Guard Your Tongue

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 143

Aug 10, 2025

2:43

No Excuses for Family GossipLashon Hara remains assur even when spoken about close relatives. Love doesn’t justify gossip—true care means speaking directly, not behind someone’s back.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 142

Aug 8, 2025

2:49

Don’t Act on Accusation AloneEven community leaders must not act on mere suspicion or one-sided claims. Halacha demands real evidence—not emotion or instinct—before taking serious steps.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 141

Aug 6, 2025

1:57

Can Beis Din Rely on Hints?In rare cases, Beis Din may act on devarim hanikarim, but only after thorough investigation. Regular individuals should never rely on such signs to take action.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 140

Aug 3, 2025

2:31

Believing ≠ ActingEven when belief is halachically permitted, you may not spread the information, shame the person, or cause financial harm. Caution does not equal permission to harm.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 139

Aug 1, 2025

1:55

Clear Evidence or Just Suspicion?Devarim hanikarim must be unmistakable, direct, and witnessed yourself. Vague impressions or secondhand reports are not enough to justify belief.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 138

Jul 30, 2025

2:32

Signs That Confirm a StoryIf you see external behavior—devarim hanikarim—that seems to confirm Lashon Hara, belief is only allowed when judgment l’kaf zechus is impossible.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 137

Jul 27, 2025

2:32

Lashon Hara Told CasuallyIf someone mentions Lashon Hara lefitumo—incidentally during another story—it still cannot be believed. Even unintentional slander isn’t grounds for judgment or harm.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 136

Jul 25, 2025

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Belief Doesn’t Mean BroadcastEven if you're allowed to believe someone sinned—when all strict halachic conditions are met—you still may not publicize it. Distancing is allowed; gossip is not.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 135

Jul 23, 2025

1:56

You’re Causing Him to SinShowing interest in Lashon Hara causes the speaker to sin more—and violates lifnei iver. Even silent curiosity encourages spiritual harm.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 134

Jul 22, 2025

2:12

When a Rav May BelieveA Rav may believe trustworthy testimony about a known aveirah, but not personal criticisms or family gossip. Even credibility has limits in Lashon Hara.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 133

Jul 18, 2025

2:19

Can You Trust the Trustworthy?Even someone famously honest cannot be believed if they speak Lashon Hara—unless you are a Rav with halachic responsibility and strict conditions are met.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 132

Jul 16, 2025

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He Admits It—Together With Someone ElseIf someone confesses to an aveira and implicates another person in the same sentence, you're only allowed to believe what he says about himself—not the other. Even shared guilt doesn’t justify belief in Lashon Hara. Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 131

Jul 13, 2025

1:55

Exceptions for Known Resha’imLashon Hara may only be believed about someone who is a known public rasha—but only after confirmed facts establish their status beyond doubt.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 130

Jul 11, 2025

2:09

Don't Trust the RumorsEven repeated, vague rumors carry no weight in halacha. In a world of fake news and viral lies, we must be even more vigilant before believing anything harmful.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 129

Jul 9, 2025

2:20

Two Witnesses? Still Lashon HaraEven if two people testify to the same claim, if it’s not in Beis Din, it’s still Lashon Hara. Reputation and halacha—not hearsay—define credibility.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!Daily Chafetz Chaim Day 130 Scheduled:

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 128

Jul 6, 2025

2:18

Even the Rav Stayed SilentA Rav once overheard Lashon Hara about himself—and said nothing. Shock, humility, or calculation might silence a victim, but it’s no license to believe gossip.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 127

Jul 4, 2025

2:05

Azus Isn’t ProofWhen someone confidently slanders another—even in front of them—it doesn’t mean it’s true. Silence from the victim isn’t admission; never confuse chutzpah with credibility.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 126

Jul 2, 2025

1:55

Public Doesn’t Mean ProvenEven if Lashon Hara is widely publicized or shared online, you still may not believe it. Truth isn’t determined by volume or visibility—only by proper investigation.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 125

Jun 29, 2025

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Undoing the Damage of BeliefIf you already accepted Lashon Hara, do teshuva—reject it in your heart, reflect on alternate explanations, and work to uproot belief from within.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 124

Jun 27, 2025

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The Danger of Hurting the NeedyEven if you suspect a collector is dishonest, halacha demands continued support until proper investigation. Rumors don’t cancel chezkas oni.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 123

Jun 25, 2025

2:03

Caution Without HarmBeing choyshesh doesn’t permit harming the person—no insults, no withholding owed money, and no public shaming. It’s for self-protection only.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 122

Jun 22, 2025

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Fifty Rumors Don’t Equal FactWidespread rumors—even from many people—don’t justify labeling someone a rasha. Only Beis Din can establish such a verdict.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 121

Jun 20, 2025

2:27

Be Wary, Not CertainWhen Lashon Hara affects your safety or future, you may be choyshesh—cautious—but not mekabel. Protection is allowed; judgment is not.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 120

Jun 18, 2025

2:20

The Past Is Off LimitsLashon Hara about someone’s past or ancestors—no matter how true—is still forbidden. Teshuva demands respect for who a person is now.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 119

Jun 15, 2025

1:59

Disagreement Doesn’t Permit DisrespectEven after verifying an error in Beis Din, you may not slander its members. Corrective steps must follow halacha—not public humiliation.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 118

