Guard Your Tongue

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 177

Oct 29, 2025

1:57

Only If There’s No Other WayIf you can fix the issue another way, don’t speak Lashon Hara. The sixth rule of toeles requires minimizing harm wherever possible.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 176

Oct 26, 2025

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Stick to the FactsYou may not exaggerate. The fourth and fifth rules require accuracy and sincere kavana l’toeles—not revenge, drama, or self-righteousness.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 175

Oct 24, 2025

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First, Talk to ThemThe third rule of toeles: try giving tochacha first. Lashon Hara isn’t permitted if direct, caring conversation can correct the problem.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 174

Oct 22, 2025

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Looks Can Be DeceivingEven eyewitness accounts can mislead. The second rule of toeles reminds us: interpret with care before assuming an aveira occurred.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 173

Oct 19, 2025

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Don’t Act on RumorsThe first rule of toeles requires firsthand knowledge. Lashon Hara is only permitted if you saw it yourself or fully verified its truth.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 172

Oct 17, 2025

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When Lashon Hara HelpsIf speaking will help a victim recover stolen money or damages, it may be l’toeles. But halacha requires strict conditions—good intent alone isn’t enough.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 171

Oct 15, 2025

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Secrets Deserve SilenceEven without the words “don’t tell,” private matters must remain private. Repeating secrets—harmless or not—is a violation of trust and halacha.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 170

Oct 12, 2025

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Teach Children EarlyChildren copy what they see. If parents reject Lashon Hara clearly and consistently, kids absorb that as the norm—and carry it for life.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 169

Oct 10, 2025

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Trapped? Don’t Be MekabelIf you can’t speak up or leave, protect yourself: block out the Lashon Hara or focus elsewhere. But never accept it in your heart.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 168

Oct 8, 2025

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Speak Up or Walk AwayIf rebuke fails, distance yourself from those who harm with words. And when stuck in Lashon Hara situations, steer the conversation away—subtly but firmly.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 167

Oct 5, 2025

2:33

Avoid Lashon Hara ZonesLiving near or sitting beside habitual speakers of Lashon Hara is assur. Protect your soul—your spiritual health must come first.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 166

Oct 3, 2025

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Praise Can Attract TroubleHighlighting someone’s generosity can lead to unfair pressure, jealousy, or harm. Even praise, when misunderstood, may turn into Avak Lashon Hara.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 165

Oct 1, 2025

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Public Praise Needs CautionPraising someone in front of a crowd is risky—unless he’s universally respected or unknown to the audience. Otherwise, criticism often follows.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 164

Sep 28, 2025

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Too Much Praise Is DangerousEven sincere compliments can invite criticism. Avoid excessive praise in public—people may feel the need to “balance” the conversation with damaging words.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 163

Sep 26, 2025

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When Praise Becomes HarmImplying something negative or praising someone in front of enemies often triggers Lashon Hara. If there's any risk of backlash, don’t say it—even if it sounds positive.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 162

Sep 24, 2025

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The Subtle Danger of AvakAvak Lashon Hara—the “dust” of gossip—can seem harmless but causes real damage. It’s subtle, common, and easily overlooked. Awareness is the first defense.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 161

Sep 21, 2025

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Rebuke with RespectEven adult children must show kavod when correcting parents. Suggest gently, avoid confrontation, and model values quietly when necessary.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 160

Sep 19, 2025

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Teach By ExampleParents must model that Lashon Hara is unacceptable. Even when choshesh, never accept harmful words as truth—and speak up gently when necessary.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 159

Sep 17, 2025

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Would You Accept This About You?Unless someone is a public rasha, we may not accept Lashon Hara—about neighbors, friends, or even enemies. Respect others as you’d want to be respected.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 158

Sep 14, 2025

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Sharp Insults Aren’t SmartUsing clever or sarcastic remarks to gain approval at another’s expense is Lashon Hara, leitzanus, and ona’as devarim. Torah has no room for “funny and cruel.”Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 157

Sep 11, 2025

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The Sin of InformingReporting a fellow Jew to authorities—even with true information—falls under malshinus, one of the gravest aveiros. Always consult a Rav before taking such steps.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 156

Sep 10, 2025

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Don’t Speak to Non-JewsLashon Hara to a non-Jew can damage far more than just reputations. It harms communities, violates halacha, and desecrates Hashem’s name.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 155

Sep 7, 2025

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Tochacha or Talk?If you’re truly seeking tochacha, why not give it yourself? Don’t use others as messengers unless they’re better suited—with care and humility.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 154

Sep 5, 2025

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Not an Excuse for GossipEven when warning family, you must stay focused on protection—not storytelling. Spreading general neighborhood gossip under the guise of “toeles” is still Lashon Hara.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 153

Sep 3, 2025

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Protecting Your Family from HarmYou may speak with family to warn them of dangerous influences—but only to protect, not to shame. Avoid exaggeration and don’t present rumor as fact.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 152

Aug 31, 2025

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Speaking About the DeceasedLashon Hara remains assur even after death. Slandering a niftar, especially a talmid chacham or his Torah, incurs serious consequences, including nidui.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 151

