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Ep. 129 - Having Your Back

Nov 28, 2021

24:04

UPDATE: How to Glow is now open for registration--but only for THREE DAYS! Make sure you get your spot at kaylalevin.com/coaching Can't wait to see you inside!! --- This is a perfect continuation of the Real Goals podcast. Last week I discussed how we can use goals as a way of beating ourselves up or invalidating everything between here and there… Having your back means that no matter what, you don’t use your failures to condemn or hate yourself. In this episode you will learn: Why we SHOULD call them failures Why you want to embrace your failures How to love yourself and be proud of yourself when you fail big How to dream big without burnout How to create a goal that gets you really excited How to break the habit of beating yourself up in an attempt to be better Have an audacious goal you want to commit to loving yourself through? I'd love to help you do this work--join us inside How to Glow and let's get to it!

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Ep. 128 - Real Goals

Nov 24, 2021

24:40

In today's episode I'm sharing with you a more nuanced, human way to use goals that will serve you so much better than traditional goal-setting. In this episode you will learn... How to set "Real Goals" Why your goals won't always be SMART (specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, time-bound) How goals help keep your brain proactive How goals help with your brain's natural negativity bias How to NOT use goals against yourself Episode References Circle, Arrow, Spiral by Miriam Kosman How to Glow Coaching Program

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Ep. 127 - Staying in Your Own Lane

Nov 14, 2021

21:08

This week we are in our second of the four self-mastery skills that will move us into Glow energy! A few updates before we get started The Modern Jewish Girl podcast is awesome! If you know anyone exploring Judaism, send them her way! Lots of questions coming in about How to Glow! I'm sharing some details with you about what it will look like inside: We will have a monthly Topic Call and two Q&A calls where you can get coached live or submit questions in advance. I'm also offering my three signature courses inside: Time Management, Foundations, and the First Year Married Online Course.  How to Glow is open for membership from November 28-30.  Today's skill is Being in Your Lane. It's simple and you can use it all the time. First I want you to notice what happens when you get busy with "his lane"--what he's doing, what you think he SHOULD be doing, and all those things. Where does it take you? How do you show up? How do you feel? Are you effective now? Does it work? No! Resisting and judging doesn't really change what's happening. It's not effective. What do you get to experience when you're in your lane? Focused on your goals, your power, your possibilities... This is so much more fun! And more effective--we are engaged in an area where we can make changes Choose what you want to create with the reality or situation you are in Want more support? Join us inside How to Glow to get all your coaching questions answered.

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Ep. 126 - Managing Your Emotions

Nov 7, 2021

17:09

Lots of announcements this week but I'm also really excited to share this skill with you.  BIG NEWS! #1: The podcast name is changing -- so keep your eyes out next week for How to Glow! This new name reflects a change in my focus--to serve Jewish married women of all ages and stages. #2: The How to Glow Membership coaching program is launching this Chanukah! Coaching is going to become available to more Jewish women--women with busy lives, busy budgets, and who deserve coaching support more than anyone! Make sure to get on the waitlist to hear when doors open for registration at firstyearmarried.com/coaching Managing your emotions is way bigger than you might realize. When you can manage your emotions you can get yourself to do whatever you need to.  It's the first of the four fundamental self-mastery skills that really allow you to live the life you want. (Stay tuned for the next three episodes to hear the remaining skills!) The only reason we don't accomplish our goals is that we aren't willing to feel a feeling. Here's a simple process to work on managing your emotions: 1. Pick ONE specific goal you have 2. Think about where you aren't following through right now 3. Identify what emotion you'd have to feel if you were to follow through anyway (it will be a negative emotion) 4. Commit to feeling that feeling for three seconds at a time Give it a try and let me know how it goes! Want some coaching to help you with this tool? Make sure you're on the waitlist for the How to Glow membership so you can join us this Chanukah!

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Ep. 125 - Social Media and Marriage - Meredith Boggs Interview Part 2

Oct 31, 2021

19:47

Meredith Boggs is back this week and we are continuing our discussion about social media and its impact on our marriages. Listen to hear: The value of giving ourselves some time in the morning before getting on our smartphones. Us busting the myth that anyone can “do it all” Why there is no shame in admitting you get help! How to stop the scroll once and for all Get Meredith’s Stop the Scroll download at her website. 

