the present moment, feeling the support of the surface beneath us. We were invited to confront moments of perceived failure as it related to preparing for Pesach, acknowledging any self-judgments. Then, we summoned the image of a supportive figure, real or imagined, and absorbed their affirmations into our being. Their words echoed within us, filling us with warmth and acceptance. We took the words of this person and multiplied their impact exponentially when offered by Hashem, enriching our experience of acceptance and love. If you feel called to support my mission of promoting Menuchas Hanefesh and self-care, donations are gratefully accepted on my website: https://renareiser.com/product/the-daily-pause/

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249 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 05 01 2024

May 1, 2024

9:48

Sinking into Stillness: Feeling Hashem's Love with Every Breath We embark on a journey of deep connection, led by Rena's soothing guidance. We start by taking a few deep breaths, centering ourselves in the present moment and slowing down the rush of life. As we breathe deeply, we let go of the busyness that surrounds us, sinking into the support of the surface beneath us. Rena gently encourages us to relax even further, inviting our bodies to release tension. With each breath, we bring awareness to our heart's space, visualizing its shape and color, feeling its steady rhythm. We synchronize our breath with our heartbeat, noticing the natural flow without the need for control. Breathing in Hashem's love with each inhale, we send it to the parts of ourselves that crave it most, feeling supported and held. In this space of love and acceptance, we let go, allowing Hashem's loving presence to envelop us from within and without. With each exhale, we release, feeling the profound impact on our bodies and minds. Together, we stay in this nurturing space for as long as it serves us, honoring the needs of our bodies and spirits. If you feel called to support my mission of promoting Menuchas Hanefesh and self-care, please consider one or more of the following. 1) Share this episode with a friend or family member you think would appreciate it. 2) Leave a review on your favorite podcast app or my website. 3) Make a donation on my website: https://renareiser.com/product/the-daily-pause/ Thank you for your support!

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250 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 05 02 2024

May 2, 2024

10:22

Mindful Release Together, we embark on a journey of somatic mindfulness with Rena as our guide. We start by taking deep breaths, allowing each inhale and exhale to flow naturally. We connect with our bodies, feeling the support beneath us, and gently releasing any tension without force. Placing our hands on our face and chest, we hold ourselves with warmth and compassion, reassuring our system that we are safe. Reflecting on the recent weeks of preparing for Pesach and Pesach itself, we acknowledge the cycle of chores and responsibilities, observing any thoughts, emotions, memories, or sensations that arise within us. We create space to separate ourselves from these experiences, allowing them to exist as they are. With Rena's gentle encouragement, we explore movement or sound, expressing our emotions mindfully and intentionally. We listen to our bodies, honoring their needs and pausing when necessary. As we return our hands to our face and chest, we take a deep breath, remaining present, in tune with ourselves, embracing each moment with acceptance and openness. If you feel called to support my mission of promoting Menuchas Hanefesh and self-care, please consider one or more of the following. 1) Share this episode with a friend or family member you think would appreciate it. 2) Leave a review on your favorite podcast app or my website. 3) Make a donation on my website: https://renareiser.com/product/the-daily-pause/ Thank you for your support!

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251 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 05 05 2024

May 5, 2024

10:02

Hunger Pains: An Exploration of Inner Longing We began by taking a few deep breaths, letting each exhale release a bit more tension. We invited our breath to fill us deeply, from stomach to chest, noticing which parts of our body welcomed it with gratitude and which struggled. As we settled into our bodies, we envisioned a scene in a restaurant, where we or another person hesitated over what to order. This metaphorical scene served as a poignant reflection of our inner landscape, where we often grapple with decisions and desires, which cannot be met unless we are first aware of what we're desiring. Like the patient waitress, we listened to our body's needs—physical, emotional, spiritual—sensing where hunger resided and what it desired. With compassion, we explored the origins of this hunger and what might satisfy it, allowing our bodies to speak their truth. Finally, we imagined fulfilling these needs, observing the ripple effects on our body and mind. We remained in this nurturing space, honoring ourselves for as long as it served us. If you feel called to support my mission of promoting Menuchas Hanefesh and self-care, please consider one or more of the following. 1) Share this episode with a friend or family member you think would appreciate it. 2) Leave a review on your favorite podcast app or my website. 3) Send me an email or message with your experience listening to this. 4) Make a donation on my website: https://renareiser.com/product/the-daily-pause/ Thank you for your support!

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252 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 05 06 2024

May 6, 2024

10:09

Harmonizing Dichotomy During Rena's guided somatic mindfulness practice, we journeyed inward, inviting our breath to echo in the present moment. We paused to notice the compassionate, loving way we could be with ourselves, feeling the depth and fullness of each breath. As we sank into our bodies, we acknowledged our current starting point and envisioned our ultimate goals, sensing the distance between them. Shifting between the present and the future, we allowed ourselves to experience both extremes, staying connected with compassion. Returning to the present, we focused on the next step, feeling relief and completion in each movement forward. We remained with these sensations, honoring our pace and connection with ourselves. If you feel called to support my mission of promoting Menuchas Hanefesh and self-care, please consider one or more of the following. 1) Share this episode with a friend or family member you think would appreciate it. 2) Leave a review on your favorite podcast app or my website. 3) Send me an email or message with your experience listening to this. 4) Make a donation on my website: https://renareiser.com/product/the-daily-pause/ Thank you for your support!

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253 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 05 07 2024

May 7, 2024

9:47

Focusing on Body Sensations During Rena's guided somatic mindfulness practice, we began by taking deep breaths, allowing ourselves to notice the depth of each inhale without forcing any change. She guided us to feel the support of the surface beneath us, inviting our bodies to settle into it gradually. We focused intently on the part of our bodies most connected to the surface, acknowledging the sensations of support and comfort. Later, we shifted our focus to any sensations or physical pain within our bodies, zooming in on these experiences with gentle awareness. With each breath, we explored these sensations, allowing thoughts and emotions to arise and pass. Then, we expanded our awareness to include the space around these sensations, noticing any shifts or changes. Through this practice, we cultivated a sense of embodied presence, anchoring ourselves in the present moment. If you feel called to support my mission of promoting Menuchas Hanefesh and self-care, please consider one or more of the following. 1) Share this episode with a friend or family member you think would appreciate it. 2) Leave a review on your favorite podcast app or my website. 3) Send me an email or message with your experience listening to this. 4) Make a donation on my website: https://renareiser.com/product/the-daily-pause/ Thank you for your support!

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254 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 05 09 2024

May 9, 2024

9:57

Past & Present Integration In Rena's guided somatic mindfulness practice, we started with gentle breath awareness, observing its temperature, pace, and depth without trying to alter it. Gradually, we shifted our focus to the sensations of our bodies, feeling the support beneath us and inviting further relaxation. With compassion, we explored the emotions and memories evoked by our Shabbos preparation to-do lists, acknowledging past experiences and needs left unmet. Through gentle inquiry and visualization, we tenderly addressed these unmet needs, allowing ourselves to imagine fulfillment and seeking support from Hashem. As we imagined preparing for the upcoming Shabbos, we bridged the past with the present, recognizing that while some needs went unmet before, we now have the power to try to meet them with Hashem's help. If you feel called to support my mission of promoting Menuchas Hanefesh and self-care, please consider one or more of the following. 1) Share this episode with a friend or family member you think would appreciate it. 2) Leave a review on your favorite podcast app or my website. 3) Send me an email or message with your experience listening to this. 4) Make a donation on my website: https://renareiser.com/product/the-daily-pause/ Thank you for your support!

