Popular Shows by Gila Ross גילה רוס
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Does Your Upbringing Hold You Back? Bechukotai
Does Your Upbringing Hold You Back? Bechukotai
May 27, 2022
4:40
Does our upbringing and background limit us? The story of ordinary people living extraordinary lives and how they did it.
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Clean Speech Challenge 5: The Art of the Compliment with Yaffa Palti
Clean Speech Challenge 5: The Art of the Compliment with Yaffa Palti
May 29, 2022
22:45
We all have the power to create life with our words, hear from the inspiring and popular Yaffa Palti about accessing our power to give life to others.
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Masterclass: The Power of Silence & Empathy in our Relationships
Masterclass: The Power of Silence & Empathy in our Relationships
May 31, 2022
46:11
Communication is so central to our relationships... and ultimately our happiness! After all when our relationships are strong, we feel much happier! Learn how silence and empathy can really help us in our communication and our relationships!
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Learning the Value of You From a Coin - Bamidbar
Learning the Value of You From a Coin - Bamidbar
Jun 2, 2022
4:00
It's a big world out there, lots of people in it. How important are you in that world? Let's learn from a half coin and some holocaust survivors
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Mindset to Invest Your Resources - Naso
Mindset to Invest Your Resources - Naso
Jun 9, 2022
5:00
Our money, time, resources are limited and fleeting. Here's a powerful mindset to help you use them wisely!!
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Why we Mess Up - Behaalotcha
Why we Mess Up - Behaalotcha
Jun 16, 2022
4:19
A crazy story of people messing up under strange circumstances gives us an insight into why we mess up and how to beat it.
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W4W: Would you Convert?
W4W: Would you Convert?
Jun 17, 2022
31:04
If someone wanted to convert to Judaism what would you tell them? Which mitzvoth would you share with them? A fascinating look at the mitzvoth that naomi told ruth and the insights it gives us into what Judaism is all about.
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Shabbat Treasures 25: Reheating Cooked Food
Shabbat Treasures 25: Reheating Cooked Food
Jun 19, 2022
35:06
1. Warming cold noodles in a hot pot of soup? 2, reheating boiled chicken on shabbos, is there a way? 3, dipping challah in hot soup? 4, heating a dessert on hot plate where margarine will melt? Although we can't heat a food to the point of the heat where the hand would not touch it as its so hot, we can reheat foods under certain circumstances. This is because a food can't undergo halachik cooking twice. If you recall cooking is defined as the changing of a food or substance by use of heat. However in the case of a previously cooked food this doesn't hold true as the food has already undergone a major change when it was first cooked, so reheating isn't considered cooking. There is a big difference between solids and liquids. To be able to reheat a food, it must be a solid food and dry. A cooked liquid can only be reheated if still warm. Additionally a food may only be reheated with the same method that was used to heat and prepare it the first time, eg a roasted food by roasti ng it and a cooked food by re cooking it. Some examples, 1) it's allowed to take a cold baked potato from the fridge and to place it near flame where it can become hot. 2) one can place cold boiled chicken from the fridge into a hot pot of soup (1st vessel) that was removed from the flame ). 3) matzah or challah may not be put into a hot pot of soup since challah and matzah are baked, and you are now cooking them. How dry does dry have to be? It doesn't have to be literally dry. As long as no significant accumulation of gravy or liquid its OK. Eg meatballs are considered dry even if moist, as long as not in gravy. Margarine, congealed fat are regarded as "dry" as there current status determines them and they are dry at room temperature. Examples include rewarming chicken with congealed fat or a dessert being rewarmed that has margarine in it. Anything that is a liquid can't be rewarmed. Examples include meatballs in sauce, pouring ketchup into a hot pot of chullent, a pot of soup etc. The reason liquids are different is that heat doesn't have an intrinsic transition in a liquid, which therefore means that a change in temperature of a liquid to a hot point is itself the state of cooking. As long as the liquid remains warm it can still be reheated. "Warm" would mean it could be used for a hot drink. Eg if leftover soup is hot enough it would still be enjoyed, it can be poured back into a the hot pot. It should be noted that only intense dry heat radisting from a direct flame is an issue, therefore boiled chicken or noodles can be put on a hotplate isn't intense enough to cook it. Foods that were both roasted and cooked go after status of last process, eg a lokshen kugel. So back to our questions. 1) Warming cold lockshen in hot soup ok as long as pot off the fire, as its same way the lokshen was cooked. 2) Reheating boiled cold chicken is ok either by placing it into a pot of soup or by putting it onto a hot plate as the heat isn't hot enough to be an issue. 3) Dipping challah into hot soup is an issue as the challah was baked and you would now be cooking it. The way to do this permissibly would be if either the soup in bowl is no longer terribly hot or if your the hot soup is in a 3rd vessel. 4) Heating a dessert is ok even though the margarine will melt as its considered a dry food as we look at it's current status.
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Having the Strength to Stand Up for What's Right- Shelach
Having the Strength to Stand Up for What's Right- Shelach
Jun 23, 2022
3:48
Sometimes it feels like we're the lone voice standing up for what's right and we wonder whether there's any point...