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Ep. 124 - The Other Half of Life with Meredith Boggs (Part 1)

Oct 24, 2021

22:16

This week I’m chatting with Meredith Boggs about social media and our homes. Meredith is a speaker, writer, podcaster and blogger who focuses on "The Other Half" -- in her words, "real life that doesn’t make the highlight reel." On today’s call, we’re discussing… Simple changes that help you to be present with your husband and family when home Can we really “win” over the media giants that are trying to capture our attention? How do we get out of compare and despair when we see our peer’s lives online How to maintain real, authentic relationships in a social media world Please let us know what YOUR systems and strategies are! If you're on Instagram, tag Meredith @meredithwboggs and me @firstyearmarried so we can continue the discussion! More from Meredith: Instagram Website Podcast

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Ep. 123 - Love Confidence

Oct 17, 2021

13:41

Have your attempts to evaluate your marriage ever ended in a spin-out of anxiety or negativity? If so, there's a simple and straightforward solution. Generating Love Confidence before moving into any troubleshooting will allow you to troubleshoot from an empowered and clear space. Listen to this week's episode to learn: How to generate more confidence in your marriage How to evaluate your marriage without freaking out How to feel good about your marriage without putting blinders on about what could be fixed H/T to my business coach Stacey Boehman for the foundation of this concept, which I adjusted from business to marriage. Make sure you're on my email list for goodies, workbooks, and news about upcoming coaching opportunities! www.firstyearmarried.com

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Ep. 122 - How to Get More Done (with Less Overwhelm)

Oct 5, 2021

24:56

Updates:  First 5 Mastermind registration closes soon! Book a consult call here to learn more. Wednesdays at 2 PM Eastern. Another group for women married longer is forming as well. Email me at [email protected] to join the wait list. Coming off the whirlwind of Jewish holidays, I feel like everyone is talking about taking things off your to-do list.  I won't be doing that. I'd like to talk about making your to-do list easier. The mistake we make (and I have a long Shabbos prep saga to share the idea) is that we are constantly shifting between decision making and execution. Instead of giving ourselves the chance to move into flow and get to work on a task, we question the task, reevaluate it, and often change tracks midway. This week I'll be teaching you a simple tool to get more done with less time, simplifying your life--which I figure is one of the best ways to achieve a happy marriage. In this episode you will learn: How to have an efficient planning session even if you are super overwhelmed How to get more done with less mental energy burn How to experience flow even in less glamorous tasks How to stay in execution mode and follow the plan you set

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Ep. 121 - The Most Important Thing

Sep 14, 2021

31:12

Registration is open now for my Fall Mastermind. Register here to grab your spot! If you have any questions you can book a consult here. Today I'm sharing my vision of what is possible for us when we are dedicated to our marriages. Come along with me to hear and get inspired by the ripple effects of this one relationship being on solid, loving ground. Even beyond the value of being happy and confident in your marriage, I'll show you how your marriage effects your personal growth your parenting (even if you don't have kids yet) your emotional well-being the technical running of your life Sometimes the most valuable thing we can do is step back and take the long view, regain clarity, and then step back in.

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Ep. 120 - EYM Part 3: Bringing It All Together

Aug 26, 2021

17:21

Heads up! The Fall Newlywed Mastermind opens for registration on Sunday JUST for the people on the waitlist so make sure you’re signed up. We are now up to part THREE where we are bringing together our introspection work with our big dreams. Here are two concepts before we go into application mode. It’s important not to judge our result of how we’re showing up as a wife based on how our husband feels. That doesn’t mean we don’t get to be empathetic, intuitive, or compassionate. But when my goal is to make him happy, I’m trying to take control of something that is not mine to own. His feelings are his. It’s also helpful to remember that any work you’re doing, whether that’s these workbooks or reading marriage books or joining the Mastermind, is not for him. So it isn’t “unfair” that you’re working on your marriage and he’s not. You’re doing it for you. The best way to make change is to take one of your goals, find something specific you can do, and then cut it down to the smallest possible version. Want to be warmer to your husband? Look him in the eye and smile at him for two seconds when he arrives home from work. Choosing a habit that is easy to do means it will snowball. And then give yourself credit when you’ve completed it! What you’ll learn in this episode What it means to take too much responsibility Why making our husband happy can’t ultimately be our goal How to be ok with a husband who you think should feel “better” or act differently How to create habits Sources The Fall Mastermind Wait List Tiny Habits by BJ Fogg The Final Elul Your Marriage Workbook 