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255 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 05 12 2024

May 12, 2024

9:47

Accepting My Parts As They Are: No Change Needed In Rena's guided somatic mindfulness practice, we embarked on a journey of deepening our connection to our bodies and the present moment. We began with breath awareness, inviting each inhale and exhale to guide us deeper into ourselves. As we settled into our bodies, we observed sensations without judgment, allowing them to simply exist. With gentle curiosity, we explored the landscape of our inner selves, meeting sensations with compassion and acceptance. We listened attentively to the messages our bodies shared, honoring their wisdom without the need for them to change. Through this practice of deep listening and acceptance, we cultivated a profound sense of presence and understanding within ourselves. Here, we found a sanctuary of self-awareness and empathy, where every sensation and emotion was welcomed with open arms. If you feel called to support my mission of promoting Menuchas Hanefesh and self-care, please consider one or more of the following. 1) Share this episode with a friend or family member you think would appreciate it. 2) Leave a review on your favorite podcast app or my website. 3) Send me an email or message with your experience listening to this. 4) Make a donation on my website: https://renareiser.com/product/the-daily-pause/ Thank you for your support!

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256 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 05 13 2024

May 13, 2024

9:45

Rewiring Emotional Escapes In Rena's guided somatic mindfulness practice, we took deep breaths, feeling the nourishment of each inhale and exhale. We connected with our bodies, sensing their support and settling into them. Then, we recalled a moment of feeling dysregulated or overwhelmed, and instead of turning to distraction, we slowed down and tuned into our feelings. We explored where those emotions manifested in our bodies, and we gently engaged with them, finding just the right distance to experience them without being overwhelmed. We asked ourselves what we truly needed in that moment, without judgment or expectation. Imagining meeting those needs, we alternated between the discomfort of the unmet need and the relief of having it fulfilled, allowing these sensations to flow through us. Through this practice, we learned to listen to our bodies and meet our needs with compassion and understanding. If you feel called to support my mission of promoting Menuchas Hanefesh and self-care, please consider one or more of the following. 1) Share this episode with a friend or family member you think would appreciate it. 2) Leave a review on your favorite podcast app or my website. 3) Send me an email or message with your experience listening to this. 4) Make a donation on my website: https://renareiser.com/product/the-daily-pause/ Thank you for your support!

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257 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 05 14 2024

May 14, 2024

9:41

Fascination with Sensations In Rena's guided somatic mindfulness practice, we began by taking deep breaths, allowing our breath to serve as an invitation to slow down and connect with ourselves. We focused on sensing our bodies and how they were supported by the surface beneath us, inviting ourselves to settle even more. Then, we scanned our bodies with curiosity, noticing any sensations that called for our attention. With fascination, we explored these sensations without getting caught in thoughts or memories, simply being with them as they were. Throughout the practice, we learned to stay present with whatever arose, trusting that by doing so, we could release attachment and tension. We allowed ourselves to be fascinated by both our bodily sensations and the space around us, ultimately coming back to our breath with a sense of awareness and connection. If you feel called to support my mission of promoting Menuchas Hanefesh and self-care, please consider one or more of the following. 1) Share this episode with a friend or family member you think would appreciate it. 2) Leave a review on your favorite podcast app or my website. 3) Send me an email or message with your experience listening to this. 4) Make a donation on my website: https://renareiser.com/product/the-daily-pause/ Thank you for your support!

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258 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 05 15 2024

May 15, 2024

9:58

Hashem's Infinite Embrace Visualization In Rena's guided somatic mindfulness practice, we were gently led into a space of deep embodiment and self-nurturing. We began by acknowledging the permission to slow down, to step away from the chaos of life, and to simply relax. As Rena's words enveloped us, we felt ourselves internalizing this permission, allowing it to seep into every fiber of our being. Through a powerful visualization, we connected with the image of a newborn longing for love and care being held by a nurturing parent. Then, tenderly, we saw ourselves as the infant, experiencing the profound sensation of being held, understood, and supported by Hashem's loving arms. With each breath, we sank deeper into this nurturing embrace, feeling the warmth and security reverberate through our bodies. Rena guided us to notice the subtle shifts within us, as we surrendered to the embrace of infinite support and love. In this moment, we were cradled in Hashem's loving arms, feeling seen, heard, and cherished. If you feel called to support my mission of promoting Menuchas Hanefesh and self-care, please consider one or more of the following. 1) Share this episode with a friend or family member you think would appreciate it. 2) Leave a review on your favorite podcast app or my website. 3) Send me an email or message with your experience listening to this. 4) Make a donation on my website: https://renareiser.com/product/the-daily-pause/ Thank you for your support!

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259 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 05 16 2024

May 16, 2024

10:09

Reflections: Embracing Our Values and Finding Inner Settling In Rena's guided somatic mindfulness practice, we began by taking deep breaths, inviting our breath to echo through us gently. We connected with our bodies, feeling the support beneath us, gradually letting go and sinking into the present moment. Reflecting on our week, we explored each day, noticing moments aligned with our values, bringing settling. We acknowledged instances where we strayed from our values, allowing ourselves to feel, without judgment, finding the right distance from those experiences. Imagining possibilities, we considered how we could have lived our values fully, observing the impact on our bodies and minds. As we concluded, Rena prompted us to carry this mindset forward, finding moments of solace and making choices from a place of calm regulation, staying in this space for as long as needed. If you feel called to support my mission of promoting Menuchas Hanefesh and self-care, please consider one or more of the following. 1) Share this episode with a friend or family member you think would appreciate it. 2) Leave a review on your favorite podcast app or my website. 3) Send me an email or message with your experience listening to this. 4) Make a donation on my website: https://renareiser.com/product/the-daily-pause/ Thank you for your support!

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260 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 05 19 2024

May 19, 2024

9:47

Embracing Radical Acceptance During the guided somatic mindfulness practice with Rena, we took deep breaths, inviting our breath to flow naturally without forcing it. We brought loving attention to our breath, recognizing how it supports us in every moment. We then settled into the surface we were on, inviting our bodies to relax. Our focus shifted to sensing our bodies, noticing the state of our nervous systems—whether calm, in fight-or-flight mode, shut down, or a blend of these states. We welcomed our current state with radical acceptance, without trying to change it. We paid attention to any sensations, thoughts, emotions, or memories that arose, observing where and how we felt them in our bodies. We listened to these parts of ourselves, acknowledging their perspectives and needs without judgment. We gave these parts permission to express themselves fully, staying present with them as long as needed. If you feel called to support my mission of promoting Menuchas Hanefesh and self-care, please consider one or more of the following. 1) Share this episode with a friend or family member you think would appreciate it. 2) Leave a review on your favorite podcast app or my website. 3) Send me an email or message with your experience listening to this. 4) Make a donation on my website: https://renareiser.com/product/the-daily-pause/ Thank you for your support!

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261 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 05 20 2024

May 20, 2024

9:35

Mindful Boundary Setting In Rena's guided somatic mindfulness practice, we journeyed into our bodies, inviting our breath to lead us into a state of deep relaxation and presence. We let go of the need to rush, allowing ourselves to settle into the support beneath us. With gentle guidance, we recalled moments where we said yes when we meant no, feeling into the sensations and emotions that arose. Then, we imagined ourselves upholding those boundaries, experiencing the empowerment of saying no. Through this process of exploration and embodiment, we discovered the wisdom within our bodies, learning how to honor our true desires with compassion and clarity. If you feel called to support my mission of promoting Menuchas Hanefesh and self-care, please consider one or more of the following. 1) Share this episode with a friend or family member you think would appreciate it. 2) Leave a review on your favorite podcast app or my website. 3) Send me an email or message with your experience listening to this. 4) Make a donation on my website: https://renareiser.com/product/the-daily-pause/ Thank you for your support!

