Guard Your Tongue

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 166

Oct 3, 2025

2:21

Praise Can Attract TroubleHighlighting someone’s generosity can lead to unfair pressure, jealousy, or harm. Even praise, when misunderstood, may turn into Avak Lashon Hara.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 165

Oct 1, 2025

2:19

Public Praise Needs CautionPraising someone in front of a crowd is risky—unless he’s universally respected or unknown to the audience. Otherwise, criticism often follows.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 164

Sep 28, 2025

2:08

Too Much Praise Is DangerousEven sincere compliments can invite criticism. Avoid excessive praise in public—people may feel the need to “balance” the conversation with damaging words.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 163

Sep 26, 2025

2:27

When Praise Becomes HarmImplying something negative or praising someone in front of enemies often triggers Lashon Hara. If there's any risk of backlash, don’t say it—even if it sounds positive.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 162

Sep 24, 2025

2:15

The Subtle Danger of AvakAvak Lashon Hara—the “dust” of gossip—can seem harmless but causes real damage. It’s subtle, common, and easily overlooked. Awareness is the first defense.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 161

Sep 21, 2025

2:27

Rebuke with RespectEven adult children must show kavod when correcting parents. Suggest gently, avoid confrontation, and model values quietly when necessary.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 160

Sep 19, 2025

2:19

Teach By ExampleParents must model that Lashon Hara is unacceptable. Even when choshesh, never accept harmful words as truth—and speak up gently when necessary.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 159

Sep 17, 2025

1:54

Would You Accept This About You?Unless someone is a public rasha, we may not accept Lashon Hara—about neighbors, friends, or even enemies. Respect others as you’d want to be respected.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 158

Sep 14, 2025

2:14

Sharp Insults Aren’t SmartUsing clever or sarcastic remarks to gain approval at another’s expense is Lashon Hara, leitzanus, and ona’as devarim. Torah has no room for “funny and cruel.”Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 157

Sep 11, 2025

2:00

The Sin of InformingReporting a fellow Jew to authorities—even with true information—falls under malshinus, one of the gravest aveiros. Always consult a Rav before taking such steps.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 156

Sep 10, 2025

2:09

Don’t Speak to Non-JewsLashon Hara to a non-Jew can damage far more than just reputations. It harms communities, violates halacha, and desecrates Hashem’s name.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 155

Sep 7, 2025

2:27

Tochacha or Talk?If you’re truly seeking tochacha, why not give it yourself? Don’t use others as messengers unless they’re better suited—with care and humility.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 154

Sep 5, 2025

2:38

Not an Excuse for GossipEven when warning family, you must stay focused on protection—not storytelling. Spreading general neighborhood gossip under the guise of “toeles” is still Lashon Hara.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 153

Sep 3, 2025

2:39

Protecting Your Family from HarmYou may speak with family to warn them of dangerous influences—but only to protect, not to shame. Avoid exaggeration and don’t present rumor as fact.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 152

Aug 31, 2025

1:27

Speaking About the DeceasedLashon Hara remains assur even after death. Slandering a niftar, especially a talmid chacham or his Torah, incurs serious consequences, including nidui.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 151

Aug 29, 2025

2:17

No Shortcut to ShalomEven when speaking Lashon Hara seems to help end conflict, it’s only permitted as a last resort—with firsthand knowledge and no alternative path to peace.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 150

Aug 27, 2025

2:13

When Fighting Justifies SpeechLashon Hara about a ba’al machlokes may be allowed to prevent damage—but only with clear intent, clarity on who is at fault, and pure motives.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 149

Aug 24, 2025

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Known Reshaim, Not SuspicionsIf someone publicly violates severe aveiros with no excuse, Lashon Hara may be allowed. But misuse of this heter is dangerous and deeply discouraged.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 148

Aug 22, 2025

2:06

Certainty Required for ApikorsusEven when halacha permits Lashon Hara about an Apikores, it must be based on firsthand knowledge or overwhelming communal consensus—not rumors or assumptions.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 147

Aug 20, 2025

2:26

Outside the Boundary of Am YisraelThe halachos of Lashon Hara don’t apply to someone who openly rejects Torah fundamentals. But one must be 100% sure before applying this grave label.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 146

Aug 17, 2025

2:47

Respecting Torah’s RepresentativesSpeaking Lashon Hara about a talmid chacham is not just personal—it’s an affront to Torah itself. Disrespecting leaders can unravel entire communities.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 145

Aug 15, 2025

2:44

Lashon Hara About ChildrenCriticizing children—especially when not your own—can deeply harm them. Even when rebuke is needed, speak only with care, truth, and clear toeles.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 144

Aug 13, 2025

2:44

Venting About a SpouseSpeaking negatively about a spouse to family can destroy multiple relationships. Unless it's for true toeles, even venting can cross the line into Lashon Hara.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 143

Aug 10, 2025

2:43

No Excuses for Family GossipLashon Hara remains assur even when spoken about close relatives. Love doesn’t justify gossip—true care means speaking directly, not behind someone’s back.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 142

Aug 8, 2025

2:49

Don’t Act on Accusation AloneEven community leaders must not act on mere suspicion or one-sided claims. Halacha demands real evidence—not emotion or instinct—before taking serious steps.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 141