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Ep. 119 - EYM Part 2: Dreams and Connection

Aug 20, 2021

21:28

This week we go from our introspection and accounting energy (last week’s podcast) into the “fresh notebook” energy of Elul. It’s time to set our goals, and I challenge you to do this from “big-dream” energy, not “what I think I can get” energy. Download your episode workbook here: firstyearmarried.com/ep-119-elul-your-marriage-part-2-dreams-and-connection/ In this week’s podcast you’ll learn How to set goals for what you REALLY want in your marriage How to get out of victim or blame mode and make effective changes in your marriage How to dream bigger without fear that you can’t have what you really want Also, a reminder! The Newlywed mastermind is opening for registration SOON! Make sure you're on the wait list! firstyearmarried.com/coaching/

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Ep. 118 - EYM Part 1: Taking an Accounting

Aug 12, 2021

10:50

We're going to be using everything we know about the month of Elul and introspecting and reflecting and GROWING to benefit our marriages. Join us by signing up for the email list at firstyearmarried.com -- I LOVE the workbooks I'm preparing for you all and can't wait to share them with you! If you haven't done my Marriage Check-In mini-workbook yet, that's the best place to start (totally FREE when you join the email list) and more marriage-enhancing goodies coming your way all month! Final thought: as you sign up, consider what helps you stay engaged and accountable. Whether that means you grab a buddy to do this together, get an accountability partner, repost to social as you go, or anything else you dream up. Download the workbook here.

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Ep. 117 - Elul Your Marriage

Aug 8, 2021

3:42

Chodesh tov! Listen this week to hear why Elul is the PERFECT time to introspect on your marriage. Join me for my month-long email program where I'll be helping you take stock, set goals, and get more perspective on your marriage: www.firstyearmarried.com and join the email list!

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Ep. 116 - Sticky Thoughts

Jun 13, 2021

21:26

Sometimes even when we know a thought is not serving us, we still can't let it go. I call these "sticky thoughts." This week I'm walking you through how you can work with even the stickiest thoughts and improve your happiness and love your life more. Interested in working with me? I have opened my schedule for private meetings for women considering joining the next group coaching program. Go to firstyearmarried.com/coaching to book your appointment.

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Ep. 115 - Dating Mindset vs Marriage Mindset

Jun 3, 2021

14:27

Dating. It’s all about “do we have the same values?” “Do we want the same things?” And some version of, “can I be happy with him?” Marriage. It’s a journey of learning, knowing, and seeing the other person fully, accepting them unconditionally. Could they be any more different?  To go from one to another is a process. In this week’s episode, I’m going to show you how you can help your brain if it’s stuck in Dating Mindset (even once you’re married!), evaluating and wishing your husband would be different than he is. In this episode you will learn: What is a Dating Mindset and a Marriage Mindset? How we use exploration and curiosity in both phases How to transition from a Dating to a Marriage Mindset Why it’s not a problem for it to take some time and what to do if it does Get on the wait list for the next Marriage Mastermind at www.firstyearmarried.com/coaching

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Ep. 114 - What We Can Learn From Search Engines

May 15, 2021

12:04

Our brain is kind of like Google. We can ask it a question like, ‘does my boss like me?’ and it’ll spit back results - right? Wrong. No sirree. Big fat no. Our brain is NOT like Google. It gives us results to questions we didn’t even ask it. And those results can be terrifying sometimes (read: often). But once you understand how your brain’s search engine works, you can actually take control of it.