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262 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 05 21 2024

May 21, 2024

9:46

Protective Layer Focus During our guided somatic mindfulness practice led by Rena, we took time to connect deeply with our bodies and breath. We began by slowing down our breathing, inviting relaxation and signaling to our entire being to let go and embrace renewal. We then focused our attention on the surface supporting us, feeling its stability. Rena guided us to notice any sensations, thoughts, or memories within us, encouraging curiosity and focus. We shifted our awareness to our skin, appreciating its vastness and protective qualities, recognizing it as a boundary and container for our thoughts, feelings, and dreams. Alternating our focus between internal sensations and the expanse of our skin, we explored the newness in familiar experiences, noticing the impact on our body and mind. If you feel called to support my mission of promoting Menuchas Hanefesh and self-care, please consider one or more of the following. 1) Share this episode with a friend or family member you think would appreciate it. 2) Leave a review on your favorite podcast app or my website. 3) Send me an email or message with your experience listening to this. 4) Make a donation on my website: https://renareiser.com/product/the-daily-pause/ Thank you for your support!

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263 - Answering Your Questions - Understanding Chronic Pain and Emotional Well-being

May 21, 2024

50:53

Understanding Chronic Pain and Emotional Well-being I'm excited to share with you the recording of our recent Q&A call where we delved into topics surrounding chronic pain, self-regulation, and emotional well-being. Here's a brief overview of what was covered: Addressing Chronic Pain Approaches: I discussed contrasting approaches to chronic pain, clarifying misconceptions and offering my perspective on effective methods. Embracing Emotions for Healing and Self-Regulation: We explored the significance of accepting and processing emotions as a pathway to healing and calmness. Self-Regulation and Nervous System States: I shared my personal insights on self-regulation and proposed a model for understanding nervous system states. Understanding Nervous System States and Felt Sense: We discussed the impact of different nervous system states on well-being and the concept of 'felt sense' in regulating emotions. Holistic Healing Model and Self-Regulation: I discussed the significance of understanding internal parts and values for holistic healing, emphasizing visualization and neuroplasticity. Overcoming Criticism-Induced Shutdowns: A participant asked about criticism-induced shutdowns, and I shared some strategies for mindfulness and acceptance. Embracing Emotional Parts and Expressions: The importance of understanding emotional parts and expressing emotions authentically was discussed, addressing societal stigma around public displays of emotion. Embracing Emotions, Communication, and Support: Open communication and seeking support were highlighted as essential for navigating emotional challenges, along with acknowledgment of unexplained fears and sensitivities. Somatic and Emotional Expression: Managing body memory and the importance of support from others were explored, alongside discussions on social norms around emotional expression. My Tearful Moments and Emotional Response: I shared three personal instances where I cried publically, reflecting on the natural response of the body to emotional situations. Processing Emotions: The complexities of processing emotions and seeking help were discussed, emphasizing self-care and allowing oneself time to process emotions. Feel free to share any thoughts or insights that resonate with you. Additionally, if you have any questions or would like further clarification on any of the topics discussed, don't hesitate to reach out. Thank you to everyone who participated in the call, and I look forward to our continued journey of exploration and growth together!

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264 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 05 22 2024

May 22, 2024

9:50

Self-Value Practice During Rena's guided somatic mindfulness practice, we began by taking deep breaths, allowing our bodies to relax without forcing anything. We noticed the support of the surface beneath us and invited our bodies to sink into it further. Rena encouraged us to bring to mind everything that needed to be done before Shabbos, from preparations to unfinished work, and to observe how thinking about these tasks affected our bodies, posture, and breath. We imagined ourselves accepting and valuing ourselves completely, regardless of our accomplishments. This acceptance brought a noticeable change in our bodies and minds, creating a sense of ease and self-respect. From this place of self-value, we envisioned completing our tasks with a sense of calm and presence. We felt more grounded and connected, carrying this feeling into our preparations. If you feel called to support my mission of promoting Menuchas Hanefesh and self-care, please consider one or more of the following. 1) Share this episode with a friend or family member you think would appreciate it. 2) Leave a review on your favorite podcast app or my website. 3) Send me an email or message with your experience listening to this. 4) Make a donation on my website: https://renareiser.com/product/the-daily-pause/ Thank you for your support!

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265 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 05 23 2024

May 26, 2024

9:33

Connecting to Comfort During Rena's guided somatic mindfulness practice, we began by taking deep breaths, inviting relaxation, and allowing our bodies to settle onto the supportive surface beneath us. We brought to mind an object that gives us comfort, either from our past or present, and imagined the comfort it provides. We focused on where and how we felt this comfort in our bodies, staying with the sensation. Rena then invited us to connect this feeling of comfort to the loving support of Hashem, recognizing that His support is infinitely more comforting. We were encouraged to hold on to this experience and remember that we can always rely on Hashem's endless comfort and support, especially when we need it most. If you feel called to support my mission of promoting Menuchas Hanefesh and self-care, please consider one or more of the following. 1) Share this episode with a friend or family member you think would appreciate it. 2) Leave a review on your favorite podcast app or my website. 3) Send me an email or message with your experience listening to this. 4) Make a donation on my website: https://renareiser.com/product/the-daily-pause/ Thank you for your support!

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266 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 05 26 2024

May 26, 2024

10:00

Respecting Our Inner Selves In Rena's guided somatic mindfulness practice, we engaged in a journey to become more embodied. We started by taking deep breaths, allowing ourselves to slow down and be present without forcing anything. We focused on sensing the support of the surface beneath us and invited our bodies to settle further. Shifting our awareness inward, we practiced giving respect to all parts of ourselves, noticing any thoughts, emotions, or sensations that arose. We listened to these inner experiences without judgment, providing space and respect for them to express themselves. We asked these parts how they felt, what they needed, and offered understanding and respect in return. This practice fostered a deep connection with our inner world, helping us to acknowledge and honor our entire being. If you feel called to support my mission of promoting Menuchas Hanefesh and self-care, please consider one or more of the following. 1) Share this episode with a friend or family member you think would appreciate it. 2) Leave a review on your favorite podcast app or my website. 3) Send me an email or message with your experience listening to this. 4) Make a donation on my website: https://renareiser.com/product/the-daily-pause/ Thank you for your support!

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267 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 05 27 2024

May 27, 2024

9:36

Music's Presence and Absence In our guided somatic mindfulness practice with Rena, we began by taking deep breaths, allowing our breath to flow naturally. We invited our bodies to relax and sink into the surface beneath us, releasing tension and slowing down to be present with ourselves. Rena then introduced the topic of music, guiding us to observe how our bodies responded to thoughts of music, noting the physical sensations and emotions that arose. We explored the contrast by considering the absence of music, again noticing our bodily and emotional reactions. We alternated between these experiences, paying attention to the sensations and feelings each evoked. This practice helped us understand that our bodies can tolerate both extremes, provided we maintain a sense of safety. We concluded by reflecting on what enabled us to be present with both experiences and considering how to carry this awareness into our daily lives. If you feel called to support my mission of promoting Menuchas Hanefesh and self-care, please consider one or more of the following. 1) Share this episode with a friend or family member you think would appreciate it. 2) Leave a review on your favorite podcast app or my website. 3) Send me an email or message with your experience listening to this. 4) Make a donation on my website: https://renareiser.com/product/the-daily-pause/ Thank you for your support!