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Shabbos Treasures 27: Leaving Food on the Heat Source
Shabbos Treasures 27: Leaving Food on the Heat Source
Jun 30, 2022
18:59
Question 1), could there possibly be any issue with leaving raw food on a flame before shabbos? Normally no issue with a melacha with setting it up ahead of shabbos, what about here? Question 2) If your using a hotplate or crockpot is there anything you need to do to it ahead of shabbos to allow you to put food into it before shabbos? Mishna teaches us that a raw food that has began cooking may not be left on an uncovered flame over shabbos. This is despite the fact that the act of positioning the food on the flame was done before shabbos. This restriction is called "shehiyoh". The reason our Rabbi's forbade this was that one might be inclined to adjust the flame in order to make it cook faster. The general custom is to cover the range top with a sheet of metal called a "blech" before shabbos and even when the food is fully cooked. The blech does 2 things: 1) it diminishes the heat of the fire 2) it serves as a visual reminder that adjusting the flame is prohibited. On modern stoves one should cover the flame and preferably the control knobs too. A sheet of metal placed over the grates and burners is adequate. Note that when a blech is in place you could even leave raw food on it, such a raw chullent which is placed there just before shabbos. When this is done, the pot may not be moved or tampered with until after the food is definitely cooked. If you forgot to put a blech on, as long as the food is 1/3 cooked you can use the food. It's best not to put uncooked food into an oven before shabbos to finish cooking. The only way to deal with this would be to cover the source of the heat. In most ovens it comes out of the bottom of the oven so only the bottom of the oven must be covered with a piece of heavy duty foil. To add to this issue, if the thermostat is very sensitive a sudden change in temperature can cause the oven to ignite instantaneously. A crockpot or hotplate without a temperature settings doesn't need a blech, ie it doesn't require a piece of aluminium foil as there is no possibility that you may adjust the source of heat on shabbos. But please note that for other reasons (insulating) it's best to line the inside of the cylinder of a crockpot with aluminium foil and allow the foil to extend noticeably higher than the cylinder walls. However if the crockpot or hotplate have a temperature control it can only be used if the food was mostly cooked before shabbos, and the controls should be taped or covered before shabbos. For a hotplate, put heavy aluminium foil or a few layers of regular foil as a blech. There is an exception to the requirement of covering the heating element when maintaining food on a flame from before shabbos; this is when raw meat is placed in a slow cooker where it cooks slowly and will therefore only be available for the day meal and not the Friday night meal.
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Roe vs. Wade: How to Disagree when the Stakes are High! (korach)
Roe vs. Wade: How to Disagree when the Stakes are High! (korach)
Jul 1, 2022
7:37
Life is full of disagreements but it doesn't have to be filled with discord. Listen to find out how to Disagree
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Shabbos Treasures 28: Returning Food to the Heat Source
Shabbos Treasures 28: Returning Food to the Heat Source
Jul 7, 2022
18:27
Question 1) is it OK to put a tray of cold roast chicken on the blech to reheat it? Question 2) Is there a way to return a hot cholent pot back into a crockpot after you serve from the pot? Question 3) Is it OK to take pot from fire and put on hotplate? It is prohibited to return any food even if fully cooked directly onto the heat source, ie the "blech" during the course of shabbos. So, this prohibition even applies to foods that one is otherwise permitted to reheat, eg you can reheat a cold tray of roast chicken if placed near to the blech, but you can't place it on the blech to warm up. The reason it's forbidden to return food to the fire is it has the outward appearance of cooking and could lead people to think that cooking is allowed. There are 4 conditions under which it's permitted to return a cooked food to the fire: 1) it must be fully cooked. 2) it must be the intention to return it. 3) it must be held the entire time even if held on a surface, eg a table. 4) it must be returned to a properly covered flame. In the case of a mistake, as long as the food is fully cooked and returned to the blech, ie conditions 1 and 4. You could transfer a pot from an oven to blech but not the other way round. You couldn't transfer a pot from the blech to the hotplate as transferring is like returning. The only way to do this acceptably would be to put the pot on the hotplate with a sheet of foil or another blech would cover the hotplate. There are 2 ways without the 4 conditions to permissibly warm food: 1) to place food near to the blech, even if the food to get properly hot. 2) to place food on a pot that's on the fire already or even to put down an empty pot on the fire. Eg if you want to heat up a cold kugel put it on top of an upside down tray. Now it lacks the appearance of cooking. How does one return a crockpot to its cylinder? On the surface this would be an issue of returning. The way to allow this is to cover the interior of the cylinder with aluminium foil. Then you would have to know its fully cooked, have the intention to return it and hold it whilst serving from it.
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Is it Cruel to Be Unforgiving? (Chukas)
Is it Cruel to Be Unforgiving? (Chukas)
Jul 7, 2022
5:48
Do you have to forgive someone who hurt you? And how do you define cruelty?
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Shabbos Treasures 29: Insulating Hot Food
Shabbos Treasures 29: Insulating Hot Food
Jul 14, 2022
17:58
1) Can you wrap a schnitzel in aluminium foil to keep it hot? 2) Can you put chicken soup in a thermos flask to stay hot? 3) What about putting kishke in aluminium foil so it doesn't dissolve in a chullent in a crockpot? 4) Can you put a towel over your food on a hotplate on shabbos morning to warm food up? *Insulating is forbidden on Shabbos.* The concern is that someone will be anxious that his food isn't being kept warm enough and may forget it's shabbos and then place the food on a proper flame. Some forms of insulating are forbidden even before shabbos begins. Read on. In order for something to be *forbidden under insulating it requires 4 conditions to be present:* 1) *Total enwrapment, ie the food must be totally covered by insulation.* It is *therefore permissable to partially cover or wrap any hot food or hot container of food.* As long as a significant area is left exposed it's ok, eg one may not completely wrap a hot potato on shabbos with aluminium foil to keep it warm. However, if you keep it open slightly, thereby exposing a part of the potato, it's ok. Note, it's likely that the first layer of foil is ok if it's main purpose is to prevent food drying out. However a second layer isn't necessary. Also, please note the aluminium foil would need to be precut. Another example is it's ok to put towels over an urn or hot pot of soup as long as a significant part of the urn/pot is exposed. 2) *Original container, ie still in the first vessel.* *However if the food was transferred to a second container, its ok to insulate it*, eg its allowed to cover a hot tea with a towel to keep it warm as it's in a second vessel, or another example is you could pour hot coffee into a thermos to retain it's heat as the thermos is a second vessel. 3) *Intention, ie the intent must be for insulating purposes.* *However if the purpose is to protect the food, covering it even totally is permitted*, eg its allowed to cover a hot pot of soup with the lid even though the lid acts as an insulator, as the primary purpose is to protect the food. Even if your intention is also to keep the food warm, its ok. Another example is leaving a kishke inside a chullent pot which is wrapped in silver foil is ok. The main purpose of covering the kishke is to separate it from the chullent, and so not an issue when aim is to prevent it dissolving into the chullent or to prevent it absorbing to much of the flavour of the chullent. 4) *Direct Contact, ie the wrapping material must be in direct contact with the food or container.* *Therefore if the towel or wrapping is not touching the walls of the pot, it's ok to insulate.*, eg one can place a large plate on top of a pot and drape a towel over it as the insulating materials will envelope the pot whilst not touching its walls. *If any of these 4 conditions are absent, insulating is permitted.* There are 2 categories of insulation; one which generates added heat and 1 which only retains heat. 1) Generates added heat; when materials that are used do more than just insulate, as they produce heat, eg hot sand, salt, grass etc. This is a problem even when done before shabbos, eg wrapping a pot in an electric blanket is not ok even before Shabbos. 2) Only retains heat; eg blankets, dry straw, wheat etc. It's ok to insulate in this way before shabbos, but not on shabbos, eg it's forbidden on Friday night to completely cover a pot of hot soup with a blanket after the pot was removed from the blech. However on Friday afternoon you could do this to keep it warm until the meal. Crockpots we looked at in an earlier session in terms of insulating. It could be that the crockpot with its cooked food inside it's metal cylinder is a form of generating added heat, which would deem it potentially forbidden to set up even before shabbos if so!? The way to circumvent the issue is by lining the inside wall of the
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What Do You Do When You Hear a Controversial Idea? Balak
What Do You Do When You Hear a Controversial Idea? Balak
Jul 15, 2022
7:58
How do you react to hearing a controversial ideal? Some incredible stories of the right and wrong way to react.