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Ep. 113 - Hair Covering & Sheitals with Elisheva Storch - Part 2

May 9, 2021

18:41

I have Elisheva Storch back again this week for part 2 about our conversation about hair covering and sheitals. This time we're talking about maintaining the wig, working with a stylist, and some common mistakes that many wig owners make.  Elisheva's passion for this mitzvah really shines through and I love that she shares so generously with our audience! Here's the story of Charlene Aminoff, as referenced in the podcast You can find Elisheva on Instagram at @elisheva wigs atlanta  Get on the mailing list for all the FYM fun: www.firstyearmarried.com

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Ep. 112 - Hair Covering & Sheitals with Elisheva Storch - Part 1

May 2, 2021

26:36

Welcome to our #Jewsode - Elisheva Storch is our hair covering guru, discussing all about how Jewish women who have chosen to cover their hair can make the process more enjoyable, plus how to manage the world of sheitals (AKA wig) purchasing. Are you destined to hate your first wig? Is wig covering hard for everyone? How can we bring this mitzvah into our awareness and connection to Hashem? Elisheva has so much to share--enjoy! And make sure you are subscribed for part 2! Find Elisheva on Instagram at @elisheva wigs atlanta

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Ep. 111 - Watching Thoughts

Apr 25, 2021

20:10

This week I'm sharing with you my thoughts about our thoughts--and how busy and attached we can get with them.  (This is an advanced episode, so if you're new here I invite you to go back to some of the earlier episodes and revisit this one later.) To get on the interest list for my next round of group coaching, go to firstyearmarried.com/coaching

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Ep. 110 - Confidence Isn't About You

Apr 18, 2021

16:16

For a lot of my clients, preparing for Pesach meant getting ready to spend time in situations or with people where they just didn’t feel they could be themselves. They felt judged, self conscious, or just otherwise stifled. So I want to share with you a simple paradigm that will take you from insecure to confident. We’ll do this by examining what is really happening for us when we feel insecure, what artificial confidence is and why we do it, and how to create genuine, authentic confidence in any moment. (You’ll see you already do it a lot.) Make sure you’re on my wait list to take this work deeper with my next Mastermind group at www.firstyearmarried.com/coaching

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Ep. 109 - Input, Output, and Silence

Apr 7, 2021

26:07

This could be the most important episode you listen to. I’m sharing this week my journey, and that of my client, as we create more space for integration in a world that is so full of content. It wasn’t easy or comfortable. It was more profound and rewarding than either of us could have imagined. --- Book recommendation: Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport Homework: Create space for integration by choosing one task (ie laundry, dishes, driving to work) that you will do with no audio input. Allow your brain to come up with what you’ll be thinking about. Once you’ve listened, I’d love you to join the conversation. You can do that by emailing me at kayla @ firstyearmarried.com or going to https://anchor.fm/firstyearmarried to leave an audio note (click on where it says “message”--please keep audio notes under 1 minute so we can include them in a future episode!) I look forward to hearing from you! To make sure you are on the wait list for my next Mastermind group, go to firstyearmarried.com/coaching

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Ep. 108 - The Pesach Episode (Part 2)

Mar 14, 2021

30:30

Welcome back! For Part 2, Noach and I continue to share communication ideas and tools to help you have a happier Pesach.  Make sure to join the mailing list to get updates and coaching tools at www.firstyearmarried.com Enjoy!

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Ep. 107 - The Pesach Episode (Part 1)

Mar 11, 2021

31:04

This week Noach and I are answering your questions about getting ready for Pesach (aka Passover)--as it applies to your marriage, extended relationships, and general sanity. Enjoy! If you're looking for more support, registration is open for a few more days for the Newlywed Mastermind. Get details and register here: firstyearmarried.com/coaching 

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Ep. 106 - Do It For You

Feb 24, 2021

16:57

[The Newlywed Mastermind is open for registration for the March cohort! What in the WORLD are you waiting for?! www.firstyearmarried.com/coaching] Who says coaching has to be complicated? In this week's episode, I'm sharing a quick tip for building more positivity, commitment, and love in your relationship... and you can do the entire thing yourself. Working on your marriage isn't always about the heavy lifting--sometimes, it's a small shift in mindset and a tiny detail. Also, coffee. (Photo by Takahiro Sakamoto on Unsplash)