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268 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 05 28 2024

May 28, 2024

9:42

Breath Awareness During our guided somatic mindfulness practice with Rena, we embarked on a journey to become more embodied. We began by taking a few deep breaths, allowing our breath to go as deep as it could at that moment without forcing it. We grounded ourselves by feeling the support of the surface beneath us and invited our bodies to settle further. We focused intently on our breath, tracking its rhythm, temperature, and texture. Then, we defocused, simply being aware of the vast oxygen around us, sensing its nourishing presence. We gently moved our heads, exploring the air from different directions, before returning our focus to our breath, observing any changes. By the end, we reflected on any shifts in our body and mind, appreciating the awareness we brought to our breath and the world around us. If you feel called to support my mission of promoting Menuchas Hanefesh and self-care, please consider one or more of the following. 1) Share this episode with a friend or family member you think would appreciate it. 2) Leave a review on your favorite podcast app or my website. 3) Send me an email or message with your experience listening to this. 4) Make a donation on my website: https://renareiser.com/product/the-daily-pause/ Thank you for your support!

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269 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 05 29 2024

May 29, 2024

9:46

Embodying Relaxing and Trusting Hashem During our guided somatic mindfulness practice with Rena, we took a journey inward to become more embodied. We began by taking deep breaths, inviting our breath to signal that it was okay to slow down, relax, and let go. We allowed our bodies to settle into the surface beneath us, feeling thoroughly supported. Rena asked us to recall a time when we struggled physically, emotionally, or spiritually, and then suddenly found help. We sensed this in our bodies, remembering the relief and safety it brought. We then brought to mind a current, smaller struggle, sensing how it felt in our bodies. We recalled the past help we received, trusting that we could rely on Hashem's support again. We were encouraged to let go of responsibilities that weren't ours and to feel supported, knowing Hashem's help would come as it always has. If you feel called to support my mission of promoting Menuchas Hanefesh and self-care, please consider one or more of the following. 1) Share this episode with a friend or family member you think would appreciate it. 2) Leave a review on your favorite podcast app or my website. 3) Send me an email or message with your experience listening to this. 4) Make a donation on my website: https://renareiser.com/product/the-daily-pause/ Thank you for your support!

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270 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 05 30 2024

May 30, 2024

9:40

Mindful Week Completion In Rena's guided somatic mindfulness practice, we started by taking deep breaths, allowing our inhales to go as deep as our bodies were willing, and extending our exhales. We tuned into our bodies, feeling the support of the surface beneath us, and allowed ourselves to sink into it. We then brought to mind everything that needed to be done to finish off our week, noticing the emotions and physical sensations that arose. We distinguished each emotion, sensation, and thought, checking in with each part of ourselves to understand its needs. With compassion, we acknowledged and accepted these parts, listening to what form of support they required. Finally, we noticed the impact of this mindful practice on our bodies and asked for Hashem's assistance to help us support these parts as we moved forward. If you feel called to support my mission of promoting Menuchas Hanefesh and self-care, please consider one or more of the following. 1) Share this episode with a friend or family member you think would appreciate it. 2) Leave a review on your favorite podcast app or my website. 3) Send me an email or message with your experience listening to this. 4) Make a donation on my website: https://renareiser.com/product/the-daily-pause/ Thank you for your support!

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271 - Rosh Chodesh Elul Renewal - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 09 04 2024

Sep 4, 2024

9:56

Rosh Chodesh Elul Renewal In this special Rosh Chodesh Elul guided somatic mindfulness practice with Rena, you'll be gently led to connect with your body and explore how it's holding the challenges in your life. Through simple breathing and relaxation, you'll create space to just be with these feelings without trying to change them. As you settle into this awareness, you'll also be invited to sense Hashem’s closeness, asking for His support and renewal in whatever you're facing. This practice offers a moment of quiet reflection and connection, leaving you feeling more centered and supported. If you feel called to support my mission of promoting Menuchas Hanefesh and self-care, please consider one or more of the following. 1) Share this episode with a friend or family member you think would appreciate it. 2) Leave a review on your favorite podcast app or my website. 3) Send me an email or message with your experience listening to this. 4) Make a donation on my website: https://renareiser.com/product/the-daily-pause/ Thank you for your support!

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272 - Teshuva: Finding What’s Missing - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 09 05 2024

Sep 5, 2024

9:59

Teshuva: Finding What’s Missing This meditation invites you to slow down and connect with what’s truly in your heart. You'll begin by gently relaxing your body and reflecting on a recent situation where you didn’t quite act as your best self. Through mindful awareness, you'll explore the sensations in your body connected to that experience and uncover what you really needed in that moment. As you imagine how things could have been different if that need had been met, you’ll gain valuable insight into how to approach similar situations in the future. This practice offers a compassionate space for self-reflection and personal growth, helping you move forward with greater awareness and intention. Please consider one or more of the following to support my mission of promoting Menuchas Hanefesh and self-care: 1) Share this episode with a friend or family member you think would appreciate it. 2) Leave a review on your favorite podcast app or my website. 3) Send me an email or message with your experience listening to this. 4) Make a donation on my website: https://renareiser.com/product/the-daily-pause/ Thank you for your support!

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273 - Offering and Receiving Compassion - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 09 09 2024

Sep 10, 2024

8:53

In this meditation, you will be guided to connect with both yourself and others through the power of compassion and consolation. You’ll start by relaxing your body and grounding yourself in the present moment. Then, you’ll bring to mind someone in your life who may be going through a difficult time, offering them your presence and understanding. As you console them in your mind, you’ll notice how this act of compassion feels within you. Next, you’ll turn this kindness inward, allowing Hashem to offer words of consolation to the parts of yourself that need it most. This meditation will help you discover what you can take from this experience into your day, both for yourself and to offer to others in need. Please consider one or more of the following to support my mission of promoting Menuchas Hanefesh and self-care: 1) Share this episode with a friend or family member you think would appreciate it. 2) Leave a review on your favorite podcast app or my website. 3) Send me an email or message with your experience listening to this. 4) Make a donation on my website: https://renareiser.com/product/the-daily-pause/ Thank you for your support!

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274 - Meeting Hashem in the Field - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 09 10 2024

Sep 10, 2024

10:08

In this meditation, you will embark on a gentle journey to meet Hashem in the field, allowing you to connect deeply with your inner self. You’ll begin by relaxing your body and becoming aware of the sensations, emotions, and thoughts that arise as you prepare for this sacred encounter. As you approach Hashem, you’ll explore what your heart truly desires to ask of Him and notice how this request resonates within you. This practice will create a compassionate space for you to connect with Hashem’s presence, bringing forth your deepest needs and feeling supported as you continue your spiritual journey. Please consider one or more of the following to support my mission of promoting Menuchas Hanefesh and self-care: 1) Share this episode with a friend or family member you think would appreciate it. 2) Leave a review on your favorite podcast app or my website. 3) Send me an email or message with your experience listening to this. 4) Make a donation on my website: https://renareiser.com/product/the-daily-pause/ Thank you for your support!

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275 - The Power of Letting Go - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 09 12 2024

Sep 12, 2024

9:48

The Power of Letting Go This meditation invites you to explore the power of letting go, inspired by the 9th of Elul and themes from Rabbi Simon Jacobson’s 60 Day Journey. You’ll begin by grounding yourself through deep breathing and relaxation, then reflect on a time in your life when you gained something valuable by letting go. As you connect with this memory, you’ll notice how it feels in your body. Then you'll explore a current struggle where you’re finding it hard to let go. Through mindful awareness, you’ll listen to what this part of you needs to release its hold, and you’ll continue the process of stepping aside to allow something better to emerge. Please consider one or more of the following to support my mission of promoting Menuchas Hanefesh and self-care: 1) Share this episode with a friend or family member you think would appreciate it. 2) Leave a review on your favorite podcast app or my website. 3) Send me an email or message with your experience listening to this. 4) Make a donation on my website: https://renareiser.com/product/the-daily-pause/ Thank you for your support!