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How Do You Deal with Injustice? Pinchas
How Do You Deal with Injustice? Pinchas
Jul 22, 2022
11:16
Unfortunately we all see injustice in our lifetimes... How should you handle it? Is it someone else's problem? Is it something we have to go out and fight? How do we know if your response is proportionate?
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Can You Make Peace when Someone Hurts You? Maasei
Can You Make Peace when Someone Hurts You? Maasei
Jul 28, 2022
6:30
When someone hurts you, the feelings run deep. Can you make peace with what happened? We look at an ancient city of refuge for a clue to bringing peace into our life.
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Shabbos Treasures 30: Showering, Hot Taps & Tapping into Shabbat
Shabbos Treasures 30: Showering, Hot Taps & Tapping into Shabbat
Jul 31, 2022
27:48
how can we tap into Shabbos to look after our soul and keep it going into the week? Question 1) Why is the "kedusha" in the amida longer on shabbos than during the week? Question 2) Why should we care about this?! Question 3) Is it OK to take a shower or bath on Shabbos? Any limitations? Question 4) What to do when hot tap is accidentally turned on? A) We don't beat raw eggs because this is almost exclusively for frying, cooking or baking, and so looks like cooking preps. B) Another ordinance connected with this melacho is not bathing ones entire body. One can't do this even if the water was warmed before shabbos. Bathing and showering were prohibited amongst other reasons because one could forget themselves and warm up the water on Shabbos for the bath. You can wash parts of your body, such as face, hands arms and feet and even in hot water. One must be careful not to wash most of one's body at one time as this would be considered like washing ones whole body. Even when washing parts of ones body in warm water please bare in mind: 1) the water must be heated before shabbos. 2) a wash sponge and the like can't be used. 3) hard soap may not be used. 4) shampoos may not be lathered into ones hair. Swimming in a lake or swimming pool isn't OK for a number of reasons. A lady whose mikva night is Friday night does go in its warm water, she should be wary of not squeezing her wet hair and not comb it. Bathing a child who is soiled in warm water that was heated from before shabbos is ok, eg you can pour hot water from a kettle into a dry wash tub and then add hot water to make it lukewarm. C) Using a hot water tap isn't ok, as its "cooking". Check out how the boiler works! If the hot water was accidentally turned on there is a problem with turning it off, especially if left on for say 15 minutes full force the water in the tank probably cooled and by shutting the tap it will cause the cold water remaining in the tank to stay and become hot thereby doing "cooking". You could hint to a non jew to turn it off. Note, depending on type of system you have that is warming your water, it may be a problem even if on for a shorter period of time, so safest is to not turn it off yourself even in this circumstance.
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You are More Than Enough!
You are More Than Enough!
Aug 2, 2022
6:05
What is a human being? And what's the worst thing you can do for yourself? (Avot 3:18)
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Why You Should Plan To Fail - Devarim
Why You Should Plan To Fail - Devarim
Aug 4, 2022
6:37
Is a positive attitude a hindrance? Listen to this controversial episode to hear why you should plan to fail.
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The Personal Relevance of a Mass Revelation- Vaeschanan
The Personal Relevance of a Mass Revelation- Vaeschanan
Aug 11, 2022
5:54
We might know an old Jewish story but does it have anything to do with you? In this episode we look at the way G-d gave the Jews the torah and explore how it impacts your daily life.
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The Secret to Gratitude- Eikev
The Secret to Gratitude- Eikev
Aug 18, 2022
6:28
Life is actually simple. Listen to find out !
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Is Judaism a Religion of Fear or Joy?? Re'eh
Is Judaism a Religion of Fear or Joy?? Re'eh
Aug 25, 2022
8:15
Must listen!!! Is Judaism filled with restrictions and fear? Is there any fun in Judaism? Is there any joy??
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You Don't Need More Knowledge- Shoftim
You Don't Need More Knowledge- Shoftim
Sep 1, 2022
6:28
I had a fascinating conversation with my coach, she showed me how knowledge isnt what you need. So what is it? Listen to this episode to find out
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Meeting the Queen & Knowing Someone Cares - Ki Tetzei
Meeting the Queen & Knowing Someone Cares - Ki Tetzei
Sep 9, 2022
9:26
One of my earliest childhood memories is of meeting the queen. It made a huge impact on me! Her death yesterday was a sad day. Some reflections on her death, a strange mitzvah and the power of waiting in our life...
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The Curse of Dependency - Ki Tavo
The Curse of Dependency - Ki Tavo
Sep 15, 2022
9:25
Can Independence help you live a happier life and make more confident decisions? Is the ideal to be completely self-sufficient? Is it a curse to be dependent?
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Prayer & Peace of Mind is Not This!! Nitzavim & Rosh Hashana
Prayer & Peace of Mind is Not This!! Nitzavim & Rosh Hashana
Sep 23, 2022
7:47
We're coming up to Rosh Hashana and the High Holidays ... there's lots of prayers there. Let's take a deep dive into what prayer is not, what ut is and how we can achieve peace of mind
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Is there Value in Thoughts without Action!?! Vayelech
Is there Value in Thoughts without Action!?! Vayelech
Sep 30, 2022
6:30
If you've ever been told that it's in your head you'll know it's usually said to diminish an experience. But what is the value of our thoughts. Here's some stunning insights.
