Guard Your Tongue

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Daily Chafetz Chaim – Day 216

Jan 30, 2026

3:06

Truth Can Still KillEven if every word is true, repeating it can cause pain, shame, or hatred. Words of “truth” used carelessly are spiritual weapons.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim – Day 215

Jan 28, 2026

2:45

Don’t Ruin RelationshipsEven public information may not be repeated if it causes anger or destroys partnerships. Preserving peace always outweighs curiosity or gossip.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim – Day 214

Jan 26, 2026

2:17

Heard by Three Isn’t PermissionEven if gossip was spoken before three people, it’s still assur to repeat. Halacha never allows spreading Rechilus further—truth doesn’t make it mutar.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim – Day 213

Jan 23, 2026

2:56

Avak Rechilus: Subtle GossipEven vague or ambiguous remarks—sarcastic tone, half-smiles, or unclear praise—can become Avak Rechilus. Words must be clear, kind, and free of hidden sting.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim – Day 212

Jan 21, 2026

3:21

Rechilus in the Digital AgePosting gossip or criticism online is still Rechilus—and far worse when spread to thousands. Think before you tap; your words can destroy lives.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim – Day 211

Jan 19, 2026

2:47

Triggering Old WoundsEven if nothing new is said, reviving old conflicts to gain favor is Rechilus. Stirring memories of past fights reawakens hatred and divides hearts.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim – Day 210

Jan 16, 2026

2:32

Hints That HurtEven hinting at who spoke negatively about someone is Rechilus. Revealing through context, tone, or implication destroys trust just as much as words.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim – Day 209

Jan 14, 2026

2:34

Lie for the Sake of PeaceWhen truth will spark hatred, one may lie to prevent Rechilus—but not swear. Shalom takes precedence over brutal honesty when guided by halacha.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim – Day 208

Jan 11, 2026

2:52

Strength in SilenceRefusing to speak Rechilus when pressured—by friends, family, or superiors—is a kiddush Hashem. Resisting gossip protects both the victim and the listener.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim – Day 207

Jan 9, 2026

3:09

Pressure Is No ExcuseEven under threat of job loss or embarrassment, one may not speak Rechilus. Losing money is better than losing integrity—speech has eternal weight.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim – Day 206

Jan 7, 2026

2:36

When They “Already Know”Even if the listener knows part of the story, adding details or confirming gossip is still Rechilus. Curiosity is no heter—silence preserves dignity.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim – Day 205

Jan 4, 2026

2:28

True Words, False PeaceEven true information can be Rechilus if it breeds resentment. Whether uniting enemies or dividing friends, truth used wrongly destroys relationships.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim – Day 204

Jan 2, 2026

2:21

Unintended HatredEven without intending harm, quoting someone to prove your point can cause hatred. Rechilus isn’t only in malice—it’s in careless speech that divides friends.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim – Day 203

Dec 31, 2025

2:30

The Essence of RechilusTransferring one person’s words or deeds to another—even truthfully—creates resentment. Rechilus destroys peace and was among the sins that caused the Churban HaBayis.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim – Day 202

Dec 28, 2025

2:32

The Tragedy of Doeg Ha’adomiDoeg’s Rechilus against Ahimelech led to the massacre of Nov, the city of Kohanim. A single tale of gossip can bring destruction beyond imagination.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim – Day 201 (Hilchos Rechilus)

Dec 26, 2025

2:43

Beginning Hilchos RechilusThe Chafetz Chaim introduces Rechilus—revealing what one person said about another—as a severe aveira linked to bloodshed. It destroys lives, families, and communities.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim – Day 200

Dec 24, 2025

2:50

Silence or Truth?If asked “who did it,” one may only say “not me” when it’s truly a wrongdoing—and never name another. Higher souls accept blame to preserve peace.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim – Day 199

Dec 21, 2025

2:22

Revenge Is Not ToelesRetaliating because someone spoke against you is never allowed. Even believing the rumor is rechilus. True toeles uplifts—it never mirrors the sin it condemns.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim – Day 198

Dec 19, 2025

1:57

Think Before You SpeakBefore speaking Lashon Hara, pause. Review every halachic condition, examine your motives, and remember: words can heal—or destroy—depending on your care.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim – Day 197

Dec 17, 2025

2:10

Purity of PurposeToeles depends entirely on intention. If not done l’shem shamayim, even truth becomes sin. Avoid unnecessary detail and never cause more harm than Beis Din would.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim – Day 196

Dec 14, 2025

2:20

Accuracy Defines ToelesSpeaking l’toeles demands perfect accuracy—no exaggeration, no omissions, and no twisting of tone. Every word must be true, or the mitzvah turns into an aveira.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim – Day 195

Dec 12, 2025

2:04

See, But Understand FirstEven when witnessing wrongdoing, one must know halacha before judging. Misinterpreting actions without clarity turns truth into motzi shem ra—a lie in the guise of zeal.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim – Day 194

Dec 10, 2025

2:17

Reviewing the Seven RulesThe Chafetz Chaim repeats the seven conditions of toeles—a reminder that emotion must never overrule halacha, and speech must remain carefully measured and pure.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim – Day 193

Dec 7, 2025

2:48

Toeles for the FutureEven when past harm can’t be undone, preventing future embarrassment or loss is valid toeles—if shared only with those who can responsibly bring change.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim – Day 192