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276 - Connecting to The Part of Your That Is Holy - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 09 15 2024

Sep 15, 2024

9:27

Connecting to The Part of You That is Holy In this meditation, you will be guided to explore what lies between you and your connection to your holy self. Inspired by Rabbi Simon Jacobson’s 60 Day Journey, this practice will help you tap into any emotions, sensations, or memories that reveal the obstacles standing between you and the part of you that is sacred. With compassion, you’ll allow these parts to speak and fully express themselves. Finally, you’ll reconnect with your inner holiness, noticing how it feels in your body and giving it space to be fully expressed. Please consider one or more of the following to support my mission of promoting Menuchas Hanefesh and self-care: 1) Share this episode with a friend or family member you think would appreciate it. 2) Leave a review on your favorite podcast app or my website. 3) Send me an email or message with your experience listening to this. 4) Make a donation on my website: https://renareiser.com/product/the-daily-pause/ Thank you for your support!

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277 - Creating Space for Patience - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 09 16 2024

Sep 22, 2024

10:07

Creating Space for Patience This meditation invites you to explore your feelings of impatience and bring a sense of calm and patience into a situation in your life where you’ve been longing for change. Grounding yourself with deep breaths and mindful awareness, you’ll gently connect with the sensations of impatience in your body, noticing how they manifest. Through compassionate listening, you’ll ask this part of you what it needs and acknowledge its response, creating space for greater understanding. As you tune into any emerging patience, even in small amounts, you’ll carry this newfound calm into your day, allowing holiness to enter. Please consider one or more of the following to support my mission of promoting Menuchas Hanefesh and self-care: 1) Share this episode with a friend or family member you think would appreciate it. 2) Leave a review on your favorite podcast app or my website. 3) Send me an email or message with your experience listening to this. 4) Make a donation on my website: https://renareiser.com/product/the-daily-pause/ Thank you for your support!

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278 - Unmasking Your True Self - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 09 17 2024.mp3

Sep 22, 2024

9:18

Unmasking Your True Self This meditation invites you to explore the spaces in your life where your inner self and outer actions may not align, helping you gently unmask your true essence. Through deep, grounding breaths and mindful awareness, you’ll reflect on moments where you felt a disconnect between what you intended and how you actually responded. By tuning into the sensations in your body, you’ll move between your true desires and your outward actions, exploring what it would take to bridge that gap. As you hold space for this reflection, you’ll imagine how it might feel to live in closer alignment with your soul’s true expression and bring that energy into your day. Please consider one or more of the following to support my mission of promoting Menuchas Hanefesh and self-care: 1) Share this episode with a friend or family member you think would appreciate it. 2) Leave a review on your favorite podcast app or my website. 3) Send me an email or message with your experience listening to this. 4) Make a donation on my website: https://renareiser.com/product/the-daily-pause/ Thank you for your support!

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279 - Aligning with Your Elul Intentions - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 09 19 2024.mp3

Sep 22, 2024

9:32

Aligning with Your Elul Intentions This meditation invites you to pause and reflect on your journey through the month of Elul. You’ll begin by taking deep, grounding breaths, allowing your body to gently settle into the moment. As you relax, you’ll connect with your progress during this sacred time, without judgment, simply noticing what arises. Through mindful awareness, you’ll explore what you need to reconnect or deepen your connection to this season’s unique spiritual opportunities. With compassion, you’ll turn to Hashem, asking for His help and support as you align with your intentions for Elul and beyond. In this space of connection, you’ll feel the closeness of His presence and explore what becomes possible with Hashem's support, carrying that sense of closeness and purpose into the rest of your day. Please consider one or more of the following to support my mission of promoting Menuchas Hanefesh and self-care: 1) Share this episode with a friend or family member you think would appreciate it. 2) Leave a review on your favorite podcast app or my website. 3) Send me an email or message with your experience listening to this. 4) Make a donation on my website: https://renareiser.com/product/the-daily-pause/ Thank you for your support!

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280 - The Gate of Tears: The Path to Repair - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 09 22 2024.mp3

Sep 22, 2024

9:46

The Gate of Tears: The Path to Repair In this meditation, you are invited to connect with a place in your life that feels broken or in need of repair, gently acknowledging the emotions that arise. Guided by Rabbi Jacobson’s 60-Day Journey, we explore the concept of the Gate of Tears, a path to healing even when something feels irreparable. You’ll reflect on a situation that feels beyond mending, while giving yourself permission to experience the emotions tied to it—allowing any tears or sounds to come naturally. Through this, you tap into the belief that the Gate of Tears is always open, and repair is possible. Please consider one or more of the following to support my mission of promoting Menuchas Hanefesh and self-care: 1) Share this episode with a friend or family member you think would appreciate it. 2) Leave a review on your favorite podcast app or my website. 3) Send me an email or message with your experience listening to this. 4) Make a donation on my website: https://renareiser.com/product/the-daily-pause/ Thank you for your support!

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281 - Exploring the Block to Forgiveness - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 09 26 2024

Sep 26, 2024

10:04

Exploring the Block to Forgiveness In this meditation, you are invited to explore the path to forgiveness, focusing on a situation that carries a moderate emotional charge. Guided by Rabbi Jacobson’s 60-Day Journey, this session gently helps you uncover what stands between you and forgiveness. You’ll bring to mind a situation where someone has hurt you, notice where and how the pain is held in your body, and compassionately ask what this part of you needs. With this awareness, you will envision providing yourself with what is needed to release the hurt, allowing forgiveness to unfold at its own pace, trusting the process of healing. Please consider one or more of the following to support my mission of promoting Menuchas Hanefesh and self-care: 1) Share this episode with a friend or family member you think would appreciate it. 2) Leave a review on your favorite podcast app or my website. 3) Send me an email or message with your experience listening to this. 4) Make a donation on my website: https://renareiser.com/product/the-daily-pause/ Thank you for your support!

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282 - Parsha, Parts, and Polyvagal - Finding Glimmers: Parshas Vayeshev and Your Inner World

Dec 18, 2024

16:37

In this first episode of Parsha, Parts, and Polyvagal, we explore Parshas Vayeshev and Yosef HaTzaddik’s journey—where even in his darkest moment, Hashem’s kindness showed up in the smallest detail. Yosef couldn’t control being sold to the Yishmaelim, yet the pasuk tells us something striking: the caravan carried fragrant spices instead of the usual foul-smelling cargo. A seemingly small kindness, but one that teaches us how Hashem’s chesed exists, down to the smallest glimmers, even in moments of great difficulty. From a nervous system perspective, this invites us to reflect: What happens when we learn to notice the glimmers—the small moments of safety, connection, and goodness—even in the aftermath of our own challenges? In this episode, I share: A Torah insight on Hashem’s kindness in Yosef’s story How we can connect this to our nervous system’s need for safety and regulation A guided mindfulness practice to help you find glimmers in your own life We don’t erase or deny the hard things we’ve been through. Instead, we allow space for them and notice where Hashem’s kindness—however small—showed up, helping our nervous system begin to settle and come home. Wishing you a beautiful Shabbos.

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283 - Quieting My Inner Yavan: Hashem's Love Always Endures

Dec 25, 2024

15:27

This week on Parsha, Parts, and Polyvagal: Connecting Torah Insights to Your Inner World and Nervous System we dive into the story behind the Greeks’ decree for the Jews to inscribe on the horn of an ox that we have no portion with Hashem. As we unpack its meaning, it becomes deeply personal and relevant to our inner world. The Greeks misunderstood something crucial: that no sin, no mistake, no failure could sever our eternal bond with Hashem. And yet, just like the Greeks, we often wrestle with an “inner Yavan”—that critical voice within us, pointing out our mess-ups and mistakes and telling us we’re unworthy. In this episode, we explore: How Chanukah invites us to confront and quiet our inner critic. The enduring love of Hashem, even in moments when we feel disconnected. A somatic practice to embody Hashem’s infinite love and compassion for us. Chanukah reminds us that even when the world (or our inner world) feels dark, the light of Hashem’s love is always present. Join me in a grounding practice to bring this truth into your body, to soften the inner critic, and to hold space for a deeper connection to Hashem and to yourself. Wishing you a Chanukah filled with Hashem's love and inner peace.