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Religious Hypocrisy? Ha'azinu
Religious Hypocrisy? Ha'azinu
Oct 6, 2022
5:21
As a rebbetzin I get a lot of questions... one of the harder ones is why some religious people do bad things... in this episode we explore this issue.
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Strong Emotions, Moses Failed Prayer & Hoshana Rabbah
Strong Emotions, Moses Failed Prayer & Hoshana Rabbah
Oct 15, 2022
6:49
How do we handle strong emotions? Let's look at Moses failed prayer and this will give us an insight into best way to channel our emotions. We also look at hoshana rabbah and what sometimes holds us back from prayer. ALSO what's coming next on the podcast!!!
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What's Religion About Anyway? (Bereishit)
What's Religion About Anyway? (Bereishit)
Oct 21, 2022
6:53
Is it just a list of dos and don'ts? A bunch of restrictions? We go back to the beginning - the creation of man and look at some life principles. Join us as we take a few minutes each week to look at the torah reading of the week and discover something we can relate to. Let me know your thoughts +447990333946
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More Important than Kids (Noah)
More Important than Kids (Noah)
Oct 28, 2022
6:22
What could possibly be more important than the kids!?! And what does it have to do with the Facebook Whistle Blower? Listen to this fascinating thought from the second part in our series of the weekly Torah portion, Noah where we hear a short idea to take into the week.
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What's the Big Deal about Abraham? The Crazy Smoker!
What's the Big Deal about Abraham? The Crazy Smoker!
Nov 3, 2022
7:13
Hey, so I'd like to think that if I had absolute clarity about something I'd also do it, so what was the big deal that Abraham went when G-d told him to go? G-d told him so!! We look at a crazy story of a smoker and how it relates to our life! (Lech Lecha)
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When Life Seems Insurmountable (Vayera)
When Life Seems Insurmountable (Vayera)
Nov 10, 2022
3:31
Sometimes life can throw us insurmountable challenges - we learn from Abraham and his challenges a mindset that we can adopt to help us get through our tests. This episode is dedicated to the memory of Shlomo HaLevi Ben Masha.
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You're Living a Double Life! (Chayei Sara)
You're Living a Double Life! (Chayei Sara)
Nov 17, 2022
6:04
You're living a double life, but it might not be a bad thing. Listen to find out!!
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Journaling & Mindful Moments with Ariella Azaraf LCSW
Journaling & Mindful Moments with Ariella Azaraf LCSW
Nov 23, 2022
39:25
Understand more about the benefits and how to of journaling with expert Ariella Azaraf. Bought to you by the Global Jewish Sisterhood on Facebook
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Shabbos Treasures 31 - Pulling Your Hair Out
Shabbos Treasures 31 - Pulling Your Hair Out
Nov 23, 2022
22:27
Question 1) Pulling out a grey hair on Shabbos, ok? Question 2) What about tweezing eyebrows? Question 3) How about pulling a hair from a fur coat? Question 4) Removing feathers from a cooked chicken?? Question 5) Is it always OK to comb hair on Shabbos? Question 6) How can you remove nits on Shabbos? Gum?! This "melacha" is the first in a group of 13 that comprises the essential steps in the processing of wool fabrics and garments. Shearing the wool of a sheep is the 1st stage in the manufacture of woolen garments. It can be *defined as the severing or uprooting of any growing part of the body of any creature*, even one no longer alive. Also included is *cutting or tweeting hair from one's head or body.* Even cutting a single hair is this "melacha". Biting or pulling out hair is also prohibited. *Tweezing eyebrows or other excess hair or using a hair remover isn't ok.* As a dead animal is included in this "melacha" you can't pull a hair from a natural fur. But, it's *ok to remove feathers from a cooked chicken* for various reasons, including that the cooking causes the feathers and hair to loosen their grip and come off easily, therefore they are considered "flicked" through the cooking. *Cutting or brushing hair is this "melacha", as it will inevitably pull out hair.* In order to *brush hair in a permissable* way; 1) use a *soft bristle brush* as the bristles usually bend. 2) use in a *gentle way*. 3) designate a *special shabbos brush* (due to a different issue). However if someone knows their hair will come out no matter what, this wouldn't help. *Nits* would appear to be a similar issue. The way to deal with this is to remove them *without any comb in a gentle way so it's not being tugged from its roots.* This can be done by gently grasping the long strand of hair with one's thumb and forefinger, between the root and the knit while sliding the nit upwards and out of the hair with the thumbnail and forefinger of another hand. Additionally, shampoos should not be used. What would you say about *removing gum* from hair?! It can't be forcibly pulled out as it will definitely cause hair to be pulled out. Possible solution is to apply *ice to the spot where the gum is embedded which usually causes the gum to harden and lose some of its stickiness and after a couple of minutes should slide off without pulling hair!* A few drops of oil could accomplish the same result. And.. what about removing a bandaid/plaster from male skin?! Try using oil or nail polish remover to devolve the adhesive. Otherwise leave plaster on till after Shabbos. *Cutting or removing fingernails or toenails is a problem*, or even a part of a nail. Similarly, one shouldn't remove a wart, a pimple or even loose bits of dried skin.
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3 Reasons Why You Fail (Toldot)
3 Reasons Why You Fail (Toldot)
Nov 24, 2022
6:10
You're not self-sabotaging. Here's 3 human tendencies that are why you fail. We look at the Torah Portion on Toldot and Rebecca and see insights into why we fail.
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2 Truths & a Lie about Drastic Change with Julie
2 Truths & a Lie about Drastic Change with Julie
Nov 29, 2022
30:06
Can you guess the lie? Julie Rothschild Levi from officiallyjulie comedy talks about what it's like to make drastic changes in her humorous, entertaining and insightful way. Listen and let us know what you think!
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Shabbos Treasures 32 - Scraping, Cleaning, Scrubbing!
Shabbos Treasures 32 - Scraping, Cleaning, Scrubbing!