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Ep. 105 - What You Want

Feb 11, 2021

23:06

Hey friends! This one was a re-record thanks to technical difficulties but I think take two turned out even better for you!  This week I'm talking about what you want. No, not the simple fluffy "I feel like a VANILLA latte" type of wanting, but what you REALLY want, what lights you up--and what to do if you don't even remember. But we're also going to take it another level deeper and learn a skill about using the language of "want" when you are working towards your goals--whether that's a career, family, educational, or spiritual goal. This one's gonna be a game changer for you. Want to take this work deeper? Make sure you're registered for the next Mastermind. Spots are limited. www.firstyearmarried.com/coaching

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Ep. 104 - Living the Dream

Feb 4, 2021

26:01

This week we're talking about what the "dream" is in your marriage -- and why you might already be living it without even realizing it. Also, I ramble a lot.  ...and use the phrase "pea in a cup" EXTENSIVELY -- but it's not like the kind at the doctor. Ennnnjoy! More stuff: www.firstyearmarried.com Mastermind (because obvs): www.firstyearmarried.com/coaching

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Ep. 103 - Your Superhero Mission - Invisible Cape Part 2

Jan 10, 2021

18:18

What struggles are you dealing with that could actually be a non-issue? How do we find the mental obstacles we've created? When you set a compelling goal, your brain has a heyday. Lucky us, right? But what's awesome about that is it gives you a chance to see WHAT your brain has been offering you all the time. (It just gets louder.)  So this week I'm taking you on a mini coaching session (workbook included at www.firstyearmarried.com on the podcast episode page) to find your obstacles, clarify your goal, and live the dream. Also... make sure you're on the wait list to find out when new coaching spots become available and new workshops are offered! 

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Ep. 102 - Inlaws, COVID, and Playground Fights

Dec 31, 2020

17:47

This week I'm addressing a really common situation I've heard from a surprising number of you! Dealing with EXTRA in-law time when your family is far away and you can't see them due to COVID. BUT even if that's not your highly-specific scenario, I want you to know that I'm also teaching a new tool that you will DEFINITELY want to use in your self-coaching! So don't miss this one. By the way, make sure you're on the email list. Really good stuff coming your way soon. You don't want to miss it. You can sign up at firstyearmarried.com

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Ep. 101 - The Husband Interviews Kayla (part 2)

Dec 27, 2020

23:50

Your feedback on part 1 was awesome and here's the second installment. This week you'll hear all about how we've used self-coaching tools to improve our marriage and deal with challenges that have come our way.  More from Kayla at www.firstyearmarried.com (make sure you're subscribed to the email list!) Learn more about the self-coaching model by Brooke Castillo that we reference in the episode at thelifecoachschool.com

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Ep. 100 - That Time I Let My Husband Interview Me (part 1)

Dec 14, 2020

40:53

In honor of our 100th episode (WHAATTTTT!!!), The Husband (AKA Noah) is interviewing me this week. 99 episodes of editing this podcast has given him a lot of ideas of what he'd LIKE to hear me talk about! In the first half of this interview, we discuss newlywed cooking meltdowns, a devastating loss during shana rishona, the challenge of aliya, and how our marriage has transformed over the years.  Happy Chanukah everyone! Rabbi Tatz Marriage shiur on SimpletoRemember.com (part 1) Rabbi Tatz Marriage shiur on SimpletoRemember.com (part 2) Rabbi Orlofsky: Eretz Yisrael and the Geulah

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Ep. 99 - How to Do a Marriage Check-In

Dec 3, 2020

18:14

As we wrap up 2020 I wanted to share a simple tool that can have a profound impact on how you experience your marriage: the Marriage Check-In. Now, there are ways in which just generally thinking about our marriages can actually lead us unintentionally into negativity and worry. A structured process allows us to guide our brains to help us to think creatively and proactively so we find answers that will give us the biggest real-life benefit. To get the PDF, go to www.FirstYearMarried.com and join the email list. You'll get it in your inbox! Enjoy! Kayla

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Ep. 98 - Exercise Guru Beatie Deutsch, Olympic Candidate

Nov 26, 2020

34:35

Wife, mom of five, and... Olympic marathon candidate?!  Beatie is going to blow your mind with her story about how she took up running to get herself back to being active and ended up as a professional runner for Israel and a candidate for the Tokyo Olympics. Not only is her journey incredible, but she speaks from such a real place about the struggle of taking care of yourself, especially while growing a family, and the value of exercise for each person--marathon runner or not! She is such an amazing example of tuning into what feeds her deeply and making space for it in her life. And look where that took her! So whether you're looking for general inspiration for self care or to rethink your approach to exercise, make sure you check out this episode. You can find Beatie on Instagram @marathonmother and Facebook  And don't forget to subscribe to this podcast so you can catch each new episode! Enjoy!