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284 - Why Context Matters: Parshas Vayechi on Regulation

Jan 8, 2025

15:20

In this episode of Parsha, Parts, and Polyvagal: Connecting Torah Insights to Your Inner World and Nervous System we explore Yaakov Avinu’s poignant moment as he gathers his sons to reveal the time of the Geulah—and why Hashem prevents him from doing so. What was Yaakov’s intention? How does it connect to our lives today? The Sifsei Chaim offers a powerful analogy: just as a doctor explains every detail of a difficult surgery to a patient to prepare and reassure them, Yaakov sought to give his sons the context they needed to endure life’s challenges with deeper emunah and love for Hashem. This concept resonates deeply with our nervous systems. When we’re given context—whether in a conversation, a request, or a challenging situation—it creates a sense of safety. Without it, we often feel unsettled or dysregulated. In this episode, we discuss: The connection between context, safety, and regulation. How the absence of context impacts our relationships and daily interactions. A guided somatic practice to viscerally explore the effects of context on your body and nervous system. Take a few moments to ground yourself, tune into your body, and discover how creating and seeking context can enhance your sense of safety and connection—with yourself, with others, and with Hashem. Wishing you a meaningful week and a peaceful Shabbos!

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285 - "How Am I Doing?" - a somatic inquiry practice

Jan 13, 2025

9:46

In this episode, I guide you through a gentle somatic mindfulness practice to help you reconnect with your body, breath, and inner sensations. Together, we’ll explore how to slow down, tune into the support beneath you, and ask your body the compassionate question: “How am I doing right now?” This practice invites curiosity and acceptance as we listen for subtle answers from within, offering your body exactly what it needs or handing it over to Hashem. Join me in creating space for grounding, clarity, and deeper self-awareness.

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286 - Breath, Bones, and Beyond: A Somatic Check-In - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 01 13 2025

Jan 13, 2025

10:20

In this episode, I guide you through a grounding somatic mindfulness practice that invites you to connect with the intricate systems of your body—your heartbeat, digestion, breath, muscles, and bones. Through gentle awareness and intentional focus, we’ll explore how each part contributes to your aliveness and support. Together, we’ll offer gratitude and care to the body, noticing how it feels when given attention and love. This practice is a gentle reminder of the remarkable ways your body sustains and supports you every moment.

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288 - Taking Up Space - Somatic Mindfulness Practice 01 20 2025

Jan 20, 2025

9:50

In this episode, I guide you through a somatic mindfulness practice centered on exploring your relationship with space—both expansive and contracted. Through gentle breathing, movement, and visualization, we’ll notice how your body responds to taking up more space and to drawing inward. Together, we’ll create a safe space to explore the emotions and sensations that arise, allowing them to simply be. This practice invites you to connect with your inner world, find balance, and give your body a moment to reset and rest.

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289 - Shortness of Breath - Parshas Va'eira on Regulation

Jan 23, 2025

27:03

In this week’s episode of Parsha, Parts, and Polyvagal - Connecting Torah Insights to Your Inner World and Nervous System, we delve into a powerful insight from Parshas Va’eira. We explore the pasuk: “But they did not listen to Moshe, because of their shortness of breath and hard labor” (Shemos 6:9). Together, we unpack the layers of meaning behind this pasuk through the lens of Rashi and the Maharal, uncovering timeless lessons about how stress and overwhelm affect our ability to truly listen, connect, and find clarity. We discuss how life’s challenges—and the anticipation of them—can create a “shortness of breath,” both physically and emotionally. These moments can leave us feeling stuck, unable to breathe deeply or access our inner calm. But there’s hope: by calming our minds and bodies, we can reclaim the deep breath that helps us navigate life’s challenges with greater ease. In this episode, you’ll hear: The connection between our perceptions of stress and how our bodies respond. How our nervous system reacts when overwhelmed, whether through fight-or-flight or shutdown. A guided practice to help you gently reconnect with your breath and body. This exercise is especially for those moments when life feels too heavy or you can’t seem to find a way to slow down. Take a moment for yourself today. Let this episode remind you that even in the midst of life’s challenges, there is always a path back to calm and clarity.

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290 - Finding balance between tension and ease - somatic mindfulness practice 01 27 2025

Jan 27, 2025

10:21

Finding Balance Between Tension and Ease In this episode, I guide you through a gentle somatic practice to explore both tension and ease in your body. By bringing compassionate awareness to these sensations, moving between them, and holding space for both to coexist, you’ll expand your capacity to connect with your body and its wisdom. This practice invites you to meet yourself as you are and notice what emerges when you allow your inner experience to unfold.

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287 - Bringing Transforming Touch® to the Frum World: My Interview with Dr. Stephen Terrell

Jan 20, 2025

54:17

In an effort to bring the power of Transforming Touch® to the frum world, I invited my teacher, Dr. Stephen Terrell, to be interviewed on this podcast, which is made specifically for Jewish women. My main question for Dr. Terrell is: Why is Transforming Touch® so disproportionately popular in the frum world? Here are some of the things we discuss: Dr. Terrell’s journey as a trauma therapist and the development of Transforming Touch®, a profound healing modality rooted in nervous system regulation. His extensive experience working with foster and adoptive families, and how that shaped his approach to healing. His deep connection with the Jewish community and his observations on why Transforming Touch® resonates so strongly in the frum world. The challenges of explaining a therapy that operates beyond words and how it facilitates healing on a deep, nonverbal level. The impact of historical trauma on the Jewish people, from the Holocaust to generational stress, and how that affects the nervous system. The importance of self-regulation, resilience, and creating a sense of safety within the body. The delicate balance between acceptance and healing—how true healing often begins with embracing what is, rather than fighting against it. The innate human drive for transformation and the misconceptions surrounding quick fixes in healing. Navigating neurodivergence with self-compassion and the role of co-regulation in resilience and emotional well-being. This conversation offers a deep and thought-provoking look at healing, trauma, and why Transforming Touch® has struck such a chord in the frum world.

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291 - Held by Generations: A Guided Practice in Support and Connection - 02 24 2025

Feb 24, 2025

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Held by Generations: A Guided Practice in Support and Connection In this guided practice, I invite you to settle into a space where you feel most at ease. Through breath, awareness, and connection, I guide you to soften into the present moment, allowing your body to release even just a little. As you breathe, you are reminded that Hashem is breathing life into you with each inhale, sustaining you in every moment. Together, we tap into the deep well of support from the women who came before us—all the generations of Jewish women standing behind you, holding you, strengthening you. From this place of grounding, I lead you to gently explore what your heart is needing right now. Through a process of deep listening, we attune to the emotions, sensations, and inner wisdom that arise, offering them space, understanding, and compassion. This practice is an invitation to slow down, to listen deeply, and to receive. Whatever unfolds, you are supported—by your own body, by the strength of those before you, and by the presence of Hashem in every breath.

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292 - Holding Yourself with Mature Love: A Guided Somatic Practice - 02 25 2025

Feb 25, 2025

9:57

Holding Yourself with Mature Love: A Guided Somatic Practice In this guided practice, I invite you to settle into a space of gentle support. With one hand over your heart and the other on your stomach, we begin by connecting to the breath—just as it is—without needing to change or force anything. Together, we explore what it feels like to release just a little more, to feel the support beneath you, around you, and within you. From this grounded place, I guide you in listening to your body, inviting it to show you what it needs. With care and presence, we practice holding space for what arises—not trying to fix or analyze, but simply being with it, exactly as it is. You’ll notice how much support this part of you wants, offering it the right amount of space, closeness, or reassurance. This practice is about deep listening, attunement, and self-compassion—allowing yourself to be held in mature love, not because you need to change, but because you are worthy of being supported exactly as you are.