Aug 29, 2025

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No Shortcut to ShalomEven when speaking Lashon Hara seems to help end conflict, it’s only permitted as a last resort—with firsthand knowledge and no alternative path to peace.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 150

Aug 27, 2025

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When Fighting Justifies SpeechLashon Hara about a ba’al machlokes may be allowed to prevent damage—but only with clear intent, clarity on who is at fault, and pure motives.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 149

Aug 24, 2025

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Known Reshaim, Not SuspicionsIf someone publicly violates severe aveiros with no excuse, Lashon Hara may be allowed. But misuse of this heter is dangerous and deeply discouraged.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 148

Aug 22, 2025

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Certainty Required for ApikorsusEven when halacha permits Lashon Hara about an Apikores, it must be based on firsthand knowledge or overwhelming communal consensus—not rumors or assumptions.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 147

Aug 20, 2025

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Outside the Boundary of Am YisraelThe halachos of Lashon Hara don’t apply to someone who openly rejects Torah fundamentals. But one must be 100% sure before applying this grave label.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 146

Aug 17, 2025

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Respecting Torah’s RepresentativesSpeaking Lashon Hara about a talmid chacham is not just personal—it’s an affront to Torah itself. Disrespecting leaders can unravel entire communities.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 145

Aug 15, 2025

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Lashon Hara About ChildrenCriticizing children—especially when not your own—can deeply harm them. Even when rebuke is needed, speak only with care, truth, and clear toeles.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 144

Aug 13, 2025

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Venting About a SpouseSpeaking negatively about a spouse to family can destroy multiple relationships. Unless it's for true toeles, even venting can cross the line into Lashon Hara.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 143

Aug 10, 2025

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No Excuses for Family GossipLashon Hara remains assur even when spoken about close relatives. Love doesn’t justify gossip—true care means speaking directly, not behind someone’s back.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 142

Aug 8, 2025

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Don’t Act on Accusation AloneEven community leaders must not act on mere suspicion or one-sided claims. Halacha demands real evidence—not emotion or instinct—before taking serious steps.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 141

Aug 6, 2025

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Can Beis Din Rely on Hints?In rare cases, Beis Din may act on devarim hanikarim, but only after thorough investigation. Regular individuals should never rely on such signs to take action.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 140

Aug 3, 2025

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Believing ≠ ActingEven when belief is halachically permitted, you may not spread the information, shame the person, or cause financial harm. Caution does not equal permission to harm.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 139

Aug 1, 2025

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Clear Evidence or Just Suspicion?Devarim hanikarim must be unmistakable, direct, and witnessed yourself. Vague impressions or secondhand reports are not enough to justify belief.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 138

Jul 30, 2025

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Signs That Confirm a StoryIf you see external behavior—devarim hanikarim—that seems to confirm Lashon Hara, belief is only allowed when judgment l’kaf zechus is impossible.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 137

Jul 27, 2025

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Lashon Hara Told CasuallyIf someone mentions Lashon Hara lefitumo—incidentally during another story—it still cannot be believed. Even unintentional slander isn’t grounds for judgment or harm.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 136

Jul 25, 2025

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Belief Doesn’t Mean BroadcastEven if you're allowed to believe someone sinned—when all strict halachic conditions are met—you still may not publicize it. Distancing is allowed; gossip is not.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 135

Jul 23, 2025

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You’re Causing Him to SinShowing interest in Lashon Hara causes the speaker to sin more—and violates lifnei iver. Even silent curiosity encourages spiritual harm.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 134

Jul 22, 2025

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When a Rav May BelieveA Rav may believe trustworthy testimony about a known aveirah, but not personal criticisms or family gossip. Even credibility has limits in Lashon Hara.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 133

Jul 18, 2025

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Can You Trust the Trustworthy?Even someone famously honest cannot be believed if they speak Lashon Hara—unless you are a Rav with halachic responsibility and strict conditions are met.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 132

Jul 16, 2025

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He Admits It—Together With Someone ElseIf someone confesses to an aveira and implicates another person in the same sentence, you're only allowed to believe what he says about himself—not the other. Even shared guilt doesn’t justify belief in Lashon Hara. Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 131

Jul 13, 2025

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Exceptions for Known Resha’imLashon Hara may only be believed about someone who is a known public rasha—but only after confirmed facts establish their status beyond doubt.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 130

Jul 11, 2025

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Don't Trust the RumorsEven repeated, vague rumors carry no weight in halacha. In a world of fake news and viral lies, we must be even more vigilant before believing anything harmful.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 129

Jul 9, 2025

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Two Witnesses? Still Lashon HaraEven if two people testify to the same claim, if it’s not in Beis Din, it’s still Lashon Hara. Reputation and halacha—not hearsay—define credibility.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!Daily Chafetz Chaim Day 130 Scheduled:

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 128

Jul 6, 2025

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Even the Rav Stayed SilentA Rav once overheard Lashon Hara about himself—and said nothing. Shock, humility, or calculation might silence a victim, but it’s no license to believe gossip.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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