Dec 1, 2022
20:16
Question 1) Is it OK to scrub your leather shoes to get mud off them? Question 2) What about to clean your couch with some water? Question 3) Are you allowed to wash a metal pot on Shabbos? Question 4) Is it OK to remove a stain a baby has made on your shirt by rubbing it, even without water? Question 5) What about shaking out a wet coat after coming in from the rain? Cleansing absorbent materials that have absorbed soil grime or other impurities is the melacha of Scouring. Any type of washing, soaking, squeezing or even scrubbing a material that is dry is included in this melacha. It applies to any soft or pliant materials including natural or synthetic fabrics, leathers or canvas materials. It applies to non garments too, so it's also a problem to wash or the like to carpets, leather and fabric upholstery, or string. The melacha applies even if the stains are not removed but only improved, eg its not ok to dab water onto a wine stain on a blouse to dilute the stain because causing a stain to fade is a significant improvement to the garment. It is only a problem with pliable or porous materials so hard completely non absorbent materials like glass, ceramic, wood etc are not included, as they don't absorb any tangible dirt or grime. This explains why it's ok to wash dishes, pots and pans on shabbos (assuming they are needed for shabbos use, you don't pour boiling hot water onto the grease, and it's done with a type of sponge that's acceptable, ie don't use a wet sponge or rag!). There are 3 methods through which 1 can violate this melacha: 1) Soaking When liquid saturates a cloth it has the effect of loosening soil and stains. So, soaking a fabric in any clear liquid is a problem even if no scrubbing or squeezing is done, and even if the stain doesn't disappear, eg, you can't sprinkle water onto a clean shirt. Paper napkins and paper towels (that has been pre cut before shabbos) may be wetted for wiping a counter top, but don't squeeze them while wiping. 2) Scrubbing Rubbing or scrubbing a garment even when dry to remove a stain is the melacha because the friction of the scrubbing forces out dirt. This can be whether you scrub with a brush, another part of the garment or even with your hands, eg one can't remove a stain by folding over part of the garment and rubbing it against your skin. Even to rub a leather belt clean is a problem! 3) Squeezing Squeezing or exerting strong pressure on a wet fabric effectively flushes out the saturated moisture, eg squeezing, wringing etc. Any form of forcing out liquid is a problem even by vigorous shaking, so one mustn't shake out their wet raincoat. Note, a plastic raincoat could be, as it's non absorbent. Even to walk or step on carpet that's wet to press out the moisture isn't ok! The way to deal with a spill is to gently place paper towels over the area to absorb the surface liquid. It's not ok to use a mop as it's designed to be wrung out regularly.
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How to Believe - in Yourself (& Judaism) (Vayetzei)
How to Believe - in Yourself (& Judaism) (Vayetzei)
Dec 1, 2022
5:34
A story of trickery and deception and how we discover our most powerful and often overlooked tool to build faith, in ourself, others & G-d)!
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Shabbos Treasures 33 - Cleaning without Liquid
Shabbos Treasures 33 - Cleaning without Liquid
Dec 4, 2022
17:35
We saw in episode 32 that any method of removing soil or impurities from a material is the melacha of melabain- scouring, even without liquid. Question 1) what about brushing dust from a hat without liquid? Question 2) or brushing icing sugar off your jacket? Question 3) shaking out flour from your hair? Question 4) if chullent falls on your couch how best to remove it? Question 5) ketchup splatters onto your blouse and dries, can you peel it off? Question 6) can you shake snow off your coat? Brushing dust or powder that has settled into a fabric or an absorbent material is this melacha, even without the aid of water or liquids. The idea is that dust is similar to a stain in that it becomes deeply embedded into a fabric. Even talcum powder, chalk dust, flour or icing sugar can't be brushed off a garment or couch, or even shaken off a fabric. Even to sweep a carpeted floor is problematic with a broom, solution is to use a soft broom to collect large food particles. Larger particles like crumbs are fine to remove as they don't get embedded. If dust, sand, flour etc gets into your hair it can be shaken out as this doesn't apply to human skin or hair. When a substance is thick and moist like wet mud or chullent a small amount does become absorbed in the fabric, like clothing or a couch. The best way to deal with is to scrape it off with the back of a knife or a spoon. Or you could use a dry cloth or napkin if it doesn't remove the stain. A thick wet substance like a sauce that splatters on a fabric and dries may not be pealed off on shabbos unless a stain remains, as then your just removing the upper layer. Chewing gum, candy, silly putty etc that became pressed into the carpet can't be pulled out as they are firmly in the weave. Again, if some of the substance still remains in the fabric it's ok. A coat or hat etc that become wet in the rain or snow that begins to accumulate on a coat one cant shake it off as it will cause squeezing. With snow, if it has not yet begun to melt, shaking or blowing off is ok because the snow isn't embedded in, u like dust for example as a contrast. It is hard to be sure no snow has melted so it may be safer to only shake gently. Anything rubber or plastic like a raincoat or shoes can be shaken vigorously.
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Joseph & 2 Words for Peace of Mind (vayeishev)
Joseph & 2 Words for Peace of Mind (vayeishev)
Dec 9, 2022
7:05
How do we achieve peace of mind? Joseph was thrown challenge after challenge. His brothers hate him, he's languishing in prison. Yet two words give him the ability to have peace of mind.
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Tips for a Healthy & Fun Chanukah with Industry Experts
Tips for a Healthy & Fun Chanukah with Industry Experts
Dec 14, 2022
38:25
↘️How do you want this Chanukah to be? Watch this Insta Live Pre-🕎Chanukah Replay for some amazing inspiring tips 🤩 With @itsgilaross Gila Ross Parenting & Life coach with a speciality in managing screentime & advocating for your child, Top Jewish Podcaster, Rebbetzin & Educator @fullyinbalance Dalia Brunschwig Certified Nutrition Health Coach helping Jewish women find their unique blind spot that prevents them from losing weight. @veg.it.out Bayla Haskel, Founder & CEO of Veg it out. Israel's first meal subscription caterer @esthertaubfitness Personal fitness trainer helping women with the physical and mental side of fitness 👉Chanukah is coming and you want to know How to.. 🍩Have fun with all Chanukah treats but also to keep BALANCE, right? Is that even possible? Check it out!
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How to Deal with Failure? Vayeishev
How to Deal with Failure? Vayeishev
Dec 15, 2022
6:03
Joseph and Avraham teach us a new way to look at our failures - Vayeishev
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The Secret to Releasing Frustration from Judah (Vayigash)
The Secret to Releasing Frustration from Judah (Vayigash)
Dec 30, 2022
7:14
I was so frustrated that I hadn't got an opportunity that I was hoping for. Until I understood the conversation between Joseph and Judah.