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Ep. 97 - When Your Husband Skips Minyan

Nov 19, 2020

28:39

(Heads up: I'm calling this one a #Jewsode because it is PARTICULARLY specific to the religious Jewish world. All are welcome to listen and apply as you like, of course, but since the content is inherently about Jewish life, this episode may be less generally applicable than usual.) I've had several requests, especially during COVID, to talk about husbands who are skipping minyan (prayers), not going to shul or praying at all, or otherwise not doing what you expected in the spiritual realm. In this episode, I'm taking you through a simple exercise to help you identify why you're feeling triggered by his behavior and get some space so you aren't so reactive. So grab some paper :)  At the end of the episode, I also discuss the concept of a woman's olam haba being tied up in her husband's learning and how to not let that idea make you go totally bonkers when he slacks off, and also how to pursue your values in a way that's truly effective and doesn't generate all this stress and anxiety. ** My husband pointed out that I didn't translate all the words! So here's your glossary (and some helpful articles) if you need it. minyan - prayer quorum daven - pray  olam haba - the world to come Shacharis (or Shacharit) - morning prayer

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Ep. 96 - Grief & When It Won't Be Getting Better

Nov 8, 2020

20:57

On the two year anniversary of my "diaversary" - the date of my type 1 diabetes diagnosis - I wanted to talk about how we use thought work when we can't improve a situation. We focus a lot on what we can change--SO MUCH more is in our power than we realize. But sometimes it's not in our control. What do we do with that?  www.firstyearmarried.com

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Ep. 95 - What Motivates Your Husband with Alison Armstrong - Part 2

Oct 26, 2020

33:10

Don't miss Part 2 of my interview with Alison Armstrong! Here are a few gems she shares: Your husband ACCEPTS YOU FULLY (and what that actually mean) Your husband manages his energy and motivation differently than you do. How men change throughout their development, and how we change, too (but differently) How to communicate with your husband so that he'll WANT to help LEARN MORE: Alison Armstrong's programs can be found at her website UnderstandMen.com I strongly recommend her two books, Keys to the Kingdom and The Queen's Code Alison refers to our natural time schedules and the website thepowerofwhenquiz.com Learn more about coaching with Kayla at FirstYearMarried.com (not just for newlyweds!) To hear my previous interview with Alison, listen to Episodes 50 and Episode 51

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Ep. 94 - Newlywed Lessons (for Every Stage) with Alison Armstrong - Part 1

Oct 14, 2020

31:45

WHOOPEE! One of my absolute favorite humans, teachers, thought leaders, the marvelous Alison Armstrong, is back on the podcast this week!!  We talked about what newlyweds come up against--the frustrations and struggles--and how they reappear at each stage along the line. Mainly, you'll learn about expectations: how they change when we get married (for ourselves and for our partners) and how we often realize they're there a little too late. I know you'll enjoy this episode so much! LEARN MORE:  Alison Armstrong's programs can be found at her website UnderstandMen.com I strongly recommend her two books, Keys to the Kingdom and The Queen's Code  Learn more about Kayla's upcoming Mastermind Group Program and 1:1 Coaching at FirstYearMarried.com (not just for newlyweds!) To hear my previous interview with Alison, listen to Episodes 50 and Episode 51

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Ep. 93 - Choosing Up! with FYM Book Club Author Ilana Kendal

Oct 6, 2020

37:23

Hi friends! I wasn't planning to post my Zoom conversation with Ilana last week onto the podcast, but it was just so darn good that I had to! Enjoy the inspiration from Ilana Kendal who will teach you on this episode about how to use storytelling to channel personal growth, plus you'll get a peek into our very first FYM book club book. It's fun, we had fun, and I'm excited to share it with you.  We'll be having Ilana back on in early December to answer your questions about the book, and I'll be sharing my thoughts as I work my way through her book.  You can buy Choosing Up! from www.mosaicapress.com with the code FYM10 for 10% off Or find the book on Amazon 

