Guard Your Tongue

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 119

Jun 15, 2025

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Disagreement Doesn’t Permit DisrespectEven after verifying an error in Beis Din, you may not slander its members. Corrective steps must follow halacha—not public humiliation.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 118

Jun 13, 2025

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Doubting a Din Is Not a HeterEven if a Dayan’s ruling seems mistaken, degrading Talmidei Chachamim is never justified. Respect demands restraint, even when questioning halachic outcomes.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 117

Jun 10, 2025

2:53

Respecting Torah AuthoritySpeaking negatively about Dayanim—even if you think they ruled wrongly—is forbidden. We must trust that Hashem ensures justice, and always be dan Talmidei Chachamim l’kaf zechus.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 116

Jun 8, 2025

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Judge Favorably, Even If TrueEven if a story is factually accurate, we must still be dan l’kaf zechus. Context matters—and assuming the worst violates a mitzvas asei of the Torah.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 115

Jun 6, 2025

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Don't Sit With ThemChoosing to sit with known gossipers makes you part of their aveirah, even if you stay silent. The Torah warns us: avoid the company of scoffers.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 114

Jun 4, 2025

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Three Tools for ResistanceReject the words in your heart, feel regret about hearing them, and avoid showing any approval. Even a frown can send a message—and protect your neshamah.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 113

Jun 1, 2025

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When You’re Caught in ItIf you’re surrounded by people speaking Lashon Hara, discreetly showing disapproval or mentally rejecting the words can still count as spiritual resistance—even without speech.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 112

May 30, 2025

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Group Dynamics and StrategyWhen facing a group with a dominant speaker of Lashon Hara, sometimes the best move is to wait and later correct the others—quietly, thoughtfully, and without confrontation.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 111

May 28, 2025

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Can You Handle the Truth?Even when permitted to listen, you must be confident you won’t accept what you hear. If you know you’ll believe it, even a justified listening becomes assur.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 110

May 25, 2025

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Listening to Make PeaceIf your sincere goal is shalom, listening to Lashon Hara may be allowed—if you actively seek to defend the subject or calm the speaker. Intention makes all the difference.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 109

May 23, 2025

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Protecting Others Without AcceptingYou may listen to Lashon Hara to protect someone else, but vague excuses like “maybe one day I’ll need it” are not a heter. Every word must have real purpose.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 108

May 21, 2025

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When Listening Is AllowedListening to Lashon Hara is only permitted when done letoeles, such as evaluating a potential business partner or shidduch—with zero acceptance and full skepticism.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 107

May 18, 2025

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Worse Than Speaking ItThe Chafetz Chaim teaches that accepting Lashon Hara is often worse than saying it. Belief alone—without a word—is enough to bring tragic consequences, as seen in Tanach.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 106

May 16, 2025

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Believing Lashon Hara is ForbiddenAccepting Lashon Hara as truth is a de'oraisa violation—even if it’s technically true. Kabbalas Lashon Hara destroys achdus and undermines the fabric of Klal Yisrael.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 105

May 14, 2025

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Undoing Accepted Lashon HaraIf one has already accepted Lashon Hara as truth, teshuva requires working to uproot that belief. The best solution? Avoid believing it in the first place.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 104

May 11, 2025

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Lashon Hara About PropertySpeaking negatively about someone’s home, business, or merchandise is Lashon Hara, as it causes financial harm. When multiple people spread such talk, the damage multiplies.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 103

May 9, 2025

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Words Aren't Just WordsSaying "he learns three hours" can be praise for one person and criticism for another. Lashon Hara depends not only on what is said, but how it is perceived.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 102

May 7, 2025

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How Perspective Changes SpeechSpending $500 on Shabbos can be praise or criticism depending on financial status. The same applies to tzedakah. Identical words can have drastically different meanings.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 101

May 4, 2025

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Context Matters in SpeechThe same statement can be Lashon Hara or praise depending on the context. A wealthy man learning three hours a day may be criticized, while a working man doing the same is praised.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 100!

May 2, 2025

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Judging People by Their WealthTalking about someone's wealth—whether much or little—can lead to problems in business, shidduchim, and personal relationships. A person's worth is far more than their bank account.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 99

Apr 30, 2025

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Speaking About Strength and WeaknessDiscussing a person's physical strength or health can impact their job, shidduchim, and reputation. Even factual statements can cause harm and require careful speech.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 98

Apr 27, 2025

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The Hidden Harm of CriticismBelittling a Rav’s knowledge or a son-in-law’s status can damage relationships and reputations. Even true statements can be destructive when spoken without a clear toeles.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 97

Apr 25, 2025

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The Danger of Speaking About RabbanimLashon Hara about a Rav can destroy his reputation, diminish his ability to lead, and harm an entire community. Even if true, such speech requires extreme caution.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 95

Apr 20, 2025

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The Hidden Danger in GossipLashon Hara about a person’s midos is especially dangerous—it’s harder to refute and more readily accepted. Since no one can "prove" character traits wrong, they spread easily and cause harm.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 94