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Body Image & Chanukah Today with Rivka Graham from PAL
Body Image & Chanukah Today with Rivka Graham from PAL
Dec 22, 2022
30:20
It's not just twinkling lights and chocolate gelt, chanukah has some incredible tools to transform your life so you can find meaning and happiness. To schedule a free consultation with Gila, book here: https://calendly.com/gilaross/60min
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From Hurt to Happy (Miketz)
From Hurt to Happy (Miketz)
Dec 22, 2022
7:07
When a person suffers through a painful experience, how can they rise above it? Is it possible to move to a place of joy? Joseph gives us inspiration. He was able to overcome and even name his child in gratitude for recovering from his difficulties. How?
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How do you Become Truly Kind? (Vayechi)
How do you Become Truly Kind? (Vayechi)
Jan 5, 2023
5:43
Jacob asks his son Joseph to give him true kindness. Sometimes we're kind for ulterior motives. How do we cultivate true kindness and ensure we have no ulterior motives? (Vayechi)
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The Simple Way to Attract Blessing (Shemot)
The Simple Way to Attract Blessing (Shemot)
Jan 12, 2023
6:37
Every day we have a choice to focus... or not. Hear this incredible story of how Joe was able to save a life by focusing and what Moses merited to bring to the world through his focus!
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Why its Important to Know Yourself
Why its Important to Know Yourself
Jan 14, 2023
32:47
Self knowledge is fundamental. In this episode the Wednesday Wisdom group delves into why its so important
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Shabbos Treasures 36 - Colouring & Dyeing
Shabbos Treasures 36 - Colouring & Dyeing
Jan 15, 2023
15:30
Question 1) Is it OK to add food colouring to water for decorative purposes? Question 2) Can you use a toy fork that will change colour, eg when touching ice cream? Question 3) What about using lipstick? Question 4) Can you spill dark juice on a white table? Question 5) Pinching a kids face that turns red, ok? Question 6) Wearing eyeglasses that darken in sunlight? Question 7) Invisible ink? The melacha of dying was necessary for the manufacturing of the special curtains and tapestries of the mishkan. Colouring of any materials or substance is the melacha whether accomplished by changing the colour of the material or by adding a coating to it. Even darkening an existing colour is problematic. Any material is included, including painting a wall, adding food colouring for decorative purposes etc. Even if the colour will fade after a while on it's own its still not ok to use, eg cosmetics like lipsticks, eye shadows etc or kids toy plastic cutlery that changes colour with heat/cold. To be the melacha it must entail a measurable change to the surface itself, so to pour dark juice on a white table is ok as there is no meaningful change to the surface. If the colouring is brief and unintentional it's ok, eg to pinch a kids cheek. It would be ok to sit outside on a hot day even though one could become tanned as it's unintentional. If brief colouring occurs indirectly its ok even if intentional, so you can wear photo gray lenses, even though the purpose of them is to become darker with sunlight as the colouring is indirect and subsequently disappears when you return indoors. There are other reasons it's ok too, including that it's purpose is a protection from the sun and not to create any colouring effect. Invisible ink or dye is not ok
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The Self-Esteem That You Need!!
The Self-Esteem That You Need!!
Jan 19, 2023
33:32
What does healthy self-esteem look like? What chips away at our self esteem? And what is the antidote? This episode is a must listen!
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The Secret to Maximising Life - Vaeira
The Secret to Maximising Life - Vaeira
Jan 20, 2023
4:55
Do we really know who someone is? We look at the personalities of Moses and Aaron to see who is greater and come away with an understanding of the secret to maximising life.
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Shabbos Treasures 34-35: Wet Clothes
Shabbos Treasures 34-35: Wet Clothes
Dec 18, 2022
19:14
Question 1) Can you hang wet clothes to dry on Shabbos? Question 2) Can you wet a garment with coloured wine or drink? Question 3) Can you go for a walk on Shabbos in the rain, where you know your clothes will get wet? Wet laundry is usually muktza, but if it became wet whilst it was being worn it's not muktza but you can't hang it out to dry due to the principle of "viewed by the eye" - any situation that can arouse suspicion to an onlooker, as he may feel they were washed on shabbos itself. Note, it's ok to hang it out washing done before shabbos even though it will be hanging out and drying over Shabbos. It's also OK to hang out your wet clothing that got wet on Shabbos if either it isn't "that wet", or if you hang it in an *unusual way like on back of a chair etc. And its always ok to hang out a wet raincoat as it's obvious it got wet on Shabbos, and as we saw a plastic coat can even be shaken out to remove moisture. The reason wet laundry is muktza is 1 can be anxious to wear a wet garment and may forget himself and wring it out. If you know with certainty that the washing will dry on Shabbos, eg you hang it out friday in your house left overnight to dry and the house is hot, the clothes stop being muktza upon them becoming dry. If washing is in your dryer, the only way to get the washing out is to open the door if there is no light. You then can't close the door unless it's in the way as it's muktza! Once you remove your wet clothing that became wet on Shabbos from the rain, and put on dry ones, the wet ones shouldn't be moved anymore and considered muktza. We have seen over past couple of sessions that under the melacha of melabain - scouring, one can't remove dirt from a material, even if done without a liquid. The purpose of this melacha is to improve the appearance of the garment. There is an exception where the soaking or wetting has a negative or spoiling effect on the appearance of the fabric. For example you can soak a fabric with dirty water because the dirty water doesn't cleanse the garment, but soils it more. Similarly you can wet a garment with colored wine or drink has this has a detrimental effect on the appearance of the garment. Think spills! Also, it's only a problem where you want the fabric to get wet, so is ok if you want to dry your hands on a towel or go for a walk in the rain whereby your clothes will get wet.
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Is There a Point Doing Mitzvoth when my Heart isn't in it? - Bo
Is There a Point Doing Mitzvoth when my Heart isn't in it? - Bo
Jan 26, 2023
6:18
What do you do when you aren't feeling spiritual satisfaction with a mitzvah? Is there a point to doing the ritual? We look at some solid advice from the business world and from the Torah story of the Jews coming out of Egypt!