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Ep. 92 - My Goals for the New Year

Sep 29, 2020

23:29

In this episode I'm sharing my somewhat unusual take on new year's resolutions. Whether you celebrate now or in January (or heck whenever you feel like it), this episode will help you think about your goals in a way that will be more compelling and more sustainable than the goals you've tried before. Join the mailing list at www.firstyearmarried.com Or you can apply here for 1:1 coaching

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Ep. 91 - Your Relationship With Others

Sep 23, 2020

20:14

This week we're diving into the idea of your relationship with Others--this can be the closer relationships like parents, siblings, and in-laws, or more distant relationships like coworkers or neighbors. We usually run a paradox in our minds: "I wish you were less like you" and "I want us to have an authentic relationship." But an authentic relationship means we accept the other person AS THEY ARE.  Your brain wants to believe that if they changed you'd feel better. But the reality is, if you stopped resisting them as they are, you would IMMEDIATELY feel better.  Crazy, no? So join us this week as we talk about dropping the resistance, allowing ourselves to stop trying to please everyone else and show up in an authentic way, 

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Ep. 90 - Your Relationship With Your Husband

Sep 13, 2020

14:40

So many times, we go outside of ourselves for answers that are ours to decide. We ask, "how is my relationship doing?" and then wait, looking for clues to tell us. But if a relationship is, at its essence, just the thoughts you have about a person and your connection... Then you're the one who gets to pick how it's doing. What do you want to choose to think on purpose about your marriage? This week I'll walk you through this exercise.

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Ep. 89 - Your Relationship With Yourself

Sep 7, 2020

24:08

Your relationship with yourself is nothing more than the sum total of your thoughts about yourself. It’s not more profound. ⁠ It’s not more literal.⁠ And, despite popular belief, finding out WHY you have negative opinions of yourself is not always necessary. In fact, it can be counterproductive when this “research” into our thinking inadvertently reinforces the opinion.⁠ Wanna know the good news?⁠ If it's all about your thoughts, you can change them.⁠ ⁠Listen this week to find out how. Other episodes on this topic: First Year Married: Shame Won't Make You a Better Wife The Life Coach School Podcast

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Ep. 88 - Self-Regulation Guru - Chava Neiditch

Aug 30, 2020

1:01:03

LADIES I have such a treat for you this week! This conversation is such a total shift from what we normally talk about and SO IMPORTANT! I often get questions from women about how being tired/pregnant/sick/hormonal fits into thought work. This conversation, with occupational therapist/homeschooling supermom Chava Neiditch goes deep into our own individual profiles of what we need to stay regulated, balanced, and centered and how we all vary so much from one another. This is a fabulous episode if you're a parent but a must listen if you're a human being. Enjoy!

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Ep. 87 - Pre & Post Pregnancy Guru - Lauren Ohayon Part 2

Aug 24, 2020

30:06

Last week we covered everything pre-and-during pregnancy. On this week's episode, Lauren Ohayon is answering questions about post-partum recovery and what myths we need to break about our bodies and what fitness is all about to take the best care of our bodies and ourselves.  Sources from this episode: Restore Your Core One Strong Mama @thelaurenohayon on Instagram

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Ep. 86 - Pre & Post Pregnancy Guru - Lauren Ohayon

Aug 17, 2020

43:58

This week I'm so excited to bring you Lauren Ohayon of the popular Restore Your Core and One Strong Mama programs. Lauren is a body expert who guides her clients to prepare for healthy births and recovery. I asked Lauren to come on and share with us, since I've had so many questions about preparing for and recovering from a first pregnancy. Whatever type of birth you are aiming for, I just love how Lauren describes how the body works and functions in a way that is totally understandable and holistic. We morphed from interview to conversation, but I think you'll really enjoy eavesdropping on that so I included our conversation on our brain's power over our bodies (so if pregnancy isn't on your radar you may want to skip ahead to about 2/3 through the episode to hear this). Sources from this episode: Restore Your Core One Strong Mama @thelaurenohayon on Instagram

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Ep. 85 - Do-Over Guru Bari Mitzmann