Aug 6, 2025

1:57

Can Beis Din Rely on Hints?In rare cases, Beis Din may act on devarim hanikarim, but only after thorough investigation. Regular individuals should never rely on such signs to take action.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 140

Aug 3, 2025

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Believing ≠ ActingEven when belief is halachically permitted, you may not spread the information, shame the person, or cause financial harm. Caution does not equal permission to harm.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 139

Aug 1, 2025

1:55

Clear Evidence or Just Suspicion?Devarim hanikarim must be unmistakable, direct, and witnessed yourself. Vague impressions or secondhand reports are not enough to justify belief.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 138

Jul 30, 2025

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Signs That Confirm a StoryIf you see external behavior—devarim hanikarim—that seems to confirm Lashon Hara, belief is only allowed when judgment l’kaf zechus is impossible.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 137

Jul 27, 2025

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Lashon Hara Told CasuallyIf someone mentions Lashon Hara lefitumo—incidentally during another story—it still cannot be believed. Even unintentional slander isn’t grounds for judgment or harm.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 136

Jul 25, 2025

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Belief Doesn’t Mean BroadcastEven if you're allowed to believe someone sinned—when all strict halachic conditions are met—you still may not publicize it. Distancing is allowed; gossip is not.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 135

Jul 23, 2025

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You’re Causing Him to SinShowing interest in Lashon Hara causes the speaker to sin more—and violates lifnei iver. Even silent curiosity encourages spiritual harm.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 134

Jul 22, 2025

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When a Rav May BelieveA Rav may believe trustworthy testimony about a known aveirah, but not personal criticisms or family gossip. Even credibility has limits in Lashon Hara.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 133

Jul 18, 2025

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Can You Trust the Trustworthy?Even someone famously honest cannot be believed if they speak Lashon Hara—unless you are a Rav with halachic responsibility and strict conditions are met.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 132

Jul 16, 2025

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He Admits It—Together With Someone ElseIf someone confesses to an aveira and implicates another person in the same sentence, you're only allowed to believe what he says about himself—not the other. Even shared guilt doesn’t justify belief in Lashon Hara. Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 131

Jul 13, 2025

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Exceptions for Known Resha’imLashon Hara may only be believed about someone who is a known public rasha—but only after confirmed facts establish their status beyond doubt.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 130

Jul 11, 2025

2:09

Don't Trust the RumorsEven repeated, vague rumors carry no weight in halacha. In a world of fake news and viral lies, we must be even more vigilant before believing anything harmful.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 129

Jul 9, 2025

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Two Witnesses? Still Lashon HaraEven if two people testify to the same claim, if it’s not in Beis Din, it’s still Lashon Hara. Reputation and halacha—not hearsay—define credibility.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!Daily Chafetz Chaim Day 130 Scheduled:

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 128

Jul 6, 2025

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Even the Rav Stayed SilentA Rav once overheard Lashon Hara about himself—and said nothing. Shock, humility, or calculation might silence a victim, but it’s no license to believe gossip.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 127

Jul 4, 2025

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Azus Isn’t ProofWhen someone confidently slanders another—even in front of them—it doesn’t mean it’s true. Silence from the victim isn’t admission; never confuse chutzpah with credibility.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 126

Jul 2, 2025

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Public Doesn’t Mean ProvenEven if Lashon Hara is widely publicized or shared online, you still may not believe it. Truth isn’t determined by volume or visibility—only by proper investigation.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 125

Jun 29, 2025

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Undoing the Damage of BeliefIf you already accepted Lashon Hara, do teshuva—reject it in your heart, reflect on alternate explanations, and work to uproot belief from within.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 124

Jun 27, 2025

2:49

The Danger of Hurting the NeedyEven if you suspect a collector is dishonest, halacha demands continued support until proper investigation. Rumors don’t cancel chezkas oni.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 123

Jun 25, 2025

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Caution Without HarmBeing choyshesh doesn’t permit harming the person—no insults, no withholding owed money, and no public shaming. It’s for self-protection only.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 122

Jun 22, 2025

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Fifty Rumors Don’t Equal FactWidespread rumors—even from many people—don’t justify labeling someone a rasha. Only Beis Din can establish such a verdict.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 121

Jun 20, 2025

2:27

Be Wary, Not CertainWhen Lashon Hara affects your safety or future, you may be choyshesh—cautious—but not mekabel. Protection is allowed; judgment is not.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 120

Jun 18, 2025

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The Past Is Off LimitsLashon Hara about someone’s past or ancestors—no matter how true—is still forbidden. Teshuva demands respect for who a person is now.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 119

Jun 15, 2025

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Disagreement Doesn’t Permit DisrespectEven after verifying an error in Beis Din, you may not slander its members. Corrective steps must follow halacha—not public humiliation.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 118

Jun 13, 2025

2:53

Doubting a Din Is Not a HeterEven if a Dayan’s ruling seems mistaken, degrading Talmidei Chachamim is never justified. Respect demands restraint, even when questioning halachic outcomes.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 117

Jun 10, 2025

2:53

Respecting Torah AuthoritySpeaking negatively about Dayanim—even if you think they ruled wrongly—is forbidden. We must trust that Hashem ensures justice, and always be dan Talmidei Chachamim l’kaf zechus.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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