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Try this When you See People do Bad - Beshalach
Try this When you See People do Bad - Beshalach
Feb 3, 2023
4:27
What do you do when you see people do wrong? Whether in real life or on social media? Try this refreshing and empowering approach. You can get in touch with Gila on Instagram @itsgilaross or WhatsApp +447990333946
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Is Judaism too Hard? Yisro
Is Judaism too Hard? Yisro
Feb 9, 2023
5:22
Is Judaism just too hard? Are we being asked for too much? We look at the curious story of the Jews being threatened to be buried under Mount Sinai and learn what to do when it gets too hard. To get a free strategy call email [email protected]. This episode is sponsored for a complete healing of Suad bat Daisy
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Choosing Between Right & Right - Mishpatim
Choosing Between Right & Right - Mishpatim
Feb 16, 2023
5:27
So often in life we're grappling between different choices, both of them good things. How do we choose which one to do when we can only do one of the right ones. 2 brilliant keys to confidently choosing the right choice
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Become a Magnet for Joy - Teruma
Become a Magnet for Joy - Teruma
Feb 23, 2023
5:46
The inspiring story of Esther's granddaughter teaches us how to become a magnet for joy.
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2 Steps to Peace of Mind
2 Steps to Peace of Mind
Feb 27, 2023
25:03
The cost of not having peace of mind is high. And the stress of our lives can easily eat away at our peace of mind. Here's 2 steps to achieving peace of mind.
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Purim, Esther & Your Place in Judaism
Purim, Esther & Your Place in Judaism
Mar 2, 2023
38:31
Have you ever found yourself doing something hard for Judaism? Why? Why do you push yourself for Judaism? Interestingly this question is at the core of the Purim story and its answer can be found in the world's worst motivational speech - a conversation between Mordechai and Esther, a conversation that changes Esther into a heroine, and one that changes the fate of the Jewish people. It's a conversation that should guide us as to how we answer the question of what place Judaism has in our lives and how we want it to show up for our descendants. Enjoy this episode and let me know what you think! To get a free 121 coaching session with Gila Ross, email [email protected]
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Free Speech, Power, Responsibility & Missed Opportunities
Free Speech, Power, Responsibility & Missed Opportunities
Mar 3, 2023
6:10
At the heart of the Spotify controversy that erupted last year is the line between free speech and censorship. Does Judaism believe in free speech? 🤔 a look at 2 intriguing stories from moses' life gives us a fresh perspective on this issue and also looks at saying no to opportunities
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2 Steps to Creating Harmony from Heartbreak - Ki Sisa
2 Steps to Creating Harmony from Heartbreak - Ki Sisa
Mar 9, 2023
4:13
There are 3 phases to life. Here are the 2 steps that we need to create harmony from heartbreak.
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Self-Care for Mums! Are They Joking?
Self-Care for Mums! Are They Joking?
Mar 13, 2023
41:20
Do you struggle to fit self-care in? Do you feel guilty about taking time for you? Or do you engage in self-care and still feel like you're running on empty? Then this class is for you! To claim your free gift of a one to one strategy session with Gila, email [email protected]
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Can People Change? Rachav's Transformation
Can People Change? Rachav's Transformation
Mar 13, 2023
24:41
In honour of International Women's Day, we look at a great Biblical woman, Rachav who underwent the ultimate transformation to answer the question, can people really change?
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3 Second Secret to a Great Life - Vayakhel
3 Second Secret to a Great Life - Vayakhel
Mar 16, 2023
3:56
The 3 second Secret that will caterpault you to a great life
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Pesach: Where's My Freedom?
Pesach: Where's My Freedom?
Mar 23, 2023
35:59
It's the time of our freedom. But are you feeling free? In this episode we find out what true freedom is, how to get it and how to feel free this year! To schedule a free strategy call with Gila email [email protected].
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Who is a Good Jew? Vayikra
Who is a Good Jew? Vayikra
Mar 24, 2023
3:59
How would you describe a good Jew?
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Modesty, Tough Days & Seeing G-d's Hand - Tzav
Modesty, Tough Days & Seeing G-d's Hand - Tzav
Mar 30, 2023
6:44
What is modesty actually about? It goes beyond dress code and I actually experienced this when I had a tough day recently. To book a complimentary one to one call, email [email protected] or +447990333946.
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Acceptance & Blame - Shmini
Acceptance & Blame - Shmini
Apr 14, 2023
3:34
On a day which should have been filled with joy, tragedy struck. Let's look at the awe inspiring reaction of Aaron and Elisheva and get some inspiration for our hard days.
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The Healing of Our Flaws - Metzora
The Healing of Our Flaws - Metzora
Apr 20, 2023
6:38
Can knowledge of our flaws bring us joy? Why would a person be happy with getting tzaraat? Listen to this interesting and wholesome approach to having self awareness.
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Miriam's Story: Resilience After Disappointment- Acharei Mot
Miriam's Story: Resilience After Disappointment- Acharei Mot
Apr 27, 2023
3:58
The heartbreaking story of Miriam and her resilience teaches us about how to move forward after disappointment. Whether that disappointment is large or small.
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Blocking Kindness & 2 Paths to Developing Potential- Emor
Blocking Kindness & 2 Paths to Developing Potential- Emor
May 4, 2023
4:34
Judaism places a huge value on kindness so why would Jewish law block some people from doing kindness? This will give us an insight into our lives and the 2 pathways to Greatness and which one is right for us.