Dec 5, 2025

2:52

Don’t Condemn CommunitiesSpeaking badly about individuals is grave—but condemning entire groups or towns is far worse. Every Jew deserves dan l’kaf zechus—and humility before Hashem’s plan.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim – Day 191

Dec 3, 2025

2:09

Pure Intentions, Not PaybackEven justified speech becomes forbidden when driven by hurt or revenge. Toeles demands sincerity—never satisfaction in another’s downfall.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim – Day 190

Nov 30, 2025

1:50

Between Man and GodLashon Hara l’toeles about personal aveiros is far more limited. Only repeated, deliberate public sin justifies speech—and even then, only under strict halachic caution.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim – Day 189

Nov 28, 2025

1:43

The Truthful ExceptionAn Ish Emes—a person known for integrity—need not speak before three when rebuking l’toeles. His proven honesty carries its own credibility within halachic boundaries.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim – Day 188

Nov 26, 2025

1:44

When Silence Is SaferIf speaking l’toeles could provoke revenge from a powerful wrongdoer, one may speak privately to the right authority instead of publicly before three. Halacha values safety and wisdom.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim – Day 187

Nov 23, 2025

1:47

Listening Without AcceptingEven if words seem true, never believe Lashon Hara outright. Listen only to investigate and help—never to judge or internalize. Objective restraint protects truth and peace.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim – Day 186

Nov 21, 2025

2:18

Speaking Before ThreeWhen giving tochacha won’t help, Lashon Hara l’toeles must be said publicly—before three people—to show honesty, not slander. Truth and transparency guard against hidden motives.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim – Day 185

Nov 19, 2025

2:51

Preempting the Baal Lashon HaraWhen silencing a habitual gossip protects others from harm, it may be a mitzvah—even if the victim doesn’t yet know. Intent and method define whether it’s truly toeles.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 184

Nov 14, 2025

2:21

Preemptive Lashon Hara?You may warn others about a habitual speaker—if the victim already knows. Otherwise, you risk causing rechilus by revealing it.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 183

Nov 12, 2025

2:34

Don't Let Emotion Skew HalachaLashon Hara spoken out of personal rage—even for a relative—violates the rules of toeles. Closeness requires more caution, not less.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 182

Nov 9, 2025

2:19

Not Everyone Needs to KnowIf the victim doesn’t yet know what happened, revealing it may be rechilus. Also, don’t speak to those who won’t care to change.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 181

Nov 7, 2025

2:31

Protecting Others Is Also ToelesEven if you can’t undo past damage, warning others—so they avoid harm or bad influences—is valid toeles, if all other rules are kept.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 180

Nov 5, 2025

2:40

Even if you act with permission now, becoming guilty of the same aveira later reveals your motives weren’t truly l’shem Shamayim.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 179

Nov 2, 2025

1:51

No Room for HypocrisyYou may not speak toeles if you’re guilty of the same aveira. Fix yourself first—then you can care about someone else’s growth.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 178

Oct 31, 2025

2:13

Don’t Destroy More Than You FixThe seventh rule warns: if your words will cause greater damage than the Beis Din would, it’s not toeles—it’s harm, and it’s assur.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 177

Oct 29, 2025

1:57

Only If There’s No Other WayIf you can fix the issue another way, don’t speak Lashon Hara. The sixth rule of toeles requires minimizing harm wherever possible.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 176

Oct 26, 2025

2:10

Stick to the FactsYou may not exaggerate. The fourth and fifth rules require accuracy and sincere kavana l’toeles—not revenge, drama, or self-righteousness.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 175

Oct 24, 2025

2:23

First, Talk to ThemThe third rule of toeles: try giving tochacha first. Lashon Hara isn’t permitted if direct, caring conversation can correct the problem.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 174

Oct 22, 2025

2:46

Looks Can Be DeceivingEven eyewitness accounts can mislead. The second rule of toeles reminds us: interpret with care before assuming an aveira occurred.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 173

Oct 19, 2025

2:21

Don’t Act on RumorsThe first rule of toeles requires firsthand knowledge. Lashon Hara is only permitted if you saw it yourself or fully verified its truth.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 172

Oct 17, 2025

2:28

When Lashon Hara HelpsIf speaking will help a victim recover stolen money or damages, it may be l’toeles. But halacha requires strict conditions—good intent alone isn’t enough.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 171

Oct 15, 2025

2:24

Secrets Deserve SilenceEven without the words “don’t tell,” private matters must remain private. Repeating secrets—harmless or not—is a violation of trust and halacha.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 170

Oct 12, 2025

2:29

Teach Children EarlyChildren copy what they see. If parents reject Lashon Hara clearly and consistently, kids absorb that as the norm—and carry it for life.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 169

Oct 10, 2025

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Trapped? Don’t Be MekabelIf you can’t speak up or leave, protect yourself: block out the Lashon Hara or focus elsewhere. But never accept it in your heart.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 168

Oct 8, 2025

2:22

Speak Up or Walk AwayIf rebuke fails, distance yourself from those who harm with words. And when stuck in Lashon Hara situations, steer the conversation away—subtly but firmly.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Daily Chafetz Chaim - Day 167

Oct 5, 2025

2:33

Avoid Lashon Hara ZonesLiving near or sitting beside habitual speakers of Lashon Hara is assur. Protect your soul—your spiritual health must come first.Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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