Aug 11, 2020

46:15

We talk a lot about the challenges that can come up with connecting to your spouse, especially as a newlywed. However, for some of us, the initial stressors of married life come from external factors. Bari Mitzmann came on this week to share her story about her first year of marriage and the health struggles she dealt with right as they were getting married. Bari is a great example of someone who embraces the “do-over.” Bio: Bari Mitzmann is a wife, mother and content creator living in Nevada. Her content on her Instagram @barianna and the Woman of Valor Podcast is geared toward finding meaning and inspiration in every day as well as breaking stigmas tied toward mental and chronic illness. Sources: Instagram: @barianna Website: https://barianna.com Podcast: Woman of Valor

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Ep. 84 - Self Care Guru Krystal Conner

Aug 4, 2020

46:32

This week I have Krystal Conner on to talk to us about self care. Krystal takes what can sometimes seem like an undefined, unattainable idea and makes it super clear and actionable. I loved this conversation and I know you will, too! Website: https://www.krystalconner.com/ Instagram: @drkrystalconner

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Ep. 83 - Home Organization Guru - Shira Gill

Jul 26, 2020

49:08

Professional organizer/stylist Shira Gill talks about how to hack the thinking of a tidy person, what simple system she uses with all her clients to go from overwhelming mess to styled space, and how she and her husband communicate about their different tidiness-styles.  This episode is PACKED with tips and amazing ideas. Enjoy! Follow Shira: www.ShiraGill.com instagram.com/shiragill

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Ep. 82 - Torah & Marriage Guru - Shevi Samet

Jul 20, 2020

49:58

Today I'm excited to bring you a conversation with Shevi Samet, a Jewish educator who, among other things specializes in working with women before and after marriage.  We're going super meta here today, talking about true meaning of marriage (we discuss this from the perspective of Torah concepts but feel free to use this as a springboard for your own belief work). We also dove into why we get married, the social and individual concepts that drive us that we sometimes aren’t even aware of, the difference between love and commitment, and some bizarre and yet very helpful metaphors about parenting and marriage.  Most importantly, make sure you listen to the end when Shevi explains where love and giving fit into a marriage and how neither have anything to do with selflessness.  You can find Shevi at @itsalearninglife on Instagram or by email at sametshevi at gmail.com 

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Ep. 81 - Cooking Guru - Jamie Geller Part 2

Jul 12, 2020

22:03

In the second half of my interview with Jamie Geller, we moved beyond cooking to some other major areas where she's been an inspiration to those around her. As the head of the largest kosher food network, Jamie Geller has a lot to teach us about entrepreneurship. In this episode, she shares a bit about her background as a successful producer at HBO and the transition to building her own business. She also gives some really practical advice for those of us who are launching our own businesses. I also asked Jamie to talk about her family's decision to make aliyah. What was the inspiration? what were the challenges? Jamie was extremely candid about her inspiration but also her resistance to the move, and what it's really like to pick up your whole family and move across the world. Finally, we chatted about our great big cooking failures as newlyweds (and how our husbands helped us repackage the remains!). Enjoy! --------------- Sources from this episode: JamieGeller.com Jewlish on Instagram Jewlish on Facebook

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Ep. 80 - Cooking Guru - Jamie Geller Part 1

Jul 8, 2020

26:24

WE GOT JAMIE GELLER!!! Can you tell I'm excited?!  Jamie Geller, today the head of the largest kosher network in the world, has been an inspiration to me from the time I was a newlywed and stumbled upon her first cookbook, Quick and Kosher. Reading about her transition from successful single professional to what-am-I-supposed-to-do-with-this-oven made me feel so validated in my total lack of kitchen know-how.  In this first half of our interview, Jamie opens up about her own newlywed transition, foods her audience loves the most, and how to make the never-ending chore of cooking something you can actually enjoy (actually, I was really surprised by her answer!). Whether you keep kosher or not, Jamie is such an inspiration and I know you're going to gain a lot from this interview. Enjoy! Sources from this episode: JamieGeller.com Jewlish on Instagram Jewlish on Facebook Make sure you've subscribed to hear part 2 of the episode, plus more amazing guests in our summer #whosyourguru podcast series!