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The Jewish Jubilee: Who Controls You? Behar
The Jewish Jubilee: Who Controls You? Behar
May 11, 2023
5:29
Who are you at your core? What drives you and who controls you? A stunning idea from Yom Kippur and the Jewish jubilee. To get in touch with gila +447990333946 or [email protected]. Sponsored by OKclarity.com.OKclarity.com is THE place for any Jew - no matter how frum or religious you are - to find a top-notch therapist, psychiatrist, coach, or nutritionist. And it's completely free for you to use!OKCLARITY.com’s professionals are vetted and have extensive experience working with the Jewish community. Yes, you can even find me there!If you’re in the market for a therapist, coach, nutritionist, psychiatrist, or the like - you want to check them out. If you don't find what you're looking for, they have a concierge service where you complete a short form and they will personally match you.Important side note! If you are a wellness professional, I highly recommend joining their directory. Their team is amazing and I've received referrals immediately!OKclarity also has an amazing WhatsApp status with over 7 thousand obsessed followers, and yes I am one of them! Their WhatsApp is a free way to improve your mental health and they post great humor so you’ll laugh too. If you have WhatsApp, shoot them a message at 917-426-1495. My personal OKclarity website: https://okclarity.com/directory/gila-ross/ Find an OKclarity verified professional: https://okclarity.comBecome an OKclarity verified professional:https://okclarity.com/for-professionals/ Join OKclarity on WhatsApp status or groups:https://api.whatsapp.com/send?phone=19174261495&text=Hey!%20I'd%20like%20to%20join%20OKclarity%20on%20WhatsApp.%20(Ross)
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Does Your Upbringing Hold You Back? Bechukotai
Does Your Upbringing Hold You Back? Bechukotai
May 12, 2023
5:19
Does our upbringing and background limit us? The story of ordinary people living extraordinary lives and how they did it. Sponsored by OKclarity.com. OKclarity.com is THE place for any Jew - no matter how frum or religious you are - to find a top-notch therapist, psychiatrist, coach, or nutritionist. And it's completely free for you to use! OKCLARITY.com’s professionals are vetted and have extensive experience working with the Jewish community. Yes, you can even find me there!If you’re in the market for a therapist, coach, nutritionist, psychiatrist, or the like - you want to check them out. If you don't find what you're looking for, they have a concierge service where you complete a short form and they will personally match you.Important side note! If you are a wellness professional, I highly recommend joining their directory. Their team is amazing. OKclarity also has an amazing WhatsApp status with over 7 thousand obsessed followers, and yes I am one of them! Their WhatsApp is a free way to improve your mental health and they post great humor so you’ll laugh too. If you have WhatsApp, shoot them a message at 917-426-1495. My personal OKclarity website: https://okclarity.com/directory/gila-ross/ Find an OKclarity verified professional: https://okclarity.comBecome an OKclarity verified professional:https://okclarity.com/for-professionals/ Join OKclarity on WhatsApp status or groups:https://api.whatsapp.com/send?phone=19174261495&text=Hey!%20I'd%20like%20to%20join%20OKclarity%20on%20WhatsApp.%20(Ross)
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Learning the Value of You From a Coin - Bamidbar
Learning the Value of You From a Coin - Bamidbar
May 18, 2023
4:37
It's a big world out there, lots of people in it. How important are you in that world? Let's learn from a half coin and some holocaust survivors Sponsored by OKclarity.com. OKclarity.com is THE place for any Jew - no matter how frum or religious you are - to find a top-notch therapist, psychiatrist, coach, or nutritionist. And it's completely free for you to use! OKCLARITY.com’s professionals are vetted and have extensive experience working with the Jewish community. Yes, you can even find me there!If you’re in the market for a therapist, coach, nutritionist, psychiatrist, or the like - you want to check them out. If you don't find what you're looking for, they have a concierge service where you complete a short form and they will personally match you.Important side note! If you are a wellness professional, I highly recommend joining their directory. Their team is amazing. OKclarity also has an amazing WhatsApp status with over 7 thousand obsessed followers, and yes I am one of them! Their WhatsApp is a free way to improve your mental health and they post great humor so you’ll laugh too. If you have WhatsApp, shoot them a message at 917-426-1495. My personal OKclarity website: https://okclarity.com/directory/gila-ross/ Find an OKclarity verified professional: https://okclarity.comBecome an OKclarity verified professional:https://okclarity.com/for-professionals/ Join OKclarity on WhatsApp status or groups:https://api.whatsapp.com/send?phone=19174261495&text=Hey!%20I'd%20like%20to%20join%20OKclarity%20on%20WhatsApp.%20(Ross)
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Mindset to Invest Your Resources - Naso
Mindset to Invest Your Resources - Naso
Jun 1, 2023
4:56
Our money, time, resources are limited and fleeting. Here's a powerful mindset to help you use them wisely!!
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The Parent Summer Survival Guide
The Parent Summer Survival Guide
Jun 6, 2023
37:41
Let's talk about parenting... and how challenging it can be... you can feel competent in other areas of your life and yet, our little people can bring us to our knees... Now summer is coming and with that comes extra challenges, join me as I share easy tips to make summer parenting easier and more enjoyable. Plus find out about my new group coaching program launching in a week. Limited spots available for people who want to truly transform their lives! Check it out here: https://www.subscribepage.com/stucktosuccess or email [email protected] to see if you qualify to join!
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Why we Mess Up - Behaalotcha
Why we Mess Up - Behaalotcha
Jun 8, 2023
5:07
A crazy story of people messing up under strange circumstances gives us an insight into why we mess up and how to beat it. Get in touch [email protected] +447990333946
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Having the Strength to Stand Up for What's Right- Shelach
Having the Strength to Stand Up for What's Right- Shelach
Jun 16, 2023
4:36
Sometimes it feels like we're the lone voice standing up for what's right and we wonder whether there's any point...
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How to Disagree when the Stakes are High! (korach)
How to Disagree when the Stakes are High! (korach)
Jun 22, 2023
7:10
Life is full of disagreements but it doesn't have to be filled with discord. Listen to find out how to Disagree To get in touch email [email protected] or +447990333946
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What Do You Do When You Hear a Controversial Idea? Balak
What Do You Do When You Hear a Controversial Idea? Balak
Jun 29, 2023
7:54
How do you react to hearing a controversial ideal? Some incredible stories of the right and wrong way to react. To sponsor an episode or to get in touch [email protected]
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How Do You Deal with Injustice? Pinchas
How Do You Deal with Injustice? Pinchas
Jul 7, 2023
11:13
Unfortunately we all see injustice in our lifetimes... How should you handle it? Is it someone else's problem? Is it something we have to go out and fight? How do we know if your response is proportionate? To get in touch with Gila [email protected].
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Can You Make Peace when Someone Hurts You? Maasei
Can You Make Peace when Someone Hurts You? Maasei
Jul 13, 2023
6:27
When someone hurts you, the feelings run deep. Can you make peace with what happened? We look at an ancient city of refuge for a clue to bringing peace into our life. To get in touch email [email protected]