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293 - From Holding Tension to Feeling Held - somatic mindfulness practice 03 02 2025

Mar 2, 2025

9:47

From Holding Tension to Feeling Held In this episode, I guide you through a gentle yet powerful somatic mindfulness practice, inviting you to connect with your body in a new way. Together, we’ll explore tension, not to force it away, but to meet it with curiosity and presence. With the support of your own hands, you’ll learn to tune in to what your body is asking for—whether it needs containment, release, or simply to be acknowledged. This practice offers a moment of deep listening, allowing your body to feel held and supported. Join me as we slow down, breathe, and cultivate a sense of grounded ease within ourselves.

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294 - The Body Remembers Pleasant Things, Too - somatic mindfulness practice 03 03 2025

Mar 3, 2025

9:42

The Body Remembers Pleasant Things, Too In this episode, I guide you through a gentle practice of shifting from the mind into the body, allowing space to unwind from the day’s momentum. Together, we’ll explore how small adjustments in posture can create a sense of openness and ease. Through the power of memory, we’ll invite in sensations of joy and anticipation—tuning into how these emotions live in the body. This practice is an opportunity to reconnect with yourself, to notice the subtle ways your breath and body respond to positive experiences, and to settle into the present moment with a sense of quiet presence.

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295 - Listening to Your Body’s Needs Through Touch - somatic mindfulness practice 03 05 2025

Mar 5, 2025

9:56

Listening to Your Body’s Needs Through Touch In this episode, I guide you through a gentle practice of self-connection, inviting you to offer your body the love and care it deserves. Through intentional touch, we’ll explore what it feels like to truly listen to your body—tuning in to its needs, its boundaries, and its quiet invitations for more closeness or space. With each breath, you’ll have the opportunity to soften into self-compassion, recognizing all that your body has carried for you. This practice is a simple yet powerful way to cultivate presence, warmth, and appreciation for yourself in the moment.

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321 - Being received

Jan 22, 2026

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346 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice: Your Recipe for Being Heard

Feb 20, 2026

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345 - Compassion vs. enabling

Feb 19, 2026

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344 - Shouldn't we treat everyone this way?

Feb 18, 2026

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343 - When you're emotionally on fire, stop, drop and roll

Feb 17, 2026

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342 - I hear you (but do you?)

Feb 16, 2026

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341 - Why Everyone Deserves to Be Treated Like They're Sensitive

Feb 15, 2026

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Rena recently read about how to communicate with "Earth types" - people who are highly sensitive and need to be spoken to with extra care and consideration. As she read through all the rules for how to talk to Earth types, she kept thinking - shouldn't we just talk to everyone this way? In this conversation, Rabbi Yonasan and Rena Reiser explore personality types (Earth, Air, Water, Fire) and why Earth types are considered more sensitive. They discuss how Earth types rely heavily on external validation and can be quickly hurt by how people relate to them. But a deeper question emerges: if these communication principles come from nonviolent communication - which helps us see the tzelem Elokim in every person - then why are we only applying them to "sensitive" people? Don't all human beings deserve dignity, validation, and to be truly heard? They explore what it means to be the "canary in the coal mine," why reflecting back what someone says can help move conversations forward (instead of talking in circles until 3am), and the power of recognizing that every person you're talking to is a human being with their own rich inner world. This Episode Is For You If: - You've been told you're "too sensitive" your whole life - You're wondering if you need to walk on eggshells around certain people - You have late-night conversations that go in circles for hours - You say "yes, yes, I hear you" but the other person doesn't feel heard - You're curious about nonviolent communication - You want to understand why some people seem to react more strongly than others - You believe everyone deserves to be treated with dignity but struggle with how to actually do that - You're an Earth type and want to understand your sensitivity as a strength

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340 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice: Softening Into Feminine Strength

Feb 13, 2026

10:36

This is a body-centered practice exploring the feminine work of softening and receiving - moving from "I've got this" to "I need help." In this 10-minute practice, you'll be guided to: Ground and settle, remembering that Hashem is breathing life into you Notice how independence feels - the tightening, grasping, holding on Explore vulnerability as feminine strength - softening your shoulders, holding your head high Practice what it feels like in your body to receive help instead of controlling everything Move between tightening and softening to feel the contrast Rest in the vulnerability of asking for your needs to be met, rewiring your nervous system to receive This practice helps you recognize when you're holding and controlling, and builds your capacity to soften into your femininity and receive what you need. When to Use This Practice: - After listening to "Vulnerability in Marriage: Learning to Need Your Spouse" - When you've been handling everything alone and notice you're tight and tense - When you need to practice softening before asking your husband for help - As a way to reconnect with feminine strength (not masculine control) - When you catch yourself tightening, grasping, trying to do it all - To build your capacity to receive instead of only giving

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339 - Practice Failing

Feb 12, 2026

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338 - Permission to take care of yourself first

Feb 11, 2026

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337 - Learning a different language

Feb 10, 2026

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336 - He's going to let you down

Feb 9, 2026

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335 - Vulnerability in Marriage: Learning to Need Your Spouse

Feb 8, 2026

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You made space for your husband to step up. He's fumbling through it. And you're standing there thinking: I could do this so much better. Should I just take over again? But - when you're asking "is this worth it?" you're trying to calculate a payoff you can't even see yet. Your vision of what marriage could be is being imagined from inside the wound - from inside the pattern of doing everything yourself. In this Q&A conversation, Rabbi Yonasan and Rena Reiser tackle two listener questions that reveal the same challenge: learning to be vulnerable in marriage. Not just "let him help with tasks" vulnerable. Actually vulnerable - admitting you have inadequacies, expressing uncomfortable feelings, asking for what you need. They explore why this feels so foreign when you've been independent your whole life. Why most women can't even recognize what they're feeling, let alone ask for it. And why there's no shortcut around the discomfort - real interdependence requires learning an entirely new language. This Episode Is For You If: - You made space for your husband to step up and he's fumbling - wondering if you should just take over - You're exhausted from handling everything but don't know how to need your husband - You're in early marriage transitioning from independence to vulnerability - You can't recognize what you're feeling, let alone what you need - The thought of asking for help feels embarrassing - You're perfectionistic and struggle watching anyone (including yourself) fail - You wonder if you're capable of real interdependence

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334 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice Finding Your Window of Menuchas Hanefesh

Feb 6, 2026

10:06

This is a body-centered practice connecting to our recent conversation about menuchas hanefesh and pizur hanefesh - what it feels like to stay within your window versus being pushed beyond it. In this 10-minute practice, you'll be guided to: Ground and settle in your body Remember a recent moment that pushed you into pizur hanefesh (scattered, overwhelmed) Notice how your body holds that experience Remember a moment where you stayed within your window of menuchas hanefesh Notice how your body holds that experience differently Move between both experiences to feel the contrast Strengthen the neural pathways of staying regulated This practice helps you develop an embodied sense of what your window actually feels like - so you can recognize when you're approaching the edge and make different choices. When to Use This Practice: After listening to "Your Window of Menuchas Hanefesh: Finding Your Capacity for Chesed" When you're trying to understand your actual capacity (not what you think it should be) When you keep pushing yourself beyond your limits without realizing it As a way to build awareness of what regulation vs dysregulation feels like in YOUR body Before making commitments to help you sense whether something is within your window What You'll Need: 10-15 minutes of uninterrupted time A comfortable place to sit or lie down Willingness to explore moments from the last couple of days Note: This practice uses pendulation (moving between activation and regulation) to help you recognize what your window of menuchas hanefesh actually feels like in your body. The more you practice noticing this, the easier it becomes to recognize when you're approaching your edge in real time.