Apr 18, 2025

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Would You Want It Said About You?Lashon Hara damages self-esteem and causes unnecessary anxiety. Before speaking about others, ask yourself: Would I want people saying this about me? If not, remain silent.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 93

Apr 16, 2025

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One Word Can Destroy a LifeA single negative remark about a person’s intelligence can ruin shidduchim, business deals, or even a rav’s parnassah. We often underestimate the damage our words can cause.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 92

Apr 13, 2025

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Speaking About Personality TraitsComments about someone’s personality—whether they are too quiet, too loud, or lacking intelligence—can easily turn into Lashon Hara or even Motzi Shem Ra. Choose words carefully.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 91

Apr 11, 2025

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The Danger of Judging IntelligenceLashon Hara isn't just about actions—it includes speaking negatively about someone’s intelligence, skills, or social status. Every person has strengths and weaknesses; who are we to judge?Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 90

Apr 9, 2025

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Hearing vs. Seeing the TruthEven if you saw someone sin, Lashon Hara is forbidden without proper justification. How much more so if you only heard about it! Avoid spreading rumors and assumptions.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 89

Apr 6, 2025

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The Hidden Revenge in SpeechEven if one follows all conditions of toeles, speaking Lashon Hara out of personal satisfaction or revenge remains forbidden. We must examine our intentions before discussing others.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 88

Apr 4, 2025

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Lashon Hara and Personal GrudgesSpeaking Lashon Hara is even worse when it stems from personal revenge. Holding a grudge or spreading negativity about someone who wronged you violates multiple issurim.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 87

Apr 2, 2025

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Judging Others FavorablySpeaking Lashon Hara about someone who fails in bein adam l’chaveiro is still forbidden, even if it’s true. Unless there’s a toeles, we must give the benefit of the doubt and refrain from gossip.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 86

Mar 30, 2025

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The Power of Ben Adam L’ChaveiroThe Chafetz Chaim emphasizes that mitzvos bein adam l’chaveiro are of utmost importance—sometimes even more than bein adam l’Makom. Lashon Hara weakens our connection to others and must be avoided.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 85

Mar 28, 2025

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The Cost of Speaking Lashon Hara can destroy lives and futures. True Teshuva requires admitting fault to the harmed party, no matter the difficulty. Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 84

Mar 26, 2025

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Teshuva for Words Unheard When Lashon Hara doesn’t cause harm, Teshuva focuses on Hashem. But when it does, the stakes—and requirements—are much higher. Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 83

Mar 23, 2025

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Nostalgia or Lashon Hara? Reconnecting with old friends often leads to reminiscing—but beware. Casual conversations can easily stray into forbidden speech. Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 96

Mar 23, 2025

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Easing Conflict with WordsIn cases of machlokes, sometimes reframing someone's words as a foolish mistake rather than intentional harm can prevent hatred. If it truly reduces conflict, such speech may be permitted.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 82

Mar 21, 2025

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Matching Expectations in Shidduchim Misaligned standards can mislead. Tailor shidduch answers to the questioner’s perspective to ensure accurate and meaningful discussions. Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 81

Mar 19, 2025

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Accuracy in Shidduch Discussions Exaggerations harm more than they help. Learn why honest and precise questions uphold both halacha and trust. Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 80

Mar 16, 2025

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Shidduch Questions: Protect or Harm? When asking shidduch questions, be clear and avoid gossip. Intent and precision are key to maintaining dignity and accuracy. Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 79

Mar 14, 2025

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Teaching Children About Middos Protecting kids from bad influences is vital. Learn how to guide them without fostering resentment or generalizations. Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 78

Mar 12, 2025

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The Mitzvah of Self-Improvement Bad middos often stem from ignorance, not defiance. A kind word can inspire growth more effectively than criticism. Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 77

Mar 9, 2025

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Flawed Yet Growing When noticing bad middos, remember: growth takes time. Judging someone mid-journey often misrepresents their true efforts. Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 76

Mar 7, 2025

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When Beis Din Is Challenged Publicly defying Beis Dn permits public rebuke. Explore why preserving Torah authority allows exceptions to typical Lashon Hara restrictions. Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 75

Mar 5, 2025

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Speaking Carefully About Sinners Even when exposing sinners, exaggeration is forbidden. Learn how strict limits protect dignity, even in difficult situations. Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 74

Mar 3, 2025

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Balancing Protection With Teshuva While avoiding bad influences is crucial, finding ways to help others do teshuva must remain part of our communal responsibility. Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 73

Feb 28, 2025

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Identifying Harmful Influences For persistent sinners who refuse rebuke, Lashon Hara can protect others from negative influence—but only with careful limits. Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 72

Feb 26, 2025

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When Silence Is Golden Even with two witnesses, discretion matters. Learn when restraint can preserve dignity and encourage personal teshuva. Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 71

Feb 23, 2025

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When Hate Has a Place Can you hate an unrepentant sinner? The Chafetz Chaim explores the boundaries of tochecha and the path back to love through teshuva. Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 70

Feb 21, 2025

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The Role of a Rav A strong connection with a Rav safeguards against missteps. Discover why having spiritual guidance is crucial for correction and growth. Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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