Jun 13, 2025

2:53

Doubting a Din Is Not a HeterEven if a Dayan’s ruling seems mistaken, degrading Talmidei Chachamim is never justified. Respect demands restraint, even when questioning halachic outcomes.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 117

Jun 10, 2025

2:53

Respecting Torah AuthoritySpeaking negatively about Dayanim—even if you think they ruled wrongly—is forbidden. We must trust that Hashem ensures justice, and always be dan Talmidei Chachamim l’kaf zechus.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 116

Jun 8, 2025

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Judge Favorably, Even If TrueEven if a story is factually accurate, we must still be dan l’kaf zechus. Context matters—and assuming the worst violates a mitzvas asei of the Torah.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 115

Jun 6, 2025

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Don't Sit With ThemChoosing to sit with known gossipers makes you part of their aveirah, even if you stay silent. The Torah warns us: avoid the company of scoffers.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 114

Jun 4, 2025

2:41

Three Tools for ResistanceReject the words in your heart, feel regret about hearing them, and avoid showing any approval. Even a frown can send a message—and protect your neshamah.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 113

Jun 1, 2025

2:44

When You’re Caught in ItIf you’re surrounded by people speaking Lashon Hara, discreetly showing disapproval or mentally rejecting the words can still count as spiritual resistance—even without speech.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 112

May 30, 2025

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Group Dynamics and StrategyWhen facing a group with a dominant speaker of Lashon Hara, sometimes the best move is to wait and later correct the others—quietly, thoughtfully, and without confrontation.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 111

May 28, 2025

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Can You Handle the Truth?Even when permitted to listen, you must be confident you won’t accept what you hear. If you know you’ll believe it, even a justified listening becomes assur.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 110

May 25, 2025

2:46

Listening to Make PeaceIf your sincere goal is shalom, listening to Lashon Hara may be allowed—if you actively seek to defend the subject or calm the speaker. Intention makes all the difference.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 109

May 23, 2025

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Protecting Others Without AcceptingYou may listen to Lashon Hara to protect someone else, but vague excuses like “maybe one day I’ll need it” are not a heter. Every word must have real purpose.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 108

May 21, 2025

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When Listening Is AllowedListening to Lashon Hara is only permitted when done letoeles, such as evaluating a potential business partner or shidduch—with zero acceptance and full skepticism.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 107

May 18, 2025

2:46

Worse Than Speaking ItThe Chafetz Chaim teaches that accepting Lashon Hara is often worse than saying it. Belief alone—without a word—is enough to bring tragic consequences, as seen in Tanach.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 106

May 16, 2025

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Believing Lashon Hara is ForbiddenAccepting Lashon Hara as truth is a de'oraisa violation—even if it’s technically true. Kabbalas Lashon Hara destroys achdus and undermines the fabric of Klal Yisrael.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 105

May 14, 2025

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Undoing Accepted Lashon HaraIf one has already accepted Lashon Hara as truth, teshuva requires working to uproot that belief. The best solution? Avoid believing it in the first place.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 104

May 11, 2025

2:28

Lashon Hara About PropertySpeaking negatively about someone’s home, business, or merchandise is Lashon Hara, as it causes financial harm. When multiple people spread such talk, the damage multiplies.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 103

May 9, 2025

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Words Aren't Just WordsSaying "he learns three hours" can be praise for one person and criticism for another. Lashon Hara depends not only on what is said, but how it is perceived.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 102

May 7, 2025

2:09

How Perspective Changes SpeechSpending $500 on Shabbos can be praise or criticism depending on financial status. The same applies to tzedakah. Identical words can have drastically different meanings.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 101

May 4, 2025

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Context Matters in SpeechThe same statement can be Lashon Hara or praise depending on the context. A wealthy man learning three hours a day may be criticized, while a working man doing the same is praised.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 100!

May 2, 2025

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Judging People by Their WealthTalking about someone's wealth—whether much or little—can lead to problems in business, shidduchim, and personal relationships. A person's worth is far more than their bank account.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 99

Apr 30, 2025

1:56

Speaking About Strength and WeaknessDiscussing a person's physical strength or health can impact their job, shidduchim, and reputation. Even factual statements can cause harm and require careful speech.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 98

Apr 27, 2025

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The Hidden Harm of CriticismBelittling a Rav’s knowledge or a son-in-law’s status can damage relationships and reputations. Even true statements can be destructive when spoken without a clear toeles.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 97

Apr 25, 2025

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The Danger of Speaking About RabbanimLashon Hara about a Rav can destroy his reputation, diminish his ability to lead, and harm an entire community. Even if true, such speech requires extreme caution.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 95

Apr 20, 2025

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The Hidden Danger in GossipLashon Hara about a person’s midos is especially dangerous—it’s harder to refute and more readily accepted. Since no one can "prove" character traits wrong, they spread easily and cause harm.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 94

Apr 18, 2025

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Would You Want It Said About You?Lashon Hara damages self-esteem and causes unnecessary anxiety. Before speaking about others, ask yourself: Would I want people saying this about me? If not, remain silent.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 93

Apr 16, 2025

2:42

One Word Can Destroy a LifeA single negative remark about a person’s intelligence can ruin shidduchim, business deals, or even a rav’s parnassah. We often underestimate the damage our words can cause.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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