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333 - YOUR world, not THE world

Feb 5, 2026

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332 - What they'll say

Feb 4, 2026

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331 - What can you do while staying yourself

Feb 3, 2026

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330 - The longing counts

Feb 2, 2026

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329 - Your Window of Menuchas Hanefesh: Finding Your Capacity for Chesed

Feb 1, 2026

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We hear it all the time: push yourself, do more mitzvahs, more chesed. You didn't come to this world just to take care of yourself. But what happens when that push leaves you scattered, dysregulated, unable to be civil with the people in your own home? In this conversation, Rabbi Yonasan and Rena Reiser explore a concept that previous generations didn't need spelled out but our generation desperately needs to hear: Derech Eretz must come first. You have to be a person - regulated, grounded, present - before you can do mitzvahs with meaning. They discuss why menuchas hanefesh (inner calm and regulation) isn't selfishness - it's the prerequisite for everything else. And how each person has their own "window of menuchas hanefesh" - a unique capacity for what they can give without falling apart. Key Themes Explored: Derech Eretz comes first - Being civil and decent (with others AND yourself) is the foundation. Before developing higher midos, you need to be able to function as a basic person. If you're so overwhelmed you can't be civil, that undermines every mitzvah you do. Menuchas hanefesh vs pizur nefesh - When you're regulated (menuchas hanefesh), you can be present for mitzvahs with proper kavana. When you're scattered (pizur nefesh), you're operating from survival mode - there's no person there doing the mitzvah. The window of menuchas hanefesh - Each person has a unique capacity for what they can do while staying regulated. This isn't fixed - you can stretch it - but pushing beyond it means you're no longer functioning as yourself. Mah chovaso be'olamo - "What is your obligation in your world?" Not THE world, but YOUR world. Each person's obligations are different based on their strengths, limitations, and circumstances. Why our generation needs this spelled out - Previous generations lived closer to survival - their needs were obvious. We have abundance and blurred lines. We now have space to attend to our inner world, which creates both opportunity and confusion. Boundaries aren't selfish - Saying "this is what I can do and this is where I draw the line" isn't about being selfish. It's about knowing what you need to function - physically, emotionally, spiritually. Quality over quantity - There are different levels to doing a mitzvah - physical action is baseline, but higher levels require mental presence and proper kavana, which are impossible when dysregulated. Taking care of yourself = 8 hours - Rebbetzin Yitty Neustadt's calculation: sleep (8 hours) + self-care during waking hours (6-8 hours) = what's left goes to others. Not everyone else first and you get leftovers. The longing to give - V'ahavta l'rayacha kamocha isn't meant literally in actions (you'd die from neglecting yourself). It's about the mentality - the longing and desire to give. That desire matters even when you can't act on it. Chesed takes many forms - Not just cooking meals and hosting guests. Programming for organizations at low cost. Learning as a chavrusa. The form that works for your capacity is the right form. This Episode Is For You If: You feel guilty prioritizing your own needs You've been told to "just push through" but find yourself completely depleted You're exhausted from trying to do everything and wondering why your mitzvahs feel mechanical You're deeply sensitive and struggle with the message to "just do more" You've been told self-care is selfish and can't shake that voice You need permission to find your own capacity instead of comparing yourself to others You're trying to figure out what boundaries are appropriate

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328 - Somatic Mindfulness Practice: Moving from Martyr to Self-Care

Jan 30, 2026

10:05

Welcome to a somatic mindfulness practice - a guided body-centered exploration I'm bringing back to the podcast each Friday. This week's practice connects to our recent conversation about activation, women's exhaustion, and the pattern of putting everyone else before ourselves. In this 10-minute practice, you'll be guided to: Ground and relax in your body Connect with your experience of martyrdom and activation Hold what arises with the gentleness you'd use for precious crystal Notice resistance to treating yourself with care Ask the question: "What do I need right now?" Give yourself what you need - or offer it to Hashem as tefillah This is about feeling where activation currently lives in your body and practicing a different way of being with yourself.

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327 - What do I need?

Jan 29, 2026

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326 - Why he hasn't stepped up

Jan 28, 2026

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325 - Screaming with rage

Jan 27, 2026

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324 - Why you feel worse after deep work

Jan 26, 2026

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323 - Holding Your Own Emotions vs. Managing Everyone Else's

Jan 25, 2026

1:00:10

Ever left a therapy session or workshop feeling more activated than when you started? Like you've opened Pandora's box and don't know how to close it? This is one of the most common concerns about doing deep healing work: once you start feeling, everything comes up. Your system says "oh good, you're ready" and brings more to the surface. In this conversation, my husband, Rabbi Yonasan Reiser, joins me as we explore what to do with all that activation. We discuss why some modalities are so careful they keep you stuck, what it means to find "the right distance" from your experience, and how to let processes complete instead of constantly interrupting them. But then the conversation goes somewhere unexpected: into women's power in the home. What happens when you're trying to regulate yourself but everyone around you is dysregulated? How much influence does a woman actually have? And what responsibilities have we been carrying that were never ours to begin with? I speak about the exhaustion of martyrdom, the pattern of filling up space that leaves no room for others to step up, and what it means to ask "what do I need?" as an act of power rather than selfishness. Key Themes Explored: The activation paradox - Once you make space for one feeling, your system brings up more. This is how healing works! The question isn't how to avoid activation, but how to be with it. Finding the right distance - Not so far from your experience that you don't feel anything. Not so close that you're overwhelmed. There's a sweet spot where you can be in relationship with what you're feeling. Too careful = stuck - Some approaches are so concerned about not overwhelming you that they don't let you actually touch what's there. For people who need to feel deeply, this is maddening. Completing vs stopping - When you interrupt a process before it's complete, you're left with unfinished activation. Naming to relate - When you can label activation, you develop a relationship with it. When you don't want to label it (often from fear), you just act it out without understanding why. Women's power through presence - When a woman can hold her own emotions and activation, finding regulation within herself, she has massive impact on everyone around her. Not through fixing or managing everyone else's emotions, but through her grounded presence. Responsibilities that aren't yours - Two big ones: taking responsibility for everyone's emotions (needing to solve everyone's feelings instead of just being present), and taking on household roles early in marriage that leave no space for partners to step up. The martyrdom trap - Women get exhausted carrying responsibilities that were never theirs while simultaneously feeling overwhelmed by the idea of their actual power. When you say no to what's not yours, you free up space for what is. The mirrors in Mitzrayim - Women in Mitzrayim had the vision of what was possible in the present moment, even when the men couldn't see it. They trusted their husbands could do what needed to be done while they held the vision of the home. "What do I need?" - This question is an act of stepping out of martyrdom. It's trusting that Hashem and your neshama can provide what you need. It's recognizing you're worthy of support while activation works itself out. Destigmatizing activation - Removing the shame and fear around it. When you can recognize and name it, you can work with it instead of being blindsided by it. This Episode Is For You If: You've ever left therapy or deep work feeling more stirred up than when you started You're trying to find the balance between feeling your feelings and not getting overwhelmed You're exhausted from taking responsibility for everyone's emotions in your home You've been doing things yourself for so long that letting anyone else try feels impossible You wonder how much influence one person can really have on a household You struggle to ask "what do I need?" without feeling selfish You want to understand activation as part of the process rather than evidence something's wrong

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322 - Why this isn't mainstream

Jan 